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The Mystery of Love

--by Kent Nerburn (Jul 05, 2011)


Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it  comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. [...] Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

--Kent Nerburn


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On May 2, 2012 Ricky wrote:

www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html The above ted talk by brene brown, author of the book The Gifts of Imperfection could be helpful on understanding this sense of belonging on the physical plane.  However, as long as we are confused with and set conditions on 'Love', which frankly is on the spiritual plane, we will continue to suffer by our own thinking brain unfulfilled expectations.   See full.

www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

The above ted talk by brene brown, author of the book The Gifts of Imperfection could be helpful on understanding this sense of belonging on the physical plane.  However, as long as we are confused with and set conditions on 'Love', which frankly is on the spiritual plane, we will continue to suffer by our own thinking brain unfulfilled expectations. 

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On May 2, 2012 Tristan wrote:
 I learnt the hard way that Love is too hot to handle until one fully decides to treat oneself and others with full respect always. No because anyone Deserves it, and even with all the pain they cause others, but simply as a free choice, because it's the thing to do. You have been "Hurt" and it's an incredible painful path to walk, since disrespecting yourself (and sometimes others) has become a deeply ingrained unconscious habit. The courage to silently say no and step back from the "bad stuff" every time, even if it's offered in a package deal with deeply desired emotional consolation, allows the rest to happen... enjoy while keeping that light-hearted awareness alive in some corner and cry your heart out while you crawl out of the long tunnel to freedom where the Light will shine on you fully and thru all time...


On May 1, 2012 Joe wrote:
 It is quite true that Love is the thing we need to  live meaningfully.

On May 1, 2012 Hurt wrote:
  I wished i had not waited so long to leave i know now that i was in  indeile. which only wasted my time i could have had another mate.  that would have loved me the way i needed to feel.with out touching me he always beat me. with his words  now i cant belive i will ever be in love because i feel they are lieing to me just to use me.

On Apr 30, 2012 Nermin Tammam wrote:
 @Gulrez: Thank you for wirting this down and sharing it..i have been through almost your same experience and i totally understad your feelings and postivity and when u said :"I did not hold back anything to first test if it will last and then give, or held myself to protect from the hurt I will feel if it would go away after having given myself completely"...i did the same and that what helped me get over him..i thought i was alone feeling this..but seeing you writing this..made me feel good..LOVE like you have never been hurt..Thanks Gulrez :)

On Apr 29, 2012 denis khan wrote:
Love has been with us from eternity to eternity. It was and will be with us forever and for evermore - Dada J P Vaswani

On Apr 29, 2012 Michael wrote:
"Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit."

What does Kent mean by this? The wording isn't clear.

On Jul 17, 2011 cyron wrote:

LOVE......Love helps you choose the right and wrong pathways of life... As many says that they did not done any wrong... they just learn how to love,, and on that love they failed..... Just always remember that when you learn how how to love... don't give your 100 percent trust because when this love leaves you,,, even a percent... nothing will left......



On Jul 14, 2011 Gulrez wrote:

I fell in love with this person and it lasted just 21 days... This was my second attempt at relationship. I was very skeptical about it at the begining... our sunsign did not match (so teenage like!) but he made me believe that I can trust what we created between us.The relationship helped me discover such beautiful aspect of myself which I either was not aware of or was not accepting about. It made me fall in love with myself and the inner beauty in me. And this was happening for the first time in my life, yes I was loving myself and was completely accepting of 'me'.In the middle of third week, he started becoming aloof... he was going through rough phase but towards the end I could sense that it was going no where. So when I asked him he said that it was not working out for him... he did not give me any reason for calling it off and gave me two comments - he said that he felt that spark was gone and that I was like his mirror image.For me spark comes, st  See full.

I fell in love with this person and it lasted just 21 days... This was my second attempt at relationship. I was very skeptical about it at the begining... our sunsign did not match (so teenage like!) but he made me believe that I can trust what we created between us.

The relationship helped me discover such beautiful aspect of myself which I either was not aware of or was not accepting about. It made me fall in love with myself and the inner beauty in me. And this was happening for the first time in my life, yes I was loving myself and was completely accepting of 'me'.

In the middle of third week, he started becoming aloof... he was going through rough phase but towards the end I could sense that it was going no where. So when I asked him he said that it was not working out for him... he did not give me any reason for calling it off and gave me two comments - he said that he felt that spark was gone and that I was like his mirror image.

