The Day I Learned Giving

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El día que aprendí a dar
--por Dan Clark

Una vez, cuando era adolescente, mi padre y yo estábamos haciendo cola para comprar entradas para el circo.

Finalmente, solo quedaba una familia entre nosotros y la taquilla. Esa familia me causó una gran impresión.

Eran ocho niños, probablemente todos menores de 12 años. Por su forma de vestir, se notaba que no tenían mucho dinero, pero su ropa estaba pulcra y limpia.

Los niños se portaban bien, todos de pie en fila, de dos en dos detrás de sus padres, tomados de la mano. Charlaban emocionados sobre los payasos, los animales y todos los espectáculos que verían esa noche. Por su entusiasmo, se notaba que nunca habían ido al circo. Sería un momento inolvidable en sus vidas.

El padre y la madre iban a la cabeza del grupo, de pie, orgullosos como nunca. La madre cogía de la mano a su marido, mirándolo como diciendo: "Eres mi caballero de brillante armadura". Él sonreía y disfrutaba viendo a su familia feliz.

La taquillera le preguntó al hombre cuántas entradas quería. Él respondió con orgullo: "Quiero comprar ocho entradas para niños y dos para adultos, para poder llevar a mi familia al circo". La taquillera indicó el precio.

La esposa del hombre le soltó la mano, bajó la cabeza y al hombre le temblaron los labios. Entonces se acercó un poco más y preguntó: "¿Cuánto ha dicho?". La taquillera volvió a indicar el precio.

El hombre no tenía suficiente dinero. ¿Cómo se suponía que iba a decirles a sus ocho hijos que no tenía suficiente dinero para llevarlos al circo?

Al ver lo que pasaba, mi padre metió la mano en el bolsillo, sacó un billete de 20 dólares y lo dejó caer al suelo. (¡No éramos ricos ni de lejos!) Mi padre se agachó, recogió el billete de 20 dólares, le dio una palmadita en el hombro al hombre y dijo: «Disculpe, señor, se le cayó esto del bolsillo».

El hombre comprendió lo que estaba pasando. No estaba pidiendo limosna, pero sin duda agradecía la ayuda en una situación desesperada, desgarradora y embarazosa.

Miró a mi padre directamente a los ojos, tomó su mano entre las suyas, apretó con fuerza el billete de 20 dólares y, con el labio tembloroso y una lágrima rodando por su mejilla, respondió: «Gracias, gracias, señor. Esto significa mucho para mí y mi familia».

Mi padre y yo volvimos al coche y condujimos a casa. Los 20 dólares que mi padre regaló eran con los que íbamos a comprar nuestras entradas.

Aunque no pudimos ver el circo esa noche, ambos sentimos una alegría interior mucho mayor que la que ver el circo podría proporcionar.

Ese día aprendí el valor de Dar.

Quien da es más grande que quien recibe. Si quieres ser grande, más grande que la vida, aprende a dar. El amor no tiene nada que ver con lo que esperas recibir, sino con lo que esperas dar, que lo es todo.

Nunca se insistirá demasiado en la importancia de dar y de bendecir a los demás, porque siempre hay alegría en dar. Aprende a hacer feliz a alguien con actos de generosidad.



Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Qué opinas de la idea de que puede haber algo significativo que experimentar cuando damos de nuestra parte de la vida? Al contemplar la delgada línea entre ofrecer ayuda y respetar la dignidad, ¿Cómo gestionas la donación de una manera que satisfaga tanto las necesidades como el orgullo? ¿Qué te ayuda a ver la oportunidad de dar de tu parte como algo mayor que la oportunidad de guardarla para ti?
De "Caldo de pollo para el alma".
Seed Questions for Reflection

What do you make of the notion that there can be something meaningful to experience when we give from our own share of life. Contemplating the fine line between offering help and respecting dignity, how do you navigate giving in a way that supports both needs and pride? What helps you see the opportunity to give from your own share as greater than the opportunity to keep your share to yourself?

