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We Are Weavers, by Jon Madian

FaceBook  On Jan 15, 2021 David Doane wrote:
I believe all creation is one ever-renewing fabric beginning at least `13.8 billion years ago and continuing indefinitely, and we come from and are part of and contribute to that fabric. For me, there was a progression and evolution over the years of my becoming aware that all creation is one fabric that I contribute to and leave to the weavers of tomorrow. What helps me develop gratitude is knowing that I and allcreation could easily not exist and I am grateful for existence. To me, it's all a miracle and I am grateful to be part of it. It helps me to know that in time and space the fabric of creation began millions of generations before me and will likely continue for many generations after me, and I am grateful to be part of the process. Also, the fabric is different because of my contribution, and I am grateful that I make a difference.
 

The Broken Among Us Teach Us, by Bryan Stevenson

FaceBook  On Jan 9, 2021 David Doane wrote:
We're all broken and wounded, some minimally and some very much. People can gain valuable and deep wisdom from being broken and wounded, and we can learn from their experience. Having worked with broken for years, I agree you can't not be impacted -- it's important also to have clear boundaries and take care of yourself or you're not of much good to the other and will likely burn out quickly. I embrace imperfection with an open heart when I care and relate to what is present and not to assumptions, expectations, prejudices, predictions, or preconceptions about what is present. What helps me welcome uncertainty is knowing that uncertainty is all there is. We live in uncertainty. It is always uncertain what is going to happen, and I am more content accepting that than fighting or denying it.
 

Dark Skies Show Us Stars, by Bear Guerra

FaceBook  On Jan 1, 2021 David Doane wrote:
My belief is that darkness is the other side of light and together they make a whole. Without darkness the day would be incomplete. Yin requires yang to be a complete whole. I believe we are always dreaming and it's primarily in darkness when asleep that we see our dreams. Similarly,stars are always there, and it's only in darkness that we see them. One night in Zion National Park I embraced the darkness and saw an incredible beautiful star-filled sky because of the darkness and clean air. I embrace the nightwhen I'm outside because it gives me the opportunity to see the stars which enhances my feeling part of the cosmos and enhances my awe. Other reasons I embrace the night include that life seems to slow down during the night, I'm tired from the day and ready to relax and have a good night's sleep, I enjoy feelings of gratitude that arise, I look forward to dreams that may surprise me, and I get to lay down next to the lady I love.
 

Four Stages Of Groundedness, by John J. Prendergast

FaceBook  On Dec 26, 2020 David Doane wrote:
What is reality for you is what you are grounded in. You can be grounded in so many things, including ego, money, sex, power, drugs, friends, video games, job, family, religion, spirituality, consciousness, God. Significant stages ofgroundedness for me have been my family of origin, my religion, my profession, marriage and family, self, aham brahmasmi. I was originally not of the world, then in the world, then in the world but not of it, and am becoming not of it but of the unmanifest. What helps me grow in my sense of groundedness is openness, learning, experience, awareness.
 

An Unusual Gift From My Grandfather, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Dec 18, 2020 David Doane wrote:
To bless means to recognize and honor the sacredness of something. I believe life needs more than faithfulness. Life needs the circumstances that support it. For example, valuing and supporting the expression of God called the person to whom I was relating blessed that individual, and in so doing I witnessed what appeared to be the person repairing. What helps me remember to bless the life around me and within me is knowing that all creation is sacred, so it only makes sense to bless life, and blessing life is satisfying to me.
 

The Moment We Encounter True Happiness, by Ilie Cioara

FaceBook  On Dec 11, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Wow, what an essay -- as I read, it began to be a meditation as I very much resonated with what IlieCioara wrote. To me, the closest I get to true happiness is when I get to my Source which is one with the Source. I've had brief experiences of exquisite happiness when I get past my body and mind, past my thinking, and get to my Source which is my essence or soul that is me and the Source. What helps me avoid the mistake of searching for Happiness with the thinking mind is my learning and knowing that thinking gets me to local, temporal ego and maybe in the direction of the Source, but not to my nonlocal eternal Source and Happiness. Thinking isn't enough. Thinking is in time and space, and Happiness is an experience beyond time and space.
 

A 13-Year-Old In A Museum, by Nancy Collier

FaceBook  On Dec 5, 2020 David Doane wrote:
If I may add another comment: I believe body and soul are in union, are one, and it's for us to become aware of that and realize that in our awareness and living. Alan Watts said, "We divide in thought what is one in nature." I believe body and soul are not divided except in out thought and lack of awareness.
 

A 13-Year-Old In A Museum, by Nancy Collier

FaceBook  On Dec 5, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Don't you think soul becomes the body? And it's our lack of awareness of that that creates the appearance of separation of body and soul? That is what I have come to believe.
 

A 13-Year-Old In A Museum, by Nancy Collier

FaceBook  On Dec 5, 2020 David Doane wrote:
There is a lot of creating an image occurring rather than becoming who we are. I agree with Nancy Collier that creating an image is a frequent phase, especially for young people, in figuring out our identity, and that social media fosters our creating an image instead of becoming who we are, which I think is a sad and serious problem. I'm old and am not a social media user, so I created an image all on my own and then gave it up after different amounts of time in different areas of my life until now when I am who I am. What helps me avoid the trap of using life as a product to promote an image includes often not giving a damn about my image, awareness that being who I am is satisfying like an image never is, awareness that maintaining an image is work and stressful, and awareness that an image is false and I want who I really am to be expressed and known. I also believe social media and especially the technology it is part of is here to stay, so the challenge is to use it to facilitate becoming who we are rather than it be a substitute for who we are.
 

Parliament Of Subconscious Minds, by John Yates

FaceBook  On Nov 28, 2020 David Doane wrote:
My relation to the notion stated is one of disagreement. My understanding of author Yates' essay is that he objects to attributing ideas, memories, and discoveries to the conscious construct "mind," so he posits a sub-layer of constructs called sub-minds that are unconscious and he attributes the ideas, memories and discoveries to them, and they feed the conscious mind. I believe the source of my conscious mind is what I call my soul, which is God, the Source, of which my body and mind are temporal manifestations. I believe the information, ideas, memories, and discoveries attributed to the conscious construct "mind" emerge or download from the soul/God Source which is primarily unconscious. I haven't experienced soul/God, if I may use my term, providing information via the conscious mind -- maybe a semi-experience -- I believe it. What helps me be aware of how I am attributing "I" is openness to there being something beyond body and mind.
 

Time Confetti And The Broken Promise Of Leisure, by Ashley Whillans

FaceBook  On Nov 20, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I think we have less time for leisure than we had fifty years ago. Those notions of time trigger in me that my time is precious and it is very important to take charge of how I use my time. I made an intentional shift from time poverty to time affluence by intentionally having long periods of every day with no cell phone or other device or televisionturned on that is near me. What helps me be intentional with my time is knowing my time is precious and limited, knowing once time is used it's irretrievably gone, knowing ongoing input and distractions create unrest in me that I don't need, knowing I don't need constant access to others or need to be constantly accessible to others, knowing that I value time used for attention to and access to myself, and knowing I am in control of how I use my time.
 

Half A Pomegranate, by Brian Conroy

FaceBook  On Nov 13, 2020 David Doane wrote:
The abundant offering of the old woman was her giving all she had without expecting reward. I've never given all I have (actually the old woman gave very much but didn't give all she had). I see giving without expecting reward as the purest giving in that it is giving free and clear, not expecting anything in return, with no agenda, no manipulation, no expectation, no goal or purpose to be gained. When I have given without expecting any reward I feel most gratified. What helps me tap into my deepest abundance is reflection on what I have, awareness that I have a lot though really it's a gift and not mine, gratitude, openness of heart, and compassion.
 

The Three Narratives, by Joanna Macy

FaceBook  On Nov 6, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I believe the first two narratives, ie, a time of business as usual and a time of unraveling, are the usual progression of individuals and institutions, and the third narrative, ie, a time of a great turning that is life sustaining, is the evolution of some individuals and institutions. We rigidifyat a level of functioning until the diminishing returns and entropy result in either a great turning or death. My own spirituality went through that progression. I went through a business as usual unquestioning phase in which I took for granted the religious truths I was taught, then went through a phase of unraveling and collapse of my core religious truths, and then went through an inner transition to a life sustaining spirituality that reconnects me to myself, to others, and to all creation. What helps me become aware of this story for myselfis the intolerable emptiness in staying in businessas usual; questioning and letting go of business as usual; openness to learn from outside business as usual; trust in following truth outside business as usual; and willingness and courage to go into the unknown.
 

