Un regalo inusual de mi abuelo
- por Rachel Naomi Remen
A menudo, cuando venía de visita, mi abuelo solía traerme un regalo. Estos nunca fueron el tipo de cosas que traen otras personas, muñecas, libros y peluches. Mis muñecos y peluches han ido desapareciendo a lo largo de más de medio siglo, pero muchos de los regalos de mi abuelo todavía están conmigo.
Una vez me trajo una tacita de papel. Miré dentro esperando algo especial. Estaba llena de tierra. No me dejaban jugar con tierra. Decepcionada, se lo dije. Me sonrió con cariño. Dándose la vuelta, tomó la pequeña tetera del juego de té de mis muñecas y me llevó a la cocina donde la llenó de agua. De vuelta en el cuarto de los niños, puso la pequeña taza en el alféizar de la ventana y me entregó la tetera. "Si prometes poner un poco de agua en la taza todos los días, puede pasar algo", me dijo.
En ese momento, yo tenía cuatro años y mi guardería estaba en el sexto piso de un edificio de apartamentos en Manhattan. Todo esto no tenía ningún sentido para mí. Lo miré dubitativo. Él asintió con ánimo. "Todos los días, Neshume-le", me dijo.
Y así lo prometí. Al principio, curiosa por ver qué pasaría, no me importó hacerlo. Pero a medida que pasaban los días y nada cambiaba, se me hacía cada vez más difícil recordar poner agua en la taza. Después de una semana, le pregunté a mi abuelo si ya era hora de parar. Negando con la cabeza, dijo: "Todos los días, Neshume-le". La segunda semana fue aún más dura y me sentí resentida por mi promesa de poner agua en la taza. Cuando mi abuelo volvió, traté de devolverle la taza, pero él se negó a aceptarla, diciendo simplemente: "Todos los días, Neshume-le". A la tercera semana, comencé a olvidarme de poner agua en la taza. A menudo, lo recordaba solo después de que me habían acostado y tenía que levantarme y regarla en la oscuridad. Pero no me lo salté ni un solo día. Y una mañana, había dos pequeñas hojas verdes que no habían estado allí la noche anterior. Estaba completamente asombradoa Día a día se hicieron más grandes. No podía esperar para decírselo a mi abuelo, seguro de que estaría tan sorprendido como yo. Pero, por supuesto, no lo estaba. Con cuidado me explicó que la vida está en todas partes, escondida en los lugares más ordinarios e inverosímiles. Estaba encantada. "¿Y todo lo que necesita es agua, abuelo?" Le pregunté. Suavemente me tocó en la parte superior de mi cabeza. "No, Neshume-le", dijo. "Todo lo que necesita es tu fidelidad".
Esta fue quizás mi primera lección sobre el poder del servicio, pero entonces no lo entendía de esta manera. Mi abuelo no habría usado estas palabras. Habría dicho que debemos recordar bendecir la vida que nos rodea y la vida dentro de nosotros. Habría dicho que cuando recordamos que podemos bendecir la vida, podemos reparar el mundo.
Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la noción de que todo lo que necesita la vida es nuestra fidelidad? ¿Puedes compartir una historia personal de un momento en el que sentiste que el mundo se reparaba cuando recordaste bendecir la vida? ¿Qué te ayuda a recordar bendecir la vida que te rodea y dentro de ti?
Rachel Naomi Remen es autora de muchos libros. El texto de arriba es de su libro, My Grandfather's Blessings.
Rachel Naomi Remen is a best-author of many books. Excert above is from her book, My Grandfather's Blessings.
Seed Questions for Reflection
How do you relate to the notion that all life needs is our faithfulness? Can you share a personal story of a time you felt the world repairing when you remembered to bless life? What helps you remember to bless the life around you and within you?
Oh wow. This really touched me tonight. Service, faithfulness, commitment takes diligence - etymologically from a Latin word ‘diligere’ actually means to ‘love or take delight in’. May we give lessons to those younger than us that grow into actions of love and faithfulness.
