Living from the Heart
ह्रदय से जीना- रिक जेरो (३ अक्टूबर, २०१२)
जब हमें किसी से ईर्ष्या होती है तो उसका कारण है कि वह व्यक्ति हमारे मन के किसी खाली कोने को प्रतिबिंबित करता है | आखिर अगर हम अपने आप को भरपूर महसूस करते हों, अगर हमारा मन संतुष्ट हो, तो उस हाल में हमें दूसरों की सफलता को देखकर ख़ुशी होगी | अगर किसी और की सफलता से आपको निराशा होती है तो यह आपके मन की न्यूनता का लक्षण है | तो अगर हम क्रोध और बाहरी चीज़ों पर ध्यान देने की प्रवृत्ति पर काबू कर सकें और अपने अंतःकरण में झांक कर देख पाएं तो हम जन पाएँगे कि हमें अपने बारे में अच्छा महसूस कर पाने के लिए क्या करना चाहिए |
यहाँ मैं आपको एक बात साफ बता देना चाहता हूँ कि हमारे हृदय चक्र की शक्ति का सीधा नाता देने और लेने से है | उसका मतलब यह है कि उस शक्ति का उद्देश्य है दूसरों को सहारा देना और दूसरों के दिए सहारे को स्वीकार कर पाना | किसी व्यक्ति को सहारा देने का मतलब यह नहीं है कि हम उसकी कामों को प्रोत्साहन दें | इसका मतलब यह भी नहीं है कि हम उसके गलत व्यवहार को बढ़ावा दें | अगर आपका बच्चा आपके पास आकर ड्रग्स के लिए पैसे मांगता है, तो आपको ऐसे आचरण को प्रोत्साहन देने की ज़रुरत नहीं है | लेकिन यह अत्यंत महत्वपूर्ण बात है कि आप उस बच्चे पर से स्नेह हटाए बिना उसके आचरण पर आपत्ति कर सकते हैं |
हमारा मन हमें दूसरों से जोड़ता है तो दिमाग हमें दूसरों से तोड़ता है | आप ऐसी स्थिति मैं भी हो सकते हैं जहाँ आप दूसरे को उसके काम पर डांट सकते हैं, सजा दे सकते हैं या उसे उस काम के लिए शर्मिंदा कर सकते हैं | पर उस व्यक्ति से अपना प्रेम या सहानुभूति ही हटा लेना बिलकुल अलग बात है|
कुछ समय पहले मैंने एक ऐसी कहानी सुनी जिसने मेरे मन को छू लिया | एक बार दलाई लामा भारत के धर्मशाला शहर में तिब्बती बौद्ध धर्मं की प्रथानुसार सशक्तिकरण के लिए कालचक्र यज्ञ कर रहे थे | यज्ञ के बीच कुछ तिब्बती साधू रोते- चिल्लाते हुए वहां पहुंचे और बोले कि चीनियों ने सैंकड़ों तिब्बती साधुओं को मार डाला | सम्पूर्ण यज्ञ भंग हो गया | सबकी आंखें दलाई लामा पर थीं | दलाई लामा बोले कि, " अब हम उन चीनियों के लिए प्रार्थना करेंगे |"
आपको यह आदर्शवाद लगेगा या बिलकुल नामुमकिन, लेकिन मैं आपसे कहूँगा कि आप इसे परस्पर निर्भरता के दार्शनिक दृष्टिकोण से देखने की कोशिश करें | इस दृष्टिकोण से अगर आप इस जन्म में किसी को चोट पहुंचाते हैं तो अगले किसी जन्म में आपको भी चोट पहुँच सकती है | इसलिए ज़रूरी है कि आपके लिए ईश्वर से प्रार्थना की जाए |
अगर एक तीन - चार साल का बच्चा आपके पास आकर आपको मारता है तो आप नाराज़ नहीं होते क्योंकि आप चेतना के एक स्तर से ऊपर पहुँच चुके हैं | हम अपने ह्रदय चक्र में यही चेतना उत्पन्न करने की कोशिश कर रहें हैं कि हममें इतनी संवेदनशीलता हो कि हम दूसरों के कुकर्मों पर क्रोधित होने की अपेक्षा उस कर्म को अपने मन में प्रेम की भावना से देख पाएं | इसी तरह पूरे विश्व में समृद्धि आएगी |
- रिक जेरो, " दि अल्टीमेट एंटी- कैरिअर गाइड"
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: The author emphasizes that maintaining our love for others does not necessarily imply condoning their behavior - how do you relate to this notion? Can you share a personal story of challenging someone without withdrawing your love for them? How can we inculcate the strength and wisdom to be able to do that? What does "Living from the Heart" mean to you?
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On Aug 17, 2020 Poulomi wrote :
Forgiveness is a strength and is so important for an individual to forgive not for another person but for oneself and I too learnt this from my parents and my Buddhist practice of Nichiren Daishonin Buddhism :)
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On Oct 8, 2012 lady opada wrote :
true love doesn't set conditions. It understands, accepts, and forgives.
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On Oct 5, 2012 kawere siraji wrote :
its good to love some one minus condoning their behaviours because they feel small.
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On Oct 3, 2012 Karen wrote :
What a nice article on compassion, abundance and the heart. Thank you. I've shared a link to this on my blog.