How Caterpillar Turns Into A Butterfly, by Norie Huddle

FaceBook  On Oct 31, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I can identify with the caterpillar that transforms into a butterfly. The caterpillar went through major transformation inside the chrysalis and then broke out as abutterfly. I too have gone through major transformation inside the chrysalis of my life, began emerging into butterfly me, and am still emerging and taking form. For me there have been some major spurts or breakthroughs of inner transformation and emergence, but overall the process of inner transformation and emergence has been a long one and is ongoing. What helps me recognize that I am constantly emerging is the increase in my awareness and the clarity of my awareness and the increase in my freedom and courage to be me and fly. Like the butterfly, I'm of different substance, different reality, than I was pretransformation. For me the emergence continues.
 

The Game Is To Be Where You Are, by Ram Dass

FaceBook  On Oct 30, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Louise -- Your question is hard to have an answer for, especially a fullysatisfying one. Thanks for the invitation to say my thoughts, which are: There would be no experience without contrast. Every thing has its other side or back side or shadow side, or we wouldn't experience it. There would be no front without back, or east without west, or good without bad, or safety without danger. Another thought is that we and everything are 'parts' of one whole -- I am part of what is hurtful or dangerous, it is part of me, I contribute to its presence. I think it was Mark Twainwho said the town drunk is an elected office. Everything exists and happens in relationship. I accept all that.
 

The Game Is To Be Where You Are, by Ram Dass

FaceBook  On Oct 23, 2020 David Doane wrote:
It makes total sense to me to be where you are, which is an important issue, not a game as Ram Dass calls it. The alternative, to be where you are not, makes no sense to me. I've never known anyone totally, including myself, and I believe we never know anyone totally, but I have had times of appreciating the person I see and know. What helps me appreciate people like I would appreciate trees is awareness that we are all part of one whole, the other is me, and when seeing the other I am seeing me, knowing that we are different but not separate and separation is only an appearance, and that I and the other are just alike. I live all that awareness only sometimes and to a small or large degree. It helps me to remind myself to be compassionate, not judgmental. It helps me to remind myself that I am not better or worse than the other. It helps me that I experience a joy when I appreciate the other as he or she is.
 

Now I Become Myself, by May Sarton

FaceBook  On Oct 17, 2020 David Doane wrote:
There is nothing more important than becoming yourself. If there is a purpose to be, it is to become yourself, become all you are. For me, the meaning of being alive with my song 'made so and rooted by love' isthat love is wholeness both as an individual and in being with an other. Love is union, oneness, wholeness, and getting myself together and whole as an individual and in relationship that is together and whole is to be alive with my song 'made so and rooted by love'. I have had such experiences, I always want more, and I have time to have more. I have time to be still and live alive rather than frenetically strive and at best only survive. I only need the present.
 

We're Voting With Our Attention, by Leah Pearlman

FaceBook  On Oct 10, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Pearlman's essay is a complex way of saying we think about what we think about. It says the RAS lets in what we obsess about, so if we obsess about something we don't want, we train our brains to ignore what we want and focus on what we don't want. Sometimes I obsess over something. Yes, that's a brain habit pattern that is a problem. Obsessing over something leads to obsessing more over it and not thinking about other things. The cure is to break the habit of obsessing, which can be difficult to accomplish -- I've been messing with it for years. Redirecting my thinking to intentionally focus on what I value helps retrain my brain to allow in what I value and keep out what I don't want. In some situations, reducing my thinking altogether helps.
 

Substituting One Cruelty For Another, by Anthony de Mello

FaceBook  On Oct 3, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Anthony de Mello is too absolute for me. No one has got to do anything. It does usually help to know who you are, such as to know what your purpose in taking action is. The hungry may benefit more from food given in love, but they also benefit from food given by someone who is angry or condescending or trying to get praise, and the person giving it may benefit also. Both your action and your being count and shape your experience. Regarding the statement that a person can't decide until awake -- people do decide when not awake. When awake, a personmay or may not know what to do. Awake, a person can act out of his or her experience, heart, and best judgment as to what is best in a situation. I think Jesus' statement is about his commitment to action that he judged to be right in the moment, and he wasn't trying to produce a particular outcome in the future. No doubt that we see through our experience. We see things not as they are but as we are. When you change, everything changes. It was a long time ago that I began to become aware of being in the doing -- it happened as I became more aware of my being -- being is typically more difficult to know than doing. What helps me avoid the substitution trap is awareness. Before action, especially when upset, I've learned tooften ask myself what it is that I want to accomplish by my action, and if my intent is cruel, I'm pleased when I restrain myself.
 

A Route Back To Wonder, by Fabiana Fondevila

FaceBook  On Sep 26, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Clouds are not the only place to find a route back into wonder, but clouds are definitely a place. What comes to mind as an outstanding time I lost myself in the wonder of the world was in viewing the Grand Canyon. Also coming to mind is my getting lost in a star-filled sky one night outside Zion National Park. Both experiences occurred a couple years ago and both were awesome and full of wonder for me. In both experiences, my wonder overrode and overwhelmed any cynicism in me. What helps me experience wonder as I am with whoever or whatever is being in the present, having no goal or purpose except to be with and experience, being mindful and giving my full attention. The sense of being one with or part of whoever or whatever is also a part of wonder that I experience.
 

Learning How To Think, by William Deresiewicz

FaceBook  On Sep 20, 2020 David Doane wrote:
We don't really multitask. We aren't built to do two or more tasks at once. We're built to do one task well at a time or we can do multiple tasks not well at one time. What we call multitasking is serial multiple unitasking, rapidly moving back and forth from one task to another, not giving either or any of the tasks full time or attention. Writing satisfactorily requires my undivided attention. I often write slowly, thoughtfully, deliberately, wanting to clearly write what I really see and mean. Sometimes I get annoyed with my slowness, and Deresiewicz's essay about slowing down and concentrating is reassuring. When I overcome the temptation to multitask, what helps me is knowing that I don't multitask and knowing that my efforts to do so are inefficient.
 

Movie Of Me, Now Playing 24 Hours A Day, by Krishna Das

FaceBook  On Sep 19, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I thank you too, Jackie, for your personal story about how we miss important things due to our assumptions. I appreciate the reminder.
 

Movie Of Me, Now Playing 24 Hours A Day, by Krishna Das

FaceBook  On Sep 11, 2020 David Doane wrote:
My perspective is that all is one, and I am part of the one. From my side,when I see and touch the other, all I see and touch is me and my version of the other. All I a little bit know is me. What the other feels in my touching him or her, I don't know. I assume all this is the same for 'the other' who touches me. I started to become aware of my projections in my early 20s, during the same time that I began psychotherapy. I'm not sure which came first -- I am sure they affected and enhanced one another. This was also the beginning of the seeds of what became my spirituality. My awareness grew that I look out and see me, or at least see my thinking including my assumptions, expectations, prejudices, judgments. When I let go of comparing, what helps me let go of it is that it's not good for me. If I compare me to be better or worse than the other, above or below the other, I'm separating myself from the other, which is false, negative and harmful for me and for the other.
 

The Broken Piano In 1975, by Marti Leimbach

FaceBook  On Sep 5, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Accepting the reality of the situation was the opening for Keith Jarrett to work and play with that reality. He started to quit on the project, and then decided to use what he had, making it the basis of hiscreation. Playing the piano the way Keith Jarrett is described to play is to play out of one's inner self. The playing is spontaneous and creative, not scripted and rehearsed. I create on a foundation of the reality I'm in when I'm in the present relating to what I am experiencing in relation to and in response to the person I am with. I don't have an intention or goal; I'm not trying to get anywhere or accomplish anything; I'm simply in and with the process as its happening. In that experience I am creating in tune with the reality I am in. What helps me do that is the aliveness, excitement, joy, and satisfaction in doing it, and the positive outcome that usually comes from it.
 

Glory And Terror Of It, by Irina Tweedie

FaceBook  On Aug 29, 2020 David Doane wrote:
For me it is a factthat all creation is one whole, and we are simply part of it all. There are moments that I experience the intoxicating presence. For example, that experience has occurred in moments of present loving relatingwith another, in a moment of looking out over the Grand Canyon, in a moment of deep meditation. Those moments seem to be characterized by my being totally immersed in the here and now and in the I am that is my source. Responsibility for my actions isn't frightening for me. It is wonderful or awesome for me. For me it is a factof existence that every action affects every action and that I have some amountof responsibility for my actions, and my experience and awareness help me accept that.
 

The Wisdom Of Uncertainty, by Jack Kornfield

FaceBook  On Aug 22, 2020 David Doane wrote:
The wisdom of uncertainty is that there is no certainty. That is a basic fact of life and to accept it is to avoid a lot of grief. I always have some amount of awareness of uncertainty which helps me be more accepting and calm in my living. Though I have awareness of nonperfection, I am perfectionistic, which causes me unnecessary stress. What helps me live in the trusting mind, though imperfectly, is to remind myself of basic age old facts of life that Jack Kornfield cites, especially that we never know for sure, there is no permanence, we don't fully control anything, there is always some measure of success and failure in our actions, commit to right action, focus on process and not outcome, outcome is out of our control, let go of outcome and trying to control it. What helps me live in the trusting mind is my experience that when I do I feel satisfaction, peace, ease.
 