For me spark comes, stays and goes to come back again... what one need is endless hope and unquestionable commitment to enjoy the spark till it is there and to bring it back when it is gone... It is easy to start a relation and to end one... but to sustain one is the task which requires complete you and you forever... with your beauty and with the ugly too, with complete honesty... to celebrate the positives and accept the downs, fully

And today I am out of my last relation with great amount of positivity because I gave everything that I had... I did not hold back anything to first test if it will last and then give, or held myself to protect from the hurt I will feel if it would go away after having given myself completely. I believed in it with my eyes closed... and when it went away I felt sad and then I decided that I will live all my relations that I have in my life to the fullest because it is so fulfilling an experience... and today I am connecting to my folks and friends like I never did before... the process which started with the news of loosing a friend in an accident has moved to next level of enriching my life with positive experiences.

And I am thankful to God and feel really blessed to have been bestowed by such experiences and realisations...

Love

Gulrez

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On Jul 13, 2011 June Bright wrote:

Love has its time. When I married my wife, I know that her love for me is greater than my love for her. She is far from being perfect; but her sincerity covers all her limitations. Thus, she is perfect for me. Now I can say that our lover has leveled up. They're now equally intense.



On Jul 13, 2011 Jain wrote:

 I believe love is a gift of God bless to everyone reach to few..................................................................!



On Jul 13, 2011 Chie wrote:

Love moves in mysterious ways.... :) I was touched to this story it was wonderful and awesome.



On Jul 10, 2011 nidhi wrote:

i think love is only attraction



On Jul 9, 2011 alice wrote:

 this is really true.most of us seek for love instead of letting it come to them.and to others when it comes,they dont accept it. this should not be the case.



On Jul 8, 2011 Dinesh wrote:

 A few audio clips from our circle of sharing last week ...



On Jul 7, 2011 irish wrote:

truly indeed!



On Jul 7, 2011 BEST AGBOR wrote:

The write-up is inspiring and thought provoking



On Jul 7, 2011 PK wrote:

 I really connect with the statement "the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away."It is not only that love chooses me, i feel it has always chosen me except that I have to unlearn everything that is in the way to experience the choice. When I choose to intellectualize, when I focus on looking good, when I react instead of stepping back -- then it is difficult for me to feel the love.I recently had an experience to go to a healing poetry session with my wife and in two days, I ended up writing more poetry than I did my entire life. When I was experiencing emotion, expression burst out of me. Then I wanted to write poems so that I can be a poet -- it has been a month and not a single poem is written!Same thing with love. As I present? Am I aware? Am I willing? Am I accepting what love offers? if the answer is yes, yes, yes -- then you are in love!  See full.

 I really connect with the statement "the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away."

It is not only that love chooses me, i feel it has always chosen me except that I have to unlearn everything that is in the way to experience the choice. When I choose to intellectualize, when I focus on looking good, when I react instead of stepping back -- then it is difficult for me to feel the love.

I recently had an experience to go to a healing poetry session with my wife and in two days, I ended up writing more poetry than I did my entire life. When I was experiencing emotion, expression burst out of me. Then I wanted to write poems so that I can be a poet -- it has been a month and not a single poem is written!

Same thing with love. As I present? Am I aware? Am I willing? Am I accepting what love offers? if the answer is yes, yes, yes -- then you are in love!

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On Jul 6, 2011 June Bright wrote:

Love is indeed mysterious. I'm glad it comes into my life; or else, I still wallow in selfishness. It makes me give generously to my beloved; just as God has generously showered me with blessings because of His love for me.



On Jul 6, 2011 jpsingh wrote:

 love is  nothing but life.even a crawling insect is carrying a message that he is in love.love is reverence for life.everyone knows what love is.only whogives tolife life really loes.he really loves.u forego food to feed someone who is hungry u will instantly know what love is.rumi is right when he says none willever know what love is unless he lives for others.west is  under  curse due  to overeating.east is also following the wrong route.eat forests/oceans/ allmarine life/birds. wars /terrorism is allonly to eat and grab. so where anyone willever find love.love will come by giving.give your passions/appetites/greed.give self ,be selfless/ give love and u will find love.love comes only by giving .sufi say by dying. dying to self/ego  and u will know what love is.feed ants/dogs/birds/ destitute/suffer for others and u will know what love is.u dont need a schoolto teach u to love.your soul is always  seeking love. but u always walk in opposite directi  See full.