When I think of my paternal grandfather, I always remember the twinkle in his eye. He was a survivor of the Great Depression and the oldest son in a family of 5 brothers and I sister. He put one of his younger brothers through medical school by working odd jobs as a young adult. He helped another brother stay in a safe place rather than a sanatorium as that brother possibly was retarded and/or psychotic. He found a caretaker for his brother and kept him as functional as possible with the aid of the caretaker. He also helped his sister and wife by buying them lovely clothes, after he became a Toledo Scales salesman in Cincinnati. His sister went on to marry a wealthy CEO of a local bank. My grandfather who we called Bop for no apparent reason other than that we came up with that name when we were very young was amused and pleased that we had given him a special name. He left us with the knowing that we need to enjoy life. He would read us stories about Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz. He... View full comment
When I think of my paternal grandfather, I always remember the twinkle in his eye. He was a survivor of the Great Depression and the oldest son in a family of 5 brothers and I sister. He put one of his younger brothers through medical school by working odd jobs as a young adult. He helped another brother stay in a safe place rather than a sanatorium as that brother possibly was retarded and/or psychotic. He found a caretaker for his brother and kept him as functional as possible with the aid of the caretaker. He also helped his sister and wife by buying them lovely clothes, after he became a Toledo Scales salesman in Cincinnati. His sister went on to marry a wealthy CEO of a local bank. My grandfather who we called Bop for no apparent reason other than that we came up with that name when we were very young was amused and pleased that we had given him a special name. He left us with the knowing that we need to enjoy life. He would read us stories about Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz. He gave us my father's books about all the other Oz characters like Tiktok and Ozma of Oz. I felt that his tutelage and bedtime stories led me to become an avid reader as a child and I felt blessed in that way. I was a very shy child with my peers and reading gave me the confidence that someday I might know what to say in class. All of these were faithful and loving acts on my grandfather's side. He knew I could stretch into life when I felt I wanted to shrink into the floor. When he died, while I was in junior high school, I was devastated. He was a beacon of light and love to me, and I still miss him to this day. Hide full comment
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Ruth PittardJul 14, 2025
What a beautiful recollection of family love and care---giving each person what they need in a joyful manner. Such loving acts for you to embrace as a legacy...
Powerful lessons are often learned through the guidance of a gentle teacher. What a lovely lesson in faithfulness and commitment.
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Julie KuckJul 14, 2025
Kathryn, I love the phrase you used of "gentle teacher." So important to help children in their formative stages.
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caroline Reddy
Jun 12, 2024
I think it's important to learn from our relatives...right now I am struggling to remember a story. My grandfather died when I was in my early 20is and now my grandmother is in a coma and I am hoping that she passes gently. However, I try to conjure my ancestors when I am writing poetry or trying to find my path in the world.
I'm very very touched by this story. Real tears are coming out . It reminded of me age 18 taking care of my daughter. Never dreamed about havind children and life made me this very strong invitation. I was scared, tired, sometimes even sad, but I knew I just needed to keep taking care of her.
For me faithfulness is in being true to yourself and following your heart. To never loose the spirit and move into your hearts knowing. Life at times challenges us, questions us through the environment around us but we need to have that trust and faithfulness to not get distracted.
As a human, I got distracted and lost my faithfulness during 3rd decade of my life only to feel if you miss the faithfulness you miss life in itself. And when it goes overboard life in itself like nature has this superpower of repairing itself like a self healing mechanism. So I saw the 4th decade on my journey full of repairs by itself and this whole experience and reflection has made me all the more humbler and mindful to bless the life around me and within me. I am in love with life.
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Carolyn
Jun 11, 2024
I like the use of the word faithfulness, and way the story helps us understand what it means in practice. In my own life, I tend to remind myself to 'pay attention' or give something my full attention ... but faithfulness adds another dimension. When I pay attention, I feel that I bring something or someone forward in my life and make a conscious connection. When I connect with all forms of life around me, I experience deep gratitude. The more I faithfully pay attention, the more that gratitude grows.
