Sharing Someone Else's Wound

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Die Wunde eines anderen teilen
--von Ariel Burger

Mein Sohn war auf einer Reise, einem semesterlangen Programm in Israel, und dann reisten sie für 10 Tage nach Polen. Während dieses Programms lernte er einen guten Freund kennen, einen neuen Freund namens Mason. Als sie in Polen ankamen, besichtigten sie einige der Zentren des jüdischen Lebens vor dem Krieg und besuchten auch die Lager. Am dritten oder vierten Tag ihres Aufenthalts in Polen verschwand Mason für einen Tag mit einem der Betreuer des Programms.

Als er zurückkam, erzählte er meinem Sohn eine Geschichte. Er sagte: „Meine Großeltern waren Überlebende. Sie hatten drei Wochen vor der Deportation nach Auschwitz geheiratet. Und in Auschwitz wurden sie natürlich getrennt, und er ging jeden Abend zum Zaun, der die Männer- und die Frauenseite des Lagers trennte, um ihr eine Brotkruste oder eine zusätzliche Kartoffel zu bringen, wenn er konnte, oder auch nur, um sie zu sehen.

„Bis meine Großmutter“, sagt er, ‚in eine Kaninchenfarm am Rande von Auschwitz gebracht wurde‘. Die Nazis führten dort Experimente an Kaninchen durch, um ein Mittel gegen Typhus zu finden. „Die Kaninchenfarm wurde von einem polnischen Mann betrieben, der ziemlich früh bemerkte, dass die Kaninchen besseres Futter und bessere Pflege bekamen als die jüdischen Sklavenarbeiter. Also begann er, den jüdischen Sklavenarbeitern und den Häftlingen heimlich Futter zu geben.

„Und dann“, erzählte Mason meinem Sohn, “hat sich meine Großmutter an einem Stück Stacheldraht in den Arm geschnitten, und die Wunde hat sich infiziert. Und es war keine ernsthafte Infektion, wenn man Antibiotika hatte. Aber natürlich hatte man als Jude an diesem Ort und in dieser Zeit keine Chance, Antibiotika zu bekommen. Was tat also dieser polnische Mann, der die Kaninchenfarm betrieb? Er schnitt sich selbst den Arm auf und legte seine Wunde auf ihre Wunde, um die gleiche Infektion wie sie zu bekommen, und infizierte sich selbst. Und er ging zu den Nazis und sagte: „Ich bin einer eurer besten Manager. Diese Kaninchenfarm ist sehr produktiv. Wenn ich sterbe, werdet ihr eine Menge Produktivität verlieren. Ich brauche Medizin.' Sie gaben ihm die Medizin, und er teilte sie mit ihr. Und er hat ihr das Leben gerettet.“

Also sagte Mason zu meinem Sohn: „Wo war ich, als ich neulich wegging und verschwand? Ich war bei diesem polnischen Mann. Er ist noch am Leben und lebt am Stadtrand von Warschau, und ich wollte ihm sagen: Danke für mein Leben. Danke für mein Leben.“

Mein Sohn hat mir diese Geschichte dieses Jahr erzählt, und sie wirft eine Menge Fragen auf: Was braucht es, um die Art von Mensch zu sein, die die Wunde eines anderen teilt, trotz all des Drucks, ihn als weniger wertvoll als ein Kaninchen zu betrachten? Was braucht es, um gegen all diesen Druck anzukämpfen und das Richtige zu tun, mit Mut und moralischer Klarheit, und einen anderen Menschen als Person zu sehen, wenn alles um einen herum einem sagt, dass man es nicht tun soll?

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Fragen zum Nachdenken: Wie stehen Sie zu der Vorstellung, die Wunde eines anderen Menschen mit Mut und moralischer Klarheit zu teilen? Können Sie eine persönliche Geschichte erzählen, in der Sie einen Schlag eingesteckt haben, um das Los eines weniger glücklichen Menschen zu verbessern, oder in der jemand einen Schlag für Sie eingesteckt hat, um Ihr Los zu verbessern? Was hilft Ihnen, sich dem Druck zu widersetzen und eine andere Person als Mensch zu sehen, wenn alles um Sie herum Ihnen sagt, dass Sie das nicht tun sollen?

Ariel Buger ist Autor und Gründer des Witness Institute. Ein Auszug aus hier.
Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion of sharing someone else's wound with courage and moral clarity? Can you share a personal story of a time you took a hit to improve the lot of someone less fortunate, or someone took a hit for you to improve your lot? What helps you push against pressure and see another person as a person when everything around you is telling you not to?

