Who Is Having This Pain?
“किसे हो रहा है यह दर्द?”
- मिंग्युर रिनपोछे
दर्द के बारे में अच्छी बात यह है कि वह हमारा ध्यान अपनी और खींचता है। जब आप पूरी सजगता के साथ दर्द को महसूस करते हैं तो आप जान जाते हैं कि आपका मन ठीक इस समय कहाँ है। असली अभ्यास तो यही है - मन की सजगता में ठहरना। ज्यादातर जब दर्द ध्यान खींचता है, तो हमारी पहली प्रतिक्रिया होती है — इसे दूर भगाना।
हम दर्द को मन के बाहर की किसी चीज़ के रूप में देखने लगते हैं — एक दुश्मन, जिसे बाहर फेंक देना है।
लेकिन दर्द के बारे में एक उल्टी, पर गहरी बात है — जब हम उसका विरोध करते हैं, तो दर्द घटता नहीं, बल्कि उसमें पीड़ा जुड़ जाती है।
शारीरिक दर्द शरीर में उठता है, लेकिन उससे जुड़ी नकारात्मक प्रतिक्रिया उस ‘मैं’ की भावना से आती है जो खुद को स्थायी मानता है और दर्द को अपना शत्रु बना लेता है।
यहीं से पीड़ा जन्म लेती है।
जब हम दर्द को दूर भगाने की कोशिश करते हैं, तब हम खुद के ही विरुद्ध खड़े हो जाते हैं — और हमारा मन एक निजी युद्धभूमि बन जाता है, जो उपचार (healing) के लिए सबसे प्रतिकूल परिस्थिति होती है।
कई लोगों के लिए बीमारी के साथ ‘आत्म-दया’ ऐसे चिपक जाती है जैसे गोंद। और अहंकार की आवाज़ पूछती है: “मैं ही क्यों ?”
लेकिन यह आवाज़ शरीर के दर्द में नहीं, बल्कि मन में है — जो दर्द से अपनी पहचान जोड़ लेता है।
मैंने ध्यान देना शुरू किया अपने पेट की ऐंठन पर। बस मन को उस जगह पर टिकाना —
ना स्वीकार, ना अस्वीकार।
सिर्फ़ उस संवेदना के साथ होना।
उस एहसास को महसूस करना, कहानी में नहीं उलझना।
कुछ देर बाद मैंने जांच शुरू की:
इस एहसास की प्रकृति क्या है?
यह कहाँ स्थित है?
फिर मैंने सवाल पूछा —
“किसे हो रहा है यह दर्द?”
क्या ये मेरी उत्कृष्ट भूमिकाओं में से एक है ?
ये सब सिर्फ धारणाएं हैं।
दर्द भी एक धारणा है,
जकड़न भी एक धारणा है।
धारणाओं से आगे बढ़ के जागरूकता में रहें।
अस्तित्व (self)- से-भी- आगे - वाले -अस्तित्व (self) में , धारणाएं एवं कोई धारणाएं नहीं, दर्द एवं कोई दर्द नहीं ,दोनों को समाने दें।
दर्द सिर्फ एक बादल नुमा हैं , जो हमारी जागरूकता के मध्य से गुजर रहा है।
जकड़न, पेट का दर्द , जागरूकता के ही असीम रूप हैं।
जागरूकता में बने रहें और अपने दर्द से भी बड़े बन जाएँ।जागरूकता में , आसमान की तरह , धारणा को रहने के लिए कोई स्थान नहीं है।
उसे आने दें , उसे जाने दें | अब यह दर्द किसकी पकड़ में है।
अगर आप दर्द से एकरूप हो जाते हैं , तो कष्ट सहने वाला कोई नहीं रह जाता।तब सिर्फ एक केन्द्रित संवेदना रह जाती है जिसे हम दर्द का नाम दे देते हैं।
दर्द को पकड़ के रखने वाला कोई नहीं है।
जब दर्द को पकड़ के रखने वाला कोई नहीं रह जाता है , तब क्या हो जाता है ?
सिर्फ दर्द | वास्तव में , वो भी नहीं, क्योकि दर्द तो सिर्फ एक नाम की चिप्पी (label) है।
उसकी अनुभूति को महसूस करें| धारणा से ऊपर, पर फिर भी उपस्थित।इसके अलावा कुछ नहीं।
अनुभव करें।उसे रहने दें।
और फिर मैं अपने मन की खुली जागरूकता में वापस चला गया।
मनन के लिए मूल प्रश्न: आप इस धारणा को कैसा मानते हैं कि दर्द एक शत्रु तब बन जाता है जब हम अपने आपको उसके विरुद्ध खड़ा कर लेते हैं,और उससे हमारी आतंरिक दुनिया एक व्यक्तिगत युद्ध स्थल बन जाती है? क्या आप ऐसे समय को चित्रण करने वाली एक कहानी साझा कर सकते हैं , जब आपने दर्द से अपने रिश्ते में कुछ बदलाव अनुभव किया था, चाहे वो दर्द को अपना कर हुआ,चाहे वो एक खोज से हुआ, या सिर्फ उसे होने और बने रहने देने मात्र से हुआ? आपको उस जगह जागरूकता में बने रहने में,जो आसमान की तरह, धारणाओं से ऊपर है, और जहाँ सभी अनुभूतियाँ बिना किसी राग या द्वेष के आती जाती रहती हैं, किस चीज़ से मदद मिलती है ?
Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche is a Tibetan Nepali teacher and master of the Karma Kagyu and Nyingma lineages of Tibetan Buddhism. He has written five books and oversees an international network of meditation centers.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What do you make of the notion that pain becomes an enemy when we pit ourselves against it, turning our inner world into a private war zone? Can you share a personal story that illustrates a time when you experienced a shift in your relationship with pain, whether through acceptance, exploration, or simply allowing it to be? What helps you stay with the awareness beyond concepts, like sky, allowing sensations to come and go without attachment or resistance?
