To Be Continually Thrown Out Of The Nest
A fi aruncat din cuib mereu. --de Pema Chodron
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Ne imaginăm că dacă medităm sau alergăm îndeajuns de mult, sau dacă mâncăm produsele cele mai potrivite, totul va fi în regulă. Din perspectiva cuiva care este trezit, asta echivalează cu moartea. Căutarea siguranței sau a perfecțiunii, nevoia de a primi validări și sentimentul de a fi deplin, independent și confortabil sunt toate un fel de moarte. Aceste stări nu lasă loc de aer proaspăt. Nu este loc pentru ceea ce va veni să schimbe starea de fapt. Sufocăm momentul prezent prin nevoia de a controla experiențele. Astfel pregătim terenul pentru eșec, întrucât, mai devreme sau mai târziu vom trăi o experiență pe care nu o putem controla: poate casa va arde, poate pierdem pe cineva drag, poate descoperim că avem cancer, poate ne lovește o cărămidă căzută din cer, sau poate cineva varsă suc de roșii pe costumul nostru alb, sau poate că restaurantul la care mergem nu mai are mâncarea noastră preferată. Schimbarea este parte esențială din viață. Uneori are gust plăcut, alteori amar. Uneori corpul nostru se tensionează, alteori se relaxează și se deschide. Uneori avem o migrenă, alteori ne simțim pe deplin sănătoși. Din perspectiva unei conștiințe trezite încercarea de a controla fiecare detaliu al experienței este moarte curată, întrucât se lasă deoparte o bună parte a experienței fundamentale de viață. Este ceva foarte agresiv în această abordare a vieții, anume în încercarea de a nivel toate imperfecțiunile și locurile grosiere pentru a avea un parcurs plat.
A trăi deplin, a fi complet uman și conștient presupune să fii aruncat din cuib din nou și din nou. A trăi deplin înseamnă să te situezi mereu în tărâmuri nefamiliare, să primești fiecare moment ca nou și proaspăt. A trăi înseamnă să fii dispus să mori din nou și din nou. Asta este viața din perspectiva unei conștiințe trezite.
Pentru a dizolva rezistența în fața vieții este nevoie să o întâlnim față în față. Atunci când avem nemulțumiri pentru că este prea cald în cameră, am putea să fim deschiși către a-i observa torpoarea și apăsarea. Atunci când suntem nemulțumiți că este prea rece în cameră, am putea să fim deschiși către a-i observa înghețarea și pișcătura. Atunci când am fi tentați sa ne plângem de ploaie, am putea să-i observăm umezeala. Atunci când ne facem griji că vântul ne zguduie geamurile, am putea să fim curioși despre cum se aude vâjâitul. A ne curba așteptările înseamnă a ne face singuri un cadou. Nu există remediu cald și rece. Așa va fi la nesfârșit. După ce nu vom mai fi, lumea va continua să existe. Precum fluxul și refluxul unui ocean, precum ziua și noaptea - aceasta este natura a ceea ce există.
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Întrebări pentru reflecție: Cum vă raportați la ideea că a controla pe deplin experiența este la fel cu a muri? Ați putea împărtăși o experiență când ați putut să trăiți pe deplin deși erați aruncat din cuib mereu? Ce vă ajută să trăiți pe deplin, primind fiecare moment ca pe ceva nou și proaspăt?
Pema Chodron is an author, meditation teacher, and excerpt above is from her book When Things Fall Apart.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that finally getting it all together is death? Can you share an experience of a time you were able to fully embrace being continually thrown out of the nest? What helps you live fully, experiencing each moment as completely new and fresh?
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On Jul 28, 2020 Ambika wrote :
Am in deep reflection because i have and i am continuously being thrown out of my nest. But I was and continue to be reactive and not responding. I have cribbed, ranted and resisted and considered myself to be an unfortunate being. The chosen one to be put through the test of fire.
Pema Chodren's words come as fragrance. I could have been fully alive but i then thought i was gong through death. Here is yet another opportunity for me to be fully alive. I shall embrace being thrown out of the nest because I want to live life in all its glory. Thank you for this fresh teaching.