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28 Past Reflections
US
Nov 15, 2025
The Day I Learned Giving We are the culmination of the experiences we gather, shaped by the vigour and attitude with which we approach life’s journey. Even when people go through similar experiences, each of us may still choose a different path. We all believe our chosen path is right—yet ultimately, only time is the true judge. I was fortunate to have a protector in my life. Whenever I strayed toward a path that might lead me astray, an incident would arise that quietly guided me back. My dad always believed in giving, though it did not make sense to me then. When I was still in school, he asked me to tutor his friend’s two sons for free because their family was going through financial hardship. I accepted, though unwillingly, and continued doing it for a couple of years. One day, I overheard one of the boys speaking ill of my dad. When I questioned him, the truth spilled out—shocking and unbelievable. For a moment, I thought I had misheard him. He called my dad a fool, an... View full comment
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Siti Hardiyanti
Nov 7, 2025
When we give something that is truly ours ( time, money, or care) it means more because we make a choice to share what we value. It shows love and kindness. The story teaches that real happiness doesn’t come from what we get, but from what we give. Even though the father and son didn’t see the circus, they felt full of joy because their giving brought happiness to others. When we help someone, it’s important to make them still feel respected and not ashamed. The father in the story did this beautifully, he didn’t make the man feel embarrassed. He helped in a quiet, gentle way by pretending the money had fallen. That shows that true giving is not about showing power, but about showing respect and care. When we keep everything for ourselves, the happiness stays small. But when we give, the happiness grows. It spreads to others and comes back to us in another way. Knowing that our kindness can make someone’s life brighter helps us see that sharing gives our life mor... View full comment
TS
Oct 31, 2025
This story really touched me. It reminded me that giving from our own share, even when it means letting go of something we want, carries a special kind of meaning. It’s easy to give when we have extra, but when we share what’s ours — what we might need too — it becomes an act of love that stays with us. I remember one evening in the hostel when one of my friends wasn’t feeling well. She hadn’t eaten all day because she couldn’t go to the mess, and I had just one packet of Maggie left — the one I had saved for late-night snack. For a second, I hesitated, but then I made it for her. We both sat together talking and laughing while she ate, and somehow, I felt happier than if I had eaten it myself. That small moment reminded me that giving doesn’t reduce what we have — it multiplies the warmth around us. When it comes to helping others, I feel it’s important to do it in a way that respects their dignity. Everyone wants to feel capable and not dependent, so I’v... View full comment
JO
Oct 31, 2025
I love the Bible’s words/message … that it is in giving that we receive. So that, in dying we are born to so very much more! Give!
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Richard
Oct 29, 2025
A wonderful story. Thank you very much!
JT
Oct 28, 2025
It’s always someone else’s turn to receive and for us to see that, step out of the way and give freely. Pay forward, pay backward, just give and serve and see the need and grow a garden of compassion. The world has always needed that.
DA
Oct 28, 2025
Such a beautiful story. Touches my heart
JS
Jan Shaw
Oct 28, 2025
We can all learn from this touching story!
RT
Oct 28, 2025
Really nice story.
CT
Oct 28, 2025
I have lived in Guatemala for twenty years, one of the poorest countries in the world. I have given and given and given, and all I got was people lying, cheating and stealing from me, from the moment I "gave." Once you "give" anything here, they come back for more, knowing you are "hooked." They have no respect for you at that point, as you are now a "MARK." It took me twenty years to practically LOSE EVERYTHING from people I had known for eight, ten or twenty years to find out they had been lying and stealing from me the ENTIRE TIME and I bought all the "sad stories" while they build large houses, lived well, and had more money than me. It was a terrible lesson and one that I have yet to recover from. I believed my whole life in 'GIVING" but I have learned the HARD WAY it's a fool's errand to "give" and "try to help" and so has anyone, any gringo, who has lived in a corrupt country with a corrupt culture like this one. I wish someone would or could explain to me how this "gi... View full comment
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A Oct 30, 2025
I am sorry that happened to you and am in agreement that people take advantage of others. I have seen that in my partners siblings calling with a sad story over and over expecting a bank. However I think the point is to only give when your heart is aligned with it. Don't enable people but only strengthen their resolve to get back on their feet. My Mom had a choice to go on welfare but I cried and told her no because I only knew those who stayed on it and didn't attempt to do better. I have a Master's Degree and $75,000 debt but I love my job a Not-for profit where I would have been forgiven in 2 years. I will die with debt but I was given an opportunity that in turn helps others on a daily basis.
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David Doane Nov 4, 2025
I think being deceived can be the beginning of being embittered, can be the end of naive trust, can be the beginning of increased trusting self, and can make for increased strength and wisdom, and is often all that. I think the lesson learned is valuable, though the way of learning it can be painful. I think giving can do good when I trust me and take care of me first and am as good at saying "no" as saying "yes." In the culture you were in, I may have struggled as much as you.
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Usha Nov 15, 2025
I can only say, give only as much as you can afford, not to go down. Give to them whom you expect no return then you know how much you can actually afford to give. I am really sorry about the worst thing that happened to you. Again, giving is not only monetary. One can give moral support, physical help or other kind. Giving makes our world beautiful and better place to live. Giving is a hope.
AP
Oct 28, 2025
And the happiness gets compounded, when the Giving gets linked with a personal sacrifice.
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Jo Oct 31, 2025
Amen Anil! Amen!
NB
Oct 28, 2025
The true Giver in this story is the man who dropped his pride to receive the money without a fight. How many of you would say "Oh no. I can't take this!" first, out of humbleness, politeness, embarrassment....Be honest, our customs have trained us a certain way. The Author and his father receieved a hugely powerful gift BECAUSE the man allowed them to give. Givers are not bigger than Receivers. They are one in the same.
JT
Oct 28, 2025
This made me cry with joy, thank you. This story reminded me of a kind act that happened recently. My 12-year-old daughter and I were at the airport, and my husband had given her the change he had in his pocket. As we were standing in a long line to enter the plane, she looked at me and said, "I am going to drop the quarters on the ground so that kids will feel lucky today when they find them." The line started moving, and I looked back, and there was a smiling child as he found the quarters on the ground. I told Aria to look back, and she did and smiled. It was the sweetest gesture to create a "lucky day" for a child who had no idea she purposely dropped those quarters to make their day a little brighter.
ST
Oct 28, 2025
Ahhhh- can't respond intellectually to this sweet story- just crying with joy and grief- mahalo
CA
Oct 28, 2025
There is a story from Mark Nepo, life of a caretaker, see this gift so I can see myself as giving. Sometimes we give something and it mirrors their own inadequacy, and the response is not gratitude it is sadness Intention gives the giver its response,
AR
Oct 28, 2025
Beautiful story. And I agree about giving but also disagree that the giver is bigger than the receiver. I directed a service exchange and the greatest beauty I saw was when one who thought they needed nothing allowed and appreciated another to do service for them …allowing the person who was always on the receiver end to be the giver!
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B. Bowling
Oct 28, 2025
In recovery...freely given...freely received....freely passed on.
RM
Oct 28, 2025
When we give willingly from our own share — out of free will and without any compulsion — it expands our heart. The satisfaction we feel is far greater than what we would have experienced by consuming it ourselves. There is something magical in such giving. But when giving is forced or done under pressure, it leaves us feeling deprived rather than fulfilled.

