SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What does the "surrender experiment" mean to you? Can you share a personal experience of a time you consciously decided to surrender instead of trying to control your environment? What practice helps you develop awareness of the natural forces of life and harmonize with it?
God I feel broken inside
I can't manage my life
Its too much for me
I am hurt
I am in pain
I am confused
My insides are crying
My outsides wont let me
I need you god
I want to hand over all that is broken to you
But I dont know if I have the strength to
You feel distant
But something tells me you are the closest right now
I want to trust that
I dont have the strength to do it
You will have to do it for me
I want to give up control dear god
Give me strength to do so
Give me the faith to do so
Give me belief in your love for me
For I can only see whats in front of me
Right now even that is blurred
Hold me dear god
Hug meFor I have no power to hug you back [Hide Full Comment]
Any practice that can take me out of my critical thinking, analytical, quantitative, judging, competing, status seeking, language mind for awhile and bring me back to what keeps me open, small in the greater scheme of life, and most joy. Connections, focus/flow, nature, yoga, laughter, awe and wonder, unintentional movement, sharing of a good meal with loved ones, engagement, sniff, touch, feel, balance, dive, splash, play, or just sit without outcome and observe without time keeping, naming, agenda making, etc. Whatever I can participate in that allows the mind not to harden me heartless, cold, and helpless whenever I can and see what I can do.
Lovely to ponder on this a while and to see what comes to me from within... God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference!
I used to walk with the weight of the world upon my shoulders and there are daays still when it tries to bear me down :-) but we live and learn to let go. Have a wonder filled day. P
We should try to do our part and do the action in the hope of getting the results we want to see. However, we should be prepared that the outcome may not turn out to be exactly how we want it to be. As it is stated in Gita " Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Ma Faleshu Kadachana". We have control over our action but we may not have control over the out come since there are other forces in the nature that might be at play here. If we want to grow an apple tree in a specific spot in our backyard, hoping that it will grow on it's own may never work. There might be a remote possibility that some bird or animal may drop the apple seed in the very spot and the tree may grow on it's own, but the probability of that happening is next to impossible. On the other hand, if we take the action and plant the tree, we do significantly improve the chances of the tree establishing and flourishing where we planted it. Although, there is no guarantee since the plant may die from some disease. However, planting the tree and taking care of it, significantly increases the odds in our favor that our actions will result in giving us the pleasure to enjoy the fruits of our labor. Thus we should always carry out our actions with a reasonable expectation to get the desired results with the hope that the forces of nature will align to help, but at the same time surrender and accept in case if at times they don't. If we keep on trying, eventually, we will get our apple tree. :-)[Hide Full Comment]
The entire universe and all the physical entities and events occurring in it in space and time involving matter and energy as perceived by the senses of a human being plus all the abstract entities involving emotions, thoughts, desires, conclusions, and concepts etc. occurring in his or her mind can be summed up and labeled as "Oneness." The true nature of this "Oneness" is unknowable (I believe) whether you are a so called "enlightened" person or not. As such, who is there to surrender and to whom? It s hard for me to grasp the idea behind "surrender experiment."
I can tell there is wisdom in this, and yet I wonder if without careful application, it can turn into a sort of passivity about real human problems like racism and climate change. But being an activist driven by desperation and fear is not effective in the long-term, either. There is much to ponder here.
To some, the word 'surrender' implies weakness, but actually it's quite freeing. For many years I could not accept my alcoholism; I had a successful business, many friends, and a very supportive family. And yet, I was miserable. Until I could accept my disease, it was as if I was a square peg trying desperately to fit into a round hole. The more I tried drinking like a regular person, the more I sank into despair. Indeed, alcohol is s "cunning, baffling and powerful." So when I finally hit my bottom, there was nothing I could do but surrender. When I finally accepted the fact that I had a disease for which there is no cure--but for which there is a solution--a peaceful liberation settled over me. Surrender/acceptance has changed my life for the better. The world does not revolve around me (thank goodness!)
