Question: You have said that feelings such as fear, anxiety,
and depression are beginnings, not ends, and in fact, that these
feelings are doorways into a universe of creativity and discovery,
Richard Moss: Psychological survival leads us to become profoundly
conditioned to prefer certain kinds of feelings to others. This
causes us to refuse a conscious relationship to darkness such
as fear and despair. But, you can't know unconditional love
if you continually and preferentially exempt, or try to negate,
or escape from all the difficult feelings that are part of human
experience. Then love is only conditional and fleeting.
If you take an individual who has feelings of fear or despair,
this really represents a distrust in his own essence. He then
externalizes this distrust out into the world, distrusting that
the world is safe, or that others are good in their essence. This
is the story of most of the human race.
If we're going to change that, it won't be by creating a model of
wholeness with our rational minds, because all those models rely on
hope and use reason to escape the domain of difficult feelings. We
have to go much deeper than hope and find a way to start an original
and creative relationship to our essential self, which to our egos
seems like nothingness and emptiness. Once we no longer flee from
this deep sense of non-being, then we can truly know life's fullness.
For example, we each think there's this "me" who is an exclusively
private and separate being, but in reality we are a movement of
attention that simultaneously creates this sense of me and the sense
of others. As long as you are identified with the separate self,
there will be things that threaten you and send you running down the
road of your own survival project. For the modern person this is not
just survival, but a level of success that threatens to engulf the
world. All of that stops when you come to grips with your own fear of
non-being and face the movies that seem to be about fear and despair.
-- Richard Moss
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