What Breaks Your Heart?

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KALBİNİ NE KIRIYOR?

Kalbini ne kırıyor? Ruhun neyin özlemini çekiyor? Ve bu iki soru şu anki hayat tarzınla ilgili neler söylüyor?

Bu soruyu seviyorum çünkü tutkularım ve hayat amacım hakkında bana yeni bir bakış açısı veriyor. Bugün sizinle bu soruyu paylaşmak istedim çünkü inanıyorum ki bu konu hepimizi ilgilendiriyor. Ve biliyorum ki sorunun cevabı hepimizin derinlerinde bir yerlerde yatıyor.

Şuna içtenlikle inanıyorum ki her birimiz insanlığı bir adım daha öteye taşımak için buradayız. Ve şuna içtenlikle inanıyorum ki tek tek her birimiz diğerlerine katkıda bulunma, hizmet etme ve hayatını anlamlı bir şekilde yaşama özlemini çekiyor.

“Seni ne incitiyor?” sorusu ruhlarımızın özlem duyduğu şeye ve hayat amacımıza ve hayallerimize yaklaşmamıza yardımcı olabilecek en faydalı sorulardan biri. Ama bence bu soruyu cevaplamadan önce ilk olarak halihazırda incinmiş olduğunuzu fark etmeniz gerekir.

Bana göre insanlar çoğunlukla kalp kırıklığının sevilen birinden ayrıldığımızda ya da onu kaybettiğimizde yaşadığını düşünür. Elbette bu doğrudur fakat kalp aynı zamanda sizin değer verdiğiniz şey toplum, aile ve diğerleri tarafından değer görmediği zaman da kırılır.

Örneğin annemin kalbi toplumun zihinsel engellilere nasıl muamele ettiğini gördüğünde acımıştı böylece Özel Olympics’i kurdu. Babamın kalbini kıran şeylerden biri fakirlikti-hem maddi hem de manevi-böylece Fakirlikle Savaş’ı kurdu. Kızımın kalbini kıran şey hayvanların işkence edilip yolun kenarına atılması, bu yüzden “Maverick ve Ben” adlı bir kitap yazdı. Diğer kızımın kalbini kıran şey ruh sağlığı konusunda sorun yaşayanlara insanların ne kadar da duyarsız oldukları, bu yüzden bu meseleleri gündeme getiren yazılar yazıyor ve liste böylece uzayıp gidiyor.

Günümüzde benim kalbimi kıran birçok şey var. Alzheimer’a hala bir çare bulunamadığı için üzülüyorum. Birçok insanın saatlerce zor şartlar altında çalışıp emeklerinin karşılığını alamamasına üzülüyorum. Hukuk sisteminin adaletsizliğine üzülüyorum. Taciz gören kadınların çok uzun süre susmak zorunda kalmalarına üzülüyorum.

Fakat şu anda kalbimi gerçekten de kıran şey ne kadar da birbirimizden ayrı düştüğümüz. Birbirimize karşı ne kadar da kırıcı olduğumuz. Birbirimizi ne kadar da eleştirdiğimiz. Birbirimizi nasıl da yargıladığımız ve nasıl da öfke ile dolu olduğumuz. Ve hepimizin nasıl da yalnız göründüğü.

Fakat beni en çok etkileyen şey hepimizin aynı şeyin hasretini çektiğimize olan derinden inancım. Hepimiz kabul görmek, görülmek, duyulmak, anlaşılmak ve bizi birleştiren bir alana davet almak istiyoruz.

İnanıyorum ki bu alan hayalperestlerle ve kaşiflerle dolu açık bir alan. Öğretmenlerle, doktorlarla, annelerle, babalarla, genciyle, yaşlısıyla dolu dolu bir alan.
Kalbimi kıran şey aslında aynı zamanda onu ateşliyor ve dolduruyor. Farklılıklarımıza kıyasla benzerliklerimizin daha fazla olduğuna inanmam. Ayrılıktan ziyade bir arada olmanın özlemini çektiğimize inanmam. Ağrılarımızla, acılarımızla, kalp kırıklıklarımızla bir araya gelip şifa bulma özlemini çektiğimize inanmam.