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15 Past Reflections
SU
Dec 11, 2024
What a great teaching and learning story about helping people ..beautiful .. thank you for sharing.
BR
Bridget
Dec 10, 2024
Sharing someone else's wound and healing that wound through yours does not come to a reality just by a day's choice... its through a mind set formed, value upheld and life shared for years placing the other more important than you it happen... it becomes part of one's life ..thought ..perspectives and a"normal choice" ... though others might call it "madness". But that madness becomes part of your life so much that it becomes the purpose of your being and gives meaning to your existence . I am a person working with the tribal communities of Maharashtra for last 13 to 14 years where giving, placing them first and sharing their wounds becomes natural to.me today and I believe it is so because I have been groomed and grown in such eco systems from childhood seeing my parents and dear ones living the same value ... in this living I have lost my health, taken decisions which would go beyond my comfort zones and security and the full knowledge that you don't receive nothing in return ev... View full comment
SS
Dec 10, 2024
I have yet to think about this deeply enough to relate a story of my own. But I just spent the wee hours this morning finishing reading a historical novel, The Shape of Mercy by Susan Meissner, about the Salem Witch Trials. The main character, Mercy Hayworth, is based on the real story of a the 20th girl who was meant to be hanged in 1692 on September 22. It is a remarkable story about another courageous person (like the Rabbit Farmer in your story) acting with moral clarity, even while it cost them so much. And now, with Mass Deportations threatening us in the US, can I prepare to act on my clarity that injustice towards "others" is mine to respond to as well.
MS
Michelle Scott
Dec 10, 2024
It takes coming from your heart & soul, and quieting the conditioned mind. And compassion for those that don't understand this, yet.
ST
Dec 9, 2024
Wow!! powerful story- I would like to believe I would have done the same. I do not know. I did have family in Nazi concentration camps and some survived. I never heard any story about who helped them survive. The first memory I had with the prompt of "taking the hit" was from my high school football practice. I was a senior and one of the coaches in my opinion was treating a sophomore player badly, verbally abusing him. I spoke up for the kid that the coach was being overly rough with. When thew coach got me alone in the locker room he slammed me against a locker and told me to never question his authority again. I am 75 now and Neil the other kid is 73 and we still have a sweet warm friendship and we reconnected with the coach who we discovered thru facebook had come to grips with his alcoholism and runs rehab programs still in his 80's. Another part of my life , a few years later. I had hitch hiked across US several times and had mostly wonderful experiences and successful free ... View full comment
DD
David Doane Dec 10, 2024
Beautiful and meaningful stories and examples -- thank you.
SU
Susan Dec 10, 2024
Thank you for standing up for that fellow athlete and for continuing to live your life this way.
SH
shyam Dec 13, 2024
Thankyou for standing up for someone weaker than you , against someone stronger than you. It requires courage and inner strength to do such a thing
SH
Dec 8, 2024
What the Polish man did was almost an ulimate act of kindness. Nothing near , but I can share an incident. A small boy had a recurrent blood cancer and I had received a random call for blood donation . I went to donate blood but my age was more 60 and I was not allowed to donate. I did meet the boy and his father , developed an instant connect and explained and helped a bit financially too. A week later I got a call that I could donate blood platelets and for that age limit was 65. I went and donated . For blood platelet donation the minimum gap between donations is 15 days. Again got a call after 20 days and i again donated. Third time i got a call after 12 days. He said the requirement was super urgent . I knew it was a bit dangerous but seeing the condition I donated. That night I did feel the chills . Could not tell my family as they would never allow such a thing. Some how I managed to get well the next day. The joy it gives us when we do something which is ... View full comment
SU
Susan Dec 10, 2024
Wow, this is a beautiful example of how to respond, even when it entails risk to oneself (but not "stupid" I'd say). Thank you!
PA
Dec 7, 2024
Profound! The farmer went beyond Sympathy and Empathy for the woman to Compassionately BE with the woman in navigating the situation that must have caused intense trauma to her. I am learning to practice giving any form of wealth that I possess, but have a long way to go before I hope to have an example that might compare to this farmer's compassionate action. Giving from an abundant supply when you intuit that you have more than you need is a good act, but it is still an example of treating them as an Other (than oneself). Going "All In!" and joining the troubled person is truly heroic!
JP
Dec 6, 2024
This is heart touching real story. Yes, we need courage and moral clarity for sharing someone else's wound. Sadly, the world I live in, many people discriminate against others on the grounds of race, color and religion forgetting the we all are children of God regardless of differences. I deeply believe in equality and oneness regardless of differences. This attitude of equanimity and compassion helps me to be connected with people different from me. It is not always easy for me to stay on this path. But I am sincerely trying to follow this spiritual path. I need to keep the light of empathy and compassion shining to help me walk on the path. Gratefully I was raised by my parents who followed this spiritual path in their lives extending their hands to help others, to serve them. My brothers and sisters and my better half offered their hands when I fell down. I am very grateful to them for teaching me how to serve others. It is not always easy for me to stay on this path. Others ... View full comment
DD
Dec 6, 2024
That story started to stir tears within me. I never did anything so extreme as the farm manager did for the woman. I think I wouldn't have thought to do what he did -- maybe I'm too selfish or maybe I'd have tried a different way. I definitely have compassion for someone who is hurting and have made efforts to help sometimes with courage and moral clarity, which feels very satisfying. I've taken a hit to help another in giving from myself and receiving nothing material in return. I've taken one for the team. I also remember many times my mother made efforts to protect and do for me, and many times my wife did and does for me and our children. What helps me push to see another as a person is the satisfaction I feel in seeing the other as a person and in seeing the benefit that has for the other.
BS
Dec 6, 2024
This tugs at my heart and brings tears. Tremendous courage was displayed by this man to share a wound and sneak the medicine to her. In his heart he knew human beings are beings that need to be cared for, cherished, given what's needed to survive.
HL
Dec 5, 2024
Could I do that? Share another's wound? That Polish man had confidence that he was important enough to save; that gave him courage. What if you don't have confidence that you're important enough to save? You could ask anyway, I guess, and have to live with the "No" that he would have gotten, had he not been of value to the Nazis.