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I-It and I-Thou

--by David Brooks (Mar 13, 2017)


(Reflections on "I-Thou" by Martin Buber)

I-It relationships come in two varieties.

Some are strictly utilitarian. You’re exchanging information in order to do some practical thing, like getting your taxes done.

But other I-It relationships are truncated versions of what should be deep relationships. You’re with a friend, colleague, spouse or neighbor, but you’re not really bringing your whole self to that encounter. You’re fearful, closed or withdrawn — objectifying her, talking at her, offering only a shallow piece of yourself and seeing only the shallow piece of her.

I-Thou relationships, on the other hand, are personal, direct, dialogical — nothing is held back. A Thou relationship exists when two or more people are totally immersed in their situation, when deep calls to deep, when they are offering up themselves and embracing the other in some total, unselfconscious way, when they are involved in “mutual animated describing.”

A doctor has an I-It relationship with a patient when he treats him as a machine in need of repair. But Peter DeMarco described an I-Thou relationship in a letter to the doctors and nurses who cared for his dying wife, which was published in The Times:

“How many times did you hug me and console me when I fell to pieces, or ask about Laura’s life and the person she was, taking the time to look at her photos or read the things I’d written about her? How many times did you deliver bad news with compassionate words, and sadness in your eyes?”

In our culture we use phrases like finding oneself, finding your passion, loving yourself so you can love others. But Buber argued that it’s nonsensical to think of the self in isolation. The I only exists in relation to some other.

“The development of the soul in the child is inextricably bound up with that of the longing for the Thou,” he wrote. All through life, the self is emerging out of some dialogue, either a cold stifling one or a rich complete one: “All real living is meeting.”

You can’t intentionally command I-Thou moments into being. You can only be open to them and provide fertile soil...

Buber described genuine dialogue as a sort of social flow. Teachers and students are learning with each other. An audience and an artist are lost in a performance.

These moments don’t last. It is the “exalted melancholy of our fate” that Thou moments always fade back into It moments. But a world has been built during such intense moments. A binding cord has been strengthened. The person who has experienced the Thou has been thickened and comes closer to wholeness.
 

Excerpted from the NY Times article: http://nyti.ms/2e8y2x1

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On May 17, 2017 noah wrote:

  I want to use this medium to thank Dr KEN for helping me to get back my husband after he left me and the kids for 5 months to suffer.When he left,he told me that he don't love me again and he has found another woman which he loved.I cry everyday because i love him so much and i decide to go the net for help when i saw a lady’s post of how Dr Shiva help help to get her husband back who divorced her and i just say to myself let me give this Dr KEN on (drkenspellcaster@aol.com) a try and indeed he is wonderful he help me to get my husband back within 2 days and my husband return to me and promise to love me forever and beg me for the pain he cost me. I will forever be grateful to you Dr KEN and i will not stop to publish your name on the internet for people to see because you are so great, his contact address are;drkenspellcaster@aol.com) +18038451572drkenspellcaster.webs.com.  See full.

 

I want to use this medium to thank Dr KEN for helping me to get back my husband after he left me and the kids for 5 months to suffer.When he left,he told me that he don't love me again and he has found another woman which he loved.I cry everyday because i love him so much and i decide to go the net for help when i saw a lady’s post of how Dr Shiva help help to get her husband back who divorced her and i just say to myself let me give this Dr KEN on (drkenspellcaster@aol.com) a try and indeed he is wonderful he help me to get my husband back within 2 days and my husband return to me and promise to love me forever and beg me for the pain he cost me. I will forever be grateful to you Dr KEN and i will not stop to publish your name on the internet for people to see because you are so great, his contact address are;
drkenspellcaster@aol.com)
+18038451572
drkenspellcaster.webs.com.

