The Empty Boat

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He who rules men lives in confusion;
He who is ruled by men lives in sorrow.
Tao therefore desired
Neither to influence others
Nor to be influenced by them.
The way to get clear of confusion
And free of sorrow
Is to live with Tao
In the land of the great Void.

If a man is crossing a river
And an empty boat collides with his own skiff,
Even though he be a bad-tempered man
He will not become very angry.
But if he sees a man in the boat,
He will shout at him to steer clear.
If the shout is not heard, he will shout again,
And yet again, and begin cursing.
And all because there is somebody in the boat.
Yet if the boat were empty.
He would not be shouting, and not angry.

If you can empty your own boat
Crossing the river of the world,
No one will oppose you,
No one will seek to harm you.

The straight tree is the first to be cut down,
The spring of clear water is the first to be drained dry.
If you wish to improve your wisdom
And shame the ignorant,
To cultivate your character
And outshine others;
A light will shine around you
As if you had swallowed the sun and the moon:
You will not avoid calamity.

A wise man has said:
"He who is content with himself
Has done a worthless work.
Achievement is the beginning of failure.
Fame is beginning of disgrace."

Who can free himself from achievement
And from fame, descend and be lost
Amid the masses of men?
He will flow like Tao, unseen,
He will go about like Life itself
With no name and no home.
Simple is he, without distinction.
To all appearances he is a fool.
His steps leave no trace. He has no power.
He achieves nothing, has no reputation.
Since he judges no one
No one judges him.
Such is the perfect man:
His boat is empty.

Seed Questions for Reflection

What does emptying your own boat mean to you? Can you share a personal story of a time you saw the wisdom of being simple, without distinction? What helps you avoid judgment of others?

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Ralph Satter
Sep 8, 2025
Similar to Carlo Carretto’s “Letters from the Desert “ where he writes “to become small and poor in our work, the things that matter to a Christian.” Also Jesus’s teaching about losing one’s self to find real life. A very profound poem worthy of much meditation. Very far from the contemporary mind set!
UE
Nov 18, 2023
Emptying my own boat to me, mean living a life of non-attachment, it doesn't mean you don't live your best life, you just don't become attached to living your best life, to outcomes, to results, you just LIVE. It's peaceful, no worries, no anxiety, just living in the flow.
SG
Nov 13, 2023
Very profound write ups.
Actually no one came with nothing on Mother Earth and no one leave with anything once die.
The purpose of living just to flow as per the journey already decided with a passion to serve for humanity for equanimity and oneness.
SG
Nov 13, 2023
Very profound write ups.
Actually no one came with nothing on Mother Earth and no one leave with anything once die.
The purpose of living just to flow as per the journey already decided with a passion to serve for humanity for equanimity and oneness.
JA
Nov 7, 2023
At the door my son face bloodied. "Its not as bad as it looks, dad."

Separated during the attack I found his friend unhurt.

Enraged I went looking.

A solitary bumble bee jumpered gang member on a street corner stood.

We pretended to each the other a not knowing.

Then I saw him. As my son. Someone's son.

Unable to add to the suffering I walked away.