The Central Commitment Of The Creative Life, by Mary Oliver

FaceBook  On Aug 15, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Mary Oliver's 'roofless place eternity' means to me awareness without boundaries, being wide open to listen to what comes from inside and out and responding from one's authentic self. I'm always able to honor the creative force within -- it's only sometimes that I do. I am honoring my creative force right now. I have honored it sometimes in speaking or writing my truth creatively. Many times I've been duplicitous and not reconciled commitments with loyalty to my inner vision, and sacrificed my integrity. Sometimes I've broken commitments in favor of loyalty to my inner vision. Sometimes I see commitment made as having room for loyalty to my inner vision. Sometimes I'm tricky and find a way to be loyal to my inner vision in and around a commitment that disagrees with it. Sometimes I'm careful as to commitments I make so that I can honor the commitment and be loyal to my inner vision. More often than not over the years I've been duplicitous -- aren't we all? -- and usually felt sad and regretful for my lack of courage and integrity. When I have placed loyalty to my inner vision above commitment that stifles it, actual or imagined, I have felt satisfaction in holding onto my integrity.
 

Does The Mind Exist During Our Sleep?, by Annamalai Swami

FaceBook  On Aug 14, 2020 David Doane wrote:
You're right, Gil -- the real self apparently doesn't stand up to logic and doesn't fit into the scientific method of investigation. For me, that doesn't make it not real.
 

Does The Mind Exist During Our Sleep?, by Annamalai Swami

FaceBook  On Aug 8, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I think that fighting the mind is giving it attention, and the mind is fed by and grows stronger with attention. I believe the mind, like a muscle, grows stronger with use. Through reading, discussing, and reflecting I've come to believe that I am different than and more than my thoughts, and I am the field in which my thoughts appear and disappear. I don't have an attitude of indifference toward my mind. For me, I have a mind and I have an attitude of valuing and respecting my mind as a process that I use to think, which is an activity that I value. My understanding is that I the field am the master, and the mind is my servant to make use of.
 

Mistakes: Results That Show The Truth Of Things, by Chris Lombard

FaceBook  On Aug 1, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I agree with some of Chris Lombard's statements, and disagree with many. I agree that it is a disaster to be kept from the possibility of falling down. However, you're not always safe -- you may die. You may succeed at taking the chance, and you can fail at accomplishing the goal. Surviving the leap may not be all a person came for. What you pay in courage is paid back in love -- I don't know what Mr. Lombard means -- what you pay in courage may come back in love and may not. Giant leaps can be taken all the time -- I think that's not smart or practical but it can be done. I certainly agree that true love and courage can mean taking a step back or choosing another path. He says whatever happens is never wrong -- I don't agree. Nature may never be wrong, but I've been wrong. I agree that mistakes show the truth of things. Cuts may show trying, and may show something else. Scars do show healing. Loss could show love, or show something else. No, you don't always know you will be caught -- if you do there's not much risk or much to fear. Forward may be freedom -- or sideways may be freedom. I do think freedom means forward (ie, growth). I don't agree that you need fear as much as love. I don't think that fear is the same as love. As for a personal experience, I overcame the fear of pain and took a leap when I made a major career change years ago. I went through agony making my decision and taking the leap, and very quickly realized that I made the right choice -- that leap worked out well.
 

To Be Continually Thrown Out Of The Nest, by Pema Chodron

FaceBook  On Jul 25, 2020 David Doane wrote:
As I see, birth and death, beginning and ending are always. I don't think getting it all together is death -- I believe getting it all together, which I've never achieved, would be glorious life, not death. I think I never fully embrace being continually thrown out of the nest. I embrace it in the sense that I know and accept that everything is constantly changing, that I live in the unknown and control very little if anything. However, while everything is constantly changing, most of the changing is such that I feel consistency and stability as I live my routine in my nest. Occasionally a major change throws me out of the nest such that I very much feel it. I don't like or embrace major unwanted changes, especially as they're happening. Once upon a time I left a career path. I threw myself out of a particular nest into the unknown. Initially I felt terrified and second guessing of myself which quickly gave way to feeling free, open, and excited in my moving on. It was an experience of a nest or cocoon ended and I became a butterfly. What helps me live fully is knowing that each moment is new and fresh, being present, paying attention to what I am experiencing in and around me, relating honestly,being open, and going with the flow.
 

Discipline Of Tao, by D. T. Suzuki

FaceBook  On Jul 18, 2020 David Doane wrote:
When alone, I'm empty of idle thoughts for periods of time when focused on a project which may be a physical activity or reading or writing and during brief times of reflection and meditation. There are times when interacting with others that I become empty of idle thoughts. During such times, I am very much in the present, focused on what the other is saying, attentive to what I am experiencing, and responding to the other out of what I am experiencing in the moment. What helps me deepen in such presence is the aliveness, intimacy, satisfaction, and value of such engagement, and practice in such engagement. Emptying of idle thoughts and deepening in full presence occur with practice.
 

We Were Made For These Times, by Anonymous

FaceBook  On Jul 11, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I believe we don't get to choose the moments we are born into -- no one knows for sure. I believe we are able to choose how we respond based on the persons we are which is greatly shaped by experiences we've had and information and awareness we've gained. I think I frequently amplify stories based on the world I want to inhabit, to support my world and the world I want others to see. I believe we each live in different worlds because we each see through different eyes and through the unique conditioning we've had. No two people live in exactly the same world, though we like to pretend we do. The more different the family and cultural conditioning, the more different the worlds. I also think every species sees and lives in a different world. I believe there are as many worlds as there are people, and as many worlds as there are species. I've lived in my own other worlds as my awareness changed over time. The many worlds that have been and are help me believe that another world is possible. We can learn and grow. We had a major role in making this world, and we can see and make another world.
 

The Positivity Ratio, by Barbara Fredrickson

FaceBook  On Jul 4, 2020 David Doane wrote:
When light increases and when blinders open, vision expands. Opening one's mind and heart, one sees differently. Context seen is undoubtedly affected by what one is feeling. Emotions called positive help us see different possibilities than emotions called negative. I think the keel is just as positive as the mast. I think staying on course is related to all the 'parts' including the keel and the mast. Emotions are related to the person one is and experiences one has. Emotions are in response to being in touch, and if experienced as negative or positive they may help us stay in touch. Feelings considered negative likely result in narrowed awareness and feelings considered positive more likely widen awareness. The negative and positive definitely provide contrast -- and without the one you wouldn't know there is the other. Feeling satisfaction has prompted me to investigate further, expand my knowledge, and focus my vision which has opened up more context, more possibilities and more connections for me. What helps me tap into genuine heartfelt positive emotions is satisfaction I feel in doing so. I assume what I'm gaining is real gold, but I never know for sure.
 

It Is Life That Asks The Questions Of Us, by Viktor Frankl

FaceBook  On Jun 28, 2020 David Doane wrote:
All creation is one whole, one activity, one being that is constantly changing. There may be the appearance of separate and static, but the nature of real being is oneness and fluidity. The meaning of life is to grow individually and collectively, which means to be continuously responsive to constantly changing reality in a way that enhances growth. Awareness of that came to me through discussion, reading, reflection, and living, an awareness that was initially a whisper and has grown and continues to grow in volume, clarity, and depth. As stated earlier, what makes sense to me is that we are here to grow, and my inner voice and my best judgment help me know that.
 

Mass Movement, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Jun 20, 2020 David Doane wrote:
For me, deep, inward, voluntary change means to let go of conditioning and illusions, to use Krishnamurti's word, and change from deep within myself to be myself, embrace my individuality, and be my own real person. I've been fortunate to be a part of several groups in which we worked together in collective action while I simultaneously was awake and being my real self, free, acting without compulsion. There was true togetherness of we and there was individuality of I, and the we and the I supported one another. What helps me awaken the desire for true and intelligent fulfillment within me is an experience that challenges and provokes me to be myself. What helps me awaken the desire is that the experience of true and intelligent fulfillment is fulfilling, for me and typically for the other. It is its own reward and awakens in me the desire for more.
 

Four Types Of Listening, by Otto Scharmer

FaceBook  On Jun 20, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I agree, Gururaj. I think by pre-habituated opinion you mean what I call preconceived opinion. When I reply from a pre-habituated opinion about the speaker, I am responding to my thinking and not to the speaker, which lessens or eliminates connection with the speaker.
 

Four Types Of Listening, by Otto Scharmer

FaceBook  On Jun 17, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Ambika -- Thanks for the response. Yes, I also think the soul to soul connection begins with listening to self, which I think makes it easier for the other to listen to his/her self. And I sure think soul to soul connection heals.
 

