SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that losing something is impossible? Can you share a personal story of a time you did something for love instead of obligation? What helps you stay aware that distraction is at the root of depression?
Losing something is impossible, it is only a matter of our perspective of seeing things differently of what is left over what is lost. There were times of my life I lost my pride when I got a child out of wed lock and raised him alone. Thereafter I was criticized, ashamed by my family, next thing that happened is I choose a guy to marry that in reverse they hardly disagree. But, I did this all out of love by standing of what I believe than seeing things that it is an obligation to follow what is right in their eyes. Life is a matter of perspective, seeing things according to your points of view. What keeps me away from depression is realizing that things happen naturally when even we are not aware or eventually know the result may come. There is no such thing as losing, only gaining what is left and what is already there. Life is beautiful.
i def needed to hear this today and hit on many points, personally. I do believe that because of our modern day healthcare system, there are those who are potentially diagnosed depressed and are in fact distracted and the person doesnt even realize it. I also know that there is true clinical depression and emotional disorders., however i do have to say that as we have our high or positive times/ points , just agreeing that when we are at a point when we have become distracted for whatever the reason, we are vulnerable to the distraction which then throws us into a depression as we only see what is wrong and focus on it. sometimes its very real and there is not a quick fix, which makes us even more depressed and distracted. and i agree that the more distracted we become, the more energetically our vibration becomes lower and we have a harder time lifting that vibration, esp if we are trying or left alone to do so. I feel that if those of us who are able to remind ourselves we are distracted and that will lea us into depression, and try to find the distraction, like untangling the necklaces in a jewelry box so to speak, we have to start somewhere and maybe we untangle our selves a little at a time. i am not saying its easy or taking this lighty, as i am trying to untangle myself right now. so i relate. this was great to hear im glad i listened and didnt just read.[Hide Full Comment]
When I first read this, I immediately recalled a Prince Ea video that I recently watched, which can be found here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykvC3QXJb18
It seems that much of what is written about in this passage causes sadness, and I'm not sure that sadness is depressions equal. To me, depression stems from a feeling of hopelessness. I've certainly had my share of sadness, as we all have. I'm not so sure that I would classify any periods of my greatest sadness as depression, though. I've known several beings, including family members, friends, and students, who have died by suicide. To me, this is the pinnacle, or maybe depth is a better word, of depression. To not know the kindness, love and compassion that others have for you; to not know the beauty that you have to offer the universe; to not feel meaning in your life...that, to me, would be depression.
I think of losing something as losing track of something, not knowing where it is, being deprived of something by my own doing or someone else's doing. Something may still be mine although I've lost track of it. Losing something in that sense is possible. That something was given to me doesn't mean I can't lose it. In this world, just because I didn't make something doesn't mean I can't own it. Second, I as well as all of us have done things for love and not obligation. I'm writing this paragraph for love of expressing myself and not out of obligation. I spend time with many people for love instead of obligation, at least most of the time. I go to most happenings out of love, not obligation. Third, as I think of it, at least a lot of depression is pressing down or denying my wants and real self instead of expressing and living my wants and real self. Distraction is a way of losing track of self, getting away from self, and is depressing. Having experienced depression as a result of distraction from my real self and seen others depressed as a result of getting away from real self helps me stay aware that distraction can be depressing. I also know that distraction doesn't equal depression. There is distraction that is not depression, and depression that is not distraction.[Hide Full Comment]
Another way of re-stating this is that life is offering sufficiency at every turn for the task at hand. Our distractions keeps us unaware of the underlying ebb and flow, and never quite clear enough to know our purpose in the moment because of the momentum of the past or the grasping for the future. We experience that dissipation and energetic gap as depression. For all those who face some form of clinical depression, the question I hold is whether depression preceded thought, did thought precede depression, or do they arise together and support one another? Do we believe what we experience, or do we experience what we believe? I suspect that getting to the bottom of these questions will create the space and energy to rise from the downward spiral we experience in depression.
This one hit very close to home. As someone challenged with episodes of depression which is very real and part of my brain chemistry, I must say that though I agree with much of the thoughts presented and that yes service to others certainly helps, when one has clinical depression it is more than "distraction." That being said, I do relate that in reframing one can be liberated rather than feeling in loss. I needed to hear that today! Every experience can be a lesson, and sometimes even a gift if we let it. I do my best to live in love each and every day. We have a choice; when we are doing whatever we are doing to view as from love. Even doing the dishes can be out of love :) When a recent relationship ended changing from romantic to platonic I continued to share messages of hope as he is going through a very challenging time in his life. It was out of love and care. As for distraction as root of depression, I suppose that when I am not doing what is best for me, example working in a job that does not fulfill my heart, the depression is definitely more acute. Currently I am working my way back to more Cause Focused and heart centered Storytelling/Speaking engagements and it is helping my mind and heart because this is the work I am truly meant to do and have done. time for more of it! Hugs from my heart to yours, Kristin[Hide Full Comment]