The police later "caught one" some father's son.
CR
Nov 7, 2023
Beautiful. I think this from Thomas Merton's retelling, which was not translated by Merton, but retold in English from prior English translations.
ST
Nov 7, 2023
Aloha- Emptying my own boat literally keeps my boat floating rather than sinking. Today , I am sharing poetry I wrote at a writers conference for critique and on weekend I have paid for sessions with people in publishing to pitch my book on male sexuality.
My need to share my inner life, wisdom, love is strong. It is important balance for me to accept that others may not appreciate or understand all or maybe any of what I am sharing. It is healthy for me to shine my light yet not be dependent on validation.
This balance comes from the simplicity of being grateful for the cup of tea my partner just brought me, her encouragement, and walking in the garden in this mornings rain. All that is enough. And if my work is loved and of benefit to someone and maybe published it is ok to enjoy my accomplishment. Knowing that I would prefer to not be judged helps me to avoid judging others.
MY
myrna
Nov 7, 2023
subtle contemplation
LA
Nov 7, 2023
Thank you for this wonderful reminder - it is so difficult to see the boat as empty.
JA
Nov 7, 2023
This man or woman seems to be a fool, has no power, has no power or reputation and his/her boat is empty.
This person probably has no family, no goals, just wondering in the world?
DD
David Doane Nov 7, 2023
I love that phrase "wondering in the world." I love when I'm wondering in the world.
MC
Margarita Chávez
Nov 7, 2023
An empty boat is a helpful metaphor for detaching from possessions and personal fame, to put it simply. Thomas Merton’s thoughts are inspiring. I think of a quote shared with me, “I wear this life like a loose garment.” I enjoy reading others’ comments.
RH
Nov 7, 2023
Love this but still have a longing for wanting people to be impressed by me and like me, not to think I am a simple fool, I want people to think positively about me? Yet do I have to achieve something to be liked???
MI
Nov 7, 2023
"Achievement is the beginning of failure." I love this sentence. Funny to read this story just after completing the book "The 5 am club" this morning.Robin Sharma talks about unlocking your potential and achieving all the time. He cites many quotes, from Da Vinci to Gandhi . And he has a point with it! But I feel that is just one side of the truth. As soon as you try to "be better than others", to outperform them, you enter a subtle competition and the truth is lost. There is wisdom in not trying to attain distinction, David wrote below. I think he is right. Like always: the truth holds both sides. Go for distinction, excellence and mastery, but let go of any expectations that come with that. I think that is what I long for.
EI
Nov 6, 2023
As a journalist, I always believed I was making a big impact through my writing, until the deadlines, the upheaval of emotions and the discord between what I was writing and my true self made me quit. After a pause of two years, I have started writing again, but only academically. The idea is to write on only my research, not worrying about whether the masses read it. Sometimes, micro is much better than macro.
JP
Nov 2, 2023
"Emptiness is Fullness" sounds paradoxical. This is the Tao - the way of living with no burdens of possesions, power, prestige, pride and pejudice. As I was growing I used to get messages from elderly people to work hard to outshine others, to earn name and fame. My boat of life was loaded with aspirations and ambitions without realizing that I was becoming my own enemy. Self-awareness, open-mindedness and and cultivating courage to be my real and authentic self opened the doors to be my self. I felt light as the boat of my self was slowly getting empty of self-created burdens and feeling the fullness of living a simple but fulfilling life. It is indeed paradoxical: By renouncing we rejoice; by emptying we become full. I know knowing is one side of the door and living is another side of the door. We need to open both sides of the door to walk freely, to live fully. What helps me walk and stay on this path? Non-judgemental Self-awareness, openness, humility, loving kindness and re... View full comment
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Stacey Tomasello Nov 4, 2023
Dr. Dave, thank you very much for sharing your insight and reflection. I definitely agree with the influences in childhood from adults. I genuinely believe that emptiness is a journey as you said in the last paragraph, sometimes emptiness is easier to access than other times, but I am learning that we must meet ourselves where we are when we sit down to meditate, or throughout the day. You're an amazing Guide and thank you so much for allowing me to be a part of your life.

I would genuinely love to learn more and explore the concept of the Tao - "emptiness"
DD
Nov 2, 2023
Emptying your boat means to me to be independent and focus on my being whole, not make myself like a robot dependent on anyone or anything else for how I am. I think of simple as basic. I'm definitely not always simple though I have. long seen the wisdom of being simple. I don't have a problem with distinction that comes without trying to attain it. If it happens, I like when I let it come and go. There is wisdom in not trying to attain distinction, which trying is manipulative and makes a person dependent on getting it. Trying to attain distinction like any goal-directed trying goes into your boat so that your boat is no longer empty and you are encumbered and less free and independent. What helps me avoid judgment is to let judgment come and go, not hold onto it and nurture it, not put it into my boat, and as I do that I have less judgments.
PR
Nov 1, 2023
In BhagavadGita there is a passage in second chapter that describes a man of equanimity called Stitha Prajna. When a person is not attached to an outcome, not affected by what happens outside and not identifying himself or herself as the doer finds peace within and outside. I found many a time when I am at peace with myself, I did not get affected by both praise and insults by others. I was able to experience caring and loving instead of judgment and criticism. Alas, those moments are few and far in between...