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On Jul 2, 2025 Sonia Uttamchandani wrote :
This weekend I attended a spiritually cleansing retreat called Maitri Chitta Shudhi. Here they spoke about how we build our Sanskaras thanks ro the play of mind in constantly extracting concepts out of our experiences in the world. Someone used the wrong words, wrong tone to my liking, immediately my mind works to extract a concept of must do or must not do : Avoid this person, avoid people who dress, sound or give out energy like him.
So from this concept we dilute our capacity to further explore/experience because now mind has caged us into categories and flow chart extracted from the concept of right and wrong we placed thanks to this person.
Ergo, we bit by bit with such a process, lose curiosity, being present, rooting and nurturing a habit that life around me must be only to my liking and preferences. Anything not like that, now has the power to disturb me, move me to take actions to oppose/control/rectify it and I am now against teh world. My energy focused not on enhancing m... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 2, 2025 Marliese wrote :
Hi, thanks for this little reminder.
I have the experience of pain by accepting it day by day. Pain is there, I feel it but I don’t recognize it. I give it no room to control my life. In rare cases, when It is to hard to endure, I take medication to alleviate my pain.
I have the experience of pain by accepting it day by day. Pain is there, I feel it but I don’t recognize it. I give it no room to control my life. In rare cases, when It is to hard to endure, I take medication to alleviate my pain.
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On Jul 1, 2025 Jack Talcott wrote :
I would love for some of your commentors to commentors to come on my podcast on youtube at Jack Talcott so we can discuss pain and bring in more pain into out life so we can become super powers of pain. I have created so much pain in my life. I hate my son, myself, and most everyone and I want to reclaim the earth as I have been chosen by god.
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On Jul 1, 2025 Anne Turner wrote :
This was a very interesting & insight how look at pain
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On Jul 1, 2025 Stream wrote :
Aloha- I am a wholistic physical therapist. Much of my career was based in helping other beings resolve physical pain. I learned from being with others experiencing pain and thru my own that relaxation is a first step.
Being in the sympathetic nervous system reaction of anger , fear does not allow healing to occur.
Getting into parasympathetic and getting out of the way allows my or our natural innate to bring circulation of what is needed to heal and to eliminate what is needed to release.
I have a few pains on physical level at the moment. A knee, a wrist, a tooth. There are possible medical or wholistic treatments and techniques to pursue . I am aware that the first thing for me is to accept and feel, allow grief or any underlying shadow beliefs that are holding on to surface and flow. I know that there are always
Psycho emotional and spiritual aspects of all physically experienced pains even if mechanical or chemical cause is clear.
If I can feel it, I can heal it.
And lovin... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 1, 2025 Brian Besser wrote :
Pain is obligatory. Suffering is optional.
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On Jul 1, 2025 Susan B. wrote :
This is a valuable and encouraging reminder of equanimity. I am grateful for this in my early morning here in Mexico. Compassionate Acknowledgment and Acceptance ... For those with constant pain, labeling pain as a concept, seems dismissive, and that perhaps the writer may not understand how debilitating the pain can be... however, accepting the pain, the circumstance at that moment that comes with the pain, and taking wise and compassionate self-care of one's self (slower movement, the need to stop and rest, whatever it may be) is a good thing. This brings calm to the mind and spirit, lessens anxiety and rambling thoughts. This is also a reminder to become equanimous with the residual emotions that come along with any pain we experience - Compassionately Acknowledge and Accept them, Breath, move forward...
Something else that I learned from this group nearly 2 decades ago, is in the midst of my pain to be of service to others. Being of service does not take the pain away, but it d... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 1, 2025 BarbaraS. wrote :
I appreciate this article very much and completely understand what he is trying to say. I realize some people are in physical debilitating pain all the time and it must be very difficult. They must come to terms with the pain in a way that they can live with it. Pain is not our enemy. It just is.
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On Jun 28, 2025 David Doane wrote :
I agree that pain becomes an enemy when we pit ourselves against it. Pain is actually our friend, telling us that something isn't right and needs attention. Don't go to war with pain, listen to it to find out what it is signaling and then address the problem. I don't agree that pain is a concept. The word pain is a concept; pain itself is a real feeling. How I suffer my pain is another issue. I can suffer it wisely to alleviate or at least not increase pain, or I can suffer it unwisely and create more pain. Life provides pain; we provide how we suffer it. When I became aware of that I experienced a shift in my relationship with pain. What helps me stay with awareness is knowing there is reality and there are concepts about reality, and I want to be aware of reality. It helps me to know that sensations, just like everything, come and go, whether I allow that or not. It also helps me to know pain is worth heeding and learning from, not attach to it or resist it.
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On Jun 28, 2025 Jagdish P Dave wrote :
I deeply appreciate Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche's reflections on pain. We all experience different kinds of pain such as physical, mental, emotional, relational and spiritual in our life. We cannot avoid it or escape from it. How we relate to our pain is very crucial. We cannot avoid our pain. Denying pain, ignoring pain, resisting pain and fighting pain is not a wise way of relating to pain. Pain is not our enemy. When I go through pain I accept it and take it as a signal to take care of it in a wise way. This way I can be a friend to my pain rather than an enemy. By resisting my pain I fight against my own pain. I turn my "inner world into a private war zone." It is up to me to choose and follow the wise way-neither denying nor fighting but by accepting it.
I have had all kinds of pain -physical, mental , emotional and relational-in my relatively long life. As I am getting older I experience more physical pain. Sometimes sad feelings and thoughts about my passing away from this ... [View Full Comment]