SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that there is nothing but space? Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to create the space to heal? What helps you create such a space?
So true. I relate to nothing but space as I move through receiving coaching. One of the helpful tools is to imagine one's energy expanding out and that the energy is like the wind blowing out and past challenges to create space. Our minds are infinite spaces too, the declutter is often by reframing: for example, one of my other favorite reframes is I choose. When we have choice we also have more space. Currently I am moving through another layer of healing with my mother, whom I've been in the role of parent since about age 12. When she was born she turned blue and was brain damaged. That damage manifested over time in processing like a 5 to 7 year old. She also have several mental illness challenges such as severe anxiety and paranoia. She is also one of the most negative people I have ever met, not only my opinion but those who know her mention this often. It has been difficult at times to always be in the role of parent with her, especially when she is so negative and mostly ungrateful. My father was severely depressed after his service in Vietnam, multiple suicide attempts, died when I was 22. My brother was alcoholic by 15 (his coping) and then sober by age 26. The current healing is choosing to remain as a primary care taker of my mom as her condition worsens. The choice I have and the healing is: would I walk away from a 5 year old? No. And rather than get stuck in why, I ask myself, now that this has happened, what can I do. And I've created more space to process all this, from meditating on it, to spending quiet time at home to reflect rather than go out and be social and not move through the layers. And in that space a team began to form as I reached out to her Pastor for help and her only two friends and her two sisters. Expanding out the energy also helps so much; to imagine myself like wind, there is much space in wind. <3[Hide Full Comment]
Reading this article reminds me of a wise statement written by Austrian psychologist Viktor Frankl. " Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Our mind is hijacked by our emotionally disturbed mind causing harm to us and others connected with us..This is where we need to pause to create that space which frees us from the grip of the reactive mind.
I need to be mindful of how much unnecessary stuff I keep on buying crowding my external space. How much I hoard invading my own room. Likewise, I need to be mindful of how much junk I stuff in my mind in the form of destructive thoughts and destructive emotions, holding on to the past and narrowing my inner space. Sadly, we create our own pathology.
We need to wake up and attend to the accumulation of the external stuff and the internal stuff. We need to learn to let go of the stuff that we do not really need. I can be my own killer and I can be my own healer. It's my choice. It's up to me.We can do that by learning and practicing how to create that space that slowly and gradually helps us rest, rejuvenate and heal. We can and need to start it doing now.
Practicing mindfulness mediation regularly has been a blessing to me.It has created a stream of wellness in my life. My wellness affects people in my life in a positive way. We all are together to help and heal each other.
May we help us and each other to create the healing space within us to fill it with joy and fulfillment!
Jagdish P dave
My conception is that in this realm in which we live there is space and time that we clutter with things, and clutter mainly by attaching to things. Even space and time can be a cluttering of nothingness as we in part live as expressions in space and time and in part live in nothingness. I don't create space -- it just is, and how much I clutter it is up to me. Healing takes place in space. The less I clutter space such as with things to do, shoulds and have tos, worries and regrets, judgments and blames, plans and goals, the more space I have in which to be whole and to heal. I've gotten better at not cluttering space and time and definitely have a long way to go.