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On May 16, 2017 bliz wrote:

 Am just an over exerted today for what this great man call Dr, KEN of drkenspellcaster@aol.com has just done in my marital life, after all the emotional pain that i have being passing through all this years have be turn to joy .and i will like you on this forum to help me in thanking him because for the past two years my husband has been cheating on me with a lady and this has course the family a lot of problems and our baby everybody where the one perpetual taking the pain because at this time my husband don't normally come home to ask after the child or even care about what the child needed so with all this problems i was not happy in my marriage and i started going for different kind of marriage canceling and looking for solution every where not until this faithful day when i was browsing on the  Internet i saw a testimony shared by miss Tessy Jerry UK about this Dr,KEN and i also contacted him for help and that was how he gave me some instructions and i followed what ev  See full.

 Am just an over exerted today for what this great man call Dr, KEN of drkenspellcaster@aol.com has just done in my marital life, after all the emotional pain that i have being passing through all this years have be turn to joy .and i will like you on this forum to help me in thanking him because for the past two years my husband has been cheating on me with a lady and this has course the family a lot of problems and our baby everybody where the one perpetual taking the pain because at this time my husband don't normally come home to ask after the child or even care about what the child needed so with all this problems i was not happy in my marriage and i started going for different kind of marriage canceling and looking for solution every where not until this faithful day when i was browsing on the  Internet i saw a testimony shared by miss Tessy Jerry UK about this Dr,KEN and i also contacted him for help and that was how he gave me some instructions and i followed what ever he told me and i was surprise when he said to me go my child for all will be fine within the next 24 hours .and within the 24 hours i actually received a call from my husband who has not called me for some months now asking after the child and i. and that was the end of my marriage problems . so this is why i promise to testify to the whole world about this man Dr KEN and if any is also depress with such problems contact him now on drkenspellcaster@aol.com also call him on +18038451572  and you will also find success and all your heart desire will be granted by Dr.KEN

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On May 16, 2017 Barbara Jarvis wrote:

 OMG!! This is certainly a shocking and a genuine Testimony..I visited a forum here on the Internet on the 20TH OF January 2015, And i saw a marvelous testimony of this powerful and great spell caster called Dr, FRED on the forum..I never believed it, because i never heard of anything about magic before.. Not a soul would have been able to influence me about magical spells, not until Dr,FRED did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my spouse back to me in the same 24 hours just as i read on the Internet..i was truly astonished and shocked when my husband knelt down begging for forgiveness and for me to accept him back.. I am really short of expressions, and i don't know how much to convey my appreciation to you Dr, FRED you are a God sent to me and my entire family.. And now i am a joyful woman once again.. here is his email address; geniusspells@outlook.com OR call him directly on his phone number +13477733416.

 


On May 16, 2017 ramar wrote:

 I'm ramar from Russia, i can’t hide this amazing testimony that took place in my life. A powerful spell-caster named Dr. KEN brought back my love who left me and run off with another woman while I was six months pregnant,it was a painful period for me because i loved him so much an didn't want to lose him,so i contact Dr.KEN via email;  drkenspellcaster@aol.com  and call him with his number +1803 845 1572,he cast a spell for me and behold my husband was back to me and we are now a happy family,contact him to fix your relationship because he did it for me and i completely trust Dr.KEN to fix your relationship,Thank you Dr.KEN for all this.



On May 16, 2017 Susan wrote:

    Susan perel I am Susan perel, Just some few days ago, My life seemed to be going  down the drain, I was going to lose my Husband, my house and car to the  mortgage company and insurance company....I ran around helplessly looking  for a solution on how to get my get my Husband back and secure my bills,  tried every single spell worker that I could find on the internet but got  no results Until a friend told me about this great spell caster called  Dr Isuaka..I decided to give him a try and that was when I finally found  true happiness and result.. He has magical spells and voodoos for what  whatever situation you find yourself. I am a living testimony to this and  its so obvious that I can keep my mouth shot, I was stunned and found this  unbelievable, Now I have my husband back and can handle all my financial crisis..  I really hope he doesn't mind me advertising his contact on the interne  See full.

