End Of Violence

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Violence is not merely killing another. It is violence when we use a sharp word, when we make a gesture to brush away a person, when we obey because there is fear. So violence isn't merely organized butchery in the name of God, in the name of society or country. Violence is much more subtle, much deeper, and we are inquiring into the very depths of violence.

When you call yourself an Indian or a Muslim or a Christian or a European, or anything else, you are being violent. Do you see why it is violent? Because you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. When you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence. So a man who is seeking to understand violence does not belong to any country, to any religion, to any political party or partial system; he is concerned with the total understanding of mankind.

Now there are two primary schools of thought with regard to violence, one which says, `Violence is innate in man' and the other which says, `Violence is the result of the social and cultural heritage in which man lives.' We are not concerned with which school we belong to - it is of no importance. What is important is the fact that we are violent, not the reason for it.

One of the most common expressions of violence is anger. When my wife or sister is attacked I say I am righteously angry; when my country is attacked, my ideas, my principles, my way of life, I am righteously angry. I am also angry when my habits are attacked or my petty little opinions. When you tread on my toes or insult me I get angry, or if you run away with my wife and I get jealous, that jealousy is called righteous because she is my property. And all this anger is morally justified. But to kill for my country is also justified. So when we are talking about anger, which is a part of violence, do we look at anger in terms of righteous and unrighteous anger according to our own inclinations and environmental drive, or do we see only anger? Is there righteous anger ever? Or is there only anger? There is no good influence or bad influence, only influence, but when you are influenced by something which doesn't suit me I call it an evil influence.

The moment you protect your family, your country, a bit of coloured rag called a flag, a belief, an idea, a dogma, the thing that you demand or that you hold, that very protection indicates anger. So can you look at anger without any explanation or justification, without saying, `I must protect my goods', or `I was right to be angry', or `How stupid of me to be angry'? Can you look at anger as if it were something by itself? Can you look at it completely objectively, which means neither defending it nor condemning it? Can you?

Can I look at you if I am antagonistic to you or if I am thinking what a marvellous person you are? I can see you only when I look at you with a certain care in which neither of these things is involved. Now, can I look at anger in the same way -- which means that I am vulnerable to the problem, I do not resist it, and I am watching this extraordinary phenomenon without any reaction to it? [...]

So let us come back to the central issue - is it possible to eradicate violence in ourselves? It is a form of violence to say, `You haven't changed, why haven't you?' I am not doing that. It doesn't mean a thing to me to convince you of anything. It is your life, not my life. The way you live is your affair. I am asking whether it is possible for a human being living psychologically in any society to clear violence from himself inwardly? If it is, the very process will produce a different way of living in this world. 

Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion that separating ourselves by belief, nationality, or tradition breeds violence? Can you share a personal story that illustrates a moment when you experienced or observed anger as an expression of violence in your own life or environment? What helps you look at anger completely objectively, neither defending it nor condemning it, and remain vulnerable to understanding it deeply?

