SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion of living into the bright, sane responsiveness that fear makes possible? Can you share a personal experience of a time you leaned into your fear? What helps you stay present to fear without dismissing it?
Fear of fear has, without doubt, been the big fear of my life. As I grow older, I can't say that I welcome it, but I find myself questioning the deeply rooted assumption that I shouldn't feel it. Of course, I should because to be alive is to feel fear. My spiritual quest forever has been about managing it, but it doesn't, and even can't be managed. Fear, no problem.
I also welcome FEAR. It involved my personal Healing Journey, when I had to go to places within myself which were very, indeed exceedingly uncomfortable. Facing elements of myself with which I was struggling to learn to embrace, (as opposed to "grappling, confronting, wrestling, etc.). I learned some cool acronyms along the way: FEAR can be "False Evidence Appearing Real"; "Forgetting Everything's All Right", and, of course, "F*ck Everything And Run!". As I describe above, FEAR also is an ally in my emotionally intimate relationships, since the discomfort I experience as I share deeper traits of myself to my Loved One: the FEAR is a barometer of the authenticity of my emotional commitment.
NO FEAR" is my Motto.From my early years I was fearing about SNAKE Bikes,Dogs Bite,Driving Vehicle,Starting new Programmes,Every where ,every thing I found Fear.But THE FAITH IN GOD vanished away all my FEAR.I was in Africa, Europe,Australia, there are too many times of FEAR.But it is only for SECONDS.I over came all my FEAR only by the Strongest BELIEVE in GOD that nothing will happen with out the KNOWLEDGE OF GOD.The Greatest LOSS OF Ten Acres of Land and 27 Buildings-NOCERGRAM-I overcome the Fear only by the FAITH IN GOD.So Over come Fear FAITH and Believe in GOD will make more STRENGTH and ACTION.
I experience fear when I feel in danger, in regards to whatever that may be. My fear often is of the unknown, even though I know that the unknown is full of opportunity. Feeling fear is for me an indication that I am alive, and the feeling of fear can be exciting, but fear doesn't make sane responsiveness possible. It's my being alive makes responsiveness possible, and I can respond with courageous action or fearful avoidance. I am often afraid, maybe more so than many people, and I have often leaned into my fear such as by taking action even though I am afraid, and usually I'm glad I did because whatever I feared usually turned out well and I grew from the experience. What helps me stay present to fear without dismissing it is knowing that I feel fear when on the verge of something new and challenging, and staying with fear is staying with the opportunity at hand.
I love to read such writings which make me pause,"see" with wide open and clear yes and connected with the truth emerging from openness and clarity.The fear of fear is neurotic. It is a conditioned response.I stay away from relating to a new and fresh stimulus even before it arises.In this sense I relate to fear as an enemy, and not as my friend. Such a mindset creates a wall or a boundary and restricts the flow of our energy.Our flow of energy gets thwarted by fight, flight or freeze response.
Another way of relating to a fear is befriending the fear.We embrace the fear with open arms and allow ourselves to experience it as a friend or a guest.When we relate to our fear in a friendly way, fully and fearlessly, we feel the surge and aliveness of energy like surfing on the new waves..
When I am fully present to the existential reality as it is without the judgment of right and wrong, beyond right and wrong, I am in the field of pure energy, pure awareness. It is a different dimension of consciousness.Walking in nature, listening to music, connecting with myself with myself and others on a deeper level creates a sense of awe and wonderment. Living becomes a blessing.
May we be free from the shackles of fear and swim in the pure flow of energy!
Jagdish P Dave