 

 
Susan perel
I am Susan perel, Just some few days ago, My life seemed to be going
 down the drain, I was going to lose my Husband, my house and car to the
 mortgage company and insurance company....I ran around helplessly looking
 for a solution on how to get my get my Husband back and secure my bills, 
tried every single spell worker that I could find on the internet but got
 no results Until a friend told me about this great spell caster called
 Dr Isuaka..I decided to give him a try and that was when I finally found
 true happiness and result.. He has magical spells and voodoos for what 
whatever situation you find yourself. I am a living testimony to this and 
its so obvious that I can keep my mouth shot, I was stunned and found this
 unbelievable, Now I have my husband back and can handle all my financial crisis.. 
I really hope he doesn't mind me advertising his contact on the internet but I'm sure 
any help extra work will benefit him. You can view his 
contact him via email: doctorisuaka@yahoo.com or  call +2349093869683
 Hope this helps everyone that is in need of any help...
You can get the bellow problems solve here.
 
1.GETTING ALL YOUR MONEY THAT'S BEEN HELD
2.PROMOTION IN YOUR WORKING PLACE 
3.PAYMENT OF RETIREMENT
4. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK.
5. HERPES SIMPLEX VIRUS
6. CHILD BEARING.
7. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.
8. GETTING OF JOB.
9. JOB PROMOTION.
10. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.
11. HERBAL CARE.
12. WINNING LOTTERIES
13. LOST LOVE SPELL
14. DIVORCE SPELL
15. MARRIAGE SPELL
16. BINDING SPELL
17. BREAKUP SPELL
18. YOU WANT TO BE PROMOTED IN YOUR OFFICE
19. FERTILITY SPELL/ PREGNANCY SPELL
20. CURE TO ALL KIND OF DISEASES.

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On May 16, 2017 Shannon wrote:

 How I Got My Ex Husband Back...........

I am Shannon by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(3) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address Makospelltemple@yahoo.com , have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 2 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for Dr.Mako. His email: Makospelltemple@yahoo.com OR. his phone number: +2348108737816.



On May 16, 2017 Lorna Harron wrote:

 Testimony On How My Ex Come Back. My name is Lorna Harron, and I base in USA...My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Ogboni, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr ogboni's e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem  See full.

 Testimony On How My Ex Come Back.
My name is Lorna Harron, and I base in USA...My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Ogboni, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr ogboni's e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr Ogboni, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try High ogbonispelltemple@hotmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his contact: ogbonispelltemple@hotmail.com or call him :+2347054263874

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On May 16, 2017 Debbie Kladke wrote:

 Hello Every One Out Here  I'm Debbie Kladke I'm from United States North Bergen(US). I read some testimony about Dr. Iyaryi on how he has helped people in bringing back there ex within 48 hours i was just thinking if that was real,And decided to call a lady who made a testimony and also dropped her number,So i called her and ask her about Dr. Iyaryi she said Dr. Iyaryi is a trustworthy man and he his ready to bring back my lover for me,i was just so happy and a little bit relief that my lover will be back to me soon,Then i decided in contacting Dr. Iyaryi which i did,And before i could share him my problem he has already told me what i came for,And he said everything will be okay within 48 hours that my lover will be back to my arms,So he said he would be casting the spell and that within 48 hours my lover would call me,So i hoped so truly before the 48 hours i got a call from a man who has left me for the past 6 years saying he is sorry and he wants me back,i was happy a  See full.

