SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the suggestion to consciously take our hands off the controls and notice our inner experience? Can you share a personal story of a time you did this? What helps you remember to take a sacred pause?
Very true, but modern society makes this difficult, be persistant, its worth it! xx
I was forced to hit the "Pause" button this week! Two days ago, I was hit with vertigo and nausea completely out of nowhere. I first experienced it at night when lying down and it was especially bad when having to turn. It's frightening when something like this happens as one doesn't know what's going on. Thanks to some excellent info provided by doctors and individuals on the internet, I had enough reason to think it's what's termed Benign Paroxysmal Positional Vertigo (or BPPV), caused by crystal(s) moving through the fluid in one of the inner ear canals. I did the prescribed maneuvers to move the offending culprits out of the inner ear and today I am feeling leagues better.
Today I am feeling incredibly grateful simply to feel like myself again. I am keenly aware that I had no options but to release my usual attempts to control, to get lots of stuff done, to criticize or gossip because there wasn't any energy to do so! So why waste my time with these things now that I feel better again? Why not keep it all a bit more slowed-down instead of driving, driving, driving? Why not "Do Nothing" but savor a few moments here and there?
I put my beloved dog to sleep on Saturday. I miss her terribly and long for a sign that she is near me. Yesterday, as I was crying in the shower, a voice told me to calm down and be still, because with all my despair, saying over and over how much I love her, she could not get through to me. I got quiet and felt better. It takes a quiet pause to communicate with your animal friend.
Thank you. I needed this reminder. I have experienced a challenging week with memories of past childhood sexual molestation surfacing. This weekend I went on a retreat with someone dear to me. We were lucky to have no internet access for an entire 3 days and it was so refreshing to tune into the nature around us in the Canadian wilderness. We hiked in solitude, often in quiet even together. We paused, sat on benches and breathed in fresh mountain air. We gazed at mountains, we felt snow on our faces. It was a respite from any type of control and it felt so freeing. My mind felt much more settled after disconnected and recalibrating. I am grateful.
We go where our mind goes. Our mind takes a ride in the past or a flight in the future, hardly staying in the present. Wandering mind becomes our default mode of functioning. Such a wandering mind is compared to monkey mind taking control of ourselves. Such a wandering mind deprives us from being free and deeply connected with us, others in our life and the beauty of nature. Our mind can be our enemy and it also can be our friend.We need to learn how to make our mind our friend.
Mindfulness is one of the ways for making our mind friendly. I have been regularly practicing mindfulness. It has been very helpful to me for making me peaceful, joyful, compassionate and creative. Mindfulness is a non-judgmental and compassionate existential awareness. of what is happening in me and around me. It has helped me to remain present to what is rather than what was or what will be. It keeps me stay in the being zone rather than the default mode of going away from the present moment.
I value the power of pausing when my mind takes a hike and goes to the past or the future, taking away from the here and now consciousness..Noticing where my mind goes without reactive judgmental thoughts, I pause, breathe and connect my mind with the ever present breath. In the mindfulness landscape, sitting doing nothing, spring comes and grass grows by itself. Life bestows blessings and I receive them gratefully.
May we learn how to befriend our mind, be here and now, and receive blessings coming from everywhere!
Jagdish P Dave
In fact, we have so little control. I very much value letting go of trying to control and taking hold of trusting my inner experience. In general, we do far too much trying to control self, others, and situations and too little noticing, trusting, and expressing our inner experience. There have been times in relationships when I don't try to control direction or outcome and trust my inner experience, being present, open, and true to my inner experience, and it invariably is a positive experience. A good mantra would be inner experience, not control. I like the author's phrase "sacred pause." To me, what makes it sacred is when in it my inner experience and outer expression are in harmony and I am integrated rather than fragmented or duplicitous.
An intentional pause is the first step to get us out of almost any dreadful situation, to see the bigger picture, to realize what actually is happening, and more importantly, to communicate with our body and inner self. Because we do not naturally just pause, it often is helpful to set up some sort of reminder, such as setting up a recurring alarm or ask a good friend to check in with you from time to time.
Yesterday, I was telling someone of a great gift given me. Many years ago, a "pause button" popped in my head. When someone says or does something ridiculous, abusive, crazy and self serving, instead of reacting, the phrase "Humans, don't ya just love 'em." rises. It immediately gives me distance to allow tolerance and compassion to take the place of a knee-jerk, selfish reaction. This phrase originally surfaced without any conscious effort, and has served as a tremendous gift of the pause I need to see how much more we are alike than different.