Being around honest, kind and curious people. And staring at a clear night sky, when the stars seem to hang low.
Fortunately or unfortunately, I don't have a sense of any one pivotal moment in my life. It's been a series of small moments, each maybe not that significant, that has had a cumulative effect on me. Whether it's reading a particular book (Thoreau's Walden comes to mind, as do some brilliant books on science, such as The Universe and Dr. Einstein or The Lives of a Cell by Lewis Thomas), or being in nature (my first view of the Himalayas or a walk in a forest in Germany, for example), or deep and meaningful relationships that unfurled over time, or profound conversations with scientists with whom I routinely interact, given the nature of my work -- all these have had an impact, however small, and I have changed as a result.
I was on the last leg of my journey through Russia (I had gone to visit the Lake Baikal Neutrino Observatory, to do research for a book I was writing). I had spent four days on and around the frozen Lake Baikal during the peak of the Siberian winter, and was on my way to Japan. I had spent the night in Vladivostok and was taking the flight out to Toyama, Japan. I arrived at the airport only to find it empty, with not a soul in sight. I looked at my boarding pass and realized that I had misread the time and I was hours early. The airport hadn't yet opened. I was tired and hungry and pined for a coffee, but realized I didn't have Russian coins for the only vending machine in the lobby. Suddenly, a man came out of the restroom, wrapped only in a bathroom towel. He was the security guard. He had been taking a shower. We exchanged some words in broken English, and I offered a currency note in exchange for some coins.He waved it aside, went to the vending machine, put in some coins and bought me coffee--and refused to take money from me.The best coffee, I think, I ever had.
There's an enduring image I have of a small seaside village or town from some novel I read (it's probably in England or New Zealand). I don't have a bucket list, but I wouldn't mind living a quiet life staring at the ocean.
Let's be as kind as we can be to each other. It's not as simple as it sounds, because being kind often requires negating our own impulse to be center-stage.