Accept What Is, Lead To Improve

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LUCHAR POR EL CAMBIO, LIDERAR EL PROGRESO


Un planteamiento imprescindible para la vida es “aceptar las cosas como son” y confiar en el Universo. Sin embargo también lo es “esforzarse para que las cosas cambien”, pues si quieres ser competente en los negocios – y de paso también en las relaciones – entonces necesitas añadir foco, constancia y seriedad, a menudo en combinación con un plan estratégico y una inclinación hacia la superación.


Practicar el “aceptar las cosas como son” también es de crucial importancia. De por sí, nos sirve de punto de referencia en nuestra interpretación de la realidad y en nuestra toma de decisiones sobre lo que es preciso que cambie. Si no somos capaces de apreciar las cosas tal y como son, y no aceptamos lo que vemos, entonces se vuelve muy complicado actuar de manera competente. Aceptar “aquello que el universo nos trae” es importante para evitar que malgastemos el tiempo y la energía intentando cambiar lo que no permite ser cambiado. Sin embargo, el hecho de “aceptar las cosas como son” por sí solo generalmente no basta. La cara negativa y oculta de la aceptación son la pasividad, la pereza y la evitación. Eso no es liderar con consciencia, pues si detectamos una oportunidad y no la aprovechamos, nadie se beneficia.


Por otro lado, lo que se esconde detrás de la “lucha por el cambio” es que nuestros planteamientos se vuelven rígidos y controladores. En realidad nuestra vida cotidiana se centra mayormente en hacer frente al cambio: en gestionarlo, en adaptarnos a él, y de vez en cuando en originarlo y dirigirlo. Para ser competentes necesitamos saber cuándo practicar la aceptación y cuándo impulsar el cambio. Suena más fácil de lo que es. El equilibrio no está en encontrar el terreno intermedio entre la aceptación y la acción; está en disponer de la libertad, el discernimiento y la habilidad para considerar ambos a la vez de modo que sepamos en cada situación discernir cómo actuar de manera competente. Es el meollo de la competencia: un reto que, aunque sencillo, puede ser desquiciante.


El cambio como tal es intrínseco a la condición humana. Con cada cambio aprendemos y nos reinventamos. Percibimos las cosas de una manera que antes no era posible. Logramos cosas y funcionamos de una manera que antes no podíamos. El mundo varía con cada cambio, nuestras relaciones se transforman. Con cada cambio estamos expandiendo continuamente nuestra capacidad para intervenir, para generar, para imaginar y para construir nuestras relaciones e instituciones. Para que quede claro de lo que hablo: la frase “luchar por el cambio” podría también expresarse como “liderar el progreso” o la “transformación”. Es decir, que a medida que aceptamos que todas las cosas cambian, reconocemos que muchas de ellas pueden mejorarse, y entonces nos auto responsabilizamos para mejorarlas de manera activa. Así, tanto en el trabajo como en las relaciones, no nos quedamos esperando sentados a que aparezcan los problemas para después intentar solucionarlos; tomamos la iniciativa para comprender nuestra situación actual e imaginamos un futuro mejor, un presente mejor. Desarrollamos una visión, sabemos a dónde queremos llegar y empezamos a caminar.


Se trata de liderar de forma consciente, algo que resulta vital tanto para nuestra vida personal como para la laboral.


Marc Lesser es maestro Zen y consultor empresarial.
Seed Questions for Reflection

What does reframing 'fight for change' to 'lead to improve' open up for you? Can you share an experience of real change where you were able to learn and re-create yourself? What helps you accept change while still envisioning a better future?

