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“If your heart is broken, I urge you not to waste it.” – Sarika Jain
In 2012, Sarika Jain was living a life similar to that of her clients today: she was a “smart, professional, go-getter” woman on Wall Street seeking to find love. But after a broken engagement that left her heartbroken and disillusioned with life, she realized she needed deeper, spiritual healing. “It was time to let go of all the things I thought I knew about love, dating, and relationships, and begin a powerful new inner journey of profound healing and transformation,” she realized.
True to her later advice, she didn’t waste her heartbreak. She embarked on a journey of self-love and true self-acceptance. That journey took her through, among other things, Awakin meditation circles, where she would meet the man who eventually became her life partner, Krishan Patel. She didn’t stop at just marrying her life partner, but also crossed a bigger milestone: “marrying one’s own self.”
Through her work of self-transformation, she came across the great leaders of history. What was their relationship with self-doubt? “They take a leap of faith in themselves,” Sarika observed, leading her to do just that for herself. From a well settled career as a management consultant, Sarika Jain decided to take a leap of faith and follow her dream: inspiring women to live the lives they’ve dreamed of - experiencing profound love, success and fulfillment. Sarika is a love, relationship and dating coach and the author of an upcoming book, The 90 Day Soulmate Plan: Get Out of Your Own Way and Attract the Higher Love You Deserve.
While a quick reaction about love coaching may feel like it’s about making oneself more appealing to attract the partner of one’s dreams, Sarika’s entire focus is on inner transformation. She has applied a deeply psycho-spiritual lens in the realm of personal relationships. How do we cultivate ourselves to be joyful and complete? How do we heal the wounds of incompleteness and the grief of unresolved heartbreaks and past hurts? Instead of changing oneself to be attractive to another, she focuses on helping people stop getting in the way of their most authentic self. Her unique approach encompasses everything from uncovering relationship patterns and closing one’s “Ex Files” to practicing self-love and mindfulness in relationships. And although her primary early motivation was to help women, her work helps both women and men.
Sarika walks the edge of inner transformation, leaning into interpersonal struggles and mining the gold from them. The relatability of her approach, the clarity of her message, and the power of her values has led to some calling her a “Relationship Sorceress.”
In her personal life, Sarika focuses on creating a conscious, joyful partnership with Krishan and a healthy home for her two daughters (with a third on the way!) as well as building a sacred community around her, which she views as an extension of cultivating her Love Garden. Through the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh and her involvement with various volunteer communities, she has evolved her understanding of love – centering around the concepts of interbeing, mindfulness and service. Her underlying passion is around healing the relationship between men and women and “creating a future of peace for the children of the world” by ending generational trauma and creating healthy family units.
Sarika’s professional journey includes 15 years in the corporate world. It has been more than a decade since she made the conscious decision to connect with the song of her heart. Sarika is a student of yoga, energy healing, psychology, feminine spirituality, and relationships and has studied Life Centered Therapy with licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Andy Hahn. She has an undergraduate degree in Computer Science & Engineering from University of Pennsylvania, an MBA from The Wharton School, and has worked at Bain & Co., Merrill Lynch and the World Bank. Sarika lives with her husband, Krishan, and two daughters in New Jersey, and leads a playful, passionate life.
Join us in conversation with this votary of healthy love -- a love that is enabled by self-acceptance and inner transformation.
Seeing people who take leaps of faith to pursue their healing journey - their courage and search for personal truth inspires me.
When I felt like I had lost everything after a broken engagement - yet in the period that followed, I became more aware of all the love that flows to/through me as I healed and opened my heart to true unconditional love. Shortly after, I my soulmate and husband (through Service Space!).
When I had given birth to my first daughter and had a difficult labor and painful recovery; there was a nurse in the hospital who went out of her way to be joyful and take extra care of me, even while being stretched herself. I was so touched by her presence and get tears when I think of her - she was an angel by my bedside when I felt most vulnerable.
To take my daughters to India for an extended period of time to learn about the culture and meet our families.
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