Through practice I have found letting go of small things easy however I am hopeless at letting go of more intense emotions. I know I must let go before I get dragged down but often I don't and then I say something stupid which then leads to damaged relationships. I then resurface and wished I had let go at the beginning but it's too late. As Michael Singer says, you stop smoking by not putting the cigarette in your mouth. It's a question of will. Unfortunately mywill is often found lacking during high stress..