Four Types Of Listening, by Otto Scharmer

FaceBook  On Jun 14, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I learned that communication is head to head, heart to heart, or soul to soul. For me, Scharmer's first two levels, downloading and object-focused listening, are head to head. I think his third level, empathic listening, is heart to heart. And the fourth level, which he calls generative listening, seems to be soul to soul. When I have enjoyed generative listening, I was very with the other in the present, paying close attention to the other and to what I was experiencing in response to the other, I was open, and the interaction was intimate for me and apparently also for the other. What helps me consciously choose my level of listening is my level of tiredness, my level of care, my level of interest, my level of trust. What also helps me is knowing that I can listen at different levels. Also, due to my desire for intimacy, I choose listening and speaking that are intimate, and I think such listening is what Scharmer calls generative listening.
 

Inclining Toward Freedom, Even Through Imperfections, by Larry Yang

FaceBook  On Jun 7, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Inclining your heart toward freedom means to me to act with integrity. It's not doing out of obligation, it's not doing to impress, it's not manipulation or bargaining, it's action true to your real self. A conditioned pattern I lived in is expecting the other to be upset by me -- it's an old conditioning and learning. Paying attention to that in me resulted in awareness and insight which helped me lessen the conditioning and gain freedom from it. What helps me treat awakening and nonawakening as two sides of the same coin is knowing there are two sides to every coin. (Often three sides, ie, his side, her side, and the truth.) There is no up without down, no in without out, no closeness without individuality, no death without birth, no yin without yang, no awakening without nonawakening. There must be contrast for there to be noticing of differences and defining of experiences. Knowing what something is helps in knowing what it is not, and vice versa.
 

From Transaction To Trust, by Mark Manson

FaceBook  On May 31, 2020 David Doane wrote:
For me, acting unconditionally means acting that is the honest, open, and caring response to what is happening without trying to control, create, or prevent outcome. It's not manipulative or goal-directed. It's free of bargaining, rules, and agenda. As I see it, it is the highest form of acting. I am in control of whether I act unconditionally; I can't control outcome. Acting unconditionally requires faith that it is best for me and others and it is the best contribution I can make to a favorable outcome I learned that many years ago. My mantra and focus became process, not outcome; that is, unconditional acting and hope for the best. I definitely don't always act that way, but what helps me shift from transaction to trust is that it is its own reward when I am true to myself, it gives me satisfaction and peace, and often the outcome is good.
 

The River Cannot Go Back, by Kahlil Gibran

FaceBook  On May 24, 2020 David Doane wrote:
The River Cannot Go Back is a beautiful statement by Gibran. Becoming an ocean means to me returning fully to that from which I came. I am a wave of being in the ocean of Being. I've had times of facing and losing my fear of death when I realize that in death the experience I'm having in the wave form I call me will subside and be thoroughly part of the Ocean once again. In moments that I have that awareness, I am in riverhood and of oceanhood which I embrace and of which I am.
 

To Find Something, Don't Look For It, by Robin Wall Kimmerer

FaceBook  On May 15, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Sometimes we are so busy seeking, striving, chasing, or whatever that even our own story escapes us. Thoreau said when you stop chasing the butterfly it will come and sit on your shoulder. Many times I have struggled in writing something, and it's when I take a break that a better way of expressing occurs to me. I hear of people who stop seeking the right partner, and then find one (sometimes the one they're already with). Seek and you shall find; I think seek means be open, not goal obsessed. 'Looking for' is a putting on blinders, which help in some seeking and get in the way of some finding. As for having the sublime experience of a revelation by being open to possibility -- is there another way? An example, my being open to Eastern thinking opened a new world for me and I continue to have sublime experiences of revelations about life. What helps me stay open to possibility is my knowing that possibility is alive and exciting and is the ground of discovery and wisdom.
 

What Can You Trust?, by Doug Powers

FaceBook  On May 15, 2020 David Doane wrote:
My 2 cents: To cross one's own ethics is a point of losing self, as I guess you discovered. To cross with one's own ethics can work. I think of my core values and ethics as my boat carrying me through very rough seas of expectations, pressures, false images, etc. I've gone overboard a number of times in my life, and then got back on board. Congratulations on getting back to your core values.
 

What Can You Trust?, by Doug Powers

FaceBook  On May 8, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I listen to and consider input from many sources. Ultimately, the ground that determines the action that I take is my own inner judgment, experience, and wisdom. Once upon a time, I very much respected and trusted institutions. I was naive. I've lost trust in every institution -- including church, government, education, and medicine -- as I came to see that each of them cares only about their company line, each has a great deal of error, each has a great deal of corruption, and each tries to get individuals to trust them instead of one's own self. As I said, I listen to what each institution has to say, and some representatives of each institution make at least some sense to me, and then ultimately the ground I trust and act on is my own sef. My own self isn't always stable, but it is me, and I listen to me more than to any one else and definitely more than to any institution. What guides me is me.
 

Harder I Work, The More I Love, by Lynne Twist

FaceBook  On May 2, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I'd like to know what Lynne Trist means by Source. She said when she's in touch with Source she can do anything. I doubt that -- I wish we could do anything -- as I see it, we can only do what we can do. I think pain is of the body and mind and joy is of the spirit. For one person pain may make it more difficult to be joyful, and for another pain may increase capacity for joy. A person with awareness of connection with the Source can be in pain and be joyful. Pain has definitely helped me appreciate absence of pain and the experience of joy. Seeing people suffer pain has expanded my capacity for compassion, and seeing the end of people suffering pain has expanded my capacity for joy. Experiencing the joy of service helps me take care of my capacity to serve. Taking care of me, including to know the difference between caring and carrying, helps me take care of my capacity to serve.
 

Opposite Of Meditation Is Not Action, It's Reaction, by Richard Rohr

FaceBook  On Apr 25, 2020 David Doane wrote:
As Richard Rohr says, silence is a primal presence. It can be very helpful in finding stillness, finding one's inner core, one's real self, one's connection to all that is or Being. Being can be found in silence, and we often talk or make noise to avoid being. I assume pure action is Being-based action, and pure action often proceeds from deep silence. All that said, nothing is always, and there are no guarantees. Pure action may also proceed from sound. Reality isn't just the closest ally of God -- Reality (or creation) is God incarnate. Silence, particularly inner silence, can help you realize that and can help you embrace your experience, and you can abide in inner silence even when there is no outer silence. When I am in the present and reflective or meditative, tuned in to what I am experiencing, I return to the core, the pause, the discontinuity. What helps me have times of being in the present is the peace and joy experienced in those times. What helps me is turning my attention inward and noticing what I am experiencing in the moment.
 

Why We Listen Better To Strangers Than Family, by Kate Murphy

FaceBook  On Apr 17, 2020 David Doane wrote:
We are one, inseparably interrelated, so of course we are part of one another's story, if we want to be or not. The choice we have is how we are part of it. To be willing to listen, to truly pay attention and listen and be a positive part of another's story, is an expression of love. I often overcome closeness-communication bias and listen to what's being said -- I've learned to. What's helped me includes: having a wife who starting years ago says, "I have something I want you to hear, I want your undivided attention, is this a good time?" Also, I've learned that the present is all I've got, so I've gotten fairly good at being present and listening. Also, I believe in having a beginner's mind, I enjoy discovery and learning, I know listening is a good way to learn, so I at least sometimes listen and learn. Also, I don't know what the other has to say, I want to hear what the other has to say, so I've gotten fairly good at listening to him or her and not just listen to my own thinking, predictions, or prejudices.
 

Turning Ourselves Toward Stability And Hospitality, by David Mckee

FaceBook  On Apr 10, 2020 David Doane wrote:
After citing Barnhart's profound statement that "We humans prefer a manageable complexity to an unmanageable simplicity," David McKee seems to say what we humans really go after is complex instability that turns out to also be unmanageable rather than go after unmanageable simplicity. He seems to emphasize that trying to control our experience ruins our living, and I definitely agree with that. There is a stability and instability, hospitality and inhospitality, in nature and in us, see it or not, that we can turn toward and accept, and our trying to control nature and life creates greater instability and inhospitality. I often relax and welcome the ceaseless stream of unexpected opportunities. My long time mantra has been process, not outcome. When I live that mantra, life is alive, full of surprise, and satisfying. What helps me practice acting consciously and mindfully is finding that it is rewarding.
 

Into The Chrysalis, by Chris Corrigan

FaceBook  On Apr 4, 2020 David Doane wrote:
The caterpillar, like us, knows in ways that are not rational that transformation happens, sometimes in major ways and sometimes in minor ways. The caterpillar, like us, doesn't know what will be, but knows nonrationally something will be. Transformation happens if we fight it or not; allowing it takes some trust and courage; the more we allow it, the more it happens; we go through it alone even if with others. In my early beliefs about life, I was a pupa in my chrysalis while life was evolving me into someone very different than I imagined. Important factors that help me dissolve my ideas about myself and enjoy the experience of life itself growing me are: openness to learn about what appears to me to be true; openness to listen to my heart and pursue what my heart says is right; trust that life is much bigger than me and is living me more than I am living it; trusting the process of living and letting go of trying to control outcome.
 

