The Process Of Understanding

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We'll focus on the union of two apparently contradictory gestures: simultaneous holding and releasing.

Holding.  I have a project, like writing a letter, or choreographing a musical, or solving a math problem, or holding (as we say) a meeting. Or leading a life.  Or concentrating on the breath, or on a meditative theme.  

Releasing.  Within this held space, this held environment or process, I must effect a kind of release, or nothing further happens.  

So I give myself the form of a sonnet or a haiku, and that invites the free creativity to fill out the form.  I hold the meditation theme, in the sense that I return to it from obvious distractions, but within the theme I allow any thought, any depth, to arise for me.  If I am a good leader, I can delegate rather than micromanage.

We seek to have strong concentration, and at the same time, within it, a maximum of letting go.  This has something of the structure of the invitation from the good host, who invites someone, welcomes them, and then allows the guest a great deal of freedom within their role as guest.  We welcome so many kinds of guests: babies into the world, and ideas that are new to us, and, as Thoreau put it, "an infinite expectation of the dawn."  [...]

The process of understanding anything requires a directedness on our part (that's the holding) and also a receptivity on our part (that's the releasing).  So, for instance, if we want to understand a cup, we aim our attention cup-wards, and within that intentionality is also a subtle waiting, or receptivity, for news about the cup to arrive.  I begin, perhaps picturing a cup, perhaps abstractly considering its functions, and something is given into my awareness -- for example, "You can put a cup down and it will still hold its contents, unlike a spoon that has to be held or it will spill."   Where did that particular thought come from?  Not historically, I mean, but right now: from where did the new understanding emerge into my awareness?   Somehow we aim and then somehow we receive. 

A concentrated yet effortless involvement of this kind can lead us into the very process of understanding, into that "where the thought came from" and therefore -- most surprisingly -- into increasingly intimate contact with the very life of the world.  We become less alienated from the earth, less "objective" and separate.  A self-development like this, a change in the process by which we use our minds and hearts to participate in the world, will be increasingly important as we face the disasters of human-wrought climate change and all its attendant troubles. Our hearts and minds can become collaborative aspects of the flow of relationship that is the earth. [...]

With how much of the totality can we let ourselves be aligned and allied to hold each other?  How freely, to what reaches of being, can we then release each other?  Let's find out.

Seed Questions for Reflection

How do you relate to the notion that the process of understanding anything requires both holding and releasing? Can you share a personal story of a time you emerged with deep understanding through concentration and release? What helps you simultaneously hold and release?

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Reyna
Dec 22, 2023
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JP
Dec 14, 2023
The full breath has two complementary processes: inhalation and exhalation. No inhalation is possible without exhalation and no exhalation is possible without inhalation. Inhalation is like holding and exhalation is like releasing. If I want to understand another person's perspective, I need to really listen to the other person's voice and letting go of my voice. Othewise two voices collide creating discord in our relationships. Sadly this way of communication results in relationship breakups. Relationship is not a oneway street. Conflicts arise and result in deadly wars and many innocent people get killed. In counseling sessions I often see such patterns of communication in couples resulting "I am right and you are wrong". When they learn how to listen to each other in a reciprocal way, relationships get better. They acqire the skill of creating a wholesome balance between holding and releasing. What helps me create such a balance is by being fully presesnt and quietly liste... View full comment
DD
Dec 14, 2023
I relate to notion that the process of understanding requires both holding and releasing based on my understanding that everything exists in polarities. Existence is inhale and exhale, in and out, up and down. Understanding is understanding and overstanding, holding and releasing. Understanding is holding on loosely, not with clenched grip, to the understanding that I have and at the same time is open and loose enough that I can release understanding and take in and hold new information. lt's when I 'concentrate' along with being open to release understanding that I emerge with new and deeper understanding. What helps me is learning through experience that only holding on rigidly or only releasing everything didn't work, and I grew most by a combination of holding on and releasing, just like a combination of inhaling and exhaling works best.
ST
Dec 14, 2023
Ahhhh- If I hold onto my belief about who you are I do not allow for who you and I are becoming. Freezing any moment limits the potential mysterious unknown expansion of what might be.
My partner speaks of the dynamics of expansion which for me is accepting her as she is regardless of any conception of who I may desire her to be or what I may be wanting her to do with me.
This feels like real Love. Acceptance. To love is to be happy with. Rilke said, " In Love practice only this, letting each other go" . My experience is that this releasing makes room for the Love that I need and want.