The gifts are there, aways there! So close by yet many times not so easily seen! We have to use our magic, the sense of perceiving to spot then and replenish ourselves for ever in their discovery!~
The triangle of faith, hope and love is a guiding principle in my working and personal life. I work in immigration justice. These 3 words audibly come into my practice- stated aloud by asylum seekers, who fear certain death if they were to return to their country. They speak of these three universal principles as beacons of light in their dark and dangerous worlds. Their love for those they left behind can be felt- as they describe clear acts of self-sacrifice and bravery, while struggling through dangerous passages to get to their destination of safety- wherever that might be. They carry the burden of their struggles willingly, while describing the weight of fear as if it were a feather, because that fear has been lightened by tremendous hope they will make it to a safe destination. Yet, it is their faith that sustains them along their dangerous journeys. It is their faith that gives them courage to survive. It is their faith that helps them feel the hand of a Sicilian fisherman pul... View full comment
The triangle of faith, hope and love is a guiding principle in my working and personal life. I work in immigration justice. These 3 words audibly come into my practice- stated aloud by asylum seekers, who fear certain death if they were to return to their country. They speak of these three universal principles as beacons of light in their dark and dangerous worlds. Their love for those they left behind can be felt- as they describe clear acts of self-sacrifice and bravery, while struggling through dangerous passages to get to their destination of safety- wherever that might be. They carry the burden of their struggles willingly, while describing the weight of fear as if it were a feather, because that fear has been lightened by tremendous hope they will make it to a safe destination. Yet, it is their faith that sustains them along their dangerous journeys. It is their faith that gives them courage to survive. It is their faith that helps them feel the hand of a Sicilian fisherman pulling them out of the water in Italy or the Coast Guard saving them in California. It is their faith that stays with them in cold and lonely moments where they have not eaten in days. In listening to their stories, I bless them for their courage. In listening to their stories, I feel blessed to be a witness to their whole journey. We end our meeting with their faith wrapping around us both in their telling and sharing, as a luminous blanket of hope and love. Hide full comment
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Preetha
Jun 10, 2024
It is so easy to forget that life is about magic and miracles... Always, we get caught up and bogged down with the mundane, preoccupied with something that upset us, focused on what went wrong. While all around us - what incredible beauty and wildness and perfection! For me, this is exemplified in spectacular sunsets, and it takes my breath away to think that this happens every single day, and we miss what's right in front of us like it doesn't matter. What if we decided to make each exquisite sunset a highlight of our day?
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JulieJun 10, 2024
We do have such spectacular sunsets and even dawns. Your writing helped me feel the beauty that starts and ends each day when we are not enjoying the nourishment of rain in our drought-ridden state or the fog that kisses the leaves of our plants with moist, breezy lips.
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MercedesJun 10, 2024
Thank you, Preetha!
I believe I am a relative of trees. Their majestic souls always feed me! I often say, I am a wash and wear being! It takes the fall of a leave to make my day or the presence of trees to feel so blesssed!
Wonderful story - for me it was not so visible and profound. I recall sitting in-front of the fire in the wood stoked oven and toasting bread with my grandfather - it was a special treat to join him early in the morning and be able to make toast. It required patience.
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JulieJun 10, 2024
What a lovely way to start the day. It seems both intimate and nourishing- the way grandparents can be with their grandchildren. Felt like he gave you those experiences- all in the simple act of eating bread.
A Hibiscus that was a gift from my best friend who recently died. It had been placed in the garden where squirrels nibbled all the leaves off. I put it in a different location thinking I should just throw it out. In frustration of the destruction of my gift. From one I considered gone. One day after ignoring the plant I checked it only to see tiny leaves sprouting from every stem. I did not have faith in the strength of the Hibiscus.
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Snehal
Jan 4, 2022
Things which look impossible, becomes possible if there is faith. Faith can do anything.
In 2021, i had gone through a lot of health issues and this continued for 6 months. I was living a healthy life, eating healthy food. I took allopathic, ayurvedic medicines. None of them suited me. Then one night, i had a minor heart attack and then i said to myself, this I don't want. So much of health issues, i cannot take. In just 1week or 10days,just by raising my consciousness, i came out of all the health problems. I was perfectly fine.