Keeping The Smoke Hole Open, by Martin Shaw

FaceBook  On Mar 27, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Martin Shaw's allegory of the smoke hole is profound for me. The Western World has closed the smoke hole, and in so doing we have broken our connection to divinity not only outside our tent but also inside and closed ourselves in on ourselves with our little egos. How tragic what we've done to ourselves. What helps me while in solitude is knowing that all creation is divine or sacred and I am part of all sacred creation. I and this world can forget, deny, or ignore that, but it's still true. Maybe the crisis that is happening at this time will wake us up to our connection with sacred creation. What helps me is growing in awareness that the extension of God called my soul is my embodied essence. With that awareness I am enhancing relationship with my soul. With that awareness the smoke hole is open.
 

Life May Itself Be A Koan, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Mar 24, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Thanks for sharing a glimpse into important times of your life You/we sure do experience ups and downs, good fortune and bad. I love your saying that you/we don't anything in this life and it's all a gift. -- I full agree. Yes, love and light to us as we experience further unfolding.
 

Life May Itself Be A Koan, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Mar 21, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Your experience is evidence that life often happens aside from plans, and life is what you make it. It sounds like your ability to go with the unknown helped you have a positive though very different than expected experience. People gave of themselves to you, and I'm sure your manner and your way of receiving were a big part of that. I too believe "Everything is a gift." I love your attitude that the universe is all here, including in quarantine, and moving in love is the glue that holds us all. Some people would have made the experience you had a horrible one, and you made it be positive. Keep moving in love.
 

Life May Itself Be A Koan, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Mar 21, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I think that being pregnant with a story and giving birth to many meanings means that life including the life of each person is pregnant with new energy, new possibilities, new meanings, and new life now. Each life is pregnant with choices to be made that will author the story of a life. I think I meet life the way a Zen student meets a koan when I have a beginner's mind free of preconceived notions and expectations, open to see outside the box, and open to see and respond to life as it is, a mystery and wonder, beyond reason and logic. Such times are pregnant, alive, awesome, satisfying. To me, that is the meaning of and answer to life. What helps me develop a deep appreciation for the intelligence of the nature of things is knowing that there is intelligence in every cell of every being of nature, and it's to my benefit to listen and learn.
 

Pandemic, by Lynn Ungar

FaceBook  On Mar 13, 2020 David Doane wrote:
All the world and all time and each of us are expressions of God, so the world and time and we are sacred. A time of pandemic makes it more obvious that we are all in this world together, and since we and this world are sacred, a time of pandemic is particularly sacred. I also believe we don't have control, our existence is very precarious, and we are very vulnerable, all of which underlines my gratitude that I am alive and part of all that is happening. Change, including drastic change, is an adventure -- there are definitely times I don't like change and there are times I remind myself that I can grow the most when the change is most drastic. What helps me move beyond fear and root in the warmth of my heart (meaning soul), is knowing that the soul which is essential me is an extension of God, and when I remind myself of that I know there is nothing to be afraid of. Being part of God what could there be to be afraid of?
 

I Have No Need For An Enemy, by Troy Chapman

FaceBook  On Mar 7, 2020 David Doane wrote:
For me, the notion that love is the only justice means love is realizing that we are one, there is no me/us and them, there is only us, and what I do to the so called other, be it hurtful or kind, I do to myself. That is built in justice. The third side is awareness that I and the so called other are one, and that awareness and living it is healing. Years ago, I was cheated out of some money by a colleague. I harbored anger for a long time until I began to be aware that I had qualities like the qualities I resented in my colleague, until I became aware that I cooperated in my being cheated, and until I became aware that I and he are one. With such awareness I went to the third side, which is healing. For me, it's not that I see myself in others -- it's that I and the other are one. What helps me be aware that we are one is being open to that awareness, allowing myself to make that awareness part of me, and experiencing satisfaction and peace as a result of that awareness.
 

Releasing Willpower From Movement, by Gert van Leeuwen

FaceBook  On Feb 28, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I agree that willpower is directed through thinking. Willpower is a goal-directed head strong tunnel vision activity. Relaxation can be not directed by thinking, and can be directed by thinking. Relaxation can definitely be felt. Thinking can't be felt; the results of thinking can be felt. Thinking can direct without being willpower, just like the body can be used without there being tension. Relaxation can be organized by the body. Longing and trying can definitely interfere if not preclude. I don't tunnel vision and do open into new spaces of relaxation when I am present, noting and responding to what is happening, with no agenda and not trying to control or accomplish anything. What helps me view the experiences of my body is doing it, that is, practice, spending time paying attention in a nonjudgmental, respectful, not goal-directed, noncontrolling way to what I am experiencing in my body. It also helps to know that present nonjudgmental awareness is medicine.
 

In Eyes Of God, We're All Minorities, by Barbara Brown Taylor

FaceBook  On Feb 22, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Pluralism is reality. Erecting walls to shut out and separate is fighting reality. I accept being open to, learning about, and understanding a path different from my own, and accepting it if it is pro growth and not hurting anyone. I've learned a good deal about paths or traditions other than my own, such as about Buddhism and Hinduism, and am way beyond tolerance and into deep respect for those traditions. They actually make more sense to me than my own tradition. What helps me develop ability to respect the world's diverse traditions and eschew a sense of superiority of my own tradition is for me to not just listen to what I or others think, assume, or judge about other traditions, but for me to be open to learn about the other traditions and be open to the truth in them.
 

Everything Is A Miracle, by Albert Einstein

FaceBook  On Feb 16, 2020 David Doane wrote:
All that is, living and not living, present, past, and to come, including us, is one. We live for one another in the sense that we are thoroughly interrelated, which means every thing and every one is constantly affecting and being affected by every thing and every one else. This is happening not because we are trying to or intending to, not because we must, not because we are responsible for one another, and not because any one or any thing exists for the purpose of the other, all of which are human made ideas. It's happening because that's the way it is. Our journeys are thoroughly interrelated. All is one, and it is all a miracle.
 

The Liminal Space, by Heather Platt

FaceBook  On Feb 15, 2020 David Doane wrote:
We're always in liminal space, sometimes more profoundly than others, sometimes willingly and sometimes unwillingly. It probably helps to be held when struggling in that space. We can never control outcome, but we can be a container by being present in such a way as to provide some safety, care, respect, and support. Holding space becomes more easy the more we do it. It doesn't make us feel powerless -- we're always powerless to change the other. We don't have to anything, for self or others -- we can hold space for self, which is to take care of self, including while holding space for another, which usually helps. When I am present, listening, caring, not judging, not controlling, I am holding space for and with another. What helps me recognize and hold space is knowing how important it is, learning to care and not carry, knowing how to share what I am experiencing in a non-demanding, non-critical, honest and open way, and being supportive of the other being himself or herself.
 

Being Human, by Climbing PoeTree

FaceBook  On Feb 7, 2020 David Doane wrote:
To be human is to be an expression of God in a particular form with a particular consciousness, in the world and interrelated with all the rest of creation. As I became more aware of nature outside, that is, nature different than me, I became aware that every form of nature is a unique expression of One Source, which awareness helps me appreciate and connect with my own nature. I don't know what is meant by understanding my own nature. Being human I have the ability to analyze, but I prefer to be human rather than analyze what it means to be human. I do understand it in the sense of standing under it being supportive of it. I find that being mindful, being in the present and paying attention to what I am experiencing, help me to value and enjoy my nature.
 

When Someone Deeply Listens To You, by John Fox

FaceBook  On Feb 1, 2020 David Doane wrote:
To deeply listen to someone means to give full attention to what someone is saying, not to what I am thinking, not to judgments or assumptions I might be creating, and not to what I am going to say in response. Deeply listening means being full present to and with the other. Deeply listening means caring about and respecting the other. Deeply listening even means listening to the whole person, that is, listening to what is being said nonverbally as well as verbally. Fortunately, I have often felt deeply listened to, and during those times I have felt met, known, cared about, valued, special, and supported. What helps me to deeply listen is knowing from personal experience how valuable it is to be listened to, and knowing how satisfying it is to listen.
 