Pema Chodren's words come as fragrance. I could have been fully alive but i then thought i was gong through death. Here is yet another opportunity for me to be fully alive. I shall embrace being thrown out of the nest because I want to live life in all its glory. Thank you for this fresh teaching.
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On Jul 28, 2020 Kitty wrote :
Nice reflections, i'm just reading a book , called Miracles of development subtitle plant-human-project , the author J D van Mansvelt ( Dutch and this book is just released in Dutch) is analyzing the development plants, and gives examples that when a knot os formed, the plant is changed because the leaves are spouting out, or eventually a flower or blossom, next stage a fruit; He calls it metamorphose ( like a caterpillar is becoming a butterfly) The relation with humans is evaluation by changes like, sickness, accidents, divorce etc , than your mind nad body is shifting to a new phase , he explains that the death could have the same effect. My English is not brilliant and i will ask him if we could translate a summary of this book in other languages.
For my own experiences my life changes a lot after a severe car accident, the suicide of my first husband, the death of my sister ( at 46); and the moment that my husband and me stepped out of the " ratrace" and decided to l... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 28, 2020 Myrtle Russell wrote :
For me, getting it all together is embracing the ebbs and flow of life with courage; its believing that spirit never dies.
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On Jul 28, 2020 Sunil wrote :
"Impermanence is the only permanence' said Buddha. There is no constant stable but only continuous changeand that is actually the life in reality. As and when one achieves freedom from the cycle of birth and death then only there is wholesomeness and completeness.
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On Jul 28, 2020 Yvonne wrote :
Years ago, I read the words...it took me years to see what these words were really saying...it is cyclical .
Life ..death and Resurrection....is an ever going returning and returning...not like I'd been brought up to believe....a bit like the earth was flat....and that changed my perspective....I could now see the good in the bad...and I realised it was all energy...coming in and going out....even the sea shore spits out what is no longer life giving.....and I knew it was up to how I chewed it out or could not digest it....no blame ...and I began to feel free.
Life ..death and Resurrection....is an ever going returning and returning...not like I'd been brought up to believe....a bit like the earth was flat....and that changed my perspective....I could now see the good in the bad...and I realised it was all energy...coming in and going out....even the sea shore spits out what is no longer life giving.....and I knew it was up to how I chewed it out or could not digest it....no blame ...and I began to feel free.
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On Jul 25, 2020 David Doane wrote :
As I see, birth and death, beginning and ending are always. I don't think getting it all together is death -- I believe getting it all together, which I've never achieved, would be glorious life, not death. I think I never fully embrace being continually thrown out of the nest. I embrace it in the sense that I know and accept that everything is constantly changing, that I live in the unknown and control very little if anything. However, while everything is constantly changing, most of the changing is such that I feel consistency and stability as I live my routine in my nest. Occasionally a major change throws me out of the nest such that I very much feel it. I don't like or embrace major unwanted changes, especially as they're happening. Once upon a time I left a career path. I threw myself out of a particular nest into the unknown. Initially I felt terrified and second guessing of myself which quickly gave way to feeling free, open, and excited in my moving on. It was ... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 24, 2020 Jagdish P Dave wrote :
If we want to live life fully, we need to let go and free ourselves from the grip of the past and the grip of the future. We need to release the grip of holding on to the past as well as future and live fully in the present moment. In order to fill the cup of my life fully I need to empty my cup. We need to be thrown out of the old nest.Otherwise I live a life unfulfilled. It is by letting go I receive the gifts of living fully. These kindsof paradoxical sayings come from most of the wisdom traditions.Pema Chodronrepresents the Buddhist perspective of living Mindfully.
I have been learning how to embrace life fully by throwing out of the old nest. Every morning I wake up I practice mindfulness that helps me to live fully in the present moment. I try to maintainmindfulness in taking care of my everyday tasks. I live fully in the present moment. There are times when the old habitual or conditioned patterns of behaviortake over me. I fly back to the old nest. I wake up and realize that I ... [View Full Comment]