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Your Life Cannot Go Wrong

--by Jeff Foster (Feb 17, 2014)


In reality, your world is set up so that nothing happens to you, but everything happens for you - for your awakening, for your growth, for your inspiration, for your exploration - even if you forget that, or sometimes cannot see it, or sometimes fall into distraction and despair.

When there is no fixed destination, you cannot ever lose your destination, so you cannot ever lose your path, so nothing that happens in your life can take you off your path. Your path IS what happens, and what happens IS your path. There is no other.

Everything is a gift on this unbreakable path that you call your life - the laughter, the tears, the times of great sorrow, the experiences of profound loss, the pain, the confusion, the times you believe you'll never make it, even the overwhelming heartbreak of love - even if you forget that sometimes, or cannot see that sometimes, or lose faith absolutely in the entire show sometimes.

But even the loss of faith in the show is part of the show, and even the scene where 'something goes wrong' is not indicative of the show going wrong, and so you are always exactly where you need to be, believe it or not, even if you are not.

Life can be trusted absolutely, even when trust seems a million light-years away, and life cannot go wrong, for all is life, and life is all. Understand this, know it in your heart, and spirituality is profoundly simple, as simple as breathing, as natural as gazing up at the stars at night and falling into silent wonder. The universe is more beautiful than you could ever imagine.

--Jeff Foster


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On Oct 1, 2014 Lisa wrote:

 Totally loved this post! THANK YOU for the reminder and blessings. Sending infinitely many back to you. 



On Mar 26, 2014 Mayra Hitchens wrote:

 "Life can be trusted absolutely..and cannot go wrong..for all is life.." Makes me squirm...



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On Mar 25, 2014 sanjay wrote:

I have faced many challenges in life from losing parents and sister , to health issues . Every loss broke me down , humbled me. What I have now realized is I have no control over what life is throwing up and that this moment is inevitable , I can only surrender to this .  



On Mar 20, 2014 Avani wrote:

 Thanks so much for this....I sometimes struggle with the notion of free will.....do we really have a choice?   do we really determine any outcome....is this life movie already pre written?  and everything that happens pre determined or is it being made up as things unfold?



On Mar 19, 2014 Ron Cortolezzis wrote:

Expressing from where I am NOW .... Like you and everyone, I am, We are the Ocean, Vast, Infinite, Beyond Unconscious, Subconscious, Mental, Emotions, and the 'Separation' of Bodies. There is No-thing to 'Lose' or 'Gain' only to Allow, Surrender, Dissolve to Fall into. It is Knowing and the Allowance, I am Authentic, that I experience the Ocean. The Ocean Always Has been, Will be, Is. I have nothing to Lose. I just Am. For Me this is my key, my anchor (on a mental level)  to Authentic Living. Living now for me is about expressing my vastness for the Gratitude of Freedom and Love Eternal, the Service of Helping others to find/rediscover the Ocean, drink, party and swim in it. This is Our Divine Right. We are Divine.



On Feb 23, 2014 Charles Eisenstein wrote:

 I agree with Jeff, but there is a danger in teachings like that. I imagine telling it to a starving teenager in Somalia or a mutilated woman or someone whose family was killed in a drone strike. "That didn't happen to you, it happened FOR you." Am I speaking a living truth, or am I speaking from western white privilege? This teaching can obscure the ways in which we participate in, have agency in, injustice. To take the extreme example, it would by hypocritical indeed to beat someone up and take their money, and say, "This is happening as a gift from the universe for your development." But the equivalent is happening every time we make a purchase or pay taxes or drive a car...

I'm not advocating we feel guilty about these things. I agree with what Jeff says. But I do think the dimension I mention here has to be accommodated within that metaphysics, or it will not be fully satisfying.



On Feb 20, 2014 Dr. Deri wrote:

 Absolutely,  all roads can lead to our enlightenment, that we are here to love, live and have lessons.. Anything else is an abberation, and if we could wake up and realize that all of this is temporary, then maybe we would live more authentic lives!!

I love the work of Jon Kabat Zinn Coming to Our Senses and all of Pema Chodron's words of widsom!!

Breathe, and stay in the moment!



On Feb 19, 2014 Madeline Z wrote:

 
I remember when I left my husband of 30 years.I was relieved and overwhemed. Lost and did't know what to do with myself. Sometimes I'd lie in bed and say, "God take this pain away." Little by little  I surrendered to the sadness and being alone. I took myself on dates and became my own best friend for the first time. After about 3 years,I met Neil and knew we were meant to be together. I know it was God in me knowing.