 Hello Every One Out Here

 I'm Debbie Kladke I'm from United States North Bergen(US). I read some testimony about Dr. Iyaryi on how he has helped people in bringing back there ex within 48 hours i was just thinking if that was real,And decided to call a lady who made a testimony and also dropped her number,So i called her and ask her about Dr. Iyaryi she said Dr. Iyaryi is a trustworthy man and he his ready to bring back my lover for me,i was just so happy and a little bit relief that my lover will be back to me soon,Then i decided in contacting Dr. Iyaryi which i did,And before i could share him my problem he has already told me what i came for,And he said everything will be okay within 48 hours that my lover will be back to my arms,So he said he would be casting the spell and that within 48 hours my lover would call me,So i hoped so truly before the 48 hours i got a call from a man who has left me for the past 6 years saying he is sorry and he wants me back,i was happy and i said i also want him back,Then i traveled to Canada to meet him up,And he apologized for what he has done to me now he proposed to marry me and we are both preparing for our wedding soon,All thanks to the great and World best spell caster, Dr. Iyaryi His private mail driayaryi2012@hotmail.com you can also add Dr. Iyaryi on whatsApp +2349057915709

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On May 16, 2017 Barbara Jarvis wrote:

 OMG!! This is certainly a shocking and a genuine Testimony..I visited a forum here on the Internet on the 20TH OF January 2016, And i saw a marvelous testimony of this powerful and great spell caster called Dr, FRED on the forum..I never believed it, because i never heard of anything about magic before.. Not a soul would have been able to influence me about magical spells, not until Dr,FRED did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my spouse back to me in the same 24 hours just as i read on the Internet..i was truly astonished and shocked when my husband knelt down begging for forgiveness and for me to accept him back.. I am really short of expressions, and i don't know how much to convey my appreciation to you Dr, FRED you are a God sent to me and my entire family.. And now i am a joyful woman once again.. here is his email address; geniusspells@outlook.com OR call him directly on his phone number +13477733416.



On May 15, 2017 isabella wrote:

 Hello everyone Mrs Isabella mia and I am one of the persons that have benefited from Dr.OLOKPA Love Spell. Dr.OLOKPA appeared in the middle of my life when all hope was lost. I gave up on life and thought the best way to cure my broken heart was to take my life after I tried several processes and traveled to India seeking for spell to reunite with my husband who dumped me after three years of our marriage for another lady but none of my effort worked. I made up my mind to continue with my suicide plan before a strange spirit came over me like a rain and ministered to me to search online after seeing so much talks about Dr.OLOKPA Love Temple. I reluctantly searched and found amazing testimonies and recommendations about him which encouraged me to contact him via his email. He replied and asked me to wipe away my tears and quit any act to take my life; he said that my case is solvable after consulting his Oracle. Well, here I am today thanking Dr.OLOKPA for saving my life and brin  See full.

 Hello everyone Mrs Isabella mia and I am one of the persons that have benefited from Dr.OLOKPA Love Spell. Dr.OLOKPA appeared in the middle of my life when all hope was lost. I gave up on life and thought the best way to cure my broken heart was to take my life after I tried several processes and traveled to India seeking for spell to reunite with my husband who dumped me after three years of our marriage for another lady but none of my effort worked. I made up my mind to continue with my suicide plan before a strange spirit came over me like a rain and ministered to me to search online after seeing so much talks about Dr.OLOKPA Love Temple. I reluctantly searched and found amazing testimonies and recommendations about him which encouraged me to contact him via his email. He replied and asked me to wipe away my tears and quit any act to take my life; he said that my case is solvable after consulting his Oracle. Well, here I am today thanking Dr.OLOKPA for saving my life and bringing back my Husband. We are so happy today and happier than we have ever been. I am so grateful for being among the people sharing this testimony and Dr .OLOKPA email him on; [olokpapermanenthealingtemple38@yahoo.com]

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On May 9, 2017 PATRICIA wrote:

 Hello every one, Am here to share my testimony which might be of help to you also. i really appreciate what Dr. IGODO has done in my life, i have issue with my Husband 8 months ago which lead to our breakup i plead and plead to him but he never listen so confuse and restless, he took his bags and left the house this have cause me pains and sorrow, after some weeks i met my old time friend and she was asking about my Husband i was sad, she look at my face and said what it’s matter that i look worried and i have reduce in nature, i told her everything that happened, she was shock to hear that, after telling her the situation on ground she now told me not to worry about anything at all, she ask me how long now and i said up to 8 months now, she said alright that there is a solution for the issue so i said OK, after 2 days she gave me a website and told me to contact the great man called Dr. IGODO i went ahead and contacted him, i told him everything that is going on so after  See full.

