Search Inside or Outside?

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A famous Sufi mystic, Rabiya, was searching for something on the street outsider her small hut. The sun was setting and darkness was descending, as few people gathered around her. "What have you lost? What are you searching for?  Perhaps we can help," they said to Rabiya.

Rabiya said, "I have lost my needle."

One amongst the people said, "Well, the sun is setting now and it will be very difficult to find the needle.  Where has it fallen?  That'll help us narrow down the area on this big road.  If we know the exact place, it will be easier to find it."

Rabiya told them, "It is better not to ask me that question -- because, actually, it has not fallen on the road at all.  It has fallen inside my house."

Everyone started giggling as if she was joking.  Then a skeptic says out loud, "We always knew that you were a little insane!  If the needle has fallen inside the house, then why are you searching for it on the road?"

"For a very simple reason: inside the house there is no light and on the outside a little light is still there," Rabiya replied.

The people laughed and started dispersing.  Rabiya called them back and said, "Listen! That’s exactly what you are doing: I was just following your example. You go on seeking bliss in the outside world without asking the most fundamental question: where exactly have I lost it?"

After a pause, she continues, "You have lost it inside, and yet you are looking for it on the outside for the very same reason -- your senses are outward bound, your ears hear sounds on the outside, your hands touch things on the outside.  That's the reason why you are searching outside. For a very long time, I was also just searching on the outside.  But the day I searched inwards, I was surprised.  That is where I lost it and that is the only place it can be found."

Seed Questions for Reflection

What does searching inwards mean to you? Can you share a personal experience of a time you searched inwards? What practices of searching inwards work well for you?

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23 Past Reflections
PT
Sep 27, 2014
 In 1996 I wrote one article - " CHEERS". It gives the same message -   CHEERS   Once I went to visit my friend at Victoria Island, Lagos. He is quite a rich man having a duplex house with a posh lawn surrounded by trees. When I met him, he was just outside his house, searching for something on the porch, with lights on. I asked him “ My brother, what are you searching?” and he said “I have lost my keys and hence I cannot open the house”.  I joined the search. Within 10-15 minutes, I searched the area outside the porch, but I still could not get the keys. I asked him, “Brother, do you certainly remember that the keys were lost here?” He replied, “Yes, my friend, I am sure that I lost my keys under that tree in that corner” I was astonished by his reply and asked him, “My brother, then instead of searching for the keys over there, why are you searching for them here? How can you get them here?” He sai... View full comment
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Pooja G Avinash
Aug 28, 2014

 A very inspiring story. Troubles are everywhere. And we as humans tend to be disturbed easily. Hence getting disturbed we try and find a solutions by conveying our issues to others but we forget to ask ourselves. We are the best judge of the situation or the problem we have faced. Hence searching inwards means questioning our own self our mind and soul. As they are the best witness and hence can provide the best justice to our issues.

PA
Paashi Aug 29, 2014

Aah  ....the ever present Witness!  It is patiently waiting to cradle us, when we allow ourselves to merge with its pure essence
MR
Aug 26, 2014

 It is very true. Pleasures are in the out side world real happiness is inside. We see and feel the world by our scenes (Indrias) which can see only the external world. We get attracted by its glamor and desire to posses them. whole life is spent in this process. we never get it because it is not there as rightly said by the Sufi Saint. exhausted by the mad race to posses when we sit quietly and look in side we find the true happiness.Then we realize how foolishly we have wasted our life.    

AM
Aug 26, 2014

Searching inwards is like looking at a mirror! You are looking at the reflections produced by it, reflection is not the original. similarly we are looking at any events or objects in this cause and effect world. our interpretation of this event or object is not the original. Beauty here is that our manifested awareness can produce infinite possibility of interpretations. best one it can produce is when you are in peace, in love and in alert awarefullness!!   

RM
Rebecca McCarty Aug 26, 2014

We search the inner space,  peering in our mirror, the mind...WHO is searching then, and for what is it searching? Something forgotten? Is not the one who is searching in the mirror of the mind, actually searching, outside of its self, hunting for a state, the state of it's own BEING? Which it can not find, by looking at the illusive images in a mirror, it is searching for that, which to find, it must become, directly, by remembering itself. 

DY
Aug 25, 2014

 Simple and yet profound. I have a related observation to make. As I search in the outside word  without knowing what I am searching for , I am generally joined by a few others  who, I think, will help me in my search. In the process I am taken far far away from my original search  though that itself was unclear to me. It dawns on me that I am the only one who knows what I am searching for and I am the only one who can identify it when my search ends in success. 

SH
Aug 25, 2014

 v r spending lots of our energy in unnecessary  thinking n actions towards understanding of ways for getting peace,happiness etc Just spend the same energy in simply being good n doing good.u will get wat u r looking for.

