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Do You Have Time To Love?

--by Thich Nhat Hanh (Nov 29, 2004)


To love is, above all, to be there. But being there is not an easy thing. Some training is necessary, some practice. If you are not there, how can you love? Being there is very much an art, the art of meditation, because meditating is bringing your true presence to the here and now. The question that arises is: Do you have time to love?

I know a boy of twelve whose father asked him one day: "Son, what would you like for your birthday present?" The boy did not know how to answer his father, who was a very rich man, able to buy anything for his son. But the boy did not want anything except his father's presence. Because the role the father played kept him very busy, he did not have time to devote to his wife and children. Being rich is an obstacle to loving, When you are rich, you want to continue to be rich, and so you end up devoting all your time, all your energy in your daily life, to staying rich. If this father were to understand what true love is, he would do whatever is necessary to find time for his son and his wife.

The most precious gift you can give to the one you love is your true presence. What must we do to really be there? Those who have practiced meditation know that meditating is above all being present: to yourself, to those you love, to life. [.]

Do you have enough time to love? Can you make sure that in your everyday life you have a little time to love? We do not have much time together; we are too busy. In the morning while eating breakfast, we do not look at the person we love, we do not have enough time for it. We eat very quickly while thinking about other things, and sometimes we even hold a newspaper that hides the face of the person we love. In the evening when we come home, we are too tired to be able to look at the person we love.

We must bring about a revolution in our way of living our everyday lives, because our happiness, our lives, are within ourselves.

--Thich Nhat Hanh

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On May 8, 2016 miriam steve wrote:

 I have to agree with you that love is not only about saying i love you, but being there and showing it for real is what love is all about. Thank you for sharing such great info.
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On May 5, 2016 Mary wrote:

 This is a very informative post.



On Jul 26, 2014 alexwifi wrote:

 Hehe, Well, I don't think so. Being a busy man with career, no one can truly love any other except the work or the career until he gets settled. Anyway thanks for the share.
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On Feb 10, 2013 Manish wrote:
 I agree with the thoughts expressed here as receive these comments from my wife. Indeed life has become so hectic that one forgets what are you living for!

On Feb 9, 2013 Sethi wrote:
 Thank you . . so much wisdom in the sharing .

On Oct 27, 2011 ArunChikkop wrote:

Very True.. I pormis eto make time to Love..)

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING



On Oct 11, 2011 Robin wrote:

 Because our happiness, our lives, are within ourselves.............simply beautiful.

Thank you Thich Nhat Hanh



On Jun 12, 2006 Nipun wrote:

What is it that we are being present to? What the bleep do we know: 400 billion impressions per second, 2000 conscious ones. Is it time to love, or timelessness to love? Smile cards and increasing awareness of possible acts of kindness. Celestine Prophecy: coincidences. Stand by me. Nothing is coincidence, but the meaning is not always so obvious. Sitting silently with parents in childhood on early morning sundays going through the paper. Still a very strong feeling of sharing love & presence, even though nothing in particular was being done. Many missed opportunities to do random acts of kindness. Be prepared always to give. If you don't understand my silence, how will you understand my words? Just by being rich doesn't necessarily mean that you cannot love. This thought caused tears several times. Usually every week thought is not easy to put in practice immediately, this one weighed heavy because it was so easy to implement. "Love" is such a loaded word, hard t  See full.

  • What is it that we are being present to?
  • What the bleep do we know: 400 billion impressions per second, 2000 conscious ones.
  • Is it time to love, or timelessness to love?
  • Smile cards and increasing awareness of possible acts of kindness.
  • Celestine Prophecy: coincidences.
  • Stand by me.
  • Nothing is coincidence, but the meaning is not always so obvious.
  • Sitting silently with parents in childhood on early morning sundays going through the paper. Still a very strong feeling of sharing love & presence, even though nothing in particular was being done.
  • Many missed opportunities to do random acts of kindness. Be prepared always to give.
  • If you don't understand my silence, how will you understand my words?
  • Just by being rich doesn't necessarily mean that you cannot love.
  • This thought caused tears several times. Usually every week thought is not easy to put in practice immediately, this one weighed heavy because it was so easy to implement.
  • "Love" is such a loaded word, hard to know when you are truly feeling it.
  • Came to feel Love through appreciation for another.
  • Is there a difference between presence and attentiveness?
  • What made mom happy when all family was at home on a weekend? just being alive, playing around, mildly arguing - not necessarily praising or paying attention to her.
  • Don't ask what the world needs, do what makes you come alive, because what the world needs most is people who have come alive (Howard Thurman)
  • It would help to know context of quote, because to us it may sound simplistic, but it might have been tailored for a different audience.
  • It's difficult to be present without being attemptive. If you cannot connect and feel how another person is, it is hard to be present.
  • As an experiment, sometimes going up to people and saying "I Love you" in different tones.
  • Being balanced is a part of being present. Being present is necessary to be balanced.
  • Feel blessed to be raised in a household where Love was freely shared, verbally and in silence. Now as children are grown up, when say "I Love youW" to dad, response is "You need money don't you?" .. don't just say it, show you Love someone. Just saying the words can be a copout.
  • There are no great acts, only small acts done with great Love (Mother Teresa).
  • Sometimes it's worth telling someone else you are there for them, even if the silent presence is strong.
  • Why do we always equate Loving with an object of that Love?
  • When raising children, equating taking care of them with Love which implies not being present with them often.
  • Notion of presence as pre-sense, a state of being before perceiving through the senses.
  • Silence is always a dance between action & inaction. You cannot take silence as something that comes before & after something, it is something that lasts throughout - true presence.
  • Favorite quote: Faith is a withholding of conclusion, so you allow what is to arise. --Adyashanti.
  • Love and thankfullness are topics which everyone can share something about.
  • In Italian families, meals are the religion. Did not appreciate it as youth, but now realize meals are just about being present, sharing the experience.
  • Children are very present. They can feel very passionately in one moment, and forget it the next. Being with kids rubs off.
  • Is presence contagious?
  • Compassion is rooted in understanding.
  • Fear blocks presence
  • Appreciation for the depth of today's conversation, whereas usually there is a feeling of rushing.
  • Sometimes it's best not to analyze these things, Love, balance, etc .. they are interconnected. Live it.

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