Active Laziness

Until we get a cancer diagnosis forcing us to learn how to live in the moment with greatfulness and grace.

Wow, short but quite powerful.

Oh wow. I am learning how it is dyregulation that often causes the impulse to cram one’s days with things orcequally to sit by and let life slip away in days doing very little. This is often trauma or fear related. Fear of failure and disappointment, fear of rejection and so on can cause people to behave in this dysregulated way. Meditation and self awareness, compassion and kindness, connection and a meaningful sense of purpose and belonging; as well as addressing the trauma and fears, behaviour and avoidance are part of the solution I’ve found.

Simplify, commit to a cause or direction, serve with love, give with kindness and focus on the things that matter are ways that have helped me to focus on what is important. Read and educate myself, take time for reflection and rest, give things a go even if I’m afraid. It’s actually often not as scary as one thinks.

Seek help if you need to. Focus on the good. Love and live while you are alive!!!

This is wonderful and reminds me of the four quadrant box of urgent/important/not urgent/not important. I read it in Stephen Covey's book the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and I've seen it attributed to Eisenhower. There is that short term dopamine boost from checking off tasks -- and yet for the big issues, I've only seen change appear when we actually sit with an issue long enough to see how to align energies beyond our own.

For me, if something is important enough, I find the time for it.