 love is  nothing but life.even a crawling insect is carrying a message that he is in love.love is reverence for life.everyone knows what love is.only whogives tolife life really loes.he really loves.u forego food to feed someone who is hungry u will instantly know what love is.rumi is right when he says none willever know what love is unless he lives for others.west is  under  curse due  to overeating.east is also following the wrong route.eat forests/oceans/ allmarine life/birds. wars /terrorism is allonly to eat and grab. so where anyone willever find love.

love will come by giving.give your passions/appetites/greed.

give self ,be selfless/ give love and u will find love.love comes only by giving .

sufi say by dying. dying to self/ego  and u will know what love is.feed ants/dogs/birds/ destitute/

suffer for others and u will know what love is.u dont need a schoolto teach u to love.your soul is always  seeking love. but u always walk in opposite direction to find it.

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On Jul 6, 2011 Tristan wrote:

...beautifully written...

in English, the word "love" refers to many very different things, so this is not the full story on all, naturally...



On Jul 6, 2011 farzaneh wrote:

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On Jul 6, 2011 neha wrote:

 Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it  comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.Remember this and keep it to your hea  See full.

 Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it  comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.


There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

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e first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. [...] Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

 

 

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On Jul 5, 2011 Pancho wrote:

 Metta-morphosisMy heart had a metamorphosis of love and kindnesssince I met you, beloved one. To Be in Receptive Silenceis a translation ofa universal love into human spirit.Did you know that the soul is made out of love? If we don’t lovewe begin to die inside.So love without limits,Be courageous without limits,Be compassionate without limits! Every time that universal loveflowsthrough us,the soulshaped out of itgets stronger. Love is the reality,poetry the drumthat calls us to act.The soul livesin the quiet breath… Somewhere onthe ocean floor of the mindlies the pearl of existence,where stillness becomesawareness and equanimity…currents of attentive presence,the buoyant force of lifeemerges on the surface,as ripples of kindness,as waves of compassion,as Tsunamis of love!Go ahead and shape the shore of humanity,as the Moon of Justice and Servicegently shapes the pearl of our existence! This is the forceof light and gravity.It come  See full.

 Metta-morphosis

My heart had a metamorphosis of love and kindness
since I met you, beloved one.
 
To Be in Receptive Silence
is a translation of
a universal love into human spirit.
Did you know that the soul is made out of love?
 
If we don’t love
we begin to die inside.
So love without limits,
Be courageous without limits,
Be compassionate without limits!
 
Every time that universal love
flows
through us,
the soul
shaped out of it
gets stronger.
 
Love is the reality,
poetry the drum
that calls us to act.
The soul lives
in the quiet breath…
 
Somewhere on
the ocean floor of the mind
lies the pearl of existence,
where stillness becomes
awareness and equanimity…
currents of attentive presence,
the buoyant force of life
emerges on the surface,
as ripples of kindness,
as waves of compassion,
as Tsunamis of love!
Go ahead and shape the shore of humanity,
as the Moon of Justice and Service
gently shapes the pearl of our existence!
 
This is the force
of light and gravity.
It comes from cosmic courage, ever dynamic,
inspired always by this love.
And thus, I sink again into darkness,
casting the anchor of a secret smile,
where photons cannot reach,
the eyes cannot see
and yet, with hearts wide open,
I feel the sun of your love, beloved one,
shaping the space-time of life by
kissing the heart of hearts,
one wave at a time.
 
Sometimes happiness is the source of my smile;
sometimes my smile is the source of happiness.
Sometimes fearlessness is the source of my loving eyes;
sometimes my loving eyes are the source of fearlessness.
Sometimes courage is the source of stillness;
sometimes stillness is the source of courage.
 
Can you tell the difference, beloved friend?
Can you tell where the ocean kisses the sky?
Can you see that spot in the horizon where the Sun turns red?
Where your presence turns into red gold?
Can you tell that we live in a round borderless country,
where the color of our skin, legs and heart
are our passport and visa?
Can you tell if the moving clouds
are reflected on the still surface of the lake,
or if the still lake
is a reflection of the moving clouds?
 