JB
Joginder brar Jun 7, 2022
JP
Aug 24, 2014
 The source of sound is within me and I am in vain searching for the source of the sound outside of me. We look for happiness by wishing and acquiring name, fame, power and position coming from outer sources. Feeling, sensing and believing that happiness is coming from out side sources is a sure way of getting disappointed and unhappy. Our  outer dependent acquisitions come and go leaving traces of unhappiness. It is an illusion like chasing the shadow to find myself. I am reminded of Saint Kabir's poem in Hindi: kasturi kundal base' mruga dhoondhe' van mahi. The musk deer is looking for fragrance outside of him without realizing that it is coming from his naval center, from within. I felt passionate about teaching when I was 18 years old. At that time, some 70 years ago, teachers were poorly paid in India. I followed my bliss and teaching has always filled the cup of my life with lots of joyful and fulfilling blesses. At the age of 89, I am still enjoying tea... View full comment
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Neeti Sep 1, 2014

 I truly agree with you Jagdishji.

JB
Joginder brar Jun 7, 2022
In simple words, you May help the needy, the poor,play with kids to make them happy, engage yourself in some social activetyand you Will find the peace and self satisfaction you need.thanks.
DD
Aug 24, 2014
 I remember a similar story.  God wanted to place the secret of happiness somewhere that was accessible to humans but would take some work.  He asked his angels for suggestions.  One said the top of a high mountain.  Another said the bottom of the sea.  The idea that God came up with was to place the secret of happiness inside the person where it is accessible but takes some work to get to.  Searching inward means to be still and listen for and to my inner self, that is, my feelings, thoughts, associations, hunches, preferences.  It means to listen to my inner voice, my inner experience, my inner truth.  I've learned that religion is listening to someone else's experience and truth, and spirituality is listening for and to my own experience and truth.  I've made that transition, as I think many people are doing in saying they are spiritual but not religious.  I began searching and listening to my inner self a long time ago, and th... View full comment
RM
Rebecca McCarty Aug 24, 2014

 Your post puts new energy in to the meaning of th word: "Insightful", thank-you.

RE
Aug 23, 2014
 We have all heard the phrase "Take the road less traveled". One day, quite by accident, thoughts were thinking in me, about this idea. A line of thinking which led to a contemplation of the idea of "direction", as the "road less traveled" must go in the "direction least taken". Thoughts occurred about direction; there was  up, down, left, right, back, forth and so on. Then suddenly the mind reminded me that outward and inward, were directions also. I examined all the directions presented to me by my mind...it was instantly apparent that, of all these directions, the direction least taken, is the one of the path, that leads inward. I began to explore this path, which led me to a whole new world, at once, both, somehow familiar and at the same time unknown, governed by laws, I understood only intuitively, logic had little place in that space. At first I found it very difficult to maintain my attention there, I would start down that path, begin to discover new things, and... View full comment
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Paashi Aug 26, 2014

 I'm reminded of  another passed down wisdom which loosely translates to:  It is dark under the lamp that radiates light all around.  I would like to contemplate that our journeys are the light  that awakens our awareness and so the external and internal begins to align.  The inner spiritual  space and the  psychologically conditioned shadows of the personality both are part of the journey to alignment with the totality of existence  to the extent collectively and individually experienced by all.

NE
Neelam Aug 26, 2014

Beautiful share......Enriching !!!! 

ME
me Sep 1, 2014

 You should be a yoga instructor!  
Now on to the road less traveled  . . .  Ty.

KP
Aug 22, 2014

Profound and so true as humor often is. Searching inward means being mindful and allowing oneself to slow down and Listen. Listen to the heart and inner voice which often reveals our true calling or even answers to questions. When we are peaceful inside, when we are loving inside, then it goes forth outside of us as well. I heard this story before too, it was attributed to Nassrudin who lived in Turkey in around the late 1200s. Thank you for sharing what is most likely the seed for this story.

BL
Blessings Sep 1, 2014

 You are a "wow" Kristin.  

AT
Aug 22, 2014

 When I find myself searching for happiness too feverishly, I realise that it is like any other ambitious search that others are on (search for money, or for fame for example).

So for me searching inwards is better done as trying and resting inwards i.e. waiting and actually letting go of any 'search'. As I see what is happening, between the joys and sadness, and extreme agitation and peace, there is awareness....that is what I find myself searching for....

And in the rare glimpses that I have of it, happiness and sadness matter much lesser, and I can't even tell which is which or which will lead to which....

The inner and the outer dynamically interplay for me....the shifts in the inner reflect in the way I see the outer, and the beauty of the outer permeates within as well...

RM
Rebecca McCarty Aug 23, 2014

 The door opens to all who would enter.

IH
I hear you Sep 1, 2014

 Amen.