 Hello every one, Am here to share my testimony which might be of help to you also. i really appreciate what Dr. IGODO has done in my life, i have issue with my Husband 8 months ago which lead to our breakup i plead and plead to him but he never listen so confuse and restless, he took his bags and left the house this have cause me pains and sorrow, after some weeks i met my old time friend and she was asking about my Husband i was sad, she look at my face and said what it’s matter that i look worried and i have reduce in nature, i told her everything that happened, she was shock to hear that, after telling her the situation on ground she now told me not to worry about anything at all, she ask me how long now and i said up to 8 months now, she said alright that there is a solution for the issue so i said OK, after 2 days she gave me a website and told me to contact the great man called Dr. IGODO i went ahead and contacted him, i told him everything that is going on so after telling him, he told me not to think anymore that my Husband is going to come back within 24 hours that he is giving me his word, i said OK let me give a try so he told me what is to be done and i did everything accordingly, exactly 24 hours it was very early in the morning which i had a call on my cell phone and looking at the number it was Micheal number i was happy to see the great work Dr. IGODO just did for me, so i pick the call and he was crying, begging me to forgive him that he will never do anything to hurt me again i had no option but to accept him back because i miss him so much, so right now we are together in happiness, i will advice anyone in need of all kinds of help to contact Dr.IGODO Email:[igodoospelltemple@yahoo.com]

WhatsApp No: +2347038606922
 

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On May 7, 2017 monica greer wrote:

      BRING BACK THE GOOD TIMES, THINK ABOUT THE HAPPIEST TIME IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, DR IGODO CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN AGAIN, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, TODAY BRING BACK LOST LOVE INSTANTLY USING HIS EFFECTIVE SPELLS   Are you looking for ultimate spells that works effectively same time on your problems, ranges from Love spells, marriage spells, and carrier related problems, Gay and lesbian extreme love / attraction spells, women of the night Norton accruing powders and oil for extreme ecstasy and protection with in working ordeals. How to get your ex back permanently? Is this what you are asking yourself? Have you been dumped? Can’t you just move on? Did he/she chose someone else over you? Your lover shows no interest in you anymore? You might have been asking yourself how to get your ex lover back permanently and you have been looking for unanswered questions about it, Well today is the day for your worries to be eliminated for good. Dr IGODO have assiste  See full.

 

 
 
BRING BACK THE GOOD TIMES, THINK ABOUT THE HAPPIEST TIME IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, DR IGODO CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN AGAIN, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, TODAY BRING BACK LOST LOVE INSTANTLY USING HIS EFFECTIVE SPELLS
 
Are you looking for ultimate spells that works effectively same time on your problems, ranges from Love spells, marriage spells, and carrier related problems, Gay and lesbian extreme love / attraction spells, women of the night Norton accruing powders and oil for extreme ecstasy and protection with in working ordeals. How to get your ex back permanently? Is this what you are asking yourself? Have you been dumped? Can’t you just move on? Did he/she chose someone else over you? Your lover shows no interest in you anymore? You might have been asking yourself how to get your ex lover back permanently and you have been looking for unanswered questions about it, Well today is the day for your worries to be eliminated for good. Dr IGODO have assisted me in getting my ex lover back,Are you going through emotional torture contact him now so he can use his birth gift of casting strong love spells and his super natural magical powers that mean no harm but motivated by peace, wellness and love. The fact that you ask how to get your lover back permanently is the reason why you should no longer face sorrow on your own, and that is because you are in a perfect condition to win over your ex lover and make him or her fall in love with you all over again. It is a great pain to be in love with someone who does not show the same affection back to you as you hope for. However, it is never too late to have all that you wish for and deserve in a lover. Love spells by (DR IGODO) are pure nature of magic, they are inspired by true mystery of the beauty of the planet earth and they will do well for you as well. CONTACT HIM NOW AND BE HAPPY AGAIN”"”"[igodoospelltemple@yahoo.com]
 
