A Strange Predicament

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When I stop to consider the facts they astonish me.
There you are, couched in your own skin, and
Here I am in mine. No matter how close
We must each do our own living.
Your heart cannot be persuaded to pump my blood
My lungs will not consent to breathe for yours.
It is an odd arrangement.

Inside me, a mansion of memory and anticipation.
A place other people may visit, like a museum.
Inside you, a similar mansion, that I can visit
With your permission, gaze at pictures on the wall.
But only until closing time.

And is this not a strange predicament?
This seeming and inescapable individuality?
The hard shell of ‘I’ that we live inside,
Like soft-bodied sea creatures.
When did we choose this? On whose ill-advice?

How different the world would be
If we could waft through different identities
As easily as the wind inhabits the trees.

Then the woman selling flowers at the street corner would be me.
And the crumpled leaf of the half-blown rose in her bucket would be me. And the man reaching into his back pocket to pay for the bouquet – me. Me. Me. Me.

Then I would not be ‘I’ any more. And neither would you.
No not at all and never again.

Once out of the bottle no genie of sound mind
Ever chooses to return
To such cramped, uncom-
fortable quarters.

Seed Questions for Reflection

What comes up for you as you contemplate the ability to waft through different identities? Can you share an experience where you felt an invitation to leave cramped, uncomfortable quarters and live more expansively? What is a practice that inspires you to go beyond small identities?

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24 Past Reflections
JO
Dec 24, 2016

 I is the core, me is the illusion.  I can never be manipulated, or changed.

MA
Maha
Dec 24, 2016

 1) Different Identities - I keep questioning who decides these and for what purpose. How can any being be different when one day we all leave? Still exploring what are those barriers which stop us from seeing the truth as it is and not as we want it to be.
2) I constantly question what i think, do, say or act. this way i may contradict what i said before, probably i can see/ understand things differently now. It is all perspective and i would like to explore all possible perspectives. Who knows there may be yet another way to see/do.
3) I question, juggle, find out, ask, LISTEN, evaluate ( limitation is my own knowledge to understand and experience ), and the best Meditate over it. If something is good for me and benefits others too i DO It. 

JA
Dec 24, 2016

A Haiku on Who I Am 

 I am a part of
All that is in existence...
Past, now, and future.
WI
wishyoupeace
Apr 29, 2016

 Absolutely beautiful!

MA
Maalika
May 26, 2015

 This was pure poetry which touched me. Made me realize the fickle nature of our selfish desires.

US
Usha
May 22, 2015

 Beautiful! 
 Seeing the little self (ego) trapped in a 'hard shell', closed to the limitless beauty just outside!
 Made my day today :-)

NS
May 22, 2015

 when i decreses universal  one ness appears on horizon,then one can not love me and mine and you and yours.inner and outer are in oneness whole creation one family ,the word others does not exist,live laugh dance in that spirit .always unconditional love.n.n.c.

AN
May 22, 2015
I think this article/poem was not just thought provoking but a real masterpiece and scholarly. The author has so much talent and should keep on writing and keep sharing with people.   The predicament is about “seeming and inescapable individuality”. I think our individuality results from our “perceived self”. Individuality or perceived self results from our own perceptions and perceptions of others as to who we are and about the world around us. Our perceptions are usually limited by our observations of physical and material world around us. We tend to not go deeper as you did in your article. Many of us are not even capable of.    I think if we get out of or get rid of our perceived self, we can be one with “all”. “All” here is not limited to all human beings or even all living beings. It includes all in nature. The flowers, the trees, the sky, the stars, all that makes up mother earth. There is no limit, the... View full comment
PA
May 21, 2015

 One of the best poems I have read in a long time. Thank you Pavi for this beautiful  piece .Helped me to dive deeper and helped me to tap into my real self , the self that is connected to every thing else.

