SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What does becoming aware of your own energy mean to you? Can you share a personal story of a time you became aware of your own energy in an interaction? What helps you remain aware of your own energy?
great post! In fact, I express my gratitude to the other person for making me aware of my own shortcomings. In difficult relationships, our power lies in our ability to work on ourselves. In my relationships with people, I want to be authentic and empathic. When I do mindfulness workshops, there have been times when I have found difficult to maintain the balance between authenticity and empathy.
I took time many years ago to learn about my own shadows, I never really set out to do this specifically, in fact I was working with an Anger Management therapist who helped me understand why I reacted the way I did to different situations. I believe that for many people in the world the concept of thier own shadow is simply not understood and I believe that until you understand this becoming aware of your own energy is a very difficult challenge. Of course every journey is different, some people are naturally attuned but for me it took/takes a lot of work to be present enough to be aware of my own energy but when I am and when I notice it change during an interaction I can move from a place of reflection. The only real thing that helps me is meditation and mindfullness practices of which there are many but the once a day practice while helps is not enough, I have on my phone a bell that rings at 59 minutes past each hour to remind me to check in with myself and do a little breath work.[Hide Full Comment]
In every day life we do come across people who are rude or vile. This is part of life.once we become aware of the emotions that arise in us we can handle the situations well. It is not easy but is possible. Energies of anger, irritation, etc cannot be countered with same energies. It becomes combative. Calmness and strategic handling will help.
what is yoga 101?
Charity begins @home.The world was-is-will be good always.Thus it is surviving. No need to criticize, find fault and be unhappy.Just look within to connect with your peaceful, most powerful and pure soul. Doors to the untapped abundant perennial & potential source of energy-the life force will be slowly opened."Shivohum Shivohum Shiva Swaroopaha hum".This applies to every soul uniformly connecting everybody with anybody. I am in you and you are in me. This Deep meditation helps to realize how positive energetic you are.Then there is simply harmony,reconciliations and togetherness with the common love-affection, sympathy-empathy,gratitude-generosity in all relationships and interactions.
There's something about that guy I just can't stand in myself. I look across the room and see me. Seeing what I don't like in the other as being in some way also part of me is an opening to my being more aware of self and improving self. And as the author says, I can't change the other and I can do some changing of me, so I might as well focus on me, which will have ain impact on the other. Becoming aware of self is becoming aware of one's own energy. As I would jump in, rather than be a scared hiding spectator, I became aware of my energy. Sometimes others liked what I said or did, which felt good. Sometimes others didn't like what I said or did. The important thing is that I became aware that I have energy, which is power, I have a right and responsibility to own my energy and power, my energy and power make a difference, and I want to use my energy and power to make a positive difference. My being aware of all that does help me remain aware of my energy and how I use it.[Hide Full Comment]
Awareness or witnessing consciousness of what is happening in me on different levels of myself such as physical, breath, mental and emotional levels non-judgmentally when I am with someone who is throwing an arrow at me, blaming me, criticizing me or ignoring me has been very helpful to me. Such a transaction becomes a mirror for me to look at my inner face and clean up my own lens. If I react to the other person I need to pay attention to me and work own myself. In fact, I express my gratitude to the other person for making me aware of my own shortcomings. In difficult relationships, our power lies in our ability to work on ourselves.
In my relationships with people, I want to be authentic and empathic. When I do mindfulness workshops, there have been times when I have found difficult to maintain the balance between authenticity and empathy.For example, after I lead a guided mindfulness meditation, I invite the participants to share their experience and respond to their questions. Some participants go off the track. Instead of asking a question, they talk about something that may not be related to their experience. As a teacher I want them to be brief and to the point. I want them to ask a question and not to give a discourse.On such occasions, I let them know what they need to do and we may talk about what is on their mind later on after the workshop. I do this without judging them and maintain a positive flow of energy. It is my job to create and sustain positive energy in me and in the group. Our personal energy impacts us and others. We need to learn how to modulate our own energy patterns.As the author says," Our own inner state is our only platform for dealing with other people. Our own open and empowered state is the fulcrum, the power point, from which we can move the world."
Jagdish P Dave