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17 Past Reflections
A
Apr 24, 2025
I work with many Tibetan's who grew up in India and never have been home. They are the closest thing to that type of non-violent human but they do have a religion. I am not any religion anymore and many people are stumped but the division is why. I love all living things but definitely get angry especially with drivers texting lol. I practice moving meditation and sleep and eat well which adds to my non-reactiveness yet when I feel reactive it used to catch me off guard. I think the more of us who seek understanding and open dialogue with ourselves and one another the closer we can get.
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Pallavi
Apr 24, 2025
Wonderful sharing. I had several moments of anger between me and my husband. I was a drunkard. Because of which my hubby hit me several times. I asked him that why did he hit me. He said - Your behaviour is so provocative, U had not left any way to stop u.
AM
Apr 23, 2025
Reading this was difficult for me. I stay as far away from anger, loud voices, dark emotions … as I can. Life is short. I choose to “fix my eyes on Jesus … Who gives me/us perfect peace” (as much as my sinful self is disciplined to).
There is no place for violence.
OJ
Apr 22, 2025
Wonderful sharing. Equating an form of separation or lack of acceptance as a form of violence. It's a bit strong, not sure if I will label them as violence. But yes they all belong to the same category, mentally created identities and separations.
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Robert Couchman
Apr 22, 2025
What provocative essay!, I am a little hesitant to attempt to response here but here we go. I lost my wife in January after a relationship of 56 years and it has been really the most incredible transformation or perhaps I should say opportunity for transformation. I am holding space to see what person emerges from this cauldron, many gifts have been offered by the universe and it's proxies. Among those gifts is the gift of time and observation, time to look inward and ask the questions why, why am I feeling the way I'm feeling, why am I jealous, why am I hurt, and even why am I angry. It's difficult work but greatly satisfying, the more vulnerability I can access the happier I feel. I am learning to recognize my impulse to change people, and it's a relief to lay down that burden, and begin to see others as completely as I am able.
Thank you for offering this platform
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Pam G
Apr 22, 2025
I can only say that I am recognizing that so many emotions and other ‘experiences of the heart & mind’ arise from conditions and that allows me to be responsive vs reactive. Reactivity is so spontaneous and I’ve found that is where I get in trouble or violent. In itself anger is not violent from this perspective.
SK
Sherrill Knezel
Apr 22, 2025
I can’t get past the “my wife is my property” language. That makes me angry.
ST
Apr 22, 2025
When I was a teenager I was teased alot, I guess they call it bullying now. I also was hit by my father a few times, slammed up against a locker by a coach, punched and knocked out by an older boy from opposing town after a basketball game, chased by a gang of catholic boys calling me a christ killer because I was Jewish and other instances of being treated "unjustly" by authorities ( in my humble opinion). And of course I was aware of horrible acts of violence in the world such as slavery, wars, genocide, etc. And I would explode every so often and fight someone physically or break something. At some point in my 20's I recognized that I had " an anger problem" and then after trying to direct my " righteous anger" more constructively and less destructively or in vengeance I learned that when ever I felt anger it was covering up Fear and Grief. Now, I know that I am free to choose what I feel. If I notice anger arising, I ask myself what I am afraid of and what am I grieving. ... View full comment
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Lin
Apr 22, 2025
Speciesism may be the leading form of violence, causing probably the worst and most suffering this planet has ever seen.
MA
Magdalena
Apr 22, 2025
Reproducing this notion of people = man and women = property (not to speak of nonbinaries) in this text is indeed pretty violent
MI
Miriam
Apr 21, 2025
Incredibly violent - only seeing women as property and not as humans - a very hurtful start to my day
SS
Apr 18, 2025
CommUnity - Together ONE Violence is any kind of separation and nonviolence is uniting or one-ing. We are WE. This is my preferred pronoun. My I and mine do not exist. We are one. I need to keep practicing one-ing everyday. That is living nonviolently
DD
Apr 18, 2025
I agree with Krishnamurti that separation, all separation, breeds violence. Separation creates other, sees other as an object, and leads to competition, defending self, and violence. All incidents of anger in my life have been expressions of violence as I wanted to assert myself, get even, win, control, defeat, hurt, or crush the other. I felt that anger and violence in relation to a man who once cheated me out of money. Now that's ashes -- I think that if I stir the ashes I could reawaken anger -- I don't go there, but here I am talking about it. What helps me with anger is my now seeing all as one. There is difference but no separation. We and this world are one, which evokes my care, allowing, working together, helping. I've come to see anger as unnecessary. I can express, disagree, object, assert without being angry -- I'm not fully there yet but I'm moving in that direction.
MM
Apr 17, 2025
This a noble piece of writing, but Krishnamurti suffers from the attitudes of his era in principally addressing one gender – so here he exhibits the very kind of ‘exclusionary violence’ (against women) that he deplores. This shows how even the most enlightened can still be restricted by the social attitudes and vocabulary of their era. It is a great challenge to live ethically in an age when unethical division/violence is being enacted by state leaders for cynical advantage. Krishnamurti also experienced it in hir era. [gender neutral pronoun]
SH
Apr 17, 2025
I think Krishnamurti’s description of violence takes us to the very inception of it and thus allows us to feel it if we may allow - to how the knife might cleave flesh from ghe bone.
JA
Apr 17, 2025
I have always admired reading J. Krishnamurti's talks and writings. He asks us not to close our mind and heart when it comes to reading or listening to something beyond right or wrong by keeping our mind and heart open. Sadly we get caught up in either-or mindset. Like it, then get it, accept it. If we do not like it, throw it away, reject it. We tend to divide the world into right or wrong, either or mindset. However, there is a Middle Path called Madhyama Marga by the Compassione Gautama Buddha. We have been experiencing divisiveness in the world on the ground of races, genders,religions, beliefs, cultures and ideologies forgetting that we all are children of God. God treats us equally without any distinctions. Sadly lots of fights and wars have been created by such divisiveness. When we go beyond such harmful divisiveness we experience Oneness in all. If we keep our mind and heart open we experience Divine Oneness in all. Anger is one of the most difficult emotions to regula... View full comment
AL
Apr 17, 2025
Emotions move oh so very fast, both anger and delight…and so for me, when I reflect, I wonder mostly about the past separations with sadness. Now, however, I’m still vulnerable yet much less Sade, more neutral. And so for the past, my inquiry is, “how could that have happened?“ And when I shift by direction from my present
vulnerability to the future with a bit more humility and heart spaciousness, my inquiry is, “how might we make that happen”