SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What does 'unite with laziness' mean to you? Can you share a personal story of a time a moment of laziness became your personal teacher? What helps you lean into your laziness?
I had learned to unite with bouts of depression which became a great teacher. Then just a few days ago I found myself grieving that I was lazy aka a failure. I accepted this laziness and let go of the judgments. A new understanding of myself emerged. I was striving, trying to run my own life and in the process I was losing the gifts offered to me in every moment. I was striving to be what I thought was ‘great’—
Everything that happens to me could be me my teacher if I do not resist it, fight it, fear it or freeze by denying it and doing nothing about it. As a human being, I experience ups and downs, pleasure and pain. Since I like and want pleasure, I try to avoid, deny and try to runaway from my pain. By avoiding it or believing or hoping that it is gone, I am fooling myself. What I disown slips into the shadow zone. Since I do not want to face my shadow and work through it, it darkens my light zone and prevents me from me being and accepting my authentic or real self. I need to wake up and embrace my fullness with all its colors. I relax myself and lean into that dark zone which is me. In order to be a whole human being, I need to accept my humanness and compassionately work through it.
The body has its natural rhythms. When I am tired, my body wants and needs to rest and relax and go to sleep. If I do not listen to the feedback that my body gives, I become my own enemy. I have been learning and practicing to befriend my tired body and provide that restful space. It is natural laziness. And the same way I relate to my bodily sensations, thoughts, feelings and emotions. Since I live in a relational world, I relate to my inter -personal experiences the same way. The other is me too.We need to go beyond the dualistic perspective and relate to each other as our brothers and sisters, the branches of the one tree of humanity.
This is my daily psycho-spiritual practice. Living this way makes me hopeful and optimistic as we are going through small and big storms in our life. Life is a gift and it is my intention to appreciate and use this gift for a higher propose, for greater good.
May we all awaken and walk on the Dharma path, the path of not harming us, other sentient beings, non-human beings and Mother nature!
Jagdish P dave
To unite with laziness means to me to let it happen, accept it, be open to it, not fight it, and go with it. It will occur and subside, like any other feeling or experience, and I can unite with it and find out where it takes me. I've been lazy at times, not in the mood to do a task at hand, and at times I have united with the laziness and put the task aside, which felt good and freeing, and took a nap or did nothing or got into some activity that I did feel like doing. What helps me lean into my laziness, which I do too seldom, is understanding that laziness is what I feel when I don't want to do something that I am supposed to do, as determined by someone else or myself, and my laziness has something to offer. Laziness can open me to new possibilities and to finding what I do want to do. It can be an opening to finding my excitement. It can be my personal teacher. After a period of uniting with laziness I may even have renewed energy with which to complete the task I didn't want to do.[Hide Full Comment]
I've learned to allow and love my laziness! After suffering for years with unnecessary panic and guilt, I now 'lean in' to my laziness because I know and trust myself. As my personal history shows, my lethargy or exhaustion eventually passes and my engines rev back up and my work gets done. I know this. I trust this. This trust helps me 'lean in' to the laziness and give my self, guilt-free the moment or hour or day to recharge and practice just being.
With my love and gratitude for our Readings,