When life is going my way it is relatively easy , but when things are not going my way if someone I love is in pain it is very very difficult to just surrender . It is difficult to see their pain , memories of good times come back and there is so much pain , life stops , one cannot enjoy anything anymore , nothing seems to be worth it , there is sadness , there is pain felt in the chest , everything is heavy , there is so much suffering . If I could I would change things , I want to change things , I want to change the situation , I want to dissolve the pain , I want to run away , I want this to go , now . But there is no where to run , to hide . I am tired holding this pain , there is nothing more to do , I surrender , I am in a corner , I have hit the wall , now I surrender . I no longer can lift this burden , but before that I have to burn , I have to burn in my pain , this burning burns away the remaining ego , completely , I am humbled , I am nothing left , only the ashes that remain after the burning is complete . I melt away , I surrender completely . There is nothing I can do now . God , Lord , Divine , Higher presence , I drop the burden in your lap , I drop my resistance to what is , I let go holding this burden , I have burnt enough in the pain now I can no longer carry on . So I let go , I let go because I am tired . I am so tired . I surrender .[Hide Full Comment]
I suppose all that is, all the unfolding and evolution of the cosmos, is a surrender experiment. The surrender experiment for me can be for me to put aside my trying to steer and control, put aside my goal directedness, let go of my agendas, surrender to what it is that I am experiencing, and see what happens. I've had interactions in which I say what I think, feel, and/or see without trying to control the outcome, and such interactions are more exciting and alive than when I try to control the outcome. What helps me develop awareness of the natural forces of life and harmonize with them is waking up, opening my eyes and seeing, letting go of my expectations and desires, learning to allow and work with what's happening rather than try to control. Dealing with my children helps me to learn to surrender and be responsive to where they're at and not try to impose my will and fight with them. Life is much too big to fight and try to control. I am in harmony with life except for when I fight it. It's easier to accept and allow the harmony. It helps me to reflect and meditate on all this. It helps me to have "Process, not outcome" as a mantra for myself.[Hide Full Comment]
Hi Michael, I liked your article. It is timely as I am putting the finishing touches on my book Speaking Universal which shows how to tune into the Universal mind before applying will, so that the Universe or person or plant can get ready to receive your conversation or plan to prune (or not:). Sometimes we sense a pulling energy from a person or a pet saying "tend to my needs, I am more important than you" and quite rightly, if you Speak Universal, you will say "no." If you would like me to send a couple of chapters, let me know. All the best, Victoria (Fabling) from the UK.
Over the last month or so, I've had interactions with some co-workers that have felt unpleasant to me. It's been triggered by the things they say, how they say them, and then my own reaction to it all. In the moments when these interactions were happening, I was finding myself more caught up in the reactivity than not. Then after I would go home for the day, go for a walk, get some fresh air -- I would see more clearly the reaction I was having to these situations.
One day, I considered that my reactivity may be tied to "things not going my way." This person said something I didn't want them to say, or used a tone that I didn't want them to use, or that person didn't do something the way I would have liked. So one day I walked into work and decided that when one of these triggering interactions came up again, I would simply acknowledge to myself, "things aren't going the way I want right now." And I would surrender to that. The day I tried this, I found that even when people were saying and doing the same things, I felt more free and less reactive on the inside. This is still a daily practice for me, and I'm taking baby steps.
Also, I want to clarify that I don't think this means we have to be doormats. Sometimes it's important to communicate something clearly and directly, and stand up for something, but I think this can be done more wisely when we're in the right space ourselves.
To me, surrendering means surrendering my egoic mind, the mind that is self-centered, possessive, not caring for others that incudes nature-animals, plants, trees, water,earth and sky.I am responsible and accountable for messing things up and doing right to sustain and preserve the creation. How do I employ my energy in creating, sustaining, contributing and serving life is my life mission. When I live this way, I feel I am in harmony with life force. I feel like I am in a dance with the life force. When i receive the grace from nature and people, my heart is filled with joyful gratitude. Such gifts are not measured on a materialistic scale. They are experienced in our hearts and they blossom our hearts.
This may sound very simple. It is my knowing that too much "headding" takes away the simple joys of 'hearting". How to have the joyful innocence of a child in an adult body and mind is an interesting challenge. It is like planting a seed and watching it grow with an ever present curiosity. It is like hearing the birds chirping, watching the clouds floating and listening to the inner voice singing on its own.These are the moments of grace and I am blessed to have them coming everyday on their own. My heart is filled with gratefulness.
May we keep our hearts open to receive and give gifts coming from everywhere!
Jagdish P Dave