As Way Opens

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A medida que se abra
--por Carrie Newcomer



Últimamente he estado pensando en la frase tradicional cuáquera: "Continúe según se abra el camino".



Proceder a medida que se abra el camino o A medida que se abra el camino, es un estímulo para vivir con una especie de intencionalidad y voluntad de “estar” con una pregunta o decisión en lugar de saltar a una acción precipitada por pánico o presión. Esta idea va en contra de nuestra cultura que considera fuerte y deseable la toma de decisiones rápidas y decisivas. Pero con el concepto de A medida que se abre el camino, aunque haya ocasiones en las que las decisiones son urgentes, todavía puede haber una pausa, una manera de consultar con nuestro corazón y con nuestro propio conocimiento profundo.



Para mí, la frase apunta a experimentar el tiempo como algo santo, algo que puede ampliarse con la presencia. En esa pausa puedo sentir mejor cuando algo me parece bien en el fondo o puedo prestar atención y hacer buenas preguntas cuando algo no me parece bien. Abrirme al concepto de pausa no es un llamado a la pasividad, sino más bien un impulso para consultar activamente con mi corazón. A veces lo más difícil no es saltar a “hacer” o arreglar, sino “estar” conscientemente con la pregunta, darse tiempo para sentarse con lo que no está claro, es incierto o incómodo. La música es dinámica en su uso del silencio y el sonido. Sin pausa la música sería caos y cacofonía. En la música, y creo en la vida, la pausa es activa y tiene un propósito importante. Por eso aprecio mucho la práctica detrás de la frase “A medida que se abre el camino


Recuerdo que a mitad de mi carrera musical me sentí bastante golpeada por el negocio de la música. Decidí volver a la escuela de posgrado para estudiar teología y psicología. Solicité ingreso a un seminario de gran prestigio y fui aceptada en el programa. En lugar de empezar directamente las clases, me las arreglé para que pasara un año antes de que comenzaran los cursos. Pasé ese año explorando por qué hago música y qué puede aportar la música. Hice un álbum benéfico que recibió muchas críticas y un par de proyectos que se centraban deliberadamente en la música como servicio, un vehículo para la curación y una expresión de experiencia espiritual. Al final del año, ir a la escuela de posgrado simplemente no me parecía bien, el camino no se había abierto. No sabía exactamente cómo sería el camino a seguir, pero tenía una mejor idea de cómo inclinarme más intencionalmente en lo que significaba para mí la música y la creación de arte. Estoy agradecida de haber tardado un año en tomar esa decisión y marcó un cambio. El camino no se abrió y por eso no continué por ese camino.



Parker J. Palmer contó una historia en su maravilloso libro Let Your Life Speak, sobre una anciana cuáquera que le explicó en un momento importante: “Una puerta abierta y una puerta cerrada son la misma cosa. Ambas te envían en una dirección”. Proceder según se abre el camino significa que la vida tiene un ritmo santo.



Sí, el planeta se está calentando y están ocurriendo terribles injusticias y guerras, la democracia está en peligro. Pero cuando me permito una pausa, puedo seguir adelante cimentado en lo que amo y no en lo que temo. También he sabido que cuando me lancé a tomar una decisión que en el fondo sabía que no era la correcta, pero que me vi obligada a tomarla por miedo o pánico, impaciencia o ego, nunca salió tan bien.



Es una frase sencilla que se abre camino. Pero no siempre es tan sencillo vivirlo. Pero la sabiduría de la pausa interior ha sido bastante consistente.



Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la noción de vivir según el dicho "A medida que se abre el camino"? ¿Puedes compartir una historia personal de alguna vez en la que evitaste las prisas y esperaste a que se abriera el camino? ¿Qué te ayuda a esperar a que se abra el camino?



Carrie Newcomer es compositora, artista discográfica, intérprete, educadora y activista.
Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion of living by the dictum 'as way opens'? Can you share a personal story of a time you avoided rushing and waited for the way to open? What helps you wait for the way to open?

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18 Past Reflections
JD
Mar 15, 2024
I reflected on the phrase "Proceed as way opens or As way opens".

To me, this does not only encourage me to take a pause and listen to my heart. I would say, that the phrase means it makes more sense to proceed when the way is free of obstacles. It would be a lot easier to proceed if the way is open. One can also of course open the door or the gate.