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11 Past Reflections
PA
Oct 16, 2021
Thie idea that accepting how things actually are in the moment is the condition from which change is possible makes such sense--these ideas are not in conflict but are two parts of the same reality, the yin and yang of skillful action.
DE
Oct 14, 2021
This article made me think, I am grateful for that.I have read/heard about accepting and allowing the current situation as it is in Jon Kabat-Zin's mindfulness programs. However, there is a need to make changes and how do I balance it. The last paragraph on change resonated with me.Reflections from others helped me refine my thoughts. I see several parts to it. ONE: Have an open mind and embrace changes as they come. Be aware of my ego feeling threatened by it and raising the guard to deny/resist it. TWO: Have a beginner's mindset to take next moment as it is without tainting it with my past biases and assumptions. THREE: Be a witness to inner weather of emotions, feelings, and thoughts - detach from them, let them pass through my inner space of awareness rather being swept away by them or fighting with them. FOUR: Proactively, look for opportunities to transform myself with new ideas and initiatives before the situation changes into an emergency or fire drill where I am w... View full comment
AP
Oct 12, 2021
Evolve (change) ourself and Lead to improve. !
JA
Oct 12, 2021
What the phrase "lead to transform" means to me: it means: God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know that one is me.
As I take actions coming from love, coming from that transformation in me, it then transforms the whole. I have been motivated by these words:
Seek Humility (knowing exactly who you are, that no disparaging opinions, nor accolades will change, in your mind who you are), Seek Justice. Therefore I am transformed that I can take those actions to Justice coming from Love
A
A Oct 12, 2021
True wisdom Jayne! Amen!
GU
Gururaj Oct 14, 2021
This variant of the serenity prayer I had not seen earlier...Thanks for that Jayne. Yes,
​​inactuality there is only one entity to manage - I or me...The others and the world are perceived only through "I"...
C
C Oct 22, 2021
Thank you, Jayne, for this lesson!
NK
Oct 11, 2021
Acceptance is key to true transformation. Inside-out transformation. Acceptance opens one's heart and brings it to a state of humility and sometimes even surrender. Not the surrender in battles, but the surrender of the hyperactive mind that is preparing to react and resist. Surrender of the ego to pervade and dominate. Surrender enhances one's awareness and enables expansion of the consciousness.

By accepting, being open and allowing transformation, we only evolve to becoming better versions of ourselves. Now, it ALWAYS begins in the heart and plays in the heart-mind region. If we fail to move inward and settle in the heart and instead move to the mind, alas, acceptance gets arrested, terminated and growth stops.

Leading to improve is enabling our heart to accept what needs to change and allow our better version to manifest - inside out.
A
A Oct 12, 2021
Wow! This, too, is wisdom! Thank you! Great share!
DD
Oct 8, 2021
I resist being told what I need to do. I have fought for change, but what I relate to more is that I change, and sometimes my changing takes more effort than other times. Much of mychange and effort to change is to improve myself. I don't know that I ever changed with the intention to make myself worse. Years ago I changed from one career pathto another. My changing was scary for me, and I learned and recreated myself. I think what helps me accept change is acceptinglife, that is, accepting that change is constant. Change and a better future aren't oppositional. Not all change is improvement, but for the future to be better there must be change. I have an optimism that helps me envision a better future and helps me accept change as part of a better future. Nothing needs to change; everything simply is constantly changing. I may want for things to change, which is my want and not the want of things. We can see what is and we can accept what is;that we don't doesn't mean ... View full comment
JP
Oct 8, 2021
Can acceptance and change join hands together? Can light and shadow walk together? Can silence and voice sing together? Acceptance of what is and makingessential changes is a balancing act. Changes do take place. They need to be faced creatively and wisely. Otherwise life doesn't flow. It gets stagnant and stinks. In the dynamic world we live in, both 'fight for change' and 'lead to improve' are necessary. Change needs to make in the the right way in right direction. This is the way I am embracing life. I see the value of both frames of references. I maintain the fluidity of living without getting blocked by 'eitheror' mental stance. Life has given me many opportunities to learnfrom my personalexperiences. When I experiencepain in my belly I relate to my belly pain mindfully.I recognize it and investigate the cause of my physical pain and learn from it and do not eatpain -causing food. The same way I relate to my relational painI become aware of what happene... View full comment