Everything Is Waiting For You

You need sanctuary, as in a good friend whom you can trust, or the good friend is one that recognizes what you need is a refuge. I know because when recovery is necessary, you need those around who have been down there. They already see your struggle reflecting back, and know exactly where you are, which is among those of us at the bottom of a well. The light in your eyes has dimmed and you don't want to explain it all. The echo is heard by those who have sunken so low, trauma, addiction, lack of love etc... You see, they are your safe harbor. They are present to listen in silence, provide food, water and shelter. But above all, it is unconditional love which sees your hand reaching out for help, the echo, and/or the tired eyes. You need your basic needs met first before you can find your one "Holy Moment" of hope to give. Recovery begins with those who have been down in the "Well of Grief." They get it while others may not understand. They are the "Four Horses" that I have finally heard the distant beat of a drum. They have been there and done it. They know you need a team to lift you up and set you on your glorious, "Holy Moment" pathway. They find the proper blend of care you require. A warm, caring environment that opens a door to your beckoning hand, the warmth of shelter and care. Hide full comment

 We are here for connection and expression, for relationship and intimacy. We are here to bake in the presence of another and let the aroma of our maturing be that which inspires and illumines, cares for and serves the other. 
There is always a pouring out, a giving away, a making space for.  Then a time for stillness to allow what is wanting to come.  And there is always something, something good, something appropriate that is wanting to come.  It is a cultivation of appreciation of all that is, and has been. It is a discriminating awareness.  It is attentive discernment.  It is touching the garment of truth.

Beyond wants, needs, and desires what is here?  What is the truth of this moment as you?  The famed Ramana Maharshi was known for asking his students to ask themselves over and over, “Who am I?” (Alternatively, having a dyad partner ask you “Who are you?”)  … until they fall out of the question and into the understanding of the reason for the question.  So, if you were to stop asking yourself this question and go beyond.  If you no longer “saw” yourself as a who what is left?

Our part is to look in the mirror and see “who” is really there.  And then see that in the other.
We are never alone. What is deeply there is always there.

Do you see yourself today as the river or the channel of the river? It is kind of asking yourself “Are you yin or yang?”, or more one than the other?  As the river you know yourself as flow.

As the channel you know yourself as a guidance for that flow, banks that funnel the energy and direct it.  What is your perception?  If you drop the “who” what is here?

Beyond grasping to have there is what is already, always here.  Empty your cup to fill it with that understanding.  Then offer that cup to another.

Hide full comment

 Feeling lonely, disconnected and depressed is sadly growing more in our society. We are born by intimacy, we survive by intimacy and thrive by intimacy. We need to open our mind and heart to be connected with the world of nature and others like us. We need to make a shift from I-It to I-Thou.

How can I relate to the world of sound if I keep my ears plugged? How can I listen to the live silence of nature if I keep my mind noisy? How can I smell the fragrance of blooming flowers if I keep my nose plugged? How can I feel the warmth of your touch if I keep my hands off? How can I feel your presence if I am not present with you?. How can I see me if I am not awake? The universe offers countless gifts to us. We need to empty our task -loaded hands to receive them.

Three days ago my grandson invited me to do mindfulness meditation with him in the early morning  hours. We sat in our front yard sitting silently with open heart and open mind. During the twenty minutes of mindfulness meditation, we got deeply connected with the touch of the cool air, the enchanting fragrance of the  blooming flowers , the sight of the rising sun and  the chirping of the birds.We also felt joyfully and deeply connected with each other without words.

Everything is waiting for us. Yes. We need to say YES to it and gracefully welcome it.

Namaste.Jagdish P Dave

Hide full comment

 The great mistake is thinking we are alone. If we have the courage to open up, share our truth, our vulnerability, our story, we quickly learn we are never alone in any experience. There is always at least one other person who has experienced something similar who can sit with us, listen, hold space and acknowledge our journey. I've been on both sides and it is healing and releasing . I would say the most "grand" way I ever experienced this time of intimacy was when I allowed myself to be extremely vulnerable in posting on Facebook about being in another depression and being deeply concerned about the darkness enveloping me. I had moved through depression before and was feeling dismayed that it had returned at a time when things seemed to be going so well. I reached out, first on Facebook, because I was too depressed to make a phone call and ask for physical presence. The outpouring of love, care, concern was beautifully overwhelming. It pulled me out of the darkness enough to accept invitations of several people to come to visit me over tea or coloring books. They sat with me one on one and listened and hugged and were simply present. I've done the same for others and to be on the receiving end was deep and healing and appreciated beyond words. What helps put down aloneness is recalling the times when either I have been present for someone else or they were present for me and the rush of love felt in my heart. This is just the push needed to reach out again. <3 

Hide full comment