Grace In The Classroom

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Gracia en el aula


--por Francis Su


Quiero demostrarles a mis alumnos que su valor NO depende de las calificaciones que obtengan en mi clase. Por supuesto, quiero darles a mis alumnos de suficiente la misma atención que reciben mis alumnos de sobresaliente. Pero si soy realmente honesto conmigo mismo, tengo que admitir que me gusta hablar con los estudiantes de sobresaliente, porque ellos “lo entienden”... ya hablan el mismo idioma.


Pero ¿Qué crédito tengo yo como profesor, si sólo afirmo a l@s estudiantes que ya “lo entienden”? Es fácil afirmar al estudiante que hace grandes preguntas en clase, pero debo pensar cómo puedo afirmar las preguntas de un estudiante con dificultades. O que proviene de un entorno cultural diferente. O aquel cuyo sistema educativo no le proporcionó las herramientas que necesita. ¿Cómo puedo afirmar a est@s estudiantes?

Me gusta decirles que la lucha es el lugar más interesante para estar: porque en una confusión saludable es donde comienza el verdadero aprendizaje. Al igual que en la vida, las lecciones más significativas se aprenden cuando nuestras aflicciones y luchas son mayores.

Pero quiero ser claro: no estoy diciendo que extender la gracia sea una receta para ayudar a mis alumn@s a sentirse bien consigo mism@s. Estoy diciendo que les ayudará a tener una comprensión correcta de sí mism@s. Entonces, si mis alumn@s saben en el fondo que les he dado una dignidad que es independiente de su desempeño, entonces puedo tener conversaciones honestas con ell@s sobre su desempeño. Puedo juzgar su trabajo con justicia Y gracia. De hecho, reprobar a un estudiante PUEDE hacerse con gracia, para que el estudiante comprenda que su dignidad no ha sido empañada a pesar de que su trabajo ha sido evaluado justamente, de la misma manera que un padre puede disciplinar a su hij@ si el niño sabe que su amor es incondicional. . La gracia es precisamente lo que hace posibles y productivas las conversaciones difíciles entre las personas. Pero primero hay que extender la gracia. Quiero que el estudiante suspendido entienda claramente que las calificaciones son sólo una evaluación, no una sentencia. Intento reunirme personalmente con cada estudiante que ha suspendid@ y articular explícitamente la distinción entre su calificación y su valor. A menudo les doy esta palabra explícita de aliento: que si bien las calificaciones intentan medir lo que has aprendido, no miden tu dignidad como individuo.


Preguntas iniciales para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la noción de que la gracia es lo que hace posibles y productivas las conversaciones difíciles entre las personas? ¿Puedes compartirnos una historia personal de alguna vez en la que hayas podido afirmar la dignidad de alguien que no estaba teniendo éxito en su esfuerzo? ¿Qué te ayuda a honrar la dignidad de aquell@s a quienes no les va bien?
Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion that grace is what makes hard conversations possible and productive between people? Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to affirm the dignity of someone who wasn't succeeding in their endeavor? What helps you honor the dignity of those who aren't doing well?

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Alpana singh
Sep 30, 2024
Sabse pehle hame khud ko chenge karana hoga to hi bachche hamare behavior ko dekh kar chenge honge.
Hame bachcho ko achchha & bura dono parinaam batana hoga ki bachcha aap ye kam karoge to esaka achchha parinaam yah hoga aur bura parinaam yah hoga .
Ab aap hi batao ki aap kaun sa option choose karna chahoge. To bachche es baat par khud vichar karenge aur achchha & bura ka parinam samajhenge.