A Heart Of Warmth Is Not Something Impossible, by Tenzin Palmo

FaceBook  On Jan 24, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Tenzin Palmo equates heart of warmth with love, so I'll go with that. To me, developing a heart of warmth includes recognizing that the other is a person just like me, being genuinely caring about the other, being respectful, wanting the other to develop his or her own unique self and be happy and healthy, and wanting the other to be a capable independent adult. It is a relationship in which there is not dependence such as clinging, or manipulation such as guilt-giving. I can't make the other happy, and no one can make me happy -- I can be caring, kind, independent, respectful, and honest, which usually contributes to my being happy and also to the other being happy. I've experienced love as a tremendous opening of the heart in loving relationships, including and especially with my wife. What helps me develop a heart of warmth is experiencing it either in myself or in an other, realizing how satisfying it is, and wanting more. None of us do what we could, as we could always do more -- we do what we do, so do it with love. It is true that what I do affects everyone and everything else.
 

Spiritual Materialism, by Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

FaceBook  On Jan 18, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I don't balance teaching and ego very well. I often at least keep my ego focus below 50%. Sometimes, for brief periods, I am so involved in what I am sharing/teaching that I lose awareness of ego. At those times, I don't balance teaching and ego, I let go of ego, and I certainly value and want more of those times. I think my ego interest becomes less with more experiences of non ego focused sharing and teaching.
 

Spiritual Materialism, by Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

FaceBook  On Jan 18, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Wearing knowledge as an ornament sounds egotistical to me. Knowledge being chewed thoroughly, digested thoroughly, and incorporated into me is an image that makes more sense to me.
 

Meaning And The Song Of The Soul, by Llewellyn Vaughn-Lee

FaceBook  On Jan 18, 2020 David Doane wrote:
For me, life in all its colors and fragrances means that life is a mixed bag full of an immense variety of experiences for us to be part of, respond to, learn and grow from. There was a time when the Christian theology I learned lost meaning. Western theology separates God from human, sacred from secular. Meaning returned in my life as a gift and a promise with my learning from the Eastern Wisdom tradition, the wisdom of the Vedic tradition, that all creation, living and not living, is one inseparable phenomena that I am part of. Meaning returned with my learning that all creation -- every thing, every plant, animal, and person, every color and fragrance -- is God incarnate. Knowing that means that all creation is sacred, and with that I reclaim my sense of the sacred. Meaning returned with Namaste, seeing God in all that is.
 

Spiritual Materialism, by Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

FaceBook  On Jan 11, 2020 David Doane wrote:
I appreciate the openness and the message of Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche. For me, spiritual materialism means spiritual egoism, that is, doing or expressing spiritual knowledge in order to feed my ego, promote myself, get respect or adulation. I often want to teach or be of help and usually there is some amount of spiritual egoism also present. I overcome the desire to impress in the sense of keeping that desire at least below 50%. What helps me do that and be grounded in authenticity is a sincere caring about people and their growth; learning that the other being impressed really doesn't do much for me while my being impressed by the other is satisfying; knowing that real me is independent of what others think of me and what really matters to me is what I think of myself; learning that for me loving is much more satisfying than being loved; growth in seeing the other as myself; and knowing that what I am attempting to 'teach' the other is what I am needing to develop in myself.
 

Silence, by Jean Klein

FaceBook  On Jan 4, 2020 David Doane wrote:
Don't speak unless you can improve on silence makes sense to me -- I would do well to follow that advice more often. From the Psalms is, "Be silent and know I am God." Paschal said our problems come from our inability to sit quietly in a room alone. I agree with the Four Seasons that silence is golden. I love Jean Klein's many statements about silence -- each is a reflection in silence. Silence often was anxiety producing for me, and is for many people, but it seldom is anymore. Now I often welcome it. Silence is a time to turn inward, break from external and even internal talking and listen for and to the I am that is my real self and is an expression of God. Silence is getting regrounded in myself. Silence is peaceful. I feel established in silence when I allow and embrace it and tune in to what I am experiencing inside. What helps me cultivate silence is valuing my inner life and knowing that silence is an entryway into it. What also helps me is to close my mouth, close my eyes, get away from the external world, go to a quiet internal space, and reflectively nonjudgmentally pay attention to what I am experiencing.
 

Meditation: A Process Of Retraining The Mind, by Bhante Gunaratna

FaceBook  On Dec 28, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I easily relate to and identify with having a mind that can be a shrieking, gibbering madhouse. I think of times when I'm into my shrieking, gibbering mind as driving myself crazy, which is a bad and worthless crazy. I think of my spontaneous, playful, creative, right brain time as my being good crazy, and that I value. I do enjoy more times of peaceful meditative mind than years ago, but such times are still brief and not frequent enough. I have times of getting beyond thinking and sinking, sometimes when by myself and sometimes in relationship, mainly by way of intentionally paying attention to what is happening in and around me here and now. If I'm ever in total awareness, it's only for moments. What helps me deepen my awareness is practice being in the present paying attention to what I am experiencing. Sometimes that involves paying attention to my breathing, relaxing, and closing my eyes.
 

The Anatomy Of Falling, by Michael Singer

FaceBook  On Dec 21, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I appreciate your story. That was a great awareness for you. Thanks for sharing.
 

The Anatomy Of Falling, by Michael Singer

FaceBook  On Dec 21, 2019 David Doane wrote:
How to let go is the key question, and it can be difficult to do. To me, letting go is to not pay attention to something, which means to not reinforce it and to put one's attention elsewhere. Basic learning theory tells us whatever is ignored and not nurtured will dwindle and extinguish. There have been times I have felt anger and wanting to in some way hurt the other, maybe by way of a mean retort or put down, and have let go of that desire by taking my focus away from it and putting my focus elsewhere, which in a short period of time felt good and was the blocked energy released. What helps me let go is recognizing when something I'm feeling is not good for me, knowing that the thought and any subsequent action serves no purpose except to hurt the other and myself, and trusting that putting my attention on a kinder thought will result in my being happier than holding onto what is not good for me.
 

Beauty Is The Very Nature Of The Kosmos, by Ken Wilber

FaceBook  On Dec 15, 2019 David Doane wrote:
All that is, every plant, animal, person, and object, is an expression of and manifestation of God, so I know each one is the radiant beauty of Spirit. During the moments that I abide in that knowing I feel the radiant beauty of everything around me. Such times have happened in and immeditely following intimate being present with, sharing with, relationship with another or with nature. What helps me see the all pervading beauty around me, when I do, is living and seeing from the foundation that all creation is sacred, all creation is God incarnate.
 

Too Many Names, by Pablo Neruda

FaceBook  On Dec 6, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I actively support the notion of letting go of the name. When I lead a group therapy, I direct people to leave their last names, titles, roles, and social histories (like where you went to high school, where you work, where you live) at the door, and be in group personally to get beyond those social distinctions and meet as persons. In group, it's unknown whether someone is a butcher, a baker, or a candlestick maker. It's unknown whether a person is wealthy or poor, from this side of the tracks or that side, knows this person or that. Persons are guided to be present as persons. Persons find out what's left when 'names' or distinctions are let go of. I feel more the genuine wholeness of being a person by letting go of distinctions, and it appears others do too. The world of distinctions is a different world than the personal world. I know the world of distinctions is out there, and it's powerful so I'm careful as to how I take it on. I also know time in relating to others without distinctions helps me stay rooted in a generous wholeness, helps me be in the world of distinctions and not of it.
 

Do You Remember Your Song?, by Alan Cohen

FaceBook  On Nov 29, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I love that story about the African women tuning into the unique song of the baby, singing it when the baby is in utero, and then teaching the community to sing it to the child throughout significant times in the child's life from birth to death. It nurtures the uniqueness of the child rather than indoctrinating the child with the songs of others. And I love that the community gathers around the individual when he or she commits a wrong behavior in order to remind the individual of his or her unique identity. Our culture is not so advanced as that African village, and sure would benefit from getting there. I do have friends who sing and support my song, and remind me of it when I forget. The bottom line of a personal story is of a time when I was down on myself and friends reminded me "I have a right to be me, I have a right to be powerful." What helps me see beyond the mistakes of others and connect with their song is knowing that they are me, knowing that while I don't know what they've been through I do know that I have in me what it takes to make whatever mistakes they make, and knowing I would want others to help me get back to my song when I go wrong.
 

How Can You Live In This World And Yet Be Innocent?, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Nov 23, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Being innocent literally means to cause no harm. Sometimes I am innocent, such as when I am speaking from what I am experiencing, including to say what I see, imagine, fantasize, assume, feel, and/or think, speaking caringly, honestly, directly, and openly, and speaking goallessly, that is, not trying to manipulate or make any particular outcome happen. When so doing, I am confident I am causing no harm -- occasionally the other may feel upset in some way, but that's not my causing harm. What helps me be a human of innocence when I am one is knowing it is the right way to be, trusting the value and benefit of it, and knowing the satisfaction that comes from it.
 

Trapped By Views, by Ajahn Pasanno

FaceBook  On Nov 19, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I hope to awaken from all spells.
 

