We Can See Only What We Can Think

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Fortunately or not, everything we do is led by our thinking. There's just no way around it. Even if I say, "I'm going to stop thinking and let feeling be my guide" -- that's a thought. Like the first step of a journey, it may pass unnoticed and forgotten, but you know it must have been there. If we are going to transform our basic capacities, we'd better begin with the most basic of all: the one that helps us choose and guide all others.

We may despise any reliance on thought as unromantic; we may suspect our thinking of being limited and culturally determined; we may complain of thinking as inadequate to its task of understanding this world and directing our behavior. What we can't do is avoid it. Each of these critiques is itself an example of thinking, and indeed dwells in an ocean of thinking. When we question thinking's authority, we haven't escaped it at all, since the process by which we could doubt it is (again) thinking itself.

A patient walked into my office one day and stewed in the juices of this problem for a few minutes. "I'm sick of my whole mind," he said. A lawyer, he relied on clear, critical understanding for his business life, and he knew there was something wrong with his very ability to think. "I'm always angry" he said, "and I know it's because I'm always judging people. I mean, people do such stupid things. But criticizing them is making me sick. I wish I could get away from my thoughts and be at peace. We got back from vacation in Florida this week, and it was good in a lot of ways, but even when I'm fishing on a sunny day and everything's going well -- the water is great, the boat is great, the fish are biting -- still my mind is constantly racing and worrying. I might as well be at work. Then when I am at work, it's nothing but distractions. You know, when I was fresh out of law school I could focus on a brief or a letter or whatever it was and really get into it. Now my mind is either judging, worrying, distracted, or a little of each. I swear it would be better if I could just stop thinking altogether for a while. And here I am, criticizing myself too much! It just won't stop."

Eventually he came to see that what he really wanted was not no thinking, but more concentrated and livelier thinking. It wasn't so much that he wanted to shut his mind off. He wanted his mind to be clear. Instead of getting lost in anger and worry, he wanted to be able to focus. He sensed that his style of understanding had become both hardened and splintered when he needed it to be supple and whole.

Maybe our thinking, as much as our bodies, stands in need of exercise. We worry about our physical health, and spend fortunes to improve it, but do we ever apply that kind of self-improving zeal to our ability to think? Our minds, like our bodies, need a combination of flexibility and strength, qualities that are unlikely to return unless we do something.  [...]

Most of the time, most of what we call thinking is a maze of distractions. But thinking, whether clear or muddy, is not something added to our reality like a sprig of mental parsley adorning the main dish. It is what makes the substance of the world for us. We all know this in a general way, and most people can admit that they tend to live in a narrow zone of mental habits. But the role of thinking is more primary and pervasive than we generally realize. For what we call "reality" in normal consciousness — even the stuff of the world around us — is itself only our own past thoughts. Let me explain. 

When we see a car, or an oak tree, or a cloud, we see them according to the thoughts we ourselves, and our whole society, have already thought about these things. In other cultures, dominated by other thoughts, they are seen differently. Adults teach them to children through language. The children learn these language-given concepts and see the world accordingly. There isn't any other reality for you than the concepts you have acquired or those you now acquire in the very act of perception. 

Someone who has never learned the concept of writing will see a written page as a sheet of paper with black marks on it. We know that archaic cultures see the world differently. They live a reality largely alien to our own, shaped by thoughts we can only translate askew as we try to fit them into our standard assumption of a physical world "out there" with minds observing it. Analysis of the Homeric texts has shown that the ancient Greeks understood colors differently and therefore saw colors differently.

When we dare to take this view seriously—and anthropology is full of examples to confirm it—we begin to realize that there is no world for us outside our thinking (or our past thoughts) about the world. Our very seeing, hearing, touching, and so on — the categories by which we anchor what is real to us—are permeated with concepts particular to our culture, language, and personal history. We can see only what we can think. 

Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion that we can see only what we can think? Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to experience a reality beyond your concepts? What helps you become aware that your thoughts are shaping your experience?