On Feb 18, 2014 Cabbage wrote:

 This is an amazing reminder to "let go" of thinking that things in life "happen to us"---I love the idea that everything happens "for us" and that we can never lose our path because it is all part of one big journey in which we are all connected. Simply beautiful---blew me away, and at the perfect time too. :-) Once again, reinforcing my belief that "you get what you need" (like in the Rolling stones song) just when you need it.



On Feb 18, 2014 Susan wrote:

 What a wonderful reminder that all that is ,is all that is! We all spend so much time trying to understand and control the direction of our paths, when what is really needed is acceptance of the Present Moment I( no matter what that moment consists of). It is a simple concept and not always so easy to implement. Blessings to you Jeff for sharing this and to all the other souls to whom we are all connected.



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On Feb 18, 2014 SusanWallace wrote:

Waiting at an airport to catch a flight, I stumbled across a book by Paul Williams. I opened the book and my eyes fell to a simple sentence- "Nothing happens by accident."  For many successful years I lived by the belief that everything happens for a reason. Flash forward 40 years...I have just come through 2 years of darkness, confusion, sorrow, brokenness and pain. I questioned everything I believed, and thought, perhaps that I was at the end of the line. I am currently back in the sunlight, and humbled by everything I went through.  I spent a lot of time over the past 24 months quietly sitting and getting in touch with the vulnerability I was experiencing. Instead of pushing my thoughts & feelings away, I embraced them. I embraced the changes, the insecurities, the sadness, the anger, the betrayal...the unknowing...all of it! Then something amazing happened. People started showing up in my life who needed love, compassion and hope. The experiences I had just been thro  See full.

Waiting at an airport to catch a flight, I stumbled across a book by Paul Williams. I opened the book and my eyes fell to a simple sentence- "Nothing happens by accident."  For many successful years I lived by the belief that everything happens for a reason. Flash forward 40 years...I have just come through 2 years of darkness, confusion, sorrow, brokenness and pain. I questioned everything I believed, and thought, perhaps that I was at the end of the line.

I am currently back in the sunlight, and humbled by everything I went through.  I spent a lot of time over the past 24 months quietly sitting and getting in touch with the vulnerability I was experiencing. Instead of pushing my thoughts & feelings away, I embraced them. I embraced the changes, the insecurities, the sadness, the anger, the betrayal...the unknowing...all of it! Then something amazing happened. People started showing up in my life who needed love, compassion and hope. The experiences I had just been through had softened my heart and made me able to love and serve others in completely new ways! I started showing up for them!

I made two major shifts in my way of thinking which also helped me back. One shift was realizing that sometimes we miss the mark...it actually happens a lot! And when we do, it's an opportunity to re-boot, re-frame, forgive, and re-invent! The second big shift happened very gradually,. It had to do with realizing that we are constantly changing, and so is everyone else! I decided to adopt gentler, softer, more forgiving embrace with others...in realizing that as I've given myself permission to change, I give others their space to change as well.

I guess, when I read your article, it nudged me to share, because it felt like a very important thread had disappeared for a while, and then wove its way back in! Yes, we are always being given love and grace. Even in the darkness, we might be trudging for a while, but then...we get to appreciate other times when gravity lightens up and our steps become a dance.

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On Feb 18, 2014 Robyn wrote:

 I would like to believe in this view of life, and can see, and have learned, at least partially, its validity and truth. But having lost 5 members of my immediate, sane, and loving family to murder, AIDS, an accidental drug overdose, an accidental drowning, and a hospital-acquired infection after supposedly "routine, minor" surgery --  in addition to the loss of my own physical health and operatic singing career to auto-immune disorders, please forgive me for my heart-level skepticism. Yes, I have learned much, but those who have not suffered this kind of repeated trauma, loss, and pain, please go easy on the universal rejoicing for the "lessons!" There are many things to learn, and many, many things that also break us, and that even compromise our ability to work with all these lovely "lessons!" For many years, I have been working vigorously on my spiritual practice, and have pursued several different kinds of therapy. Human suffering is a great, ineffable mystery. Pl  See full.