Günümüzde çoğumuzun hissettiği öfkenin yersiz olduğunu söylemiyorum. Yine de öfkemizi eyleme yönlendirelim ve hayat amacımızı ateşlemesine izin verelim. Yaralı şifacılar olarak bir araya geldiğimizi ve bizi ayıran çatlakları onardığımızı hayal ediyorum.
İşte bunlar benim kalbimi kıranlar, peki ya senin kalbini ne kırıyor? Bilmek isterim.

Maria Shriver
Seed Questions for Reflection

What breaks your heart? Can you share a personal story of a time you felt simultaneously filled and fuelled by what broke your heart? What helps you acknowledge that your heart is or has been broken?

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evelyn
Sep 5, 2025
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Adam S
Apr 26, 2022
for me I think it's that I can reject myself so deeply and for so long while longing to be one with things, accepted and loved by others and experience the beauty in life.
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R.B.MIRUTHULAA
Dec 10, 2021
I have two
so first one is I scored less marks in the exams so that makes me feel sad
and second one is I am living in hostel so I am alone without m family that makes me heart broken
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Lalit
Jan 29, 2020
Something which breaks my heart is poverty, I die when I see how parents council their kids and make excuses for not fullfillin their demands and needs.
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Nana
May 4, 2019
What breaks my heart is when someone accepts abuse either to gain the approval or love of someone or because they are dependent on the abuser and have no other options.This abused could be a pet or human.
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Rosemary Jo
Feb 16, 2019
Sometimes I think ...
How Beautiful to die of a Broken Heart.
I believe my parents & grandparents may have yet for all different reasons.
If we Love, we are alive. The candle burns bittersweet often - yet the glow kindles warmth.
Blessings.
KA
Kawthar Abdeldeen
Feb 17, 2018

 Unfortunately, there are many things that breaks my heart:
A parent that is abusing their child physically, verbally and publicly on the road 
A man who treats the women in his life in an inferior manner because they are women 
People being tortured for political, social, mental or any other reason 
People torturing animals and having no remorse 
The abuse of prisoners  in prison rather than offering help and guidance and rehabilitating and integrating them in society after their dismissal from prison
The wars that are taking place around the world in the name of God, Religion , Freedom and all the bullshits reasons that war makers keep feeding humanity.
Many many other reasons 

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Ruksi
Feb 11, 2018

 I hate when some body ignore me. My heart is broken when some1 reject me whether be it friend or girl friend.

MU
Muka Feb 11, 2018

 Hello Ruksi. I understand your concern, then how you cope up with situation when your gf rejected you? I am in similar pain and have no idea what to do now !!!!

DE
Feb 7, 2018

 My heart has been broken before for the people I loved moved away and am alone today . However over the years , the healing has taken place within and have moved on . However in today's world , the heart has been broken because of the intolerance , basic lack of humanity from one being to another and hatred which seems to be growing without no end in sight . However at the same time , the heart also seems to say , ok if all these negative  vibes abounds in today's world.  be unstoppable and take action and that is my intention .

AM
Feb 7, 2018

It sends my heart quivering when I consult a doctor and he says its related to 'OLD AGE'. So therfore I'm doomed to undergo pain with no relief? So therefore getting me into a painless state is of no significance? If they think I shall suffer- they have got me wrong. I choose to not suffer.. Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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ambika Feb 9, 2018

 I break my own heart many a time with self defeating thoughts. It heals and mends as fast as I break it when there is a space such as this where I can express myself and not be judged. Bless his space. 


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dev
Feb 7, 2018

 what breaks my heart is how we take life for granted and prioritize materialistic pleasure over spiritual. What breaks my heart is inequality, handful people have so much wealth yet when i pass by those multi milllion dollar houses and office i see homeless people suffering, waiting for another chance. What breaks my heart is wrongful incarceration.

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Susan
Feb 6, 2018

 What breaks my heart is watching is seeing so many people use others for their own selfish purposes, and then discard those they used once they have achieved what they wanted.  Selfishness breaks my heart, egos that that are out of control, and the pain left in their wake.

