SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion of acting while relinquishing control over what your action means? Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to act while letting go of your ownership of that action and its meaning? What helps you be mindful of how you can open up possibility with your actions?
Most of life is spent in improv! We have little control over most things in life (unless we live in a bubble!). My thoughts , ideas, experience, world view, words, prayers, actions, music, silence ... bounce off of others thoughts, ideas, experience, world view, ect ... everyday! Where two or three are gathered, there is improv. Like with cooking, mixing different ingredients together in variety of different of ways, a unique outcome is created every time! Thanks be to God!
I love this! The idea of collaboratively creating meaning. To me this means not being so attached to our own idea or outcome, but to the potential and possibility of what might unfold. We need this especially now given some of the deep divides. One potential path to a little healing is to open a conversation in a more ambiguous way to allow for more possibilities in the responses. A personal story of this was in my volunteer literacy project in Belize. Having no training in creating a volunteer project was a blessing because I had no set idea of what "should" work and therefore was constantly open to revising and adapting. It meant I was always openly listening to the locals and what they needed or wanted and then doing my best to collaborate with them and meet the needs. It turned out that creative writing in the schools was a need so I utilized the local indigenous legends learned while traveling village to village to create a first person narrative lesson plan. This also was ever changing depending on which region of the country I was training in <3 And then it further opened in other countries. Being open to the possibility of adaptation and revision allowed for so much more to unfold. And now in my current work at the World Bank, I am always adapting my training and listening to open conversation and meet needs. <3 I think putting myself in another's position helps me to open up to more possibility in my own actions.[Hide Full Comment]
When it comes to decision making and acting on it, I reflect on the choice I am making and check whether it harms or hurts me or harms or hurts others on a small scale or on a large scale.I own my ownership for my action. In that way I am responsible and accountable for my decision and action.
When it comes to group decision making and acting on it,, I participate in it with and open mind and with an open heart. This process is very helpful as we invite everybody to have their say in arriving at a decision and acting on it. In this case, the ownership and accountability belongs to the whole group. I use this approach in my class room when an issue has an impact on everybody or somebody in the class or beyond the class. I use Socratic dialogue and dialectical approach for exploring ways and means for tackling the issue and arriving at a decision by consensus.I find this approach very fruitful,
Jagdish P Dave
There are times when my action is my right action, simply an expression of what feels right to me in that moment. In so doing, my action is meaningful to me because I'm being true to myself. I never know what my action means to the other. I don't let go of my ownership of my action -- I do let go of its meaning to the other, which is outside my control. What helps me stay mindful of how I can open up possibility with my action is to keep as my mantra 'process, not outcome,' which promotes a kind of improvising because I have no script or agenda in mind. When my action is my truth and independent of what it means to the other, I'm integrated, free and creative, and possibilities for growth open.