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Love Like Water

--by Mark Nepo (Sep 07, 2015)


Water in its clear softness fills whatever hole it finds. It is not skeptical or distrusting. It does not say this gully is too deep or that field is too open. Like water, the miracle of love is that it covers whatever it touches, making the touched thing grow while leaving no trace of its touch.

Most things break instead of transform because they resist. The quiet miracle of love is that without our interference, it, like water, accepts whatever is tossed or dropped or placed into it, embracing it completely.

Of course, we are human and are easily hurt if not loved back or if loved poorly. But we waste so much of life’s energy by deliberating who and what shall be worthy of our love when in the deepest elemental sense, these choices are not in our province, any more than rain can choose what it shall fall upon.

In truth, the more we let love flow, the more we have to love. This is the inner glow that sages and saints of all ages seem to share: the wash of their love over everything before then; not just people, but birds and rocks and flowers and air.

Beneath the many choices we have to make, love, like water, flows back into the world through us. It is the one great secret available to all. Yet somewhere the misperception has been enshrined that to withhold love will stop hurt. It is the other way around. As water soaks scars, love soothes our wounds. If opened to, love will accept the angrily thrown stone, and our small tears will lose some of their burn in the great ocean of tears, and the arrow released to the bottom of the river will lose its point. Only love with no thought of return can soften the point of suffering.

Mark Nepo is a poet, teacher, storyteller and author of the New York Times #1 bestseller, The Book of Awakening. This excerpt is taken from The Book of Awakening.

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On Oct 26, 2015 Pluto178 wrote:

 Water is hidden in everything for everything surely contains some water.........it's the Holy Grail the hidden that we seek to find............sometimes we cannot see something but we know its there and eventually we fail to see it. Water is always welcome. x 



On Sep 8, 2015 Sunil, Bangalore wrote:

 Love is not an abstract term. But a concrete one.When it flows meaning when you  practice it with full life force ( heart & soul) it becomes tangible. You can indeed experience it like water.



On Sep 8, 2015 Sidney DeKoven wrote:

Lately I see love as an attitude, a choice. When I put on a smiling, happy face, that dispels any negativity in my system and I'm open to send love to all of creation. Maybe it's just tricking the negative egoic mind into believing that I'm happy but it works. Water is a miracle in all forms, raindrops,rivers , tears occupying 70% of the surface of the earth. I think, Love, the greatest miracle of all occupies 100% of the universe. Anything is possible when one opens oneself to Love. Perhaps the greatest  Love of all is to , As Christ said, Love those that despise you. For it is then we forget ourselves. And Meher Baba said : when we forget ourselves completely, we find God.   



On Sep 7, 2015 Burton Danet wrote:
Love = Water
Water = Life
Life = Living Independently For Ever

On Sep 4, 2015 david doane wrote:

 Love, like water, gets into every nook and cranny, unselectively affecting everything it touches.  We need water to survive; we may not need love to survive, but it certainly helps us to grow and thrive.  Like water, love expects nothing in return.  Like with water, there's enough love to go around, but we better treasure it and use it wisely, not pollute and misuse it.  Unlike water, which is a limited commodity, love is limitless.  Love is like muscle, becoming larger and stronger with use; love isn't like a bar of soap that diminishes with use.  When I have been loved, I felt that my real self was welcome and valued, and I was open.  I feel pleased and privileged when someone responds in that way to me.  As I become older, and maybe wiser, I have a more generalized love/compassion, which pleases me very much.  Having been loved and being loved have probably helped me the most to develop the ability to love.  



On Sep 4, 2015 Abhishek wrote:

Off late, I have begun to observe that putting the word 'love' to the space and experience we call 'love' is trying to reduce it in some way, to make it more 'amenable' to be able to speak about it, switch it on-off etc.... And yet I see the irony of our world, where we sing and write so much about love, and yet there are so many unhealthy expressions of that love (like war, which is perhaps born out of love for one's country or ilk) Perhaps becuase, there is love and then there is Love. 'love' can choose and decide where to be showered, it can turn on and off, it can change in face of experiences, it can convert to jealousy or control (or have shades of it)..... Love, on the other hand is the space of love....it is so free, boundless, like an ocean of water that itself is also submerged in water....there there is only water.....(and there I go again, using words to describe something beyond words!) i hope eventually our capacity to 'love' reveals to us the experience of Love - after  See full.

Off late, I have begun to observe that putting the word 'love' to the space and experience we call 'love' is trying to reduce it in some way, to make it more 'amenable' to be able to speak about it, switch it on-off etc....

And yet I see the irony of our world, where we sing and write so much about love, and yet there are so many unhealthy expressions of that love (like war, which is perhaps born out of love for one's country or ilk)

Perhaps becuase, there is love and then there is Love.

'love' can choose and decide where to be showered, it can turn on and off, it can change in face of experiences, it can convert to jealousy or control (or have shades of it).....

