The only point where one can start to talk about anything, including death, is where one finds oneself. And for me this is as a Benedictine monk. In the rule of St. Benedict, the momenta mori has always been important, because one of what St. Benedict calls “the tools of good works” meaning the basic approaches to the daily life of the monastery-is to have death at all times before one’s eyes. When I first came across the Benedictine Rule and tradition, that was one of the key sentences which impressed and attracted me very much. It challenged me to incorporate the awareness of death into my daily living, for that is what it really amounts to. It isn’t primarily a practice of thinking of one’s last hour, or of death as a physical phenomenon; it is a seeing of every moment of life against the horizon of death, and a challenge to incorporate that awareness of dying into every moment so as to become more fully alive.
Death has to be one of the important elements of life, for it is an event that puts the whole meaning of life into question. We may be occupied with purposeful activities, with getting tasks accomplished, works completed, and then along comes the phenomenon of death-whether it is our final death or one of those many deaths through which we go day by day. And death confronts us with the fact that purpose is not enough. We live by meaning. When we come close to death and all-purpose slips out of our hands, when we can no longer manipulate and control things to achieve specific goals, can our life still be meaningful? We tend to equate purpose with meaning, and when purpose is taken away, we stand there without meaning. So there is the challenge: how, when all-purpose comes to an end, can there still be meaning?
This question suggests why in the monastery we are counseled (or challenged) to have death at all times before our eyes. For the monastic life is one way of radically confronting the question of life’s meaning. In it you cannot get stuck in purpose: there are many purposes connected with it, but they are all secondary. As a monk you are totally superfluous, and so you cannot evade the question of meaning.
This distinction that I am making between purpose and meaning isn’t always carefully maintained in our everyday language and thought. In fact, we could avoid a good deal of confusion in our lives if we did pay attention to the distinction. It takes only a minimum of awareness to realize that our inner attitude when striving to achieve a purpose, a concrete task, is clearly different from the attitude we assume when something strikes us as especially meaningful. With purposes, we must be active and in control. We must, as we say, “take the reins,” “take things in hand,” “keep matters under control,” and utilize circumstances like tools that serve our aims. The idiomatic expressions we use are symptomatic of goal-oriented, useful activity, and the whole of modern life tends to be thus purpose-oriented. But matters are different when we deal with meaning. Here it is not a matter of using, but of savoring the world around us. In the idioms we use that relate to meaning, we depict ourselves as more passive than active: “It did something to me”; “it touched me deeply”; “it moved me.” Of course, I do not want to play off purpose against meaning, or activity against passivity. It is merely a matter of trying to adjust the balance in our hyperactive, purpose-ridden society. We distinguish between purpose and meaning not in order to separate the two, but in order to unite them. Our goal is to let meaning flow into our purposeful activities by fusing activity and passivity into genuine responsiveness.
Death puts our responsiveness to the ultimate test.
Brother David Steindl Rast is a Bendictine monk. You can learn more about his life in this profile, and on gratefulness.org The excerpt above is from an essay published in 1977 issue of Parabola.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What does letting meaning flow into our purposeful activities mean to you? Can you share a personal story of a time that death put your responsiveness to the ultimate test? How have you been able to use death to reflect on meaning?
Today, after few weeks I was back home, hosting the meditation in the common room.
I was not sure if anyone would attend, but was glad when there were 3 others who came by and 4 of us together had a silent sitting.
During the discussion, one member shared, how she was taught from childhood, that she is 'replaceable' and that has helped her a lot. Another lady said that she loved all her people so much that death is scary and she never thinks about it. One man stated few words of Gandhi ji - 'Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.' One woman shared, how being close to death, taught one person to release negativity and design a course which helps others do so as well.
Overall, the Awakin circle was a great welcome!
I deeply value such reflective writings. They evoke deep thinking in me and I am very grateful to Awakin for giving such gifts to me and others. Here are my reflections on this reflective writing.
We all who are born are journeying from womb to tomb, from the first breath to the last breath.The question is how awakened and conscious we are as we are aging every moment?Are we present to ourselves, to others and to the surroundings or are we half present or absent to what is happening? Am I aware of the fact that my inhalation is accompanied by my exhalation? Awakening and awareness are the foundations for me to live fully. Awareness of death-the tomb-makes me realize the value of living my life wisely.
Am I living my life purposefully and meaningfully? What is the purpose of my living and how am I realizing this purpose? These are foundational questions for me. The purpose of my life is to live a good life, a happy life that brings goodness and happiness not only in me but in others connected with me. What am I doing that unfolds goodness within me and gets me connected with others? What am I doing that brings happiness in me and in others? When I am engaged in doing meaningful activities that are attuned to the purpose of my living I feel happy and good.
I would like to conclude my reflections by quoting the last two sentences of this thought evoking writing:
" We distinguish between purpose and meaning not in order to separate the two but in order to unite them. Our goal is to let meaning flow into our purposeful activities by focusing activity and passivity into genuine responsiveness."
Let our daily life be a monastery by incorporating the Benedictine Rule! Namaste!
Jagdish P Dave
As Steindl-Rast says, purposeful and meaningful are different and can be united. Purposeful means goal-directed, having a goal that I want to accomplish. Meaningful means something has significance to me. I can be purposeful about something that is meaningless to me. Something can be meaningful to me and I do nothing about it. Meaningful and purposeful are united when I am purposeful or goal-directed about something that is meaningful or significant to me. I don't know of a personal near death experience, other than everyday living, but my wife was very near death, and my responsiveness was probably greatly selfish as I was sad and scared as I wanted her to continue to be bodily with me, and worried about my being without her. She lived, is well, and we go on, I am happy to say. For me, death precipitates thinking about what is meaningful to me, what it is I want to do, and stirs some urgency to be more purposeful about what is meaningful to me as I am more sharply aware that the big death is coming closer every day.[Hide Full Comment]