Trapped By Views, by Ajahn Pasanno

FaceBook  On Nov 16, 2019 David Doane wrote:
What comes up in the mind, such as a view or perception, is a mental formation but not 'just' a mental perception, as Pasanno writes. That it's not permanent doesn't mean it's without value -- everything but Being is impermanent. It may be satisfactory and 'not-self'. The challenge is to have a view or perception without being trapped or locked in or controlled by it. We are able to let go of a view -- we can control it rather than it control us. I've accessed peace sometimes by letting go of religious and nationalistic and racial views I learned as a child, and have sometimes accessed more struggle. What helps me let go of my perspectives is being open and seeing what is rather than seeing my thinking, my prejudices, my preconceived notions, and my expectations.
 

Staying Small To Stay Safe, by Peggy Dulany

FaceBook  On Nov 9, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I agree that magnificence (the real self of each of us) doesn't like to be shrunk or compartmentalized, which we do to a great extent in an effort to control, such as to try to control outcome or try to control how we and/or the other will feel. There have been many times I have allowed myself to express my magnificence and it or I has been well-received even when I expect disapproval. There have also been times that my magnificence has erupted beyond my walls of containment, such as when I erupted and rebelled against childhood beliefs, which resulted in some disapproval but overall the outcome has been positive, except on those occasions when my magnificence came out angrily, and then it was my anger rather than my magnificence that was the problem. What helps me transcend my fears is trusting me, trusting what I am seeing/perceiving/experiencing, and trusting that expressing me honestly and caringly is my responsibility and is good for me and others.
 

When My Life Is In Danger, by Christina Feldman

FaceBook  On Nov 3, 2019 d wrote:
Compassion is feeling with and for the other, sincerely caring, and helping in some way. To suffer means to carry. Suffering isn't pain -- suffering is how we carry our pain. We each suffer or carry our pain, whatever it is. I can't heal the suffering of another. I can only heal or make more healthy how I suffer or carry my pain. I can help and have helped others heal their suffering by helping them see how they are suffering their pain, and by helping them learn a way that is more healthy and efficient and that doesn't produce unnecessary pain,. I can help them activate their own healing of their suffering. What helps me develop the capacity to help another heal his or her suffering is for me to be clear as to what suffering is and help the other be clear about that, develop my ability to see how the other suffers, and develop my ability to intervene in a way that is compassionate, honest, and accurate.
 

Life Is Full But Not Overcrowded, by Peace Pilgrim

FaceBook  On Oct 26, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I think struggle is for the most part living by supposed to, should, have to, got to, or must, resulting in feeling forced, trapped, and feeling some amount of powerlessness and victimization. I think of harmonious progress as doing what I choose to do that is in synch with my well-being, which feels free and empowering. My life is both overcrowded and full and good. Operating by supposed to, have to and should isn't good for my health, so I gave up living by those a long time ago. What I do, I choose to do. Some of what I chose to do I did to make money. Eventually I gave up a large portion of what I didn't enjoy which freed up more time for a good life. Much of what I do for a long time now is for my well-being, and sometimes my life is still overcrowded. What helps me prevent getting overcrowded is paying attention to how I feel and what I want, being selective, knowing that what I do is my choice so I better be careful as to what I choose, saying no to what is too much, and knowing that less is usually enough.
 

What Is Wealth?, by Ryan Holiday

FaceBook  On Oct 24, 2019 david doane wrote:
Wealth is having an abundance of something of value, very possibly gotten legally through hard work. Wealth and power can be used to do good or do bad. There are wealthy people who do good and wealthy people who do bad.
 

What Is Wealth?, by Ryan Holiday

FaceBook  On Oct 19, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Wealth is having an abundance of something valuable, often referring to money but not necessarily, and often means having more than what is needed. A simple example of my experiencing wealth through subtraction instead of multiplication is when I make a gift to someone of something of mine, resulting in some wealth of good feeling for me. What helps me stay aware of the distinction between wants and needs is knowing that a person's wants are many, are not necessary for survival and may not even be for the person's good, and wants tend to come and go, while needs are few, are necessary for survival, and are consistent. Awareness of the distinction between wants and needs helps me want less and grow in appreciation for what I have, and that awareness and appreciation are a happy wealth for me. Awareness that wealth can definitely be other than monetary helps me grow in what really is valuable to me.
 

Monet Refuses The Operation, by Lisel Mueller

FaceBook  On Oct 12, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Such a beautiful writing by Lisel Mueller. Anais Nin said "We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are." I agree with Nin. What I see through my eyes comes through what remains of the conditioning I received and the assumptions and expectations I developed. Some times I do a little more of simply seeing what is, seeing things as they are -- and a little more makes a big difference. A couple examples I see of the interconnectedness of life are: The planet suffers what we do to it, and we suffer what it does to us. The planet and we are thoroughly interconnected. Also, a wife is like a mother toward her husband who acts like a child, and the husband is like a child toward his wife who acts like a mother; their behaviors support each other, they are interconnected, a yin and yang, a bilateral arrangement. What helps me have a vision that dissolves distinctions is knowing that all creation is one, knowing that distinctions are differences that may appear separate but aren't really separate, and knowing that everything affects everything.
 

Zen Of Archery, by James Clear

FaceBook  On Oct 5, 2019 david doane wrote:
My mantra for a long time has been 'process, not outcome.' Focus on right action, as Buddhism advises, and leave outcome to forces outside your control. In interpersonal interactions, I revel in times I trust the process, that is, times that I stay present, go with what I am experiencing, and let outcome happen. What helps me trust and stay committed to process and not try to control outcome is the positive outcomes that occur when I do that. Also, I know that going with present process is within my power (I'm human) and outcome is outside my power (I'm not God). Also, I love the excitement and aliveness of commitment to the process, and don't like the dullness and deadness I feel in outcome focus. Also, I like the openness and freedom I feel in process focus and don't like being controlling and manipulative as I am when trying to control outcome.
 

My Neighbor's Corn, by Naren Kini

FaceBook  On Sep 28, 2019 david doane wrote:
I like Kini's story -- that doing for others is doing for self. I believe in sharing my best gifts with those around me. What I share with others affects and hopefully benefits them and every one and myself. I also know I have experienced sharing a gift being its own reward and have experienced receiving for myself in the process of giving and sharing with others. For example, I have shared an insight and felt satisfaction in my sharing and in the other benefiting from what I shared, and I have learned and received gratitude in sharing. What helps me stay rooted is knowing that we are one, thoroughly interconnected to a greater and deeper extent than we realize, knowing that what I share and do for anyone affects everyone, and knowing that I don't really own anything and whatever I have really belongs to everyone. It only makes sense that I share and be kind with others, and sometimes I do.
 

When Light Shines, Darkness Becomes The Light, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Sep 20, 2019 david doane wrote:
When light shines, darkness lessens and goes away. I guess it's true that darkness becomes the light -- I hadn't thought of it that way -- since Thich Nhat Hanh says it, I will reflect on it further. I do believe everything becomes everything so it does make sense. I find it difficult to observe without judging or evaluating. I observe and drift in and out of judging and evaluating. I do more observing without judging and evaluating than I used to. For me to simply be present, be aware and observe without judging and evaluating, without a goal or agenda, is a joy and is enlightening. I have difficulty being gentle with myself. I become impatient and critical with myself. What helps me be gentle with myself is reminding myself that I am good, reminding myself that I have the right and responsibility and privilege to be me, knowing that I am learning and growing, paying attention, being gentle with others, seeing others being gentle, and reflection and meditation.
 

Song Of The Birds, by David G. Haskell

FaceBook  On Sep 14, 2019 david doane wrote:
I believe that all of creation, living and not living, is interconnected. I believe we don't create earth's universal grammar and don't create the connection or language between different species -- it's already there. Unfortunately we learned or regressed to stop listening, and it would benefit us to listen once again. And I believe it's much more than the minds of different species that connect -- it's the very being of different species that connect. Each being communicates wholistically, not just verbally. We raised sheep, and there were times I seemed to hear what the sheep were communicating to me. What helps me listen for wisdom in a language different from my own is knowing that there are as many different experiences of life as there are species, the human experience being one experience, and each experience has its own wisdom in its own unique language.
 

Hard Times Require Furious Dancing, by Alice Walker

FaceBook  On Sep 8, 2019 David Doane wrote:
The glass is always full of something, and the value of what's there is defined by the glass holder. Learning to dance means learning to be in the present, enjoy the process, be ongoingly responsive to what is happening, not be goal directed, and not worry about what others think. When a dear mentor died, I had a dream in which he gave me a master program -- in the dream someone tried to take it back and I held onto it. What I got from him was a master program, and much of what I learned from him about living has helped me hold the line of beauty, form and beat through the ups and downs of life. Factors that help me stay aware of my balance include knowing how good balance feels, knowing that balance is moment by moment, knowing how easily balance is lost, knowing that maintaining balance requires constant adjustment, knowing that I don't enjoy loss of balance.
 

