This hits home for me! I am a fixer, I try to listen but in my mind I'm trying to come up with how to fix the situation. I have a family member that suffers from depression, in fact I was visiting with them last night and they were having a bad day and I was using the same verbiageas in the paragraph above, go outside and walk around, be more active and it will occupy your mind and you will feel better. I see now what I should have done is listen more, ask more questions and be more curious. Let them know I am listening and show compassion on how they are feeling.