Sorrow has to be understood and not ignored. To ignore it is
to give continuity to suffering; to ignore it is to escape from
suffering. To udnerstand suffering needs an operational, experimental
approach. To experiment is not to seek a definite result. If you
seek a definite result, experiment is not possible. If you know what
you want, the going after is not experimentation. If you seek to get
over suffering, which is to condemn it, then you do not understand
its whole process; when you try to overcome your suffering, your
only concern is to avoid it. To understand suffering, there must
be not positive action of the mind to justify or to overcome it:
the mind must be entirely passive, silently watchful, so that
it can follow without hesitation the unfolding of sorrow. Mind
cannot follow the story of sorrow if it is tethered to any hope,
conclusion or remembrance. To follow the swift movement of "what
is," the mind must be free; freedom is not to be had at the end,
it must be there at the very beginning.
"What is the meaning of all this sorrow?"
Is not sorrow the indication of conflict, the conflict of pain
and pleasure? Is not sorrow the intimation of ignorance? Ignorance
is not lack of information about facts; ignorance is unawareness
of the total process of oneself. There must be suffering as long
as there is not understanding of the ways of the self; and the ways
of the self are to be discovered only in the action of relationship.
"But my relationship has come to and end."
There is no end to relationship. There may be and end to a
particular relationship; but relationship can never end. To be is
to be related, and nothing can live in isolation. Though we try to
isolate ourselves through a particular relationship, such isolation
will inevitably breed sorrow. Sorrow is the process of isolation.
"Can life ever be what it has been?"
Can the joy of yesterday ever be repeated today? The desire for
repetition arises only when there is no joy today; when today is
empty we look to the past or the future. The desire for repetition
is desire for continuity, and in continuity there is never the
new. There is happiness, not in the past or the future, but only
in the movement of the present.
-- J. Krishnamurti