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14 Past Reflections
JT
Nov 21, 2024
From Anthony - A wise humble soul with life in prison - 22 years as of now: I have practiced formal meditation for many years. Once I calm the mind by following the breath I ask the question what is aware of the body, the sense objects, the thoughts and emotional activity? I then turn the attention toward that Awareness that is always aware of yet unaffected by whatever is going on in the mental realm. What I realized after many years of meditation is that the formal practice is really only training us for our daily walk. I am now able to turn the attention back toward that Awareness that is always present yet often ignored because we are focused on the mental chatter instead. Now it is simply remembering to turn the attention once I realize that I've been swept away by thought. So, there is hope, we can actually experience all of the sense objects without thought and the experience is much richer without the usual mental labeling. An autumn breeze still feels great without... View full comment
DD
David Doane Nov 22, 2024
How wonderful that you are aware of Awareness and have allowed yourself to meditate and learn and become aware of all that. I commend you.
CE
Cynthia Embree-avoie
Nov 19, 2024
As someone who is in process of loosing my thinking capabilities (through brain tumors) this writing is both frightening and depressing. It implies that with limited cognitive ability I have nothing.
DD
David Doane Nov 22, 2024
Cognitive ability is one aspect of us. With limited cognitive ability we still have a great deal.
LD
lisa delille bolton Jun 4, 2025
Cynthia: As a nurse whose 89yo mom has lost a fair bit of her memory and cognitive skills to dementia, I would like to offer some reassurance that life is still sweet to our mom and to my sister and me, even as we adjust to these unwelcome changes. We have great conversations still, and her ironic wit is still part of her style. She still enjoys most of the things she always loved: going out to dinner, riding around in the car with her boyfriend, talking to her daughters and grandchildren and friends about life and the world, hearing from former high school students, exercising with her group, petting the cat, getting her nails done, lunch with friends, and more. She does miss driving. She is not as interested in going shopping, doing emails, or attending her PEO club meetings. She has never been very spiritual or religious, and has been visiting every couple of weeks with a pastoral counsellor, which she says she enjoys. i wish you well in all ways! kindest regards lisa delille bolton
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Deb Schein
Nov 19, 2024
I think there is much truth to this idea that one can only see what one can think. It makes me wonder why we don't place more beauty in front of us so we can think and see beauty that can help us feel and think about joy. Instead, we spend hours watching movies filled with people killing each other and games on TV where people fight on field for the highest score. What we think , see, feel, and do reflect our values. I vote that we value kindness and beauty.
DD
David Doane Nov 22, 2024
Sad isn't it that we fill ourselves with videos of violence and killing rather than kindness and loving.
RC
Nov 19, 2024
Dear Michael, Thank you for this piece that "re-awakins" my thinking about thinking, that has me wondering about epistemology, that is, how we know our truth. I would like to add that there is a range that extends beyond thinking. As a novelist, I look for sensory details that might bring alive a setting for the reader. While you're quite right that the reader is conditioned to experience that sense through the filter of her thoughts, the sense sits at the experiential foundation of the rational thought. Similarly with feelings. I'm presently collaborating on memoir with my mother. She's more of a feeler; I'm more of a thinker. I'm trying to channel her feelings that have been shaped from having lived nearly a century in India, Canada, and America, places that have different ways of thinking, but essentially the same way of feeling. One could say that Mom's feelings are the elephant upon which my writing rides. The elephant will go in any direction it wants to, while the r... View full comment
DD
David Doane Nov 22, 2024
I like that image of feelings being the elephant that our thinking rides. It's too bad the elephant is so ignored. Awareness comes around -- I learned 50+ years ago that "I feel that" and "I feel like" are expressing a thought and not a feeling, and I guess are ways to ignore or reframe or distance from the elephant. Thanks.
DF
Nov 19, 2024
It is true as far as it goes. But it does not go far enough. And I think that that is a good thing to think about.
JT
Nov 18, 2024
In conversation when there is a shared thought, a back and forth dialogue and then a shared understanding there feels to be a shift in the experience of we - a connecting of minds.
ST
Nov 18, 2024
Whew!!! I think this whole discussion is exhausting. I know that my seeing along with all my other sensing is at least partially shaped by learned concepts. I certainly see beauty that someone else thinks is ugly and vice versa. And tastes are certainly highly variable from one individual to the next. How could I possibly know if the reality that I experienced was beyond a concept. I know that I have experiences that other people consider to be crazy or my imagination. So my experiences were beyond their ability to conceive what I conceive. I have no idea how to differentiate some sort of "pure" experience from " my thoughts".
JP
Nov 15, 2024
We all have a mind. How we use our mind is important. Mind can create bondage and the mind can create freedom. Mind can create darkness and the mind can create light. Our thinking can create hell or can create heaven. Mind shapes our destiny. The challenge for me is how to keep my mind open, clear, and non-judgemental. Our mind is like a two -edged sword. It can help us either to defend or to kill. Discretion between what is right and what is wrong is very crucial. We need to keep our mind clear and unbiased to see the reality, to see the truth. A free and open mind creates a bridge to connect us. A close or biased mind divides us. We need to keep our minds awake. Inner awakening helps us create harmony. Awakening helps me go through darkness. Awakening makes me free from the past that is already gone and from the future that has yet to come. Awakening helps me to live fully in the here-now world. Mindfulness, non-judgemental awareness of what's happening in the present ... View full comment
DD
Nov 15, 2024
I'm digesting my breakfast, creating insulin, growing my hair, etc, none of which are led by thinking. Only a small portion of what I see is what I think. My view is that we dwell in an ocean of being, and thinking is one feature of the ocean. Due to our conditioning, thinking is pervasive, but is only one zone of human being. Concepts we acquire are a part of a person's reality. There is a world outside our thinking, including our feeling, sensing, intuiting, etc. I am always able to experience a reality beyond concepts, and probably always am, but ignore most of it. Paying attention helps me be aware that my thoughts shape my experience and my experience shapes my thoughts. In my view, experience is bigger than thinking and includes thinking.