A Flower's Job Is To Bloom
El trabajo de una flor es florecer--por Srikumar Rao
Un momento poderoso en “My Fair Lady” es cuando la madre de Henry Higgins se compadece de Eliza Dolittle, que llora. Eliza está angustiada porque Higgins no la felicitó después de una actuación ejemplar en el baile real cuando el propio príncipe heredero bailó el primer baile con ella.
Ella reprende a Higgins comparándolo con el coronel Pickering, quien trata a una florista como si fuera una duquesa. Higgins responde que él trata a una duquesa como si fuera una florista y afirma que trata a tod@s por igual.
Eliza quería sentirse importante y ser tratada de esa manera.
Tú también. Yo también. Y la mayoría de la gente también.
El problema surge cuando queremos que ese reconocimiento y aplauso provenga de una persona o grupo de personas en concreto. Cada vez que nuestro bienestar emocional se ve afectado por el hecho de que alguien más nos reconozca, construimos una prisión a nuestro alrededor y le entregamos la llave a esa persona.
Por que íbamos a hacer eso? ¿Por qué íbamos a querer hacer eso?
Lo hacemos porque nunca pensamos en ello y porque quienes nos rodean están haciendo lo mismo. ¿Realmente queremos que nuestra felicidad sea controlada por el grifo de la atención y la aclamación de otras personas?
Nuestro trabajo como flor es florecer. Nuestra realización radica en eso.
La rosa que florece en la naturaleza no es menos que la que lo hace en un jardín de exhibición.
Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la noción de que 'la rosa que florece en la naturaleza no es ni un ápice menos que la que lo hace en un jardín de exhibición'? ¿Puedes compartir una historia personal de un momento en que pudiste encontrar la libertad de la necesidad de reconocimiento? ¿Qué te ayuda a mantenerte fiel a tu naturaleza, al igual que el trabajo de una flor es florecer?
Srikumar Rao es autor y profesor de una escuela de negocios. Extracto anterior de su libro, Modern Wisdom, Ancient Roots.
Srikumar Rao is business-chool professor and author. Excerpt above from his book, Modern Wisdom, Ancient Roots.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that 'the rose that blossoms in the wild is not a whit less than the one that does so in a show garden'? Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to find freedom from a need for recognition? What helps you stay true to your nature, just like a flower's job is to bloom?
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On Jul 17, 2023 inder dutt wrote :
inspirational read. . .gives me a purpose of coming in this journey of life through time.
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On Oct 24, 2022 Kiki wrote :
There is the phrase, ‘Bloom where you are planted.’ I have come to invert it to , ‘ Plant yourself where you may bloom.’ In this way, I am not obligated to stay in soil that is toxic to my nature. Maturing means I begin to know the difference between simply avoiding that which causes discomfort and actively nurturing toward my own flourishing. This can include some weeding and composting of thought patterns, social situations, and activities. A garden in process.
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On Oct 22, 2022 Johanna wrote :
This is great message wrapped up in a misogynist example. There is so much more to My Fair Lady than just Eliza’s desire for the recognition and love of Prof Higgins.
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On Oct 21, 2022 Sadye wrote :
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On Oct 19, 2022 Arthur wrote :
Used to say that death is life or life is death? For no one knows!
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Eurippities
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On Oct 18, 2022 Ricken Patel wrote :
I loved this reflection, as I think it sits at the core of so much of the unfulfilled potential of our public service sectors. The blooming flowers of our academy might unveil truth and understanding, but often this desire for approval and acclaim turns it into what Herman Hesse called the glass bead game. Everywhere I go - the NGO sector, philanthropy, journalism etc, there's the same priority placed on status and recognition. And while it provides powerful ego-fuel for accomplishment, it often feels limiting of our true promise and potential, individually and collectively. What a wonderful thing to identify that and seek, individually and collectively, to become free of it...
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On Oct 18, 2022 Sarah wrote :
This makes me think that if we connect with our natural state, we can find peace. Our natural state of being just IS, it does not require a mask or adornment because it is pure.
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On Oct 18, 2022 Ade wrote :
Greetings, My job is to help people. I'm a quiet mindful person and very low key. Most times the manager doesn't acknowlege the thanks I get from the people I help. I remind myself "Im helping people" and I thrive, improve and feel grateful for the opportunity. Kindness, mindfulness, peace is how I bloom.
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On Oct 18, 2022 Shyam Gupta wrote :
Am reminded of a quote , " Nothing can affect us, unless we allow it to do so ".