 I would like to believe in this view of life, and can see, and have learned, at least partially, its validity and truth. But having lost 5 members of my immediate, sane, and loving family to murder, AIDS, an accidental drug overdose, an accidental drowning, and a hospital-acquired infection after supposedly "routine, minor" surgery --  in addition to the loss of my own physical health and operatic singing career to auto-immune disorders, please forgive me for my heart-level skepticism. Yes, I have learned much, but those who have not suffered this kind of repeated trauma, loss, and pain, please go easy on the universal rejoicing for the "lessons!" There are many things to learn, and many, many things that also break us, and that even compromise our ability to work with all these lovely "lessons!" For many years, I have been working vigorously on my spiritual practice, and have pursued several different kinds of therapy. Human suffering is a great, ineffable mystery. Please, let's not pretend we have easy answers.

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On Feb 18, 2014 yogitony wrote:

If what Jeff Foster says is taken literally, then the choices we have are irrelevant and, in point of fact, we really have no choices....life simply unfolds magically for our best interest no matter what we do.
He obviously has a strong faith and trust in the beauty and the ultimate benevolence of ..............well, of what?
My question is what is the basis of his statements? It feels wonderful to have such a trust, especially in times of trauma, but where in his heart is the trust placed?
If he said Nature, or an intelligent creative force, or some form of revelation i could take his words of having some authority.
Actually, i do agree with most everything he says and firmly believe and understand that our choices matter. My authority is the deep foundation of every serious religious tradition i have investigated and practiced and the gut check that keeps me connected to my heart.



On Feb 18, 2014 Syd wrote:

 I will agree with what Jeff Foster says, “… that nothing happens to you, but everything happens for you - …”   The hard part for me, though, is recovering from the horror and shock of life.  Maybe I am being weaned from any reliance on my feelings and I am now to find faith in being powerless and even in hopelessness.  It feels like I am to find the heart of faith in being emotionally paralysis, as I know the 110 volts of electrical shock is coming again and again.  I am tired of the intense shock from life and now in my own body’s inability to function.  Could it be possible to find the heart of faith at that point I am being shocked into awareness?   Could this moment be faith of the awareness create stillness, and then the courage to accept the shock?   I just feel my deepest shock is recovering from my disbelief and it is like I am recovering from the Supreme Being.  It seems this awarenes  See full.

 I will agree with what Jeff Foster says, “… that nothing happens to you, but everything happens for you - …”   The hard part for me, though, is recovering from the horror and shock of life.  Maybe I am being weaned from any reliance on my feelings and I am now to find faith in being powerless and even in hopelessness.  It feels like I am to find the heart of faith in being emotionally paralysis, as I know the 110 volts of electrical shock is coming again and again.  I am tired of the intense shock from life and now in my own body’s inability to function.  Could it be possible to find the heart of faith at that point I am being shocked into awareness?   Could this moment be faith of the awareness create stillness, and then the courage to accept the shock?   I just feel my deepest shock is recovering from my disbelief and it is like I am recovering from the Supreme Being.  It seems this awareness is a moment learning to accept my shock as for me and not to me, as Jeff says.  A faith in what is painful and disturbing, and then for a self living in the moment of the shock, where faith becomes courage and for the courage to accept.    
 

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On Feb 18, 2014 Pat Baker wrote:

 I feel he is saying to be present for life with all it's bumps, lows and highs. We cannot control our lives as much as we think we are able.....I am trying to put my fears aside and enjoy each day as it unwinds before me



On Feb 18, 2014 Christine wrote:

 I have faith but I don't know if my body does.  So mixed in the wonderment is tears.  The mantra that life loves me shocked me because it has never occurred to me that life loves me. Dealing with a rare disease with the chronic pain and limited time I can stay up out of bed begs to differ. Someone told me not to have faith but live faith. I don't even know where to begin.  But after reading Mr. Foster's insight maybe I don't have to worry about beginning.



On Feb 17, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Jeff offers an interesting and refreshing perspective on life and living. I feel close to this  teleological perspective. I also relate to the causal perspective. Bad things have happened to me for a variety of reasons. Some of them seems to be largely beyond my hands and control. The prostate cancer that I developed at the age of 85-I am 88 years old and still going- seems to have a genetic basis. What caused it I do not know. I have some ideas about it-the toxic conditions I have been (like most of us are) exposed to, chroinc stress I have been going through like most other go though and a a lack of adequate exercise and a lack of hundred percent wholesome food that I should have eaten consistently and on and on. I have not given up on living. I have learned a few good lessons from this happening and I am doing the best I can to treat it. I have been learning a lot from my illness and I am sharing my lessons of living with many I come across. So, there is also a purp  See full.

