Lessening the Power of Negative Emotions

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Disminuyendo el poder de las Emociones Negativas. --por El Dalai Lama (Oct 19, 2015)






Estoy profundamente convencido de que el cambio espiritual real no surge solo de la oración o del deseo de que desaparezcan todos los aspectos negativos de la mente y florezcan los positivos. Es mediante el esfuerzo constante, basado en la comprensión de la mente y en cómo interactúan sus distintos estados emocionales y psicológicos, como conseguimos el progreso espiritual. Si deseamos disminuir el poder de las emociones negativas, lo que debemos hacer es localizar las causas que las provocan. Debemos trabajar para cambiar o arrancar esas causas. Al mismo tiempo, debemos reforzar las fuerzas mentales que las contrarrestan: sus antídotos. Es así como alguien que medita consigue la transformación mental que busca.
¿Cómo lograrlo? Primero debemos identificar los factores opuestos a una virtud en concreto. El factor opuesto a la humildad sería el orgullo o la vanidad, el opuesto a la generosidad sería la mezquindad. Después de identificar dichos factores, debemos esforzarnos por debilitarlos hasta reducirlos al mínimo, sin dejar de avivar las llamas de la cualidad virtuosa que deseamos interiorizar. Cuando nos sentimos más mezquinos es cuando debemos hacer un mayor esfuerzo para ser generosos; cuando nos sentimos críticos o impacientes, debemos hacer todo lo posible para ser pacientes.
Cuando reconocemos qué efectos provoca el pensamiento sobre nuestros estados psicológicos, podemos prepararnos para actuar sobre ellos. Entonces sabremos cómo equilibrar un determinado estado mental, cómo reaccionar apropiadamente cuando surge. Cuando percibimos que nuestra mente deriva hacia la ira cuando pensamos en alguien que nos disgusta, debemos detenernos y cambiar de estado mental a través de una variación en el tema. Resulta difícil dejar a un lado la ira a no ser que hayamos entrenado nuestra mente para reconocer los efectos negativos que esa emoción nos causará. Es por tanto esencial que empecemos nuestro entrenamiento de la paciencia en un momento de serenidad, no cuando estamos dominados por la ira. Debemos recordar en detalle cómo, cuando nos enfadamos, perdemos la paz mental y la concentración en el trabajo, volviéndonos desagradables para aquellos que nos rodean. Solo después de una reflexión prolongada y constante sobre todo ello podremos frenar el sentimiento de la ira.
Un conocido ermitaño tibetano que limitó su práctica a la observación de la mente dibujaba una marca negra en la pared de su habitación siempre que se le ocurría un pensamiento poco virtuoso. Tardó poco en tener las paredes completamente negras; sin embargo, poco a poco, a medida que su actitud cambiaba, sus pensamientos se volvieron más virtuosos y las marcas blancas comenzaron a ocupar el lugar de las negras. Esta misma actitud es la que debemos aplicar en nuestra vida diaria.
Sacado de: "El arte de la Compasión: La Práctica de la Sabiduría en la Vida Diaria.”, por El Dalai Lama, editado por Nicholas Vreeland.
Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the strategy of reducing the opposing factor, while fanning the flames of the virtuous quality? Can you share the story of a time you were able to refrain from anger? What practice helps you lessen negative emotions?

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K Burnham
May 12, 2020
I always ask God to help me correct my thoughts if I have a negative one
RS
Jan 17, 2020
I believe it is Fantastic Idea, by working on simple technique you can accomplish a lot. Inspite of my NOT liking our family room sofa for 5-7 yrs. my wife seems to ignore my dislike. then I decided to
'Let Go'. No more discussion.
PC
padma chandrashekar
Jan 17, 2020
It is said that basically all souls love to be happy and connected. If we are unhappy, sad, angry, jealous, it creates disharmony because it is against our basic nature. We need to become aware of this.
Next, I practise gratitude - like count your blessing. It helps in not being naughty.
Then I practiseforgiveness- like a ritual, so whenever we meet people /. circumstances that are negative, let us try to accept that everything happens for a reason, what is this person / situation trying to teach me, what do I learn from this?
These practiseshelp me to remain positive :)
Thanks for the article :)
Padma
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myna lee johnstone
Jan 17, 2020
This doesnot help with the noise pollution and nervous system reaction I have from traffic.Blotting it out is what everyone seems to do and that is MINDLESS !
AR
Oct 21, 2015

 I  feel being angry and hurling vituperative epithets gives momentary relief giving us a false feel of putting others in place by our decibel power. But over a period of time, we realise being composed is more important than being caustically correct. I at times withdraw into a shell of silence when there are angry vibes all around, and at other times I isolate myself from that negative mood by not being a part of it. Angry thinking or demonstration of bouts of anger only empowers others, I tell myself.  So my way of anger control mechanism is to let others vent out their negative emotion and tell them how wrong they are at a later stage when the  anger cools down. 

AJ
Oct 20, 2015

 Jesus helps me lesson negative emotions.  When I think about Him, there is absolute POSITIVITY.  Jesus took everything "negative" to His Father.  Holy Spirit intervened ... to bring about the Power to overcome evil with good.  There is power in the name of Jesus.  I call upon Him daily!   

JP
Oct 20, 2015
 What choices do I make that drain and deplete my energy and the energy of others? This is a very important mindfulness question for me. Negative thoughts and negative emotions drain my energy. Positive thoughts and positive emotions enhance my energy. They also result in negative and positive actions hurting or healing me and hurting or healing others. The other is me and I am the other. We are all connected with each other.My intention is to understand the causes of hurting or healing energy, replacing the causes of hurting energy  with positive energy and enhancing the ways of healing energy. I practice mindfulness for recognizing the patterns of thoughts that create negative energy. I do not suppress or use defense mechanisms to stay away from them. I  observe them , let them come and go.If positive thoughts and feelings come, I observe them, let them come and let them go.This kind of mindfulness processing of my inner world of thoughts and feelings helps me to be f... View full comment
SU
Oct 20, 2015

My strategy is to cultivate the root(soul)for the blossoming tree. The faith & the firm conviction is in the fact that all human souls are  divine, full of Love,power,compassion,joy, friendship & harmony without any exception.   Very careful to anything contrary happening/arising ,go back to the above Universal Truth and control the mind. Yes difficult but not impossible if one is serious.Pesistance and perseverance pays.Meditate with open eyes on the visualization of this  reality. Lastly surrender to HIM i.e. your own true self earnestly.

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megan
Oct 19, 2015

Meditation mindfulness teaches is not to judge thoughts because we don't want to get into contracted resistance -- how does undermining the opposing virtue fit with this..?

DD
Oct 18, 2015
My first thought is Gandhi's well-known statement to "Be the change you want to see in the world."  The strategy of reducing the opposing factor while fanning the flames of the virtuous quality makes total sense to me.  Neglect the negative behavior, replace it with positive behavior, and repeat the positive behavior.  It takes effort and diligence.  Really, is there another way?  As I get older and hopefully a little wiser, I often refrain from anger that I would have fostered in the past.  What helps me refrain from anger is my becoming convinced that anger is not necessary.  I can express other ways, including disagree, object, assert, walk away, do whatever a different way.  I become most angry at myself -- I'm still working on eliminating that one.  Reminding myself through reflection and meditation that we are one and we are each expressions of One Source lessens negative emotions in me and fans the flames of compassion, and my feelin... View full comment