This repaired my life, since then i have i gathered faith and strength that everything is within me. This reminds me to bless my life and the people around.
Jan 3, 2022
Holding faith when all seems hopeless and dark is trusting in the power of spirit to embrace all that is and show up by telling the truth, discerning what I am called to do and how to be, and releasing that which is out of my control. As a grandfather now, I am reminded whenever I am with my grandson Hudson of how to live each day with the fresh eyes of a child and the heart of an elder who calls upon the wisdom of my ancestors.
Jan 3, 2022
"Repairing the world" is such a tenderhearted mission. This little action coupled with powerful consistency produces life giving mystery. It is such a lovely and true story. How confounded we are by the responsibility of doing things we don't want to do...What can compel us to keep doing these things? What hope do we need to have? For now, as I start most days, in the quiet moments I wait to see if someone comes to mind. If or when they do, I reach out then - maybe it's just a text or call or email. Something to check in with their hearts. Perhaps this is my little watering of the dirt cup.
Jan 3, 2022
Ah -- how beautiful: "we need to remember to bless the life around us and the life within us." Especially if you live on the 6th floor in a big city. The life energy is everywhere.
Jan 3, 2022
Thank you, thank you for this heartfelt and beautiful story. I love these words......'when we remember we can bless life, we can repair the world."
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Arya
Jan 3, 2022
What a wonderful and powerful way to experience faithfulness and the power of Service!! Learning to have faith even when all we can see is the dirt and trusting that leaves will sprout at the right time if we continue to water is a beautiful reminder in trust, faith and perseverance. Thank you.
Jan 2, 2022
Thank you for this gift. Your grandfather across time and space seems to have given me a gift too through you.
The Gift is a gentle reminder to persevere.
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Kathryn Lafond
Dec 29, 2020
When we show-up to be present to the life around and within us we are both blessees and blessers. The reciprocity of entering a dialogue with the natural world after we cleared land to build a new home made room for the plants that had been here to seed themselves once more. I now have baby trees coming up all over the property. I invited them back to heal the earth from my intrusion; to reclaim the open spaces with lush green life. Being faithfully and lovingly present even in interspecies relationships can amaze one with the miracle of new life.
On my near daily tromps through the woods near my home I have a small practice of kindness that I offer to my fellow hikers who I am approaching from the rear. I always say "Coming up from behind, please don't be startled." One day I offered my practice to a more elderly than me gentleman. As he began to turn around he said "Oh I won't be startled." Then when he laid eyes on me he said "Well maybe I will." We both had a twinkle in our eyes as we both knew that he was referring to seeing a Black woman coming up behind him, a White man. There are not many Black people where I live so yes my unexpected presence sometimes startles folks. We both burst into spontaneous laughter and as I passed him and said "enjoy your walk." He responded "I will now as you have made my day a little less lonely." That was an unexpected watering of my little practice that I continue to offer wondering when I might make someone's day again. I love ... View full comment
On my near daily tromps through the woods near my home I have a small practice of kindness that I offer to my fellow hikers who I am approaching from the rear. I always say "Coming up from behind, please don't be startled." One day I offered my practice to a more elderly than me gentleman. As he began to turn around he said "Oh I won't be startled." Then when he laid eyes on me he said "Well maybe I will." We both had a twinkle in our eyes as we both knew that he was referring to seeing a Black woman coming up behind him, a White man. There are not many Black people where I live so yes my unexpected presence sometimes startles folks. We both burst into spontaneous laughter and as I passed him and said "enjoy your walk." He responded "I will now as you have made my day a little less lonely." That was an unexpected watering of my little practice that I continue to offer wondering when I might make someone's day again. I love how Remen'sstory called to me to reflect on how I have and can continue my own gentle watering of life in all its glorious forms. Hide full comment
What a beautiful way to teach the power of commitment and action. That believing in something and constancy matter in and of themselves. Beautiful!
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BeverlyDec 28, 2020
Amen Sister! Sometimes the most powerful reflections are held in the fewest words. Thank you for your deep insight.
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Michelle
Dec 22, 2020
So many important messages in this lovely story, particularly at this time of year when consumerism runs rife, the simple things are often the best: relationships, nature and nurture.