It is something like, if a fruit is ripe, not only will it be easier to pluck, but if it is ready for picking, "the way is open", it will taste much better.
NI
Mar 14, 2024
This wonderful piece inspired a poem. The poem describes that' a pause' is only a loud moment in my being. Spiritual it may be, the wonderous pause, all it is, is a note in my own melody. But silence, that is all there is, and ever will be. It's this melody of silence that the cosmos sings. Lately, I am glee, knowing I ‘am’ my own doom. Ah, a way I long for - A pause, I hope, A moment, I pray, A breath is all. Doom Doom. What is the noise? I long… All these things they just happen, I experience… Doom—Doom. Aha, so it’s me? I experience? I long, I hope, I wait… While I entertain the chatter, In my experience it stays. I am my own doom. As long as I am - The roars will grow and pause and grow. But they will always be - The search is vain, and in vain. Now I know I never need to wear a frown- I am my own doom. Doom doom I end, A moment I was Now silence is all. Silence can be. Cause silence always was. Lately, I am glee, knowi... View full comment
KH
Mar 14, 2024
This nicely describes something I've been feeling my way towards, without knowing exactly what I was shooting for. I very much like this concept; it ties in nicely with other things I've learned along the way in my recovery, like "sitting with feelings" and trying not to force things into a shape I want and becoming frustrated when they don't "co-operate," but letting them unfold and being alert to opportunities for active input; exerting influence where I can and watching for further developments. Getting out of my own way, in short. Thanks for beautifully articulating what I couldn't.
NI
Mar 13, 2024
The wonderful writing inspired this poem. The poem tells me pause is just me, a loud moment of me. The Silence, now she IS, and that's all there is...

Lately, I am glee, knowing I ‘am’ my own doom.
Doom Doom.
Ah, way I long for-
A pause, I hope,
A moment I pray,
A breath is all.

What is the noise?
I long...
All these things they just happen,
I experience.

Aha, so its me? I experience?
I long, I hope, I wait
While I entertain the chatter- in my experience, it stays.

I am my own doom.
As long as I am; the roars will grow and pause and grow.
But they will always be
Now I know I never need to wear a frown,
I am my own doom.

Doom-doom , I end, a moment-
Now silence is all.
Silence can be.
Cause silence always was.
Lately, I am glee, knowing I ‘am’ my own doom.
VA
Varuna Apr 19, 2024
wonderful poem, Nithya
KP
Mar 12, 2024
This especially resonated: "when I allow myself the pause then I can move forward grounded in what I love and not what I fear." I've often had the tendency to leap into life following intuition, entering open doors without much pause. It's only been in the last 4 years, I've really allowed a longer pause to do as Carrie so beautifully expressed, pause. Last year I went on a personal pilgrimage to try to ascertain next chapter of my life. My work is 99% remote do I had the opportunity to travel and sit with myself in different locations including house & cat sitting in Anchor Point Alaska for 2 months last summer. This was somewhat remote. The view put the window was the Aleutian Mountains across a sliver of Kachemak Bay. Every day I sat for hours looking at the mountains, observing the visiting pair of Sandhill Cranes, watching the light change. Going for quiet walks on the gravel road. This pause helped me to truly slow down to introspect, to assess my life. To ask questions, w... View full comment
YV
Mar 12, 2024
Such profound guidance. As Lao Tzu wrote: Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving till the right action arises by itself?”. I am personally going through a period of pausing as I face a closed door and the new direction it is pointing me to. I have found regular meditation to be helpful in being with the uncertainty, the discomfort and the lack of clarity at this point in my life. To just be. I am learning to listen to my heart instead of being reactive, going into a panic. Meditation has really helped!!!!
TE
Ted
Mar 12, 2024
Living by the dictum "as way opens" can be a powerful guiding principle in navigating life's uncertainties and challenges. It involves staying open to possibilities, being patient, and trusting that the right path will reveal itself in due time. One personal story that comes to mind is when I was considering a career change. Instead of rushing into a decision, I took the time to reflect on my passions, strengths, and values. I resisted the urge to jump into the next available opportunity and instead allowed myself to explore different options, network with people in various industries, and wait for the right opportunity to present itself. It was a period of uncertainty and waiting, but ultimately, the perfect job opportunity came my way when I least expected it, aligning perfectly with my interests and goals. What helped me wait for the way to open during that time was practicing mindfulness, staying connected to my intuition, seeking guidance from mentors and trusted friends, a... View full comment
JE
Mar 12, 2024
I have never heard of this and can think of two times in my early life (I'm now 67), when it would have served me well.
At 16 I thought I would become a doctor, but failed biology O level. The teacher was uninspiring as was the course. If I'd paused, I might have retaken and passed, keeping the door open.