 
 
 
 

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On May 7, 2017 monica greer wrote:

      BRING BACK THE GOOD TIMES, THINK ABOUT THE HAPPIEST TIME IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, DR IGODO CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN AGAIN, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, TODAY BRING BACK LOST LOVE INSTANTLY USING HIS EFFECTIVE SPELLS   Are you looking for ultimate spells that works effectively same time on your problems, ranges from Love spells, marriage spells, and carrier related problems, Gay and lesbian extreme love / attraction spells, women of the night Norton accruing powders and oil for extreme ecstasy and protection with in working ordeals. How to get your ex back permanently? Is this what you are asking yourself? Have you been dumped? Can’t you just move on? Did he/she chose someone else over you? Your lover shows no interest in you anymore? You might have been asking yourself how to get your ex lover back permanently and you have been looking for unanswered questions about it, Well today is the day for your worries to be eliminated for good. Dr IGODO have assiste  See full.

 

 
 
BRING BACK THE GOOD TIMES, THINK ABOUT THE HAPPIEST TIME IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, DR IGODO CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN AGAIN, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, TODAY BRING BACK LOST LOVE INSTANTLY USING HIS EFFECTIVE SPELLS
 
Are you looking for ultimate spells that works effectively same time on your problems, ranges from Love spells, marriage spells, and carrier related problems, Gay and lesbian extreme love / attraction spells, women of the night Norton accruing powders and oil for extreme ecstasy and protection with in working ordeals. How to get your ex back permanently? Is this what you are asking yourself? Have you been dumped? Can’t you just move on? Did he/she chose someone else over you? Your lover shows no interest in you anymore? You might have been asking yourself how to get your ex lover back permanently and you have been looking for unanswered questions about it, Well today is the day for your worries to be eliminated for good. Dr IGODO have assisted me in getting my ex lover back,Are you going through emotional torture contact him now so he can use his birth gift of casting strong love spells and his super natural magical powers that mean no harm but motivated by peace, wellness and love. The fact that you ask how to get your lover back permanently is the reason why you should no longer face sorrow on your own, and that is because you are in a perfect condition to win over your ex lover and make him or her fall in love with you all over again. It is a great pain to be in love with someone who does not show the same affection back to you as you hope for. However, it is never too late to have all that you wish for and deserve in a lover. Love spells by (DR IGODO) are pure nature of magic, they are inspired by true mystery of the beauty of the planet earth and they will do well for you as well. CONTACT HIM NOW AND BE HAPPY AGAIN”"”"[igodoospelltemple@yahoo.com]
 
 
 
 
 

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On Apr 29, 2017 silvia wrote:

 I had always managed to stay friendly after our divorce with the father of my 2 kids, in FEBRUARY THIS YEAR. I always wanted to get back together with him, and he was never sure, because the Love was not there anymore. So I thought it was about time I MAKE him sure! visited a forum about a spell caster website this month Mach 22, because my dream was to start a life life with my husband, and live happily with him.. This spell caster requested for some details which i send to him , And this powerful spell caster began to work his magic, after some time i get an email from him telling me before my husband can come back to me i need to buy some items i told the spell caster there is no problem about that of cause which i send him the money for the items,my husband called me for us to be together again, and he was remorseful for all his wrong deeds.the spell work just according how Dr KEN told me : My “husband” is back and we are making preparations on how to go to court  See full.

