How Observation Changes Relationships, by Vimala Thakar

Modul în care observarea schimbă relațiile
– de Vimala Thakar

Ce facem când stăm în tăcere? Stăm și observăm activitățile voluntare și involuntare ale corpului și ale minții. Activitățile voluntare înceteaza lent, însă activitățile involuntare pe care le-am moștenit de la naștere, din familia noastră, religie, rasă, naționalitate – care umplu mintea – continuă și ne așezăm pentru a observa desfășurarea lor.

Deoarece suntem obișnuiți să lucrăm tot timpul, este dificil să stăm liniștit, sau corpul poate adormi datorită oboselii acumulate. Dacă se întâmplă, este de dorit să se odihnească corpul timp de câteva zile până când acesta este din nou odihnit. În timp ce stați în tăcere, vor apărea gânduri, mintea funcționând continuu timp de 24 de ore. Gândurile nu pot fi suprimate și nici nu pot fi aruncate oriunde, doar le puteți urmări, fără să le numiți bune sau rele. Apoi, sunteți liberi de rolurile unui experimentator și actor, intrând în starea unui observator cu atenția lipsită de reacție.

De îndată ce mintea începe să se miște și spune: "Îmi place" sau "Nu-mi place" ceea ce vede, există o perturbare, o împovărare a minții și rolul observatorului este pierdut iar voi sunteți încă o dată imersați în rolurile unui experimentator și actor. Dacă nu reacționați la gândurile pe care le observați, dacă acestea nu mai au puterea de a vă produce nici o reacție, atunci ele vor dispare de la sine.

Trebuie să extindem această atitudine de observare în relațiile noastre. Îndată ce starea observatorului este trezită, aceasta schimbă relațiile. Este o energie extraordinară care este trezită. Când observația devine o stare continuă pe tot parcursul zilei, atunci:

(1) Nu există nici o înșelăciune. Nu ascundem nimic de noi înșine. Nu mai rămâne nimic subconștient sau inconștient, fiind toate descoperite în observație. Acum există doar nivelul conștient.

(2) Ne oprim pentru a înșela pe alții sau pentru a ne prezenta o altă imagine a noastră înșine altora. Vederea a ceea ce este, fără justificare sau condamnare, distruge imaginea. Acum avem curajul de a trăi și de a fi ceea ce suntem.

(3) Suntem conștienți de tot ceea ce se întâmplă în noi, de diferitele emoții care apar în noi, de exemplu, dacă începem să ne enervăm, suntem conștienți de ea și astfel mânia își pierde controlul asupra noastră.

(4) Recunoaștem și admitem greșelile noastre; cerând imediat iertarea, eliberând astfel mintea de povara reziduurilor.

(5) Prin intermediul observației gândurile dispar, prin urmare, tensiunea și presiunea pe care o provoacă asupra sistemelor neurologice și chimice sunt de asemenea ridicate. Această tensiune generează comportamente antisociale.

(6) Durerea și plăcerea nu sunt duse mai departe decât momentul prezent; astfel nu se formează nici o ranchiună sau atașamente. Arta de a trăi este să trăiești complet în acest moment, fără a avea vreun reziduu la următorul incident, persoană sau zi.

Semnificația întrebărilor pentru reflecție: Cum te referi la noțiunea de a nu duce vreun reziduu la următoarea experiență? Poți să împărtășești o poveste personală despre un moment în care angajamentul tău față de observare ți-a schimbat relația cu cineva? Cum practici observația în timp ce rămâi prezent?

by Vimala Thakar, sourced from here.

Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion of not carrying any residue over into the next experience? Can you share a personal story of a time your commitment toÂ observation changed your relationship? How do you practice observation while staying checked in?

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8 Past Reflections

Jodyne

Dec 27, 2018

When I sit in silence, this is what I like to do.. I put away all thoughts of what others would like me to be, I put away the dream of who my parents and grandparents, and even my children would like me to be. I put away all that society expects of me. I let-go of the burden of acting a part anyone would like me to play. And I consider the Creator, and who the Creator created me to be. I was created for life, for joy, for love, for service. I was not created to do the will of anyone except the Creator. I was created because it made the Creator happy. Basically.. I was created to just BE.. to enjoy the moment.. because everything else is not real (including my thoughts). Only what is happening right now is real, because what is in the past is in the past, and what is in the future hasn't happened yet. My experience is both spiritual and physical. And I need both to function as the Creator intended me to be. The key to living a good life is ... View full comment

My experience is both spiritual and physical. And I need both to function as the Creator intended me to be.