The second time was going to university to study law at my father’s direction. I dropped out.
I should have paused, taken a year out to find my path. I didn't and my work life since has been aimless and unfulfilling.
VE
verakrohn
Mar 11, 2024
Like I finally understand how it all applies to me/we! 2024
FD
Mar 9, 2024
"There is a crack in everything.. thats how the Light gets in" . Leonard Cohen. (Anthem)
CH
Mar 8, 2024
Trust helps me wait for the way to open.

Trust in self
Trust in process
Trust in higher power

Years ago I began to hold an intention to "let the moment inform me of what is needed and what comes next"

This is my "pause"

This allowed me to behave as needed and not in some predetermined fashion.

As the writer says this pause and intention allows time to expand.
EI
Mar 7, 2024
Science has been my passion since I was a little girl. I earned good grades in school and broke a 75-year-old record in chemistry in my college with my scores. Everyone thought it was my field, until, I paused and realised that I wasn't really enjoying something I was brilliant at. I took a year off. My parents panicked because in India it's not common. Then I enrolled in a journalism course and figured I could write on the sciences for a wider audience. 20 years down the line, I again paused, for there wasn't a way open for people who weren't drawn into the the rapidly partitioning media. I have been a bird watcher for 23 years. I wrote my first science paper in two decades and presented it at a conference on sustainability in a roomful of economists! People in business talked about birds. The way has opened.
DD
David Doane Mar 12, 2024
Your story seems beautiful, profound, and courageous, that is, that you had the courage to change course based on listening to yourself and what was right for you and the way opened. Thanks for sharing.
DB
Mar 7, 2024
Nicely put. This is similar to the idea of "support", of choosing our path based in part on how others and the world are responding to our actions. Is the way supported? Is it going (relatively) smoothly? Or are there road-blocks? If there are blocks, are they a signal to seek a different route? Or are they places we need to work through so support can flow? What is the feel or flavour of the block?

Life has a flow to it. If we can step into the flow of life, we'll find surprising support shows up to help us progress in all areas of life.
DD
David Doane Mar 12, 2024
I like your connection to 'support'. I'm thinking when there is lack of support for who a person really is, that is a major lack that is difficult to deal with.
JP
Mar 7, 2024
The first sentence of the passage written by Carrie Newman says a lot about keeping the mind and heart open to the unfolding reality. "Proceed as the way opens" . This Quaker saying is an encouragement to live with a kind of intentionality and willingness to "be" with intention and willingness to "be" with a question or decision rather than jump to a rash action out of panic or pressure." This is a counter cultural idea of jumping to a rash action or decision out of panic or pressure. It is a wise way of living to listen to the music birthing in our quiet and awakened mind with an open and compassionate heart. As Parker J Palmer says,'' Let your life speak and you listen." An open and closed door are the same. They both send us a direction. It's up to us which way to go. Proceeding as a way opens means that life has a holy rhythm that brings us together to sing a song of humanity. When I walk in nature connecting myself quietly with the natural wonders of the world, when I pay my... View full comment
DD
Mar 7, 2024
There definitely are times I have waited too long, and times I have jumped to rash action. When I listen to my inner truth or voice and take action in accordance with my inner truth, I take action 'as way opens' and am just right, not waiting too long or too little. This involves intentionality in terms of my intending to listen to my inner truth, not intentionality in terms of trying to control what the outcome will be. I've noticed in the simple process of interacting, when I avoid rushing in to say my opinion and I wait for an opening that feels right which sometimes is when my opinion is asked for, for me that is functioning 'as way opens' and the interaction is more positive and fruitful than when I rush in. What helps me wait for the way to open is trusting my inner experience, being in harmony with myself, trusting the process, and not pushing or forcing or being outcome-directed.