As long as we are able to find the true meaning of our being on this planet, which is akin to a flowers's job to bloom, there is nothing which should affect our happiness.
The moment we start seeking appreciation, recognition of our efforts, being appreciated by others, our joy and happiness in just blossomimg like a flower , gets compromised. It falls in other's hands.
Remember a personal story. We started a group wherein we were providing ration and medicines during the onset of Covid. Some newspapers covered the story and surprisingly it highlighted just a few of the persons in the group who were otherwise well known and connected. My family told me , you are doing so much but your name does not appear anywhere. I did not comment or do anything about it.
To me it did not matter. My ' job" was to serve the needy and that I was doing. The joy and happiness in doing my bit was all I needed. But... [View Full Comment]
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On Oct 17, 2022 sashimi wrote :
The rose that is being itself in the wild is the same as a rose that is being itself in a show garden. They are both equal. I find freedom when I am in solitude, or at the worst of it, isolation. However, I can also find freedom by checking in with my Self. Knowing my intentions and doing the best I can for the sake of the task itself, helps me to find that freedom.
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On Oct 17, 2022 Nina wrote :
I am all for freedom, especially freedom for the need to be recognized. However, we are not encapsulated; living beings inter-are, to use Thich Nhat Hanh' s expression: our nervous system responds to another's, perhaps not unlike the way a flower responds to air earth sun and rain.
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On Oct 15, 2022 David Doane wrote :
A rose that grows in ideal conditions may be healthier and look better than one that grows in the wild, but that's not a definite.
What is definite is that one rose is no better or less than the other. A rose is a rose wherever it grows. My need for recognition is small, but not totally gone. I typically do what I believe is right and don't do what to me is not right, and I like recognition, but I don't need recognition and I seldom do or don't do something in order to get recognition. What helps me stay true to my nature is my belief that it is my right, responsibility, and privilege to blossom and be all that I am, which to me is to be true to my nature, all of which I take very seriously. It helps me to know that even though people often say someone made them feel happy or sad or angry or whatever, I know my feelings are mine and controlled by no one but me.
What is definite is that one rose is no better or less than the other. A rose is a rose wherever it grows. My need for recognition is small, but not totally gone. I typically do what I believe is right and don't do what to me is not right, and I like recognition, but I don't need recognition and I seldom do or don't do something in order to get recognition. What helps me stay true to my nature is my belief that it is my right, responsibility, and privilege to blossom and be all that I am, which to me is to be true to my nature, all of which I take very seriously. It helps me to know that even though people often say someone made them feel happy or sad or angry or whatever, I know my feelings are mine and controlled by no one but me.
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On Oct 14, 2022 Ted wrote :
My childhood included the social conditioning that surrounded me. I sought approval from my parents, teachers and other authority figures to survive. As I grew, I found that such approval was often dependent on conditions beyond my control, and that in any case it was never "enough". Like feeding a hungry ghost whose stomach has no bottom, there was always more approval needed (and the carrot moved daily), suffering for me. And then realization that like this body, "socialization", and the emotional "rewards" I felt I needed from recognition were all just inherited patterns from my ancestors, useful seeds and fertilizer for this life. And in the blossoming of that realization, all is well regardless of where I find myself.
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On Oct 14, 2022 Victoria wrote :
I liked the article, thank you. I also find myself wondering what am I doing shining my light in a dark place which gets disillusioning for me at times. I then remember that lighthouses also stand alone on rocks sticking out to sea, and that is their job - to shine and they do communicate with ships and other lighthouses.
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On Oct 14, 2022 Jagdish P. Dave wrote :
I love this passage authored by Srikumar Rao. All wisdom traditions teach us that happiness lies within us. All of us regardless of outward differences have the potential to blossom like a rose that blossoms in the world is not a whit less than the flower that blooms in a show garden. Our job as a flower is to let it bloom. Our fulfillment lies in letting the flower bloom. We all are children of God and we let ourseves grow as we are. When we live this way, we do not let our joy and happiness controlled by the spigot of other people's attention, appreciation, acclaim, and admiration. Living this way, as the author says, "We construct a prision around us and hand that person the key." Living this way, we let our worth defined extrinsically and that way we create unhappiness in our life. When we value our worth intrinsically then nobody can diminish it.
So, it is all upto us to be happy and fulfilled by being ourseles.
Namste!
Jagdish P Dave
So, it is all upto us to be happy and fulfilled by being ourseles.
Namste!
Jagdish P Dave