 Jeff offers an interesting and refreshing perspective on life and living. I feel close to this  teleological perspective. I also relate to the causal perspective. Bad things have happened to me for a variety of reasons. Some of them seems to be largely beyond my hands and control. The prostate cancer that I developed at the age of 85-I am 88 years old and still going- seems to have a genetic basis. What caused it I do not know. I have some ideas about it-the toxic conditions I have been (like most of us are) exposed to, chroinc stress I have been going through like most other go though and a a lack of adequate exercise and a lack of hundred percent wholesome food that I should have eaten consistently and on and on. I have not given up on living. I have learned a few good lessons from this happening and I am doing the best I can to treat it. I have been learning a lot from my illness and I am sharing my lessons of living with many I come across. So, there is also a purpose for me going through this somewhat devastating experience.

And there have been a few self-caused emotional sufferings and regrets I have had due to my own foolish and narrow sighted ways of pursuing my desires, needs and wants. These experiences have caused suffering, humiliation regrets and remorse. I have learned from my mistakes and wrong doings and have become a little wiser . My sufferings have made more empathic and compassionate and kinder to others.

I believe we all are here for a variety of reasons. Remaining awakened, mindful and aware of myself and other in my life is a way of growing and fulfilling of our purpose of being in this world. Knowing that and living that way keeps me going on my path.

I am grateful to Jeff Foster for creating an inner space for me to contemplate , reflect and share myself with many  of my fellow travelers.

Jagdish P Dave

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On Feb 16, 2014 david doane wrote:

 According to the author, whatever happens and whatever I do is my path, so by that parameter I can never lose my path.  And of course all is life and life is all, and I certainly agree and trust that I can learn and grow  from everything that I do and everything that happens.  I also believe that I can deliberately go directly against my inner truth, and to me that is me losing my path even though I certainly can learn something that I need to learn from it.  Plenty of times I've gone  against my inner intuition/truth, and I've learned from at least some of those times.  Also, I don't think everything in my life happens for me, as the author says.  The sun shines, and I benefit greatly from it -- I don't believe it shines for me and I don't believe that I benefit from it for its sake -- it's doing its thing and I'm doing mine -- we are interrelated.  I don't know if it's benefiting any from me. 



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On Feb 14, 2014 Meredith wrote:

So simple, yet so profound. I love the line that "loss of faith in the show is part of the show"...and what a wonderful show it is! The selection reminds me a lot of the work of Byron Katie, and brought to mind this quote by her: "When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time." This piece is such a good reminder to stop arguing with reality and instead embrace it. In my own life, as someone who is self-employed, I have learned to really lean into the fear and unknown aspects of life - particularly where my next source of income is coming from, after many years of being in the corporate world, where I felt a perceived sense of security (which I recognize to be an illusion) and a regular paycheck. It never ceases to astonish my limited mind that as much as I may worry, things always work out...in many cases without much (or any) effort on my part. I give away so much energy examining my life circumstances and trying to "figure everything out" and have really tried to  See full.

So simple, yet so profound. I love the line that "loss of faith in the show is part of the show"...and what a wonderful show it is! The selection reminds me a lot of the work of Byron Katie, and brought to mind this quote by her: "When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time." This piece is such a good reminder to stop arguing with reality and instead embrace it. In my own life, as someone who is self-employed, I have learned to really lean into the fear and unknown aspects of life - particularly where my next source of income is coming from, after many years of being in the corporate world, where I felt a perceived sense of security (which I recognize to be an illusion) and a regular paycheck. It never ceases to astonish my limited mind that as much as I may worry, things always work out...in many cases without much (or any) effort on my part. I give away so much energy examining my life circumstances and trying to "figure everything out" and have really tried to make my practice much more one of receptivity, trusting that life is unfolding perfectly, even if it doesn't match the well-laid plans in my mind.

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On Feb 14, 2014 Conrad P Pritscher wrote:

 Jeff Foster said everything. I just emailed this article to several friends and I said I can't think of anything else to say.
I believe what he said. I often forget what he said in my daily living. If I kept what he said in mind, I would live more in the present and be more peaceful and joyous more frequently. With X.Pan I am in awe.Thank you for the opportunity to respond.  Warm and kind regards to everyone,




On Feb 13, 2014 xiaoshan pan wrote:

 Absolutely amazing insight! I am in awe.