Universal Humans In Training, by Gary Zukav

FaceBook  On Aug 31, 2019 david doane wrote:
Gary Zukav's description of the universal human is right on. The universal human is an adult citizen of the universe, beyond allegiance to merely a particular culture, nation, ethnic group, religion, or any narrowly defined exclusive category. He is way beyond constricted nationalistic identity and even beyond global identity. It would probably be even more accurate to think of this evolving human as cosmic human, but universal human will do for now. My belief for a long time was that I had a soul. My conviction at this point is that I am a soul and for now have a human body, which conviction gives me a deeper spirituality and sense that all is sacred, and my personality is increasingly aligned with this soul and with my conviction. I don't just have an immortal component -- the soul that is essential me is immortal and has a mortal component or form called my mind and body. I don't know what helps me know that. I guess it's my waking up by way of activities such as paying attention, being open, discussing, listening, reading, reflecting, meditating.
 

Abandon Only What Is Not Yours, by Shaila Catherine

FaceBook  On Aug 24, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Not only is it an illusion that I possess things, it is an illusion that there are things to possess. So, for me to relinquish what I really don't have and really doesn't exist is relinquishment that involves no loss. In the apparent world, I behave as though I possess things, but in reality I don't possess anything. I live in the apparent but am not of it. I don't know when I stopped being of the apparent, that is, let go of the leash -- I know it was a long time ago, and it's an awareness that has become more clear over the years. What helps me recognize the impermanence of things in my daily life is implied in the question itself, that is, "things in my daily life" are impermanent, as are all things, be they apparent for a moment, a day, a lifetime, or a millenium. Awareness of impermanence is deeply ingrained in me, and the awareness is comforting.
 

Does God Have A Form?, by Arthur Osborne

FaceBook  On Aug 17, 2019 David Doane wrote:
My belief is that my essential life, that is, my soul, is formless. My formless soul incarnates, that is, takes on form, called my body, for a period of time. As a child I learned that I have a soul. Slowly but surely, especially over the last 20 years, I've learned through reading, discussion, and reflection that the soul has me, incarnates as me, and when this experience in form, called my body, ends, formless me or the soul goes on. I believe my soul, which isn't really mine, is an expression of God, and like God the soul is eternal, always was and always will be. I don't experience what I am saying as pedantry -- it is what makes sense to me, it's the basis of my theology, theology is important, and I stay rooted in it through ongoing discussion, reading, study, and reflection.
 

Grateful For Nothing, by Gregg Krech

FaceBook  On Aug 11, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I see "nothing happened," which means nothing happened that is a problem, as being very worthy of celebration. It's a time without disruption, a time of peace and stability, a time to breathe deep, relax and enjoy. I've had many times of nothing happening, including right now, most of which I take for granted without feeling gratitude. And there are times mainly of reflection or meditation when I am aware that nothing is happening, I am free of big problems, life is good, and I experience deep gratitude. What helps me be grateful for my breath is knowing that life's a fiddler on the roof, precarious and fragile, always changing, with no guarantees. I know the bottom can fall out at any moment. What helps me be grateful for my breath is having had times when it was hard to breathe, when big problems did occur, and times of seeing big problems occur for others. It helps me to know that nothing is for sure, and no breath can occur any moment. It helps me to know that's life.
 

Pilgrim In The Open Shore, by Pancho Ramos Stierle

FaceBook  On Aug 3, 2019 David Doane wrote:
It's the other way around, that is, it's the discovery of diversity within unity. Once upon a time, we humans noticed differences while living in unity; then we translated different to mean separate and lost the sense of all being part of unity; now we are rediscovering unity differentiated into many expressions. I became seriously interested in Buddhism about 15 years ago, joined an ongoing study group, learned/read/listened/reflected/meditated Eastern/Vedantic/unitive wisdom, and grew in appreciation of unity and diversity in unity. Diversity means different. Uniformity means the same. Diversity is pervasive. Every one and every thing is a different expression of one Unity. There is no uniformity even if we think there is or try to impose it.
 

The Matrix, by The Wachowskis

FaceBook  On Jul 29, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Your question implies the dream world is not real. As I see it, the asleep world is as real as the awake world, dreams are just as real, and dreams are part of both worlds. My nighttime dreams tend to be less controlled and more vivid, while my daytime dreams tend to be more controlled and suppressed. We tend to forget all dreams or pretend they never happened. Daytime reality and night time reality are different realities. Dreams, be they at night or during the day, are dream reality, a different reality from nondream reality. At this level of awake and asleep, it's all illusion. We live in illusion -- we are all conditioned, programmed, and hypnotized by our culture as to what to see and what is real, and to a great extent we never get over it. Important factors in my becoming aware of living in an illusion were mentors who helped me wake up to some extent, break through illusion, and be present and see what is. Now that I have some freedom from illusion I recognize illusion and also see past it and see what is. I am in illusion but not of it.
 

Opening Thy Palm, by Rabindranath Tagore

FaceBook  On Jul 21, 2019 David Doane wrote:
It is in giving that we receive. What we receive in giving is personal satisfaction, peace, happiness. I had a nicely made copy of the Serenity Prayer on wood. A woman struggling painfully with co-dependency issues was admiring it. I gave it to her. I shifted from scarcity -- I had only the one copy of the prayer -- to abundance -- I was full in giving it to her. I am always able to shift from scarcity to abundance -- the issue is whether or not I do. What helps me deepen in abundance is those times when I give of what I have or am, and realize that I feel better and have more when I give. I think giving has always resulted in greater abundance for me.
 

Greatest Of All Religions, by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan

FaceBook  On Jul 13, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Real religion awakens us to awareness that there is one creation of which every thing and every being is a part. It awakens us to awareness that all things and all beings including human beings are unique expressions of one creation, totally interconnected and interrelated, not separate. It awakens us to unitive awareness. The study of life reveals all this to us and therefore is the greatest of all religions. As I became aware that all that is is thoroughly interrelated and is one, I saw it in nature and awoke to the religion of nature. I remain a student of life because I want to deepen my unitive awareness that all that is is one, and that is what life teaches.
 

Not Loneliness, But Aloneness, by Craig Childs

FaceBook  On Jul 6, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Orson Welles said, "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone." That's not sad, that's just how it is. And Lily Tomlin wisely said, "We're all in this together alone." Again, that's not sad, that's just how we are. Each wave in the ocean is differentiated and is part of one ocean. We can share and be intimately close with another, and are still essentially and ultimately alone. Tincture is an interesting word. It means a medicinal solution made of various ingredients. I sometimes experience the tincture of solitude when I make a decision, for a decision is comprised of more ingredients than I can imagine, is simultaneously mine alone, and is medicinal if it makes me more whole. I am aware of this especially when making a difficult decision and feeling particularly alone. I don't make time for aloneness. I make time to appreciate my aloneness. I'm always alone, and sometimes much more aware of it than at other times. I can be in the midst of people and activities that mask my aloneness, but I'm still alone. I often give myself alone time, such as first thing in the morning alone with my thoughts as is happening right now, or alone time reflecting in my office during the day between appointments with others, or evening alone time in my yard wondering and being grateful. What helps me make time to bask in my aloneness is experiencing that it is in my aloneness that I feel most part of all that is, most at peace and most fulfilled. These are times of not only the medicine of aloneness but the alchemy of aloneness.
 

Remember, by Joy Harjo

FaceBook  On Jun 28, 2019 David Doane wrote:
It sounds like that moment was very profound for all of you. Thank you for sharing.
 

Remember, by Joy Harjo

FaceBook  On Jun 28, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I very much like this essay. Joy Harjo exhorts us to remember our oneness with all that is, which we forgot. We are one with the sun and moon and stars, one with all who came before us and will come after us, one with earth, one with all plants and animals. All that is is one, as it has been since the beginning of time and will be until the end of time, and we are part of it. We once had that awareness, then we forgot and have lived as though separate, and we are beginning to bring back to mind or remember the fact of oneness, which is critically important for us to remember for our very survival. It's been over the past approximately 15 years that I have remembered more deeply that we are one, which I learned mainly from the Buddhist and Vedantic traditions, and I remind myself of it frequently.
 

Spiritual Life Begins Within The Heart, by Joan Chittister

FaceBook  On Jun 24, 2019 David Doane wrote:
The opposite of a truth is another truth. Death is the opposite of birth, not of life. Everything ends. We don't have to confront paradox -- we can deal with paradox by realizing that life is full of paradox and accepting paradox, which puts us at rest with paradox rather than put paradox to rest. The spiritual life begins within in that the spirit is our source and we are expressions of the spirit. The spirit is our essence and our Life behind life. The material world and its vicissitudes are impermanent. For me, this realization and living centered on the spirit help me live life fully.