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Real Security is a Process

--by Eve Ensler (Aug 25, 2008)

Why are we suddenly a nation and a people who strive for security above all else? In fact, security is essentially elusive, impossible. We all die. We all get sick. We all get old. People leave us. People surprise us. People change us. Nothing is secure. And this is the good news. But only if you are not seeking security as the point of your life.

Here’s what happens when security becomes the center of your life. You can’t travel very far or venture too far outside a certain circle. You can’t allow too many conflicting ideas into your mind at one time as they might confuse you or challenge you. You can’t open yourself to new experiences, new people, and new ways of doing things. They might take you off course. You cling desperately to your identity.  […]

Of course now you can no longer feel what another person feels because that might shatter your heart, confuse your basic thinking, destroy the whole structure. Ideas get shorter -- they become sound bites. There are evildoers and saviours. Criminals and victims. Those who are not with us are against us. It gets easier to hurt people because you do not feel what’s inside them. […]

But all of this offers only a false sense of security. Real security means contemplating death, not pretending it doesn’t exist. It means not running from loss, but feeling it, surrendering to sorrow, entering grief.

Real security is not knowing something when you don’t know it.

Real security cannot be bought or arranged or accomplished with bombs. It is deeper. It is a process. It is the acute awareness that we are all utterly interdependent and that one action by one being in one town has consequences everywhere.

Real security is the ability to tolerate mystery, complexity, ambiguity -- indeed hungering for these things.

--Eve Ensler

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On Oct 16, 2008 madhur wrote:
As I understand these beautiful words, they talk about letting go, utmost freedom where botherations such as security should not bind or prevent one from experiencing love, kindness or giving all he can.

On Aug 28, 2008 Bishwanath Roy wrote:
Dearest friend.
Thank you for your wonderful writing on security.It helps me a lot .I love to receive this kind of writing in future.
With kindest regards.
Bishwanath Roy

On Aug 27, 2008 DMB wrote:
Security is a perception, indeed. I would feel more secure in our nation if I trusted our leadership.

On Aug 26, 2008 supun wrote:
"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of humans experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing."
-- Helen Keller

I tell myself that a lot when I need to do something out of the ordinary.

On Aug 26, 2008 Steven Bell wrote:
I think that the reason the US strives for security, isn't that they doubt death's existance. I think it's because we want to get the innocent out of harm's way. You look at 9/11 and you see innocent people dying. I do agree that change is good. I do think that this nation, who loves Barack Obama's change campaign, understands that change is good as well. Security can only be found in the realization, that life is about more that this life. It's about life in the next. Jesus is true secruity.