The key to living a good life is awareness.

* Being aware of my present surroundings in this moment is living.

* Being aware of the-dream-of-the-planet and that it is not real, it is a description, and is just a dream; and also, being aware that I can choose to act out the dream or not.

When I am aware then I can choose to live in the world of words and thoughts or in the world of just existing, of just knowing without words.

Words and thus thoughts are only symbols of what is real. [And] the only thing that is real is what is happening right now.

How I practice

observation

while staying checked-in.

By practicing AWARENESS.

When I am aware that there is both a spiritual and a physical world of existence and can immerse myself in either world of existence, then I am free to choose my experience - a spiritual one (without words) or a physical one (within which words create a mental picture of my existence).

Words are a tool that I can use with which to communicate with others. And they are fine and good when used this way, but words are super powerful, and can sway us and influence our life experience. If we let the force of words of others impact us then we can become actors and actresses of life instead of just being. We can play-the-game of life someone else envisions for us or we can create our own life for ourselves.

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susan

Dec 18, 2018

This is really powerful for me. I have experienced this observer role and my behavior and response, and have been able to adjust in the morment and respond more positively. I have also failed and experienced the residual feelings that the author describes. It is plain and simply awareness. My awareness is still growing. I can see the impact on the relationship with myself and others... very cool!

david doane

Dec 15, 2018

It's not possible to not carry any residue over into the next experience. Our experience becomes partof us and carries over. We may resolve and/or become free of some or even a great deal of residue, but not all. We never become 100% clean of all residue. The residue we're stuck with sneaks up on us and overlays a next experience. My commitment to nonjudgmental observation always changes my relationship, helps it be present and honest, free of game playing. You practice observation by practicing becoming aware of and letting go of interferences such as preconceived notions, efforts to control, judgments, predictions, goals, and practicing simply being in the present.

Sidney Dekoven Dec 19, 2018

Well, I like everything you say, David, and usually do, However I do believe that it is possible that a fully awakened being living completely in the present, carries no residue at all over from his/her current experience. That that is what Moksha means ot call it Liberation or Enlightenment without quotation marks, And yes, for the 99.999% of the rest of us, well, we do the best we can. Sidney

david doane Dec 26, 2018

Hi Sidney -- Thank you for responding. Perhaps you are right -- I wonder -- maybe only 99.001% of us carry some residue from one experience into the next, and .001% of us carry no residue at all. I think -- I don't know but am thinking -- that every thing gets physically metabolized into our physical being and in some way never goes away, and that every experience gets experientially metabolized into our essential being and in some way never goes away, metabolized into Being that we are part of and then downloads into the being that I am, and in that way never goes away but is residue that stays accessible to me and is triggered and activated in a next experience. Like I said, I wonder. David

Jagdish P Dave

Dec 14, 2018

I feel deeply connected with what Vimla Thakar writes in her essay. When I sit quetly as a non-ractive observer, I feel myself free from the burden or grip of the pleassant or painful thoughts and emotions about the future or residual effects stored in my subconscious and unconscious mind. I flow in the stream of pure consciousness.This is the art of living completely in the moment as Vimalatai states," not carrying any residue over to next incident, person, or day." This is the pure sate witnessing consciousness without the bonage of grudges or attachments. The art of living is a continuous journey of remaining awakened and aware of the trappings we create in our lives. I go through this expereince almost everyday. I get severe arthritic physical pain in my neck and shoulders. This is a chronic physical sensory experience for me. When woorysome thoughts and emotions come to my mind, my physical pain turns into suffering. What helps me is noticing non-judgementally and non... View full comment

susan schaller

Dec 14, 2018

The master doesn't seek fulfillment. Not seeking, not expecting, she is present, and welcomes all things. - The Tau te Ching. Practice, practice, practice - today I practice being in this day, again. When I do, I live in the fullness of this eternal now,.... for one millisecond, but what joy!

me Dec 16, 2018

Amen!