Is this now the sound of the ocean or the wind in the forest?
Can you feel the sweet water meeting the sea?
Can you see the forest exhaling clouds?
Can you touch the light of the rainbow of your dreams?
Can you smell the joy of a liberated soul?
Can you taste the sweetness of forgiveness?
Can you tell where the microcosmos dissolves the boundaries of the innercosm?
 
Zoom out to outer space
and tell me,
how does the horizon look like?
Zoom out to outer space
and tell me, beloved friend,
what does “country” mean now?
 
Zoom in into your heart
and you will honor diversity.
Zoom in into your heart
and you will find all the answers.
 
Listen beloved friend!
It is the roaring of our collective love
reaching the shores of now.
Feel the motion of the impermanent Earth
melting day into night,
sunsets into sunrises,
playing with our eyesight,
with our heartsight,
and now please tell me, My Dear,
why don’t we meet in the horizon of unity,
were we all become compassionate, courageous and wise?
 
Can you hear the sound made by the wings of a butterfly
during her first flight?
 
Yes beloved one,
Can you tell where and when
my heart had a metamorphosis of love and kindness?
It was when I met you.
 
Now let us praise the subtle beauty
to love without limits.
There’s a horizon beyond divisions, let us meet there.
Oh yes, beloved friend. Reclaim our responsibility to walk on the Planet.
and walk! walk! walk!

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On Jul 5, 2011 Kinjal wrote:

Wonderful passage. Thanks for sharing it. It is a nice way to look at love, to receive and give it away.. it makes me think of how we are shaped to think that we need love to grow, but after reading this passage, I think that the statement still holds but with a new meaning. We should look inside for that love and grow by giving it. Of course, easier said than done. So, I will keep trying :)



On Jul 5, 2011 Maria wrote:

Hmmmm, I am reflecting  on your words and it seems to me I used to think this way--that love chooses us, we don't choose Love--but I think that statement is limiting and puts love in a context outside of who we really are.  I think that love always IS within and without and all arouwe are born with it, it is part of our physical and spiritual being.  How we live our life according to the energy of love, opens us up to how much we recieve and build on what we already have.  It is limitless.  If we "lack love", it really isn't missing, we've just turned down the love light because of our experiences.....and because of our expereinces again, we rebuild the light and until it's flame burns brighter.  Staying conscious of living in the light, living in love allows us to be fulfilled in love in it's limitless form.



On Jul 5, 2011 Rajesh wrote:

 For me, the most enduring characteristic of love is that it has no dependencies. It is complete in and of itself. 



On Jul 5, 2011 jhon wrote:

Love does not choose you and you can't return love.  Love stays in your heart for ever, if you love it; otherwise you have fallen for attraction -- not love.



On Jul 5, 2011 Siddharth wrote:

I felt relaxed after reading this thought!

The author is absolutely true in saying that love is not a voluntary act. I agree that love should be returned, but sir I have a problem love choosed me but the I am not able to return it to the person who is responsible for it in consequence I am having emotional problems,

The question is this is the returning of love to the originator of love mandatory or their can be some other alternative.



On Jul 5, 2011 angela wrote:

Kent, I was very inspired by your story!  I once fell in love with someone who just took me for granted .... I showed him how much I really love and care for him but he turned me down ... But I'm glad that after 2 years I finally moved on... I just hope maybe one day I can have someone by my side who'll love me without ifs and buts... Someone who can be proud of me when we're together... 



On Jul 5, 2011 Abhinav Garg wrote:

"you don't choose love. Love chooses you"  in concrete words....I have been contemplating on these thoughts...but couldn't reach the conclusion...you saved me years of mental hard work...thanks..once again.

love is something you give and not something you seek .... we as a youth ought to absorb in the essence of this thought  ... specially those who "propose" a pretty gal...to seek her approval to start loving her... love is something..dat outflows on its own.....wen u see a kid smiling on getting a new toy... young couple holding hands..walking the lanes of their dreams... you don't need sumone approve of your love....

tolstoy wrote to Gandhiji once " love is the founding principle of all the religion"... but later on it loses its significance, as dust start piling on it .... Ego, hatred, voilence.....corruption..weakness.



On Jul 4, 2011 prathibha wrote:

Oh very beautiful, and wisdom too!

Prathitbha



On Jul 4, 2011 Tessa wrote:

I can only hope that this love you speak of, will find me one day too.  What I thought was love in the past, was often just a temporary lust!