SU
Feb 6, 2018

What breaks my heart is fear.  Fear I believe is the underlying cause of all pain and suffering.  It has become a daily practice of mine to try to release fear from my reactions, the way I view others and the way I make decisions. I am a work in progress!  How can I help others to release fear?  This is a question that inspires me and allows me to become more of who I am.  Hopefully we can mend our broken hearts together.

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Joanne
Feb 6, 2018

 What breaks my heart is the racial injustice in our world. I just watched I Am Not Your Negro. Truly breaks my heart! To hate to such a degree based on skin color not only brings me to my knees, it boggles my mind. We are not born hating. We are born into a hateful environment and it alters our beliefs. Open up your heart to feel the connection to all! Speak the truth even when your voice shakes! Hold others accountable! Nurture your heart that you may freely show love to others. We can heal the world but we have to love ourself first.
❤️

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RuthAnne
Feb 6, 2018

 What breaks my heart is when comments are made (referring to article) that there isn’t a cure for Alzheimer’s. What breaks my heart is the knowledge that there ARE cures for Alzheimer’s, cancer, diabetes, obesity, etc. It breaks my heart when people put all their faith and hope in pharmaceuticals. Open up to natural, holistic ways. It breaks my heart that there are food deserts here is the US. It breaks my heart that we don’t all have access to fresh, organic food. And yes I am in the Holistic Healthcare field and it breaks my heart to see people roll their eyes at the mention of homeopathic remedies. Change your diet, change your life. Stop believing your doctor know best and recognize you know best. Espavo! 

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DK
Feb 6, 2018

Because the statement "what breaks your heart' so broad that I can not wrap my arms around it. That I find frustrating and breaks my heart. Excellent analysis and yet (no fault of author) no one is holding the lamp to show the way in this dark hour of humanity.   All I can and will do is to accept the reality and seek contentment with what is. Not try and straighten out a dog's curly tail. LOL.

AB
Feb 4, 2018

 What a powerful question!

For me seeing individuals tap into their potential heals my heart - seeing it wasted breaks my heart. There is also a 'melting' of the heart that happens when something is unfolding. In my case individuals stepping up to do something of service, collectively and their small initiatives melt my heart.

They make me go "Awwww" and thats when it feels right too!

JP
Feb 3, 2018
 I deeply believe in the original goodness in all of us. I also deeply believe that together we can move humanity forward for greater good. And when I see people going beyond themselves to help and serve people who need help and support, my heart gets filled with, joy, hope and aspirations. But when I see people suffering from social and economic injustice, I feel pain and anger and my heart gets broken. When I see two -mouthed  and two-faced behaviors of our leaders who are supposed to serve the people and not to self -serve and their parties, I not only feel anger and pain but I feel despondent. I know I need to remind myself of the original goodness residing in human heart.. When I see some compassionate and courageous leaders taking a position for common good, my pain goes away and  my anger fuels my passion to join hands with such good and bold people. And I pursue my purposeful journey of helping and serving people. And I hear the song  "We shall overcome" in... View full comment
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me Feb 9, 2018

 Amen!

DD
Feb 3, 2018

 What breaks my heart is our lack of compassion and cooperation with one another and with our environment, which is the result of our lack of awareness that we are all one, we are part of one whole that we call the universe, and all that is is sacred.  Evidence of this lack of awareness is the disintegration of our society, the us vs them divisive attitude that is so prevalent, the anger and violence that erupt so easily, the lack of purpose and meaning that so many suffer, the emptiness with which so many live.  I feel sad about all that, even heart broken, which seems to fill me and fuel me to live more compassionately, and I feel pleased and grateful when I do.  Often I'm busy with whatever and don't notice my broken heart, but it's always there.  Paying attention to the state of our world and to my own feelings makes it easy for me to feel and acknowledge my broken heart -- it becomes unignorable.  Namaste

JO
Jo Feb 9, 2018

 This breaks my heart David.  I feel your brokenness as my own.