SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the strategy of reducing the opposing factor, while fanning the flames of the virtuous quality? Can you share the story of a time you were able to refrain from anger? What practice helps you lessen negative emotions?
I feel being angry and hurling vituperative epithets gives momentary relief giving us a false feel of putting others in place by our decibel power. But over a period of time, we realise being composed is more important than being caustically correct. I at times withdraw into a shell of silence when there are angry vibes all around, and at other times I isolate myself from that negative mood by not being a part of it. Angry thinking or demonstration of bouts of anger only empowers others, I tell myself. So my way of anger control mechanism is to let others vent out their negative emotion and tell them how wrong they are at a later stage when the anger cools down.
Jesus helps me lesson negative emotions. When I think about Him, there is absolute POSITIVITY. Jesus took everything "negative" to His Father. Holy Spirit intervened ... to bring about the Power to overcome evil with good. There is power in the name of Jesus. I call upon Him daily!
What choices do I make that drain and deplete my energy and the energy of others? This is a very important mindfulness question for me. Negative thoughts and negative emotions drain my energy. Positive thoughts and positive emotions enhance my energy. They also result in negative and positive actions hurting or healing me and hurting or healing others. The other is me and I am the other. We are all connected with each other.My intention is to understand the causes of hurting or healing energy, replacing the causes of hurting energy with positive energy and enhancing the ways of healing energy.
I practice mindfulness for recognizing the patterns of thoughts that create negative energy. I do not suppress or use defense mechanisms to stay away from them. I observe them , let them come and go.If positive thoughts and feelings come, I observe them, let them come and let them go.This kind of mindfulness processing of my inner world of thoughts and feelings helps me to be free from getting stuck with the negative thoughts and emotions.I sense the change of energy in my body, mind and heart.It makes me whole and wholesome.
May we work on ourselves mindfully to be connected with ourselves and others and create experience goodness in our life!
Jagdish P Dave
My strategy is to cultivate the root(soul)for the blossoming tree. The faith & the firm conviction is in the fact that all human souls are divine, full of Love,power,compassion,joy, friendship & harmony without any exception. Very careful to anything contrary happening/arising ,go back to the above Universal Truth and control the mind. Yes difficult but not impossible if one is serious.Pesistance and perseverance pays.Meditate with open eyes on the visualization of this reality. Lastly surrender to HIM i.e. your own true self earnestly.
Meditation mindfulness teaches is not to judge thoughts because we don't want to get into contracted resistance -- how does undermining the opposing virtue fit with this..?
My first thought is Gandhi's well-known statement to "Be the change you want to see in the world." The strategy of reducing the opposing factor while fanning the flames of the virtuous quality makes total sense to me. Neglect the negative behavior, replace it with positive behavior, and repeat the positive behavior. It takes effort and diligence. Really, is there another way? As I get older and hopefully a little wiser, I often refrain from anger that I would have fostered in the past. What helps me refrain from anger is my becoming convinced that anger is not necessary. I can express other ways, including disagree, object, assert, walk away, do whatever a different way. I become most angry at myself -- I'm still working on eliminating that one. Reminding myself through reflection and meditation that we are one and we are each expressions of One Source lessens negative emotions in me and fans the flames of compassion, and my feeling better for being that way keeps me going.[Hide Full Comment]