SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the three types of leadership? Can you share a personal story of Love Leadership? What helps you elevate your leadership to Love Leadership?
I agree with the author's description of force leadership. I see trade as trade, not as a form of leadership. In love leadership, I see the leader being the union of the participants as they bilaterally establish a respectful, compassionate, loving cooperative effort. My marriage is often love leadership as we have become a loving, respectful, working together team. What helps me elevate leadership to love leadership is seeing us who are in some joint project as in it together, being respectful and kind to one another, expressing and valuing one another's contributions, and seeing us as peers. A full love leadership necessitates peership. In any hierarchical or older generation-younger generation situation (such as parent-child, boss-employee, teacher-student), love is important and makes the situation more enjoyable and perhaps more productive, but the parent or boss or teacher is the in charge leader so it's not a love leadership in the fullest sense.[Hide Full Comment]
Love trumps "force and trade types" every time! Love (God) is fair and balanced. Love (God) is pure (with no strings attached/evil forces motivated by sin/imbalances). Love (God) doesn't play "trade games" and does not require force ... because people (me) are drawn to it (Him) out of pure need and attraction. Who helps me elevate my leadership to Love (God)? Jesus!
In my way of being, love is at the center-the main motivator, the apsirer and inspirer in my life. In love threre is giving and receiving unconditionally where the distinction between giving and receiving goes away. It is an expereince of merging. It is a meeting place of head and heart resulting in whilesome actions.
I have spent seventy five years of my life teaching. It has been a joyful journey of my life. My relationship with my parents and brothers and sisters was also founded on love and so also my relationship wirh my wife. She was raised in a very rich family but came to a very poor famly and became a loving member of the entire family.
I have gone through some heavy duty difficult times in my life but love has been my life holder. It is very difficult for me to relate to power and fame hungry forcefu leaders or people I come across in my life.How to be compassionte to such people is a challenge for me. I do not hate them but also I do not love them. I want to be authentic and compassionate and that is a challenge I have been going through at this stage of my life.
May I continue facing the challenge of cultivating loving kindness for those whom I do'nt like and want to stay away from them!