This story brought chills, tears and hope. My son is 26 and he told his girlfriend he does not want her to rush around all over town to buy Christmas gifts for him and he no longer wishes to go to her family home because the pressure of these gifts is more disturbing to him than the joy of being with loved ones just because we enjoy being with them. I do not say I agree with his viewpoint, although there were many winters when I have agreed with it. There are many sides to giving and to a gift. To have a wise grandfather take the care and attention to helping his granddaughter experience how life works through attending to a watering dirt is a precious gift that I have now received from this author.
Namaste.
joseph
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BeverlyDec 28, 2020
Hey Joseph, seems to me your son is wise beyond his years. His clarity and vulnerability bespeaks his understanding of what matters most to him. I applaud his courage and hope his girlfriend does as well. Joseph sounds like a keeper.
I love Rachel's books - the stories are deeply heart warming and healing. This story could be about any spiritual practice - all it need is our faithfulness.
I loved this piece. Such a wonderful way to teach the importance of faithfulness even when something looks like a waste of time or hopeless or silly.
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Doane D. Edward
Dec 21, 2020
Beautiful! I loved this one so much, because I believe there are seeds all around us in the world, and that all they take to sprout and grow, is for us to care, with beauty and determination in our work and actions, because we have faith that the more beautiful world is there, waiting to sprout. Cheers to watering our cups of soil!
To bless means to recognize and honor the sacredness of something. I believe life needs more than faithfulness. Life needs the circumstances that support it. For example, valuing and supporting the expression of God called the person to whom I was relating blessed that individual, and in so doing I witnessed what appeared to be the person repairing. What helps me remember to bless the life around me and within me is knowing that all creation is sacred, so it only makes sense to bless life, and blessing life is satisfying to me.
This story narrated by the grand daughter is very timely as we are approaching the gift-giving Christmas time. The conventionalway of buying gifts is so terribly time consuming and people feel confused and inadequate about what to give. The spiritual approach for gift-giving is very simple. We do it as a service to God without getting anything in return. My experience of gift-giving is simple and uncomplicatedlike the experience of the granddaughter Neshume-le. I can easily relate to what the grandfather told his granddaughter, it is not the water the seeds need to grow but" Aii it needs is your faithfulness." Faith is the foundation of all relationships and of all spiritual practices.
Blessing life is the most effective way of creating and nurturinglife in all forms-human and natural. There are times when relationships thin out or break up. Giving unconditional love from the heartbased on the foundation of faith repairs and heals our fragile relationships. Several years ago... View full comment
This story narrated by the grand daughter is very timely as we are approaching the gift-giving Christmas time. The conventionalway of buying gifts is so terribly time consuming and people feel confused and inadequate about what to give. The spiritual approach for gift-giving is very simple. We do it as a service to God without getting anything in return. My experience of gift-giving is simple and uncomplicatedlike the experience of the granddaughter Neshume-le. I can easily relate to what the grandfather told his granddaughter, it is not the water the seeds need to grow but" Aii it needs is your faithfulness." Faith is the foundation of all relationships and of all spiritual practices.
Blessing life is the most effective way of creating and nurturinglife in all forms-human and natural. There are times when relationships thin out or break up. Giving unconditional love from the heartbased on the foundation of faith repairs and heals our fragile relationships. Several years ago I had an agonizing and depressive experience in my life. It was a heart-breaking experience. It took time for me to recover from it. My deep faith in the goodness of heart helped meemerge fromthe hurting heart to the healing heart. It was a transforming experiencefor me.
The best teacher is within ourselves. What we need is calmness,patience, empathy, compassion and above all faithfulness. Life offers many opportunitiesfor working on ourselves to repair and heal our relationships. It is a daily metta, loving kindness practice that heals me and others. It is blessing from the heart.
May we relate to us and others with the loving light of faith and kindness!
Namaste!
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NeelamDec 23, 2020
Beautiful reflection! Thank you for sharing this experience;
Faith in our own Self helps pave the way to Love.
Love for others as well as ourself.
Love for everything!