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On Oct 2, 2012 Maya Vidhyadharan wrote :
Living from the heart really reaches depth when I have emotionally healed from past life wounds, and shadows. The virtues increase. Until then living in the heart is just a concept.and the heart center is not fully open.
Once the heart center is open, it has the power to stop accidents on the road by your command.
Once I come to this state, and continue working on myself to face shadows that need releasing, I can live from the heart. When someone hurts me I stand up fearlessly without anger. This means standing up to Corporate Vice Presidents and Managers who are abusing their power, lovingly and fearlessly,, without the fear of being fired stopping us.
Living in the heart means, I feel the sadness about what did not work in my life. I feel the sadness for the loss caused by my shadows. I feel sadness for the poverty and the corruption and I can cry. It also means I need to open my heart more to KNOW in by being that God is in charge and everyone is allowed their creation of d... [View Full Comment]
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On Oct 2, 2012 Lennox wrote :
Thank you for sharing this inspiring writing. The point about scarcity mentality is worth meditating on. In our post industrialized society of material abundance vast majority of fellow humans still fight for the basics. How do we account for this? Why do we continue to accumulate more to "secure our future" when millions suffer "now". This is a large scale example of "mind over heart" divide the author points to. Somehow all of us well meaning spiritual seekers continue to live with this conflict. Why?
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On Oct 2, 2012 Ron Lopez wrote :
I love that being said " The Heart Centered Unites and the Mind Divides" An excellent mantra!!
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On Oct 2, 2012 bckmishra wrote :
It is really pleasant to go through the writing of Rick.Living from the heart very truly means "be guided by heart in every thing you do". All your deeds should be governed by compassion, care, concern, fellow feelings and empathy which is the essence of the heart.
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On Oct 2, 2012 BCKMishra wrote :
It is really pleasant to go through the writing of Rick.Living from the heart very truly means "be guided by heart in every thing you do". All your deeds should be governed by compassion, care, concern, fellow feelings and empathy which,the essence of the heart.
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On Sep 30, 2012 Narendra wrote :
The author emphasizes that maintaining our love for others does not necessarily imply condoning their behavior - how do you relate to this notion? I agree. The example of a mothers’ discipline for a child is the essence of practice of love in nature. This conditional or tough-love is designed to make children peaceful and productive citizens of community. This also applies to religions, cultures and communities, if we are to coexist peacefully on this planet. The world evolved with three layers of brain-mind, Tamas/body, Rajas/emotions and Satwa/Love. These need coordination and discipline. Unconditional love and nonviolence encourages oppression of the peaceful by the aggressive, as in colonialism, terrorism and wars. The world is in transition from ignorance/selfishness based survival and competition, to survival based on awareness, mutual respect and cooperation. Some religions and cultures are ahead of others in this process. For some, this trans... [View Full Comment]
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On Sep 30, 2012 david doane wrote :
I very much agree with maintaining our love for others when not condoning their behavior. The opportunity to do this occurs frequently in raising children, and it is easier to maintain the love because they are out children, though sometimes the love may not come across. I have found the bigger challenge to be in dealing with other people. What helps me be able to maintain love while not condoning the behavior is the awareness that we are one, which has helped me be more compassionate and patient. Living from the heart means having the awareness that we are one and maintaining love for the other while not condoning their behavior. Someone said, "There's something about that guy that I just don't like about myself." For me, that attitude helps me live from the heart. I love the story about the Dalai Lama -- it's beautiful and profound. It reminds me of the scripture passage about pray for those who persecute you... [View Full Comment]
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On Sep 29, 2012 Ricky wrote :
I have come to realize I can’t live any other way, than from the heart. Nothing else has meaning. We are all connected as One. The Four Immeasurables, the Four Qualities of the Heart, are a most outstanding guide for this way of living. The four are Maitri, friendliness; Karuna, compassion; Mudita, delighting in the joy of others; and Upeksha, practicing equanimity. In some circles, the heart is center for the Big Mind. The Heartmath Institute (highlighted in the documentary ‘I AM’) shares that the heart is the energetic center of us, and has more radiant vibration than any other area. This would make sense on a physiological plane, but when you live from the heart, you recognize it from a deep connection with the emotional, mental, intuitive, and spiritual plane as well.
Every day I wake up with gratitude for another opportunity to share my life with all others around me. And there are a lot of others around me.&... [View Full Comment]
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On Sep 28, 2012 Conrad P. Pritscher wrote :
Thank you for the opportunity to respond. "Living from the heart", to me, means noticing that I am one with everyone and everything. That is beyond "philosophical." As a Western student, I have been taught that being philosophical is being somewhat different from living from the heart as St. Exuperey's "Little Prince." I have been told that the ancient Chinese word "hsin" means "heart/mind." I find that useful, as I find it useful to notice that the ancient Chinese never separated philosophy from poetry. I notice that at one time I hated Richard Nixon. I am now sorry about that hating and while I do not love him as I love my wife and family, I intellectually love him without a lot of feeling because I think that is best and because I am one with Richard Nixon. Karl Rove and some Republicans are difficult to love, but when I stop to think about it I find that I too have some of hi... [View Full Comment]