KU
May 20, 2015

 So beautifully penned with a simple example on oneness!  What sadhana it takes to get into the skin of another identity?  When, we tangle in the game of deceiving ourselves of our own identity, how can we know identity of another?  Until we shed "I" the ego,  the attachment to our bodily success and failures, happiness and sorrow, we can not fathom the deep meaning of "I", the reason why we are who we are and how to menifest into who we should be.

BH
BH
May 19, 2015

 It takes such a long time to know ourselves (and do we ever really complete that process?) that imagining ourselves as other people would make the task of self-knowledge even more daunting.   The meaning of this plan of God's to make us physically separate, yet psychically unified is interesting.   The 'other' as stranger invites both curiosity and fear.  And does not knowledge of the 'other' help us know ourselves?  And does not increased knowledge of ourselves help us get closer to the 'other.'  Wise, wise God.

AD
Ashwin Desai
May 19, 2015

 A beautiful simple poem, yet such depth of meaning! Thank you for writing.

ZO
Zoe
May 19, 2015

This kind of reminds me of a line in a Lenny Kravitz song where he sings, "I am one and you are me." What we see in ourselves we can easily see in others and what we see in others (if we're not in 'ego mode' and comparing ourselves) we may just as easily see in ourselves. 

MI
May 19, 2015

 This is absolutely true and so beautiful.  Thank you.

JK
Joseph Kloss
May 19, 2015

 Beautifully crafted. Prompts me to remember Tagore:
"He whom I enclose with my name is weeping in this dungeon."

LA
Leeann Atherton
May 19, 2015

 We are all expressions of God, thus we are ALL GOD. 

RB
ruby bedi
May 19, 2015

 I felt small and alone till one day I  suddenly woke up in a world where I was in all and all was in me. This was in 1992, pulled down the shutters to my businesses and started to support others find that same world in them. There are billions of faces on our planet and each one is me. Feel inspired and tickled to be part of this service world. Thank you Pavithra.    

MI
May 19, 2015

 Empathy/compassion enable this oneness I find.  Becoming the other. _/\_

SA
May 18, 2015

 So well said Pavithra ! So much ,philosophy, knowledge, common ( or is it uncommon ) sense and.....But
after tasting everything on offer,we would come back to the original fit given by the Lord, as that would be the most deserved, and give heart-felt Gratitude to Him

PV
Poonam Virmani
May 18, 2015

 amazing insight, very well expressed:)) 

JP
May 18, 2015
 I know. No man is an island. We all are connected, branches of the same tree called The Tree of Life. However, most of us are taught and conditioned to create and live in an individualistic bubble. I am an individual physically. I have my own mind. I have my own personality, my own signature, my country, my religion and ME.When I operate with this perspective, my relating to me and to others who are very close to me have this I-and- You. It seems like the reality.There are moments in my life, when this unique and divisive separateness disappears and vanishes. This happens to me when I naturally and truly follow my heart. I feel one with me and with the other including nature. Where there is no TWO. There is  one flow of energy, the earth and the sky merging, no sense of duality, beyond subject and object.The bubble becomes the ocean.These are moments of awakening hard to express conceptually and verbally. This feels like the sound of silence. Is the firs... View full comment
SV
May 17, 2015

 Everyone is a spiritual being having a human experience- each experience is different.

AJ
May 17, 2015

 This is pure and total GENIUS! 
AMAZED am I!  Thank you ( so much) for sharing your mind's eye!

DD
May 16, 2015
I love the question as to what comes up for me as I contemplate the ability to waft through different identities.  What comes up for me is that we are separate and we are one, individual and together, not one and not two but one and two and neither one nor two.  I resonate to those statements and they go beyond my comprehension.  They reveal the mystery that we are and that we live in.  Yes, I am I, apparently separate from you, couched in my skin, with my heart pumping my blood and not yours, and yet I know that at a deep level I and you are one, are different expressions of one spirit.  The cells in my feet are different from the cells in my brain and at the same time are cells sharing the same spirit and consciousness and are part of one body.  I and the other individuals have different superficial identities that are different expressions of one Ground.  In this awareness, I leave cramped, uncomfortable quarters and live more expansively.  A... View full comment