On Jul 4, 2011 smile wrote:

The comments on the passage help derive the beauty and enlightenment within.

Love contains huge strength and can create greatness. Happiness and peace are a package deal.

Without it gloom, sadness or distress may be experienced in exactly the same situation

Thank you so much.

 



On Jul 4, 2011 Smita wrote:

What I am learning these days is that love is *not* something that just visits us temporarily.  It's who we are...all the time.  We may be blind to it much of the time, but then it unveils itself to us in a moment of grace.  But it is always there.  Many times I feel overflowing love for no thing or no one in particular...in the most random moments.  That seems like one of those moments of grace.  And that's one way I know that love is always alive in me, as opposed to being a "visitor" that is just here to stay for a short while.  So, I think I *can* choose love by consciously accessing that ocean of love that I'm swimming in.  This is the love that can experience itself without needing a person or a thing to bring it alive.Seeking or needing love from another is one very good strategy for becoming blind to the love within us.  I have experienced this many times...seeking love, feeling needy of it, looking for it from the outside.  See full.

What I am learning these days is that love is *not* something that just visits us temporarily.  It's who we are...all the time.  We may be blind to it much of the time, but then it unveils itself to us in a moment of grace.  But it is always there.  Many times I feel overflowing love for no thing or no one in particular...in the most random moments.  That seems like one of those moments of grace.  And that's one way I know that love is always alive in me, as opposed to being a "visitor" that is just here to stay for a short while.  So, I think I *can* choose love by consciously accessing that ocean of love that I'm swimming in.  This is the love that can experience itself without needing a person or a thing to bring it alive.

Seeking or needing love from another is one very good strategy for becoming blind to the love within us.  I have experienced this many times...seeking love, feeling needy of it, looking for it from the outside.  In my experience, that blinds me to experiencing the perfect love that I am residing in.  I'm looking for someone to give me what I already am!  And in that state, when I am not experiencing the love that I already am, it is impossible to give love to another.

I think the reason we think love comes and goes is because the people or things that bring it alive in us come and go.  But really, it's always there.  It's ALWAYS there!  :)

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On Jul 4, 2011 Shariq wrote:

As the mystery of love unfolds it resonates with/in us:  "When we are in love, our love is too big a thing for us to be able altogether to contain it within ourselves. It radiates towards the loved one, finds there a surface that arrests it, forcing it to return to its starting point, and it is this repercussion of our own feeling which we call the other's feelings and which charms us more then than on its outward journey because we do not recognize it as having originated in ourselves.  – Marcel Proust



On Jul 4, 2011 Abhi wrote:

awesome.........i just felt so relieved after reading this



On Jul 4, 2011 Navin wrote:

1. Gopi prem is true unconditional love it relates to all age s  all emotion and feelings we human experience .its song of Heart everlasting,it is softer then rose petal, and stronger then anything in infinite universe,It gives and in giving it multiplies ,hollywood and Bollywood is full of Love songs and classik  love stories. Its Symphony  that Never ends        my math in life re. Love =        love+love=I love you,you love me----------   means I love you because you love me =worldly love              2.I love you regrdless you love me or not=unconditional love   3 whe you give love it multiplies if we keep multiplying we will come to infinte nothing but loves any whare and every place and in sky in us like fish in the water . kabirdasji explains very simple example we seeking joy of love is like fish living in wat  See full.

1. Gopi prem is true unconditional love it relates to all age s  all emotion and feelings we human experience .its song of Heart everlasting,it is softer then rose petal, and stronger then anything in infinite universe,It gives and in giving it multiplies ,hollywood and Bollywood is full of Love songs and classik  love stories. Its Symphony  that Never ends        my math in life re. Love =       

love+love=I love you,you love me----------   means I love you because you love me =worldly love              2.I love you regrdless you love me or not=unconditional love   3 whe you give love it multiplies if we keep multiplying we will come to infinte nothing but loves any whare and every place and in sky in us like fish in the water . kabirdasji explains very simple example we seeking joy of love is like fish living in water and always Thirsty or thtat example Re. Deer wondering in jungle  seeking that intoxicating good smell that exist inside him  love always navin   this topic can be shared by each one of us and we will be more thirsty like fish in the water lets dive in life of love ocen experiance it moment to moment and get totally Absorb in it then in silence of lovinHeart ???? 

