In the movie Phenomenon, John Travolta's character has done everything
he can think of to keep this pesky rabbit out of his garden. He's
even put in fencing that goes three feet underground, and still
everything he plants is nibbled through.
Suddenly, one night he wakes and realizes he's been going about this
all wrong. In the moonlight, he quietly goes to his garden and opens
the gate, then sits on his porch and waits.
To his surprise, as he begins to fall asleep, the rabbit scurries out
the gate. While he'd been trying to keep it out, the rabbit was
trapped in his garden, and he was inadvertently keeping it in.
How often do we barricade and fence up our lives against hurt and
loss, thinking we're keeping the painful things out, when they're
already trapped inside eating at our roots, and what we really need
to do is open the gate and let them out?
-- Mark Nepo