Speaker: Sue Cochrane

Embracing Imperfections: Healing and Compassion Through the Courts

Sue Cochrane served as a judge on the Family Court Bench in Minneapolis, Minnesota for 18 years since her appointment in 1994.  She pioneered a new model on her family court cases which transformed the structure and practice of Family Court into a holistic, empowering, client-centered model. She retired by necessity at age 57 when diagnosed with terminal breast cancer.

Despite a diagnosis of an inoperable brain tumor, Sue accepted an invitation to co-chair an international symposium supported by The Fetzer Institute. She helped lead fifty leaders from around the world to collaborate and discover innovative ways to incorporate love, forgiveness and compassion into the contentious divorce process, both in and out of the courts. After the symposium, her article entitled ”Five Ways to put a Heart into the Body of Law” was published in the Journal of International Association of Collaborative Professionals.

Sue had a wide-ranging career as a trial attorney in private practice and legal services before her appointment to the family court in Minneapolis. She was the community-based attorney for the Native American Indian Center in Saint Paul, representing clients with cases involving the Indian Child Welfare Act, disability rights and housing law. 

Growing up, Sue experienced firsthand many of the same challenges her clients faced: poverty, violence, addiction, divorce and sexual abuse. She grew up in a home filled with violence, alcoholism and poverty and was supported by her maternal grandparents. She found peace at her grandparents’ home by saying the rosary, attending Mass every morning, swinging in the grape arbor, and watching her grandmother cook. Her grandmother’s unconditional love healed Sue. Sue was twenty years old when her grandparents passed away. Having lost her source and comfort, she turned during this time to alcoholism to block out the pain. A special song helped her get to sobriety, she later told National Public Radio (NPR).

Sue was later exposed to Kintsugi, which touched Sue’s life immensely and has allowed her to embrace the early part of her life that has caused her much suffering and pain. Kintsugi or Kintsukuori, means “golden joinery” and it is a part of the Japanese philosophy of Wabi-Sabi that embraces imperfections.  Kintsugi artisans use gold and other precious metals to fix damaged pottery. Symbolically, Kintsugi encourages embracing the imperfection as a precious part of the pottery’s history, rather than discarding it and getting a new one. Embracing Kintsugi, Sue realized that she just wanted to be whole again, rather than wishing to be a different person with a different history.

Sue’s childhood experiences inspired her to use her law degree and the court to bring compassion, dignity and empowerment to families who suffered in the legal systems. Sue has envisioned a legal system that puts people’s needs first, where each person’s “life” is not simply transmuted into a case “file”.  Having felt initially drawn to a career in art rather than law, a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh – “The practice of peace and reconciliation is one of the most vital and artistic of human actions” – helped Sue to see that her work as a lawyer and in the judiciary combines her passion for the law and art. This quote reminds Sue that she is doing the very thing she wanted to, just with a different heuristic, because bringing peace and reconciliation to conflict is a form of art.

Sue was initially diagnosed with breast cancer over fifteen years ago. As she faced her first cancer diagnosis, while balancing a parenting role to three young boys and her judicial career, she reached out to  Common Ground  to learn mindfulness -- and eventually even gave a dharma talk there in 2016. Five years ago, her cancer metastasized to her bones and brain to a stage four, terminal illness. “Since then, I have not heard her utter a word of self-pity,” says her brother. “She also has not slowed down one bit. She’s taken her sons on a number of trips. She’s organized and spoken at a conference on the topic of “Love and the Law” — an unlikely concept to you and me, but not to Sue. She’s continued to cook and quilt. She’s maintained her meditation practice.” Despite cancer’s return, Sue “founded a community-justice initiative and went into Minneapolis neighborhoods that scared even her bailiff. She sat down with people there, without a robe, across a table in a community center, and listened to their problems, then helped them figure out what they needed to do to get their driver’s license back.”

Sue has been able to live eight years since the terminal diagnosis— well beyond the norm. She has faced ten brain tumors, two craniotomies, a malignant pituitary tumor, and targeted experimental drugs. In these past eight years she has written a blog entitled “The Movement of Healing” and a memoir. Her younger brother Mick, a poet, novelist and English chair, published his "Last Lecture" on Daily Good which honored her life. The cancer has now progressed to her liver, requiring chemotherapy and immunotherapy.

Sue is deeply grateful for having brought forth her passion and visions for bringing love and compassion into the courts. She is also grateful she has been present to see her three sons through their young teen years into college. Her husband, whom she met in law school forty years ago, is a kind and steady presence in their lives.

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