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On Jul 4, 2011 susan schaller wrote:

"Love is a centrifugal force," my father used to say, meaning one can never hold on to it or it stops.  Love has to move through us, outward.  I love to meditate on how we can be brave, protect, advocate and take care of others by being: "Just as a mother, with her live, protects her child, her only child, from harm, so within you, let grow a boundless love for all creatures.  Let your love flow outward, throughout the universe......."  Happy Interdependence Day.



On Jul 4, 2011 Conrad wrote:

Somik you have my gratitude for giving me the opportunity to share.I get a high when I give a hungry person food. I love the idea of love. I don't practice it is much as I think about it. I am enamored with the words: "Where there is hatred, let me bring love, where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; wherethere  is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadness, joy." Francis of Assisi also said: "May I not so much seek to be consoled, as to console. To be understood, as to understand. To be loved, as to love. For it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and that is in dying that we are born.I also think the words of William Penn express love when he said: "I will pass this way but once. Any good, therefore, that I may do, or any kindness that I may show, to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it for I shall not pass this way  See full.

Somik you have my gratitude for giving me the opportunity to share.

I get a high when I give a hungry person food. I love the idea of love. I don't practice it is much as I think about it. I am enamored with the words: "Where there is hatred, let me bring love, where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; wherethere  is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadness, joy." Francis of Assisi also said: "May I not so much seek to be consoled, as to console. To be understood, as to understand. To be loved, as to love. For it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and that is in dying that we are born.

I also think the words of William Penn express love when he said: "I will pass this way but once. Any good, therefore, that I may do, or any kindness that I may show, to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.

A way of practicing love for yourself is as Sheldon Kopp said: "Learn to forgive yourself again, and again, and again.

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On Jul 4, 2011 Dhara wrote:

"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love."
Sophocles

Unconditional love is like the love a mother has for her child, no matter how the child reacts or responds, the child is always loved the same. 

 



On Jul 4, 2011 Ricky wrote:

Once we connect to the notion that all there is is Love, and rest in that stunning realization, the world takes on a brighter hue and fuller tone.  We ‘see’ more.  Sunrises and sunsets are glowing.  Bird songs are musical beyond comprehension.  We have a deep connection to the life giving force of Mother Nature.   We are open to and at peace with others.  We tend to stand taller.  We tend to open the heart center, and roll shoulders back and down.  We tend to breathe deeper.  We tend to be at ease, fully present, in a calm state.  We tend to think more with the heart, with our center, and stay longer out of the head.  We listen deeply and intently in each conversation.  Our gratitude surrounds us with Light; a deep glow shines from within.  Each breath is full and fulfilling.  And we let it be. Once we connect to the notion that all there is is Love, and rest in that stunning realization that we  See full.

Once we connect to the notion that all there is is Love, and rest in that stunning realization, the world takes on a brighter hue and fuller tone.  We ‘see’ more.  Sunrises and sunsets are glowing.  Bird songs are musical beyond comprehension.  We have a deep connection to the life giving force of Mother Nature.   We are open to and at peace with others.  We tend to stand taller.  We tend to open the heart center, and roll shoulders back and down.  We tend to breathe deeper.  We tend to be at ease, fully present, in a calm state.  We tend to think more with the heart, with our center, and stay longer out of the head.  We listen deeply and intently in each conversation.  Our gratitude surrounds us with Light; a deep glow shines from within.  Each breath is full and fulfilling.  And we let it be.

 

Once we connect to the notion that all there is is Love, and rest in that stunning realization that we are exactly where we are supposed to be, doing what we are supposed to be doing, and that we are enough in that endeavor, it seems everything embraces and nurtures and supports us…we become Love.  The mysterious part of this whole process can be how long it may take.  We can witness this in a small child, and on the death bed.  We can examine a life well lived and enlightened, and a life squandered by ignorance.  We move more intuitively through the day.  We can see how connecting to our passion brings serenity to our own countenance in our youth, or in mid life, or toward the end of this life.

 

This connection/union/yoking/trust…Love…lets go of judgment, competition, blame, guilt, expectation…and brings peace, always peace.  

 

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On Jul 4, 2011 Edit Lak wrote:

Thank you Mr Nerburn

Love is truely a mystery

I dont really know what love is, but maybe one day love will find me, 

and then I will be able to give it away..