Kintsugisuggests to me that damage isn't the end, and a valuable new reintegration and new beginning is possible. I was cheated out of significant money by an employer years ago. The beauty in the scar from the greatly healed negative experience is my growth, my increased awareness of my participation and any victim's participation in victimization, and my increased compassion for the apparent wrongdoer. It has also taught me to not give up, there's a way to reap positive from a problem,realize opportunity in a problem. Hemingway said we are sometimes stronger at the broken places -- we are sometimes also more valuable and beautiful. What helps me see my life's scars as an integral part of beauty is knowing that shit happens -- that's life, that's part of the whole, and my challenge is to deal constructively with difficulties and wounds and make them be an integral part of my growth.
On Nov 20, 2021 David Doane wrote :