SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion of not carrying any residue over into the next experience? Can you share a personal story of a time your commitment toÂ observation changed your relationship? How do you practice observation while staying checked in?
When I sit in silence, this is what I like to do.. I put away all thoughts of what others would like me to be, I put away the dream of who my parents and grandparents, and even my children would like me to be. I put away all that society expects of me. I let-go of the burden of acting a part anyone would like me to play. And I consider the Creator, and who the Creator created me to be. I was created for life, for joy, for love, for service. I was not created to do the will of anyone except the Creator. I was created because it made the Creator happy. Basically.. I was created to just BE.. to enjoy the moment.. because everything else is not real (including my thoughts). Only what is happening right now is real, because what is in the past is in the past, and what is in the future hasn't happened yet.
This is really powerful for me. I have experienced this observer role and my behavior and response, and have been able to adjust in the morment and respond more positively. I have also failed and experienced the residual feelings that the author describes. It is plain and simply awareness. My awareness is still growing. I can see the impact on the relationship with myself and others... very cool!
It's not possible to not carry any residue over into the next experience. Our experience becomes partof us and carries over. We may resolve and/or become free of some or even a great deal of residue, but not all. We never become 100% clean of all residue. The residue we're stuck with sneaks up on us and overlays a next experience. My commitment to nonjudgmental observation always changes my relationship, helps it be present and honest, free of game playing. You practice observation by practicing becoming aware of and letting go of interferences such as preconceived notions, efforts to control, judgments, predictions, goals, and practicing simply being in the present.
I feel deeply connected with what Vimla Thakar writes in her essay. When I sit quetly as a non-ractive observer, I feel myself free from the burden or grip of the pleassant or painful thoughts and emotions about the future or residual effects stored in my subconscious and unconscious mind. I flow in the stream of pure consciousness.This is the art of living completely in the moment as Vimalatai states," not carrying any residue over to next incident, person, or day." This is the pure sate witnessing consciousness without the bonage of grudges or attachments.
The art of living is a continuous journey of remaining awakened and aware of the trappings we create in our lives. I go through this expereince almost everyday. I get severe arthritic physical pain in my neck and shoulders. This is a chronic physical sensory experience for me. When woorysome thoughts and emotions come to my mind, my physical pain turns into suffering. What helps me is noticing non-judgementally and non-reactionally what happens in my body and mind. Observing my physiclal, mental and emotional world in a mindful way my relationship with myself changes. Such mindfulness inner work also helps me to make my relationships with others more authentic, cordial and constructive. It is happening more these days because of what is happening in the political arena. By remining awakened and aware of my judging and ractive thoughts without getting caught up in my judgemental stance, I have been able to maintain amicable relationships with people who are close to me. Practicing mindfulness is my mantra that helps me to stay the course.
Jagdish P Dave
The master doesn't seek fulfillment. Not seeking, not expecting, she is present, and welcomes all things. - The Tau te Ching. Practice, practice, practice - today I practice being in this day, again. When I do, I live in the fullness of this eternal now,.... for one millisecond, but what joy!