 I had always managed to stay friendly after our divorce with the father of my 2 kids, in FEBRUARY THIS YEAR. I always wanted to get back together with him, and he was never sure, because the Love was not there anymore. So I thought it was about time I MAKE him sure! visited a forum about a spell caster website this month Mach 22, because my dream was to start a life life with my husband, and live happily with him.. This spell caster requested for some details which i send to him , And this powerful spell caster began to work his magic, after some time i get an email from him telling me before my husband can come back to me i need to buy some items i told the spell caster there is no problem about that of cause which i send him the money for the items,my husband called me for us to be together again, and he was remorseful for all his wrong deeds.the spell work just according how Dr KEN told me : My “husband” is back and we are making preparations on how to go to court and withdraw our divorce papers ASAP. This is nothing but short of a miracle. Thank you GREAT DR KEN for your powerful spells. Words are not enough. you can contact the great man on drkenspellcaster@aol.com OR you can also call for help on +18038451572 and share an awesome testimony just like me.  

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On Mar 16, 2017 Albert wrote:

 I-Thou moments are most precious with others (for me) when we sense, feel, think and imagine, collectively. These same moments occur for me more frequently however in the natural environment, when I am alone with nature. I can only imagine how our world would be today if we didn't consider the non-human, natural world as an 'It.'



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On Mar 14, 2017 Soni wrote:

 This rings so true.... and it adds to my learning of last week when reading What makes you NOT a Buddhist - by Dzongasar Jamyang Khyentse.  In this book, the Tibetian practitioner-monk-teacher-writer describes the four noble truths in his own words to interpret for the modern world : First one is written as "All compounded / fabricated things are impermanent. "Compounded//fabricated" meaning anything that arises when two things, persons, thoughts, actions, meet. So also in relationships.  And before that : everything is emptiness. I-Thou moments would correspond to the present moments there is nothing coming between and there is 100% empathy and understanding between souls. The day-to-day experiences of people : quick jumping to analysis, categorizing and boxing of judgments is indeed an I-IT phenomenon. It was an OMG moment for me when I read this... because in such moments essentially we destroy human-ness of "others" into item-ness most of the ti  See full.

 This rings so true.... and it adds to my learning of last week when reading What makes you NOT a Buddhist - by Dzongasar Jamyang Khyentse. 

In this book, the Tibetian practitioner-monk-teacher-writer describes the four noble truths in his own words to interpret for the modern world :
First one is written as "All compounded / fabricated things are impermanent. "Compounded//fabricated" meaning anything that arises when two things, persons, thoughts, actions, meet. So also in relationships. 

And before that : everything is emptiness.

I-Thou moments would correspond to the present moments there is nothing coming between and there is 100% empathy and understanding between souls.

The day-to-day experiences of people : quick jumping to analysis, categorizing and boxing of judgments is indeed an I-IT phenomenon.

It was an OMG moment for me when I read this... because in such moments essentially we destroy human-ness of "others" into item-ness most of the time without awareness.

Thank you for this --- to watch out for.

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On Mar 14, 2017 Soni wrote:

 This rings so true.... and it adds to my learning of last week when reading What makes you NOT a Buddhist - by Dzongasar Jamyang Khyentse.  In this book, the Tibetian practitioner-monk-teacher-writer describes the four noble truths in his own words to interpret for the modern world : First one is written as "All compounded / fabricated things are impermanent. "Compounded//fabricated" meaning anything that arises when two things, persons, thoughts, actions, meet. So also in relationships.  And before that : everything is emptiness. I-Thou moments would correspond to the present moments there is nothing coming between and there is 100% empathy and understanding between souls. The day-to-day experiences of people : quick jumping to analysis, categorizing and boxing of judgments is indeed an I-IT phenomenon. It was an OMG moment for me when I read this... because in such moments essentially we destroy human-ness of "others" into item-ness most of the ti  See full.