Love, on the other hand is the space of love....it is so free, boundless, like an ocean of water that itself is also submerged in water....there there is only water.....(and there I go again, using words to describe something beyond words!)

i hope eventually our capacity to 'love' reveals to us the experience of Love - after which 'love' will no longer be a 'capacity' but in our being...
 

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On Sep 4, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I love this reflective reading on Love.Love gives birth to life, nourishes it, sustains it, enriches it and lets it bloom and blossom.This is what a mother does for the child she bears and provides nurturing and blossoming energy to her child.Such love does not have criteria or conditions set in advance to meet to be loved.Love is spontaneous and unconditional. It is beyond right or wrong. Love's hands are always open to give and receive. Giving becomes receiving and receiving becomes giving. We witness such love in nature, in animals and in us as humans. I have experienced such love from my parents, brothers, sisters friends, teachers and my students and  at times from strangers..And they have experienced it from me too.It is a natural flow of life sustaining and flourishing energy.Love bubbles from within.It cannot be poured from outside.It is like feeling the touch of water, wind, and a loving hand. It is like smelling fragrance coming from a flower o  See full.

 I love this reflective reading on Love.Love gives birth to life, nourishes it, sustains it, enriches it and lets it bloom and blossom.This is what a mother does for the child she bears and provides nurturing and blossoming energy to her child.Such love does not have criteria or conditions set in advance to meet to be loved.Love is spontaneous and unconditional. It is beyond right or wrong. Love's hands are always open to give and receive. Giving becomes receiving and receiving becomes giving. We witness such love in nature, in animals and in us as humans.

I have experienced such love from my parents, brothers, sisters friends, teachers and my students and  at times from strangers..And they have experienced it from me too.It is a natural flow of life sustaining and flourishing energy.Love bubbles from within.It cannot be poured from outside.It is like feeling the touch of water, wind, and a loving hand. It is like smelling fragrance coming from a flower or a smile sparkling on a face with no apparent reason. When I hold a crying child in my hands, it creates a deep bonding between me and the crying child.There si no guide book or prescription for it.It just happens.Such experiences are very precious and rich. They make our day,  our night and our life.

What blocks the flow of such a natural energy? We all know the answers because we have experienced both the natural flow of energy and the blockage of the flow of love energy.When I become self-centered and self serving, place conditions for relating to the other, build up expectations from the other or relate to the other out of obligations or fear, the pure joy of loving goes out of windows. It is like going back to sleep and continue living in the illusory dream! We all in varying degrees have lived in these two cities; The city of illusion or the city of Maya, and the city of Love or Prem.

May our life touch and be touched by the pure water of Love!

Jagdish P Dave

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On Sep 3, 2015 sheetal wrote:

I loved this one! Feeling completely in sync with what Mark has to say about love. Especially where he explains "these choices are not in our province, any more than rain can choose what it shall fall upon". For long the word 'love" would scare me...it would mean dependence, weakness, vulnerability and everything else but "love" and so the best policy would be to ignore or "play safe", be on constant guard lest love becomes visible. All this games made me hard, judging and arrogant. I became very self critical too. Until a day came when I read this book by Dr. Brian Weiss "Messages from Masters" which explains tapping into the power of love to capture its healing energies. This changed my perspective on "love" and I started experimenting by allowing love to flow. The process has been going on for past decade and the learning is to acknowledge the deeper feeling of love in your own system. Saying "yes" to it within, then there's no need to share it with anyone. Like rain it will automa  See full.

I loved this one! Feeling completely in sync with what Mark has to say about love. Especially where he explains
"these choices are not in our province, any more than rain can choose what it shall fall upon". For long the word 'love" would scare me...it would mean dependence, weakness, vulnerability and everything else but "love" and so the best policy would be to ignore or "play safe", be on constant guard lest love becomes visible. All this games made me hard, judging and arrogant. I became very self critical too. Until a day came when I read this book by Dr. Brian Weiss "Messages from Masters" which explains tapping into the power of love to capture its healing energies. This changed my perspective on "love" and I started experimenting by allowing love to flow. The process has been going on for past decade and the learning is to acknowledge the deeper feeling of love in your own system. Saying "yes" to it within, then there's no need to share it with anyone. Like rain it will automatically fall and flow. Effortlessness emerges where human intervention stops. The key is acceptance and allowance. The moment you deny or intervene, mind games begin. We have a plant in our garden called "brahmakamal"  that blooms only once a year when it rains. The flower is a white beautiful lotus with intoxicating fragrance that opens in the night to last and live for a few hours. Once, I was observing this flowering process and was amazed to see how the flower whose life is so short gives itself fully. This realization opened my heart to loving and giving without expectation. Keeping guard on expectation helps love flow freely and you are then constantly surrounded by grace of love. Its right there, the question is "are you open to it"?

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