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खुशी
Sep 30, 2024
Apne sabdo ko v bachche ke level ke hishab se change karna hai taki har level ka bachcha samjh paye
Or ye batana ki pariksha me baithna or likhna jaruri hai marks se jyada marks or gread unki samjh ko batane ke liye use hota hai n ki unki safal or asfal ko darshata hai
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Janet Stroud
May 18, 2024
This is a most complex question that I have reflected on since I began teacher training 56 years ago. I think we have to place the child, not the curriculum, at the centre. As teachers, we should have a deep educational and philosophical understanding of what is important and ask more questions to assess both our values and the value of everything we ask of children. Perhaps we need to redefine concepts of success and failure, competition and cooperation, value emotional intelligence over A grades, encourage creativity and promote the Arts. There is a direct correlation between lack of provision in dance, drama, music and art and decline in mental health of students. In my opinion, building self esteem is probably the most important thing we have the opportunity to do. So much of what we ask of students works against that - we set them up to fail and they ‘earn’ a C label that will probably stick with them for life. Examining what we, as adults really believe and value, throwi... View full comment
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Manjulata Pandey
May 15, 2024
So beautifully conveyed... Grace is the basis of 'comfort- conversations'. Dignity of individual learner can't rest, just, on number game. Sense of pride and achievement need to be associated with values and strength of character.
One of my students was unable to cope with the subjects. His sincerity and hardwork would make me sad at times.
I would leave no situation to encourage and convince him ' how valuable human being he was.' With time, we developed good understanding. I helped him to dwell deeper and reflect upon the goal of education and upskilling in life.
Fortunately, I could work from scratch with him and the parents too agreed to stand by the child. The student repeated the year and moved on with good grades.
Maturity of thoughts, experiences and dash of encouragement is the essence of growing and learning.
Let all be allowed to grow with grace.
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Jennine
Apr 3, 2024
I am not a teacher, but a mother to a precious 7 year old boy. Logan passed first grade but his reading and writing was not on par and he would have struggled to keep up with the faster pace of 2nd grade. So his then teacher, dad and I made the decision of letting him repeat 1st grade and he displayed the highest grades ever and the year has only bbegun.
The grace conversations we had with Logan to encurrage him, was telling him that he is not stupid or slow but a super hero because super hero's don't back down from a fight, they stand up, dust themselves off and try again. They fight until the battle is won.
This is what I beleave gave Logan the strength and currage to face repeating the grade wile his friends moved on to 2nd grade.
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Aastha A Kanodia
Mar 27, 2024
So nicely put, Marks does not decide an individual’s worth. But since childhood we have been known through our marks/grades. I also lived that childhood, I was looked down for scoring low grades and failing at exams by my teachers, parents, extended family members. My worth was not by how kind or helpful i was but how my grades were. No one was being Graceful to me or to the children who scored less marks or failed. This impression stayed with me for really long. Where my confidence was dependent on the grades i get not just in exams but in life - by people i meet, people i teach, people i become friends with, everywhere. My worth was not in my hands but in the hands of others. Before saying anything before doing anything i would think 10 times. The fear of ‘What if I am wrong? I will be humiliated?’ Stays with me, even today. But now when I understand how marks are not everything. It is difficult for me to make that shift in my mind for myself. But I, for sure, make th... View full comment
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Bavna
Mar 26, 2024
Is this professor Francis Su ( and not Frances)?
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Bruce Wild
Mar 26, 2024
The application of grace is essential within the special education classroom. Failure is not an option within a specified IEP. Each student is treated as a learner who performs at various levels in all subjects; it's the creative teacher who designs the delivery of content to assist with student's acquisition of concepts and ideas. In this manner, there's always a spark of learning and because of this, a passing "grade" can be achieved. This kind of education allows all students to feel a sense of self-worth and paves the way to future success. A
DD
Mar 22, 2024
My view: God appears as all that is. The essence of each of us is God. God being and doing that is God's grace. Our grace is living accordingly and recognizing the God essence of all. Dignity is the quality of being worthy of honor and respect, and God being the essence of each of us certainly gives us that dignity. Some traditions recognize that, such as the tradition of saying 'namaste' or 'I honor God in you'. Conversing from dignity, that is, from I and the other being worthy of honor and respect, facilitates the conversation being productive. When I relate in that way, I affirm the dignity of the other. What helps me honor and respect the dignity of others including of those who aren't doing well is remembering and seeing that the essence of each of us is God.
CH
Mar 22, 2024
Honoring dignity of those who aren't doing well is something I try bring my highest awareness to.

The author said "So if my students know in their bones that I have given them a dignity that is independent of their performance, then I can have honest conversations with them about their performance. "

This is the key! People don't care what you know until they know that you care.

I had an experience with one of my children when they had engaged in especially unskillful behavior. I explained to that child that they were loved and would always have a home to come home to. I explained there was no behavior that could cause separation between them and me.

I think they were shocked they didn't get reprimanded.

Corrective teaching came over the next few days. Consequences came as well, heavy ones.

But we led with love and belonging first. The fruit of this seemed to be trust.
JP
Mar 21, 2024
I love and value this thought provoking passage written by Francis Su. When I was studying in a college my teacher who was also a poet was teaching us the difference between the sinful action of a person and the person who did that action. He cited a line from his poem in my mother tongue Gujarati: Tu papasathe nava papi marto..Condemn the sin, not the sinner. We all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. How do I relate to my mistake, my shortcoming makes a big difference. Do I put myself down and humiliate myself for the mistake I have done or do I assess my mistake and do not equate my mistake with me as a person? In the same way how do I relate to the mistake made by someone like my family member or my friend or by my student? I would assess what the other person did, his action, and not him as a person. Relationships break down when we condemn the other person. Relationships survive and thrive when we relate to our mistakes and the mistakes of other persons truthfully, empatheti... View full comment