 This rings so true.... and it adds to my learning of last week when reading What makes you NOT a Buddhist - by Dzongasar Jamyang Khyentse. 

In this book, the Tibetian practitioner-monk-teacher-writer describes the four noble truths in his own words to interpret for the modern world :
First one is written as "All compounded / fabricated things are impermanent. "Compounded//fabricated" meaning anything that arises when two things, persons, thoughts, actions, meet. So also in relationships. 

And before that : everything is emptiness.

I-Thou moments would correspond to the present moments there is nothing coming between and there is 100% empathy and understanding between souls.

The day-to-day experiences of people : quick jumping to analysis, categorizing and boxing of judgments is indeed an I-IT phenomenon.

It was an OMG moment for me when I read this... because in such moments essentially we destroy human-ness of "others" into item-ness most of the time without awareness.

Thank you for this --- to watch out for.

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On Mar 14, 2017 Barbara Gordon wrote:

What came to mind whilst reading this piece were the hours immediately following my daughter's birth. I felt such intensity of connectedness with her. In fact saying I 'felt' it isn't the word. I 'was' it! It lasted for several hours at a high level of awareness and extreme intensity and joy which expanded to include everyone and everything that had ever existed.
I have experienced this feeling at other times but for much shorter periods.
Thank you for this insight as now (41 years later) our relationship is struggling and we are considering attending relationship counselling to help heal a rift that has sat between us for over 4 years. Not easy as she lives in Australia and I live in UK. I shall take the I-Thou insight with me.
With Love and Gratitude.
Barbara x



On Mar 12, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

Life is a web of relationships. Some are  I-It  relationships. They are utilitarian,pragmatic and self-serving. Such relationships are shallow leaving no  nourishing deep roots of memory in our mind. I have had such relationships leaving no worth- remembering deep traces behind.

I cherish I-Thou relationships. It is a relationship between two genuine  and deeply caring beings. It has openness, trust,  and compassion. I have been blessed to have such deep relationships with my parents, family members, a few friends and my soul mate. Such relationships have made me a whole and wholesome person. Such relationships have been blessings to me and I am deeply grateful for such blessings.

May we  keep our mind and heart  open to cultivate such I-Thou relationships!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave




On Mar 11, 2017 david doane wrote:

I-it moments are utilitarian, goal- and future-directed.  I-thou moments are purposeless or goal-less and present.  Both kinds of moments are part of life.  In I-thou moments there are two individuals meeting, being open and honest in the moment.  In I-thou moments the individuals are personally present and vulnerable, simply being together.  In I-it moments there is an agenda, some thing or some function is being sought, and I relate to the other as being there to serve a purpose.  I-it moments can be fine when the agenda is out in the open, and are a problem when there is a hidden agenda.  I've had some I-thou moments in which I and another are being soul to soul in a spiritual agape love, and such moments are precious and few, as Sonny Geraci sang.  I-it and I-thou moments are easy to tell apart.  When I'm out to get something from the other I'm in an I-it moment.  When I'm simply meeting and being met, being open in the present and  See full.

I-it moments are utilitarian, goal- and future-directed.  I-thou moments are purposeless or goal-less and present.  Both kinds of moments are part of life.  In I-thou moments there are two individuals meeting, being open and honest in the moment.  In I-thou moments the individuals are personally present and vulnerable, simply being together.  In I-it moments there is an agenda, some thing or some function is being sought, and I relate to the other as being there to serve a purpose.  I-it moments can be fine when the agenda is out in the open, and are a problem when there is a hidden agenda.  I've had some I-thou moments in which I and another are being soul to soul in a spiritual agape love, and such moments are precious and few, as Sonny Geraci sang.  I-it and I-thou moments are easy to tell apart.  When I'm out to get something from the other I'm in an I-it moment.  When I'm simply meeting and being met, being open in the present and without purpose or agenda, I'm in an I-thou moment.

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