True giving must flow from the heart, without any expectation of return. Only then does it uphold both the need and the dignity of the receiver. Our own heart tells us whether our giving was selfish, compelled, or truly willful. A willful act of giving brings immediate joy — it carries no pain.

When a sense of oneness, born of love for all, fills our heart, we begin to see that the opportunity to give from our share is far greater than the temptation to keep it for ourselves.
B
Oct 28, 2025
I teared up as well reading this story of giving. So beautiful in how he was so quick to act with placing the $20 on the ground and then picking it up to offer to the other family. I am not that quick with thought and would've probably just offered the money but he spare this gentleman his dignity. Such a heartwarming story of love and compassion in giving.
DD
Oct 24, 2025
I believe giving is its own reward, and the more the giving is giving from our own share of life the greater is the reward. Giving that provides little reward is giving that is not from our own share of life or giving of that which is inconsequential to me. Giving that supports both needs and pride is giving that truly helps the other, is giving that is respectful, is giving of that which the other needs and can't do for self or doesn't know how to do for self, is giving that empowers and doesn't disempower, and is giving that lifts the other and doesn't put down the other. What helps me see opportunities to give is the reward I receive in giving, seeing the other's joy and gratitude when I give something helpful, seeing that giving benefits both the giver and the receiver, and the emptiness and regret I feel when I pass up an opportunity to give.
JP
Oct 23, 2025
Giving unconditional love is receiving a joyful and grateful gift. This wonderful story written by Dan Clerk has deeply touched my heart. We spend a lot of money buying things which we may not need. And there are many people who may not have enough money to meet their daily needs and to enjoy the simple things of life. There are also people who find great joy by helping and serving others. As I was growing up in a relatively poor family my friends from relatively rich families would come to our house at lunch time. My mother will offer them simple inexpensive chapatis-bread. It was a gift from her heart. My friends loved to come to eat such simple food. My mother used to say the simple food offered from her heart tasted sweeter and more fulfilling to her. I will never forget seeing deep joy in her eyes. And she taught us that deep contentment and joy comes from serving others unconditionally. I am very grateful to her for offering such precious gifts to me from her loving heart. ... View full comment
VC
Oct 23, 2025
This story brought tears to my eyes. So much good in our world. I love the way in this story the man's dignity was preserved.....what a wise father, to understand that need as being as important as the need for the money for the tickets. I sense not only was the man able to take his family to the circus but also felt a deep sense of belonging and loving care. True service from the heart.......