The Extraordinary In The Ordinary

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Our acceptance of the ordinary is part of our spiritual maturity and capacity to be of service. It also helps us to avoid the trap of inflation, which can easily catch us when we glimpse a world beyond the ego. It is only too easy to identify with an inner experience. But when we let go of wanting spiritual life to be about us, when we live in the various dimensions without mixing the levels or imposing expectations and desires, this freedom allows us to fully participate in spiritual work.

Present in both the inner and outer world, one learns to serve the world, serve life, serve others without effort. This is a very careful balance. If one takes upon oneself the onerous responsibility of service, then the ego easily gets caught in it; the psyche gets encumbered by it. But being engaged in an ordinary life allows us to be of service without the burden of thinking we can solve the world's or other people's problems, which brings with it self-importance and, worse, spiritual self-importance.

Naqshbandi Sufis have always lived this way, forsaking special robes and working in ordinary jobs, traditionally often as craftsmen – Baha ad-Din Naqshband was a potter, Attar a perfumer. And of course many of the great Zen and Taoist teachers emphasized the ordinary and the dangers of spiritual importance:

Emperor Wu: 'I have built many temples, copied innumerable Sutras and ordained many monks since becoming Emperor. Therefore, I ask you, what is my merit?'

Bodhidharma: 'None whatsoever!'

Emperor Wu: 'Why no merit?'

Bodhidharma: 'Doing things for merit has an impure motive and will only bear the puny fruit of rebirth.'

Emperor Wu, a little put out: 'What then is the most important principle of Buddhism?'

Bodhidharma: 'Vast emptiness. Nothing sacred.'

Emperor Wu, by now bewildered, and not a little indignant: 'Who is this that stands before me?'

Bodhidharma: 'I do not know.'

If we can allow ourselves to live an ordinary life while also staying awake to the great void at the center of all that is, then we can be this intermediary place between that intoxicating, mystical bliss of oblivion and the wonder of how the Divine creates and reveals Itself in all the forms of life. Our lives are the expression of this bridge – ordinary and extraordinary, all things in their place, everything free to be as it is, and our consciousness, our heart, free to be used as needed.

Seed Questions for Reflection

What do you make of the trap of inflation in spiritual life? Can you share a personal story of a time you resisted the temptation of inflation and saw the extraordinary in the ordinary? What helps you serve without effort?

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Chris
May 9, 2023
Answer: It’s Love
HS
Apr 30, 2023
Last week i Was working in the beautiful garden of my owners, there was an extraordinary blossom all around and while enjoying i realised there were no bees absolutely none and it was the same day after. This gave me sadness . It is a part of the divine that was missing, was it ordinary, NO. Was it extraordinary? If it was, I don't know in what sense . May be a revelation of the divine to show something is missing in our way of life ?
DD
Apr 30, 2023
I very much appreciate this essay. The line that stands out to me is "let go of wanting spiritual life to be about us." Wanting it to be about me is a trap of inflation for me. I believe spiritual life is about much bigger than me, it's about what I'll call Being, and I get into the trap of it being about me. I think I'm pretty good at seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary, and yet I can go back and forth quickly and easily between the trap of inflation and seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary. I remind myself often that service is its own reward, and activity done for reward or with motive or agenda may look like service but is not really service.
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Echu
Apr 28, 2023
Years have gone by. To grab is an unshakable habit that refuses to get evicted. Many beautiful words to 'let go of everything' to remove the cobwebs in the mind, do not work. Demolish old habits, level the ground, and build, one brick at a time, a new citadel where your spirit is tranquil and not the wallet.
NK
Apr 26, 2023
I used to wonder as a child, am ‘I truly helping?’ If I am unhappy when it goes unnoticed. Why does it make me uncomfortable to want words of acknowledgment, whether it be a thank you or a praise. I came understand why was when I heard the verse “vita-raga-bhaya-krodha man-maya mam upasritah bahavo jnana-tapasa puta mad-bhavam agatah”. From then on, I try to observe my mind and intellect, before I engage, I ask myself am I choosing this act to receive rather than to just give.
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Amy Apr 26, 2023
Such wisdom! I am learning everyday! Thank you for helping enlighten me! Amen
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Nithya Krishna Apr 27, 2023
You’re too kind ❤️
FD
Apr 25, 2023
I am grateful for my teachers. Some time back I was euphoric about my inner journeys. I have a dear old friend who has spent most of her life in an ashram. And we would go for hikes. And me being a typical male, could not stop babbling. At some point she just quietly said, yes its exciting isnt it, when its new. And then pointed to the orange poppies springing up, new life all around me. Gently and sweetly she brought me back to the earth. She was too sweet to say it but I got all this excitement was useless if I could not appreciate what was happening all around me and what I was intricately entangled with for all eternity. Baba Muktananda had said "Let the witness behind your eyes only be shown scenes of love". That helps.
DF
Apr 25, 2023
It has gotten easier as I have become older. I live an ordinary life. And yet, mystery pervades.
GM
Apr 24, 2023
I serve without effort when I serve my children. Though I tend to over-serve, if that is possible, i.e. being available, sometimes anticipating their needs, I serve them unconditionally. I now see that my over-service could have been a brake in their growth, and independence, creating co-dependency and laziness. I now approach my responsibility as a father, being a guide, motivator, and mentor, bringing my life experience and insights to their requests and needs rather than personally fulfilling their tasks for them
TE
Apr 23, 2023
A beautiful passage, which expresses my understanding well. Though doing good rather than evil is a huge benefit for all concerned, if it is the limited ego of I, ME, and MINE "doing good", then exhaustion soon follows, and the benefits are limited and finite too. The ME that wants to avoid that only compounds the issue! (Unsatisfactory duality?) Clearly awakening to non-dual infinity that includes here-and-NOW along with all realms we see as beyond (such as "Heaven", "Nirvana", "Tiān", and many more) seems like a good start, along with not trying to see myself as other than that. Can we truly appreciate Bodhidarma's "Infinite emptiness within which all existence takes place"?
JP
Apr 21, 2023
This passage reminds of me of one line of a song I used to sing. It is in Gujarati, my mother tongue. Namage' dodatu ave'. Tranlation: It comes fast if you don't ask. It stands for spiritual blessings- Divine Gifts. Spiritual gifts do not come to us when we have selfish desires, self-intersest and selfseving mindset. " In giving we receive" as St Francis of Assisi says. Or as The Rishi of Ishavasya Upanishada says in Sanskrit, " Ten tyaktena bhunjitaha". Renounce and rejoice. Sadly, the world we live in values more the merrier, and there is no end to possesing and grabbing more and more. We were born in a relatively poor family but we didn't feel poverty in our heart. My mother was very hospitable and generous. My friends who were brought up in rich families would come to see me at lunch time. My motherr offered them very simple food to eat. They enjoyed eating simple food with great joy. They loved to cherish the simple food as it was made with the sweetness of her heart. I still fee... View full comment
SU
Apr 20, 2023
Kabir sang in Emptiness. Being empty is